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knowlesian · 6 months ago

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not to project like a motherfucker on natalie berzatto but ohhhh boy the impact of a narrative that says “hey, is your desire to make sure everybody around you is okay also about you? and could that perhaps be partially a maladaptive trauma response you should look into and maybe mitigate? because if it’s a genuine question that’s fine, but if the only answer you will respond well to hearing is yes that’s a You Issue Too, Babe”

#as somebody with a loud and toxic italian extended family the bear comes for my neck over and over #s3 is going even harder on that #nat’s pathology is gentler and less easy to spot than mikey’s or carmy’s or god help us all donna’s #but it is nonetheless unhealthy and bad for her #the theme of “you do not need to be Good And Pleasing to be worth love” is a lot this year #related (and this will take s4 to be sure of but i have Hope) that your ability to succeed in a garbage capitalist structure defines worth #as somebody who worked in a lot of kitchens this show just feels like home #and the thing that kept jarring me about the whole let’s upgrade to fine dining plan was …what about the people you leave behind #and after having seen napkins now it feels like the show KNOWS THAT #tina could not be hired at the bear but being hired at the beef saved her life #god i want them to bring this home #the fact that the sandwich window is the ONLY THING MAKING MONEY feels promising #like… i want the bear (the in-world restaurant) to succeed #but also no. no i do no want it to succeed as-is.#i want the bear and the beef to blend for REAL and then succeed #or i guess fail given the general themes of the season but try on terms they can be entirely proud of!!! even if they fail!!!

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