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majorshiraharu · 4 years ago

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Personal Ramble - Feel free to ignore

Honestly, didn’t have the best day, despite not getting out of bed till like 1pm I still had to join in on lunch. I also had to eat a type of German apple desert so my throat was swollen for over an hour and I’ve just felt sick the rest of the day. I’m allergic to most fruits, but my mom gets extremely angry if I don’t eat what she makes, so I just take allergy meds and gotta eat it anyway because I don’t want to be yelled at.

And when we were supposed to say what we were thankful for, my mom said the years she had with me before I got ill, so yeah, it sucked. She couldn’t even go one day without putting me down, not even for a holiday.... ugh.

Anyway, on a happier note, I’m thankful for everyone here. When I joined tumblr a few months back, I never thought I’d find so many amazing, talented, supportive and loving people. The support on here is really special and I’m thankful to be just a small part of it. I wish I had more energy, so I could interact with everyone, because I love you all and I want you to know that. <(’.’<)

I’m thankful for my dad and brother because without their support I wouldn’t have a place to live, medical care or anything. And I’m thankful for my best friend who has always been there for me, even if I didn’t talk much. She got diagnosed with cancer a year after I got ill and both of us were still young and going to college. Sharing those experiences around the same time and having it affect our lives so similarly was strange, but also comforting to know I wasn’t alone.

Last but not least, I’m thankful for the people I’ve been able to help in any way, or bring joy to this year. It means a lot to know that there are people I’ve had a positive impact on, especially during 2020.

This is a little more personal and sad at times, so warning about sad stuff and me talking about shitty people in my life, but I wanted to share this. Also, it let me have a good cry about the things I keep trying to repress. I made sure to end it on a cheerful note though because tldr; this blog has made me genuinely happy and gave me a purpose, which is not something I have really ever had.

All my life I’ve struggled with being able to accept any good things I did, I never felt like I was enough. I never enjoyed things because I always felt like I needed to do everything perfectly and if I didn’t, it was a personal failure, it really tore apart my mental health and how I viewed myself.

So I was really scared to share my writing or art, they’ve always been a passion, but between teachers and my mom I always felt like I wasn’t good enough. I couldn’t write an essay for college projects without crying because I misspelled words so often, I cried in classes when I couldn’t read the questions on a test or if I couldn’t understand them. Even though I got really good grades I didn’t think I was smart, I always thought I was dumb, I thought I didn’t deserve those grades, and I felt like a fraud. But the reason I had those grades was because I overworked myself to get them, I was a perfectionist; I put everything I had into getting a good grade. Even if I got 100% on a test, if the teacher marked somewhere that I could have written something better or that my answer wasn’t exactly what they wanted it broke me.

I wish I could explain how much it means to have people say that they liked what I did and slowly I’ve accepted that even if my work isn’t perfect; it doesn’t need to be for it to make someone happy. That’s never something I thought would happen. Sometimes I still feel like I don’t deserve it or I get impostor syndrome, but I’m working hard on improving myself, even if people can’t see it. I hate that it takes so long to work through all my baggage, and I question if it’s worth it because I still don’t see a value in myself. But I see a value in other people, so I work on improving myself for them, I want to be better for them. I know that’s not the best mindset and that we should do things for ourselves, but it’s the only thing I have right now.

I’ve almost died four times due to complications from my crohn’s. One of those times I was actually revived, and I don’t know how to explain it, but I guess in some people it pushes them to do more with their life. But for me it felt like my life was gone, I felt empty. Everything I worked all my life for was over and just being 17 at the time I didn’t know how to move on after that. All my friends were still going on with their lives, they finished college, some got married, and even my best friend who has cancer was able to go back to college and now started her own business. People expected I would go back to college or get a job, and some said if I couldn’t work I should at least get married to “a nice guy” :/ Because I was struggling so much I ended up being left behind by a lot of people, which hurt me even more. I know I wasn’t the most pleasant to be around; I was really depressed and had no energy left to hide it, I often got angry or just cried over stupid things. I hated it when people told me what to eat or do for my health; I hated it when people touched me because it’s triggering, and when people did those things I’d either have a panic attack or I’d get angry at them. The adults that I’ve known all my life blamed me for not moving on. Family and family friends either said hurtful things or stopped talking to me because I never had anything good to talk about, and I was “miserable to be around”.

They thought I was a waste of their time; they blamed me for having crohn’s even though it’s not at all my fault; they blamed me for ruining my parent's marriage, costing them so much money, and even when my dad got cancer a lot of people blamed me. They said all the stress I caused made him get it. Even after all these years they still say all this shit. My mom reminds me every day that she blames me for everything and that my health problems ruined her life, (like how the hell do you think I feel ma) but then she also says my health problems aren’t real and I just need to imagine that I’m healthy again. She also insists that I need to fix the relationship I have with her, despite her being the one that ruined it when she told me after I got diagnosed that I wasn’t her daughter anymore. Also, somehow she’s mad at me for still holding a grudge against her for that, and also the other times she said something much worse to me, like she expects me to forgive her, and she’ll also tell me I have to forgive myself. I’m not the one who was a garbage person and idk you’d think that adults, let alone your own mother, would be better than this...

Sorry for this random dump of my emotions and life problems, it’s a bad habit. I’m not good at sharing this one on one with people because it makes me anxious. And I don’t share it with people I know in real life because most of them are family friends and don’t know how to keep personal stuff a secret. I’m lucky enough to have access to getting mental health counseling, and that it has helped me some, it’s just a lot to go through.

Thank you again for your support and treating me like an actual person that deserves to be happy. This blog makes me feel like I have a purpose again and that this time it’s something I can take my time on and have fun with. And I have a goal, something to look forward to. One day I’d like to write a book. I’d like to write a book that’s based on my life, idk like some silly teenage novel or something xD I went through so much, and I guess I want to find a good reason for all the bad, I want to turn the horrible stuff into something that’s not a negative.

I love you all <3 I hope everyone is healthy and safe, if anyone ever needs someone to talk to my dm’s and asks are always open. I’m better at offering help than I am at accepting it xD also a habit I need to work on lol and if you read through all of this, idk why, but ty and sorry it was so long.

#personal #real talk #oversharing again because I'm the big dumb #delete later #love you all so much and i'm so thankful for being part of this community <3

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vastly-fixated-devotee-667 · 5 years ago

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come to me

i’ve never actually posted any of my writing on tumblr because i’ve never been into it enough to want to share it but i did this for fun and though it’d be fun to share. it's based off come to me by the goo goo dolls, and was technically written to be ben x my mc, but i made it mc-neutral (aside from the fact that it’s a female slytherin, but) for fun. i hope this is well-received, ahahah

(for clarification, anything in green is in mc’s pov, and anything in red is in ben’s. this is a slight au where it kind of takes place later than actual hphm does, and mc isnt the actual mc from the game.)

i’ll be kind if you’ll be faithful; you be sweet and i’ll be grateful. cover me with kisses, dear; lighten up the atmosphere. keep me warm inside our bed; i got dreams of you all through my head. fortune teller said i’d be free, and that’s the day you came to me.

i laid back in my chair, contemplating my life choices and why i ever thought taking this class was a good idea. divination was a bullshit concept and professor trelawney was a complete phony. at least it was an easy o, as you could basically make up any „prophecy” and trelawney would accept it.

i swirled the tea in my cup, wanting so badly to drink it. but trelawney drained it so she could help me „read the tea leaves” — whatever that means. i assumed it would mean someone was going to die, whether it was me, one of my friends, or just some random person i’d never met. whatever she was in the mood for, i guessed.

„ah, miss [l/n], how fortunate you are,” she said. ��the shape — it is a bird. meaning, you will soon find freedom. be on the lookout for any good omen that might free you.”

free me from what? boredom? i guessed the future that was predicted was to be in — i checked my watch — approximately ten minutes. lucky me.

when the aforementioned ten minutes passed, i eagerly threw my books into my bag and left the stuffy, perfume-filled tower. my next class was history of magic, and that was the one class where i was always able to slip into the background and stay unnoticed. a rare instance of happiness for me.

as i stepped off the bottom rung of the ladder and turned around, i immediately ran into someone, dropping my bag and causing its contents to strew across the corridor. the both of us hastily apologized and dropped to the floor to gather my books and quills. he handed me my charms and potions textbooks, and after the commotion, it was the first time i truly looked at him. gryffindor in my year, blond, brown eyes, pale. the one who was known through gossip as the „cowardly gryffindor”. ben copper. an oxymoron personified.

„thanks,” i said. „and sorry, again. i should’ve been watching where i was going.”

„no, i’m sorry; i’m the one who wasn’t paying attention,” he said, his face flushed pink. he scratched the back of his neck. „er, i’m ben, by the way.”

„yeah, i know,” i said. „i’m [m/c], but i’m guessing you already knew that.”

„er... i probably should have known that, considering we’re in the same year. i guess i just try not to interact with slytherins much.”

i snorted. “well, yeah, we’re in the same year, but i meant you probably just recognize me because of my dad.”

he tilted his head. „your dad?”

i raised an eyebrow. „[dad’s name]? retired seeker for the pride of portree?”

he scrunched his eyebrows, then a look of realization washed over his face. „oh, that’s quidditch; isn’t it? i don’t really know anything about quidditch. muggle-born.” he flinched, obviously hesitant to reveal that information as if i were going to berate him for such a fact.

„oh. that makes a lot of sense. but you’ve not even, like, heard of me through gossip? i’m sure your friends know who i am.”

he shrugged coyly. „i don’t really have any friends.”

my eyebrows shot up. „oh. well, uh, i’d be your friend, if you’d like.”

„really? a star quidditch player’s slytherin daughter friends with the cowardly gryffindor mudblood?”

„hey, don’t call yourself that! you seem really wonderful, despite what people say. you don’t appear to be half as fearful as people seem to think. i mean, you’ve been talking to me for this long, so that’s something. besides, it’d be refreshing to be friends with someone who doesn’t want to get acquainted with me because of my dad.”

his face lit up. „then, i’d love to be your friend.”

i gave him what i hoped was a warm smile. „great! see you later, then, new friend.”

i got to history of magic class before i could be accounted for being late. maybe, just maybe, trelawney’s prophecy was right this time around.

the months flew by, and ben and i grew closer and closer each passing week within. he was the first friendship i’d made in my three years at hogwarts that didn’t end in wanting to meet my dad or anything of the like. in fact, it was steering toward ending in a whole new, completely pleasant manner.

as days passed, we seemed to get more comfortable with being not just emotionally closer, but physically closer as well. time was often spent in the tranquility of the library or the solitude of the artifact room, huddled up close to each other, sharing warmth. on numerous occasions, we’d even fall asleep in either room, slipping into nonsensical twists on our pleasant reality. while i had no way of telling the contents of his, my own dreams were filled with notions of the two of us being something more than simple friends. while at the time i never would’ve said it aloud, they weren’t exactly the kind of dreams i’d consider nightmares. far from it, actually. they could’ve even been considered prayers. prayers to the metaphorical god that was my own bravery, asking me to work up the courage to make any sort of move. yet, all i could muster was a few stolen kisses on his cheeks, nose, forehead. nothing serious. nothing that could’ve been mistaken for anything more than an exchange between close friends.

come to me, my sweetest friend. can you feel my heart again? i’ll take you back where you belong, and this’ll be our favorite song. come to me with secrets bare. i love you more, so don’t be scared. and when we’re old and near the end, we’ll go home and start again.

„lumos.” the tip of my wand lit up the face of the watch on my wrist. „nox.” 11:37. no hope in falling asleep any time soon.

i sat up and tore off a piece of parchment from the scroll nearest me. „lumos.” by the dim wandlight, i found my pen and wrote the one word „awake” in the center of the parchment, followed by a question mark. at the bottom right, i wrote a dash and a capital „[first initial]”. i strapped the note to the leg of my dad’s old owl, millie, and gave her directions to send it to ben. she complied and flew out of my dormitory.

no longer than five minutes later, she returned with another piece of parchment on her leg — a different one from the one i gave her. i unstrapped it from her and read it.

i never sleep; don’t you know? —b

i chuckled and shook my head. i tore off a new piece of parchment and scribbled down another note.

come to me. —[first initial]

millie obediently delivered the note again and returned shortly with another.

to your common room? you know i can’t get in. and i’d rather not try. not with felix rosier on duty. —b

i rolled my eyes and composed another note.

i’ll wait for you outside to let you in. please? i’m a lonely insomniac. —[first initial]

millie delivered and returned one last time.

fine. heading down now. —b

„nox.” my wandlight went out and i crept into my common room and quietly pushed open the door. hardly a minute later, ben arrived, moving swiftly so as to avoid getting caught. i impulsively hugged him to thank him for coming. we sat on the couch in the lounge, snuggled up close to each other. it was a comfortable silence, but i still felt glad when he broke it.

„why can’t you sleep?” he asked.

i shrugged. „got a lot on my mind, i guess. hard to shut my mind down when there’s so much running through it.”

„like what?”

„i dunno. things. unimportant things that still manage to worm their way into my brain. what about you? what fuels your insomnia?”

„fear, mostly. when you’re afraid of everything, it’s hard to not think of something that scares you.”

„i never really wondered until now, but why are you afraid of everything? i mean, sorry if that sounds rude, but— yeah. you know what i mean.”

„it’s mostly the entire aspect of magic. my whole life, i grew up pretty sheltered and all, but when i heard magic exists, it basically... turned my life upside down. i was already a generally anxious kid, but then this whole new, dangerous concept was introduced to me as real even though i went my whole life believing it was a fictional thing...” he cleared his throat. „sorry. i know it’s stupid.”

„no, no, it’s not stupid. i know what it’s like to be afraid.” i hesitated. „the reason my dad doesn’t play quidditch anymore is — well, for one, he’s too old, but — because he had a really bad injury during his last game. he got hit by a bludger and knocked to the ground from fifty meters in the air. he was in st. mungo’s for a few days. but it was just the amount of pain he was in... it made me extremely cautious. i avoided any situation that could potentially end in any sort of physical pain. it was bad. i’m still sort of that way, but i always felt like a coward for being so fearful. i never really realized cowardice wasn’t define by a person’s fears... but i know that now. and it might do you some good to be aware of it, too.”

it was dark and hard to see, but i could hear the smile on his lips as he spoke. „thanks, [m/c].”

i burrowed my head into his chest. „no problem, ben.”

an hour passed, and my eyelids threatened to fall like boulders on the edge of a cliff, but i willed myself to stay awake. if i fell asleep, that would almost guarantee ben getting caught being in another house’s common room.

as the time neared 2:00 ᴀ.ᴍ., i shook ben to make sure he wasn’t asleep. „hey. you probably should get back to your own common room.”

he rubbed his eyes. „what time is it?”

„1:57.”

we reluctantly stood and i walked him to the door. after saying goodnight, we wound up in a hug that lasted nearly two minutes before we came to our senses.

„ben?” i stopped him before he walked out of sight.

he turned back to me. „yeah?”

i took a shaky breath. „i love you.”

there was a pause, and my heart pounded loudly into the silence.

„i love you, too,” he said finally, and i’d never heard any sweeter poetry.

i caught you burning photographs, like that could save you from your past. history is like gravity: it holds you down away from me. you and me, we’ve both got sins; i don’t care about where you’ve been. don’t be sad and don’t explain; this is where we start again.

i tore out of the potions classroom as soon as professor snape dismissed the class. i couldn’t believe how klutzy i was, spilling my entire potion and all right onto snape’s robes. i was to have detention for two weeks, and i’d never hear the end of it from my dorm mates.

i sought out the artifact room for an escape, only to find it already in use. the crumpled figure of [m/c] sat on the floor, surrounded by photographs, some scorched around the edges. she picked up another with a shaky hand, oblivious to my presence. „incendio.” the photograph caught fire and she watched it be swallowed by the flames, flames that combated the streaks of watery tears that ran down her cheeks.

„[m/c]?” i said, causing her to jump. „what’s going on?”

she quickly wiped her cheeks on her sleeve and kicked the photographs behind her. „nothing; it’s— it’s nothing. just some old photographs i wanted to get rid of.”

i knelt down and picked up a photograph, myself. it pictured what seemed to be a young trista and an older boy who looked quite similar to her. „who is this?”

she swallowed, realizing there was probably no way out of this. „my brother.”

i sifted through the other images. they all showed the same two faces throughout the years. she never even told me she had a brother. „why are you burning pictures of you and your brother?”

„because.”

i looked her in the eye, attempting to show how dead serious i was. she’d always do this for me when something was bothering me, so it was about time i returned the favor. „because why?”

„i just... don’t want to look at them anymore.”

„why?”

„because it... it hurts to be reminded of him in such a way.”

„why?”

the tears she was holding back began to fall. „because he’s dead, ben. this was what it was like back when we were kids, and... i just don’t want to think about that. not knowing that we’ll never be able to relive the memories.”

„and you really think this is the best way to cope? you’re going to regret doing this in the future. besides, your brother would want you to remember him like this; wouldn’t he? i’m so sorry for your loss, [m/c], but, please, be rational.”

she let out a soft sob and dropped the photograph in her hand. she hid her face in her hands and i put an arm around her shoulders. it was a little bit before she spoke again. „i just wanted to be like him. but i’ve already blown it. i’ve made friends with people i shouldn’t have, and that led to saying and doing things i shouldn’t have, and—”

„[m/c],” i stopped her. „anything you’ve done in the past is irrelevant now. i’ve known you for a while now, and you’re one of — no, the nicest person i’ve met at this school. and that’s what matters right now.”

she looked me in the eye for the first time since i found her in there and whispered a small „thanks.” her eyes fell back onto the photographs that laid on the floor.

i took a breath, hoping talking about her brother might make here feel better. „what was his name?”

„jacob.”

i nodded and paused, thinking of the best way to continue. „what did he do? for a job? or was he still in school?”

„he was an auror. that’s... that’s how he died. this summer. he was dueling a powerful dark wizard when he... struck a nerve, i guess. wizard fired the killing curse, and... that was that.”

„i’m sorry.”

she shrugged with a small shake of her head. „i want to be an auror like him, though. he helped put a lot of bad people away. i want to do that, too.”

i smiled in what i wanted to come off as a supportive way. „i’m sure you will. you’ll make your brother proud.”

a smile washed across her forlorn face. „thanks.”

„[m/c]?” i said. „could you come here?”

„what’s up?” she stood.

„just, uh... just come with me.”

i led her out of the great hall where she was eating lunch and to the artifact room. i pointed out the big, black spider that rested on the chalkboard.

she looked at me, amused. „that’s what you needed me for?”

i flushed. „you don’t have any problem getting rid of them, and, well...”

she rolled her eyes. „is that why i’m your girlfriend? because i can get rid of spiders for you?”

i rubbed the back of my neck. „it’s one of the many benefits.”

she chuckled and planted a kiss on my cheek. then, she turned to the spider. „all right, you; it’s time to stop tormenting ben. wingardium leviosa.” the spider hovered to the will of her wand and she led it out to the courtyard, dropping it onto the grass. „there. you’re free to relax in your hopefully-spider-free-for-now hideout.”

„thanks.” i grinned shyly. how did i get so lucky to earn her love? „i love you.”

„i love you, too.”

today’s the day i make you mine, so get me to the church on time. take my hand in this empty room. you’re my girl and i’m your groom. come to me, my sweetest friend; this is where we start again.

i gazed at myself in the mirror, adjusting my tie for the umpteenth time. i was determined to make sure everything was perfect for such a perfect day. it was hard to believe i was actually to be marrying the one i had loved since my third year.

a knock on the door drew me out of my trance. „ben? can i come in?” it was [m/c].

i walked to the door and laid my hand on the handle, but i hesitated. „isn’t it bad luck to see the bride before the wedding?”

i heard her laugh. „muggles have such ridiculous superstitions. come on; just let me in.”

i drew in a breath and opened the door. the breath i took was knocked out of me when i saw how she was dressed. a flower crown composed of our collective favorite flowers rested on her head. her pastel green dress fell to her knees and she wore her usual black ankle boots. she insisted on not having too fancy nor traditional of a wedding, and i was set on doing whatever made her happy.

„what’s up?” i said.

her face fell as she remembered the reason she had come. „i miss him. i wish he were here.”

i tilted my head, wondering who she meant. then, i realized. her brother. „oh. i’m sorry.”

she stayed silent a moment, her eyes on the floor. „he was engaged before his death. the wedding never happened. and now... he’s not here for mine.” her eyes finally met mine. „this is all everything i’d imagined it to be, except for that one aspect.”

„i’m sorry, [m/c]; i really wish i could—”

she took me by surprise when she flung her arms around me. „don’t apologize. i’m thanking you.”

„thanking me?”

„my brother was never going to be able to attend. that was inevitable. i realize that. but everything else... everything else is just as i wanted. and i owe that all to you.”

i smiled modestly. „well, we had some help from penny...”

„but it’s you who’ll be standing opposite me at the alter. and that’s all i could ask for.” she released me from her grasp and took my hand. „now, what do you say we get out there and seal the deal?”

the music that played was a perfect mix of wizard and muggle music, shaped to fit ben’s and my taste. we danced amongst the other partners to come to me by the muggle band the goo goo dolls. as the rest of the world fell away and it was just him and me on the dance floor, it easily became my favorite song — our favorite song. another chapter in our history had come to a close that day, but the whole of our book wouldn’t end for a long time.

#hogwarts mystery #harry potter #ben copper #ben copper x reader #ben copper x mc #ben copper x jacob’s sibling #jacob’s sibling #hphm mc #hphm

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unproduciblesmackdown · 5 years ago

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you said random number so.. gimme 5, 17, 24, 26, 38, and 43

#epic thank you!!!! sorry this is so long, gang, but you know me. press J if you have that keyboard shortcut option

5)favorite fics?

soph nothingunrealistic’s!! click the link & peruse any of the dozen gifts to this world on ao3. also just go right to her writing tag

17)a fandom you wish more people were in/you had more people to talk to about?

well i don’t Really have an answer for this one, but just yesterday it was once again time to talk abt how jaclyn moriarty’s 4-book ashbury/brookfield YA series is a lot of fun and unusual in good ways, but like, i guess what with being published throughout the aughts and like, not being super obscure but also not being explosively popular, and idk maybe they were also more Known in australia than the US, and, idk, but there’s not exactly what you’d call a Fandom online, or even very many traces of one. and i just like to mention the series as Fun To Read because they are very lively and focus on girls and have a real variety of Girl Characters (and also some boy characters who are also varied and fun but that’s just a bonus) and in particular i like to talk about how the third book has a really Unusual Choice Of Protagonist (the unfun unpopular Best Grades by-the-book overachiever etc etc etc nerd girl, kinda having the personality that ppl misinterpret alana beck’s personality to be lol, like something of a killjoy goody-two-shoes lol, but also with that earnestness and drivenness that alana has as well)......and the format of each book is Epistolary, but in different and creative ways each time, and it’s fun how like, the characters who are telling the story (the ones whose letters are used and etc) rotate with each book [tho emily and lydia are Storytellers in the 2nd And 4th books] and it’s very neat how like, you do get that sense that just b/c someone’s not being Focused On as much from different people’s perspectives doesn’t mean they aren’t still existing and present and doing stuff and having their own story, even when that’s not being mentioned by whoever’s writing down the events that we’re reading. we love that sentiment. anyways i just like to always Promote them.

24)who are you at the end of this decade?

hmmm!! i mean in many ways i am who i have been the whole time but yknow, 2009 - 2019 was a tumultuous period. i was always furiously trying to think through Who Am I As A Person for various reasons, even though like, when you’re in ur mid-teens that’s always In Progress rather than there being a really set answer to be discovered, and for a while it was a lot of frustration with myself all “why are you like [this], why can’t you do [that] right,” etc etc. but eventually i had like, a better frame of reference for a lot of what was going on, and even why i never quite felt like i had a great sense of Who I Am and What I Like and etc in the first place, and more understanding and respect for myself lol. even now it’s like, yknow i’m ~self-consious~ in ways often lol and i’ll sometimes Use that to be like, okay try to improve [this thing] about yourself!! and yknow on the one hand i feel like stuff i’ve been Working On for years Has paid off in ways, but then recently it’s like......okay hang on but like, it’s not a bad thing to like, have some traits that maybe aren’t gonna be seen as “perfect” or might be annoying or yknow, your Demeanor and Vibe isn’t always like, the most important thing to focus on lol or something where like, oh being sweet & saintly & coming across as utterly pleasant to everyone always gets to be The Objective Ideal. like, i’m opinionated and can be argumentative and sometimes impatient?? like, there’s a balance here between “good to be trying to Improve Yourself always or whatever lol” and “but also everyone is People with Traits and Different Personalities and everyone doesn’t have to just sand themselves down into an edgeless smooth sphere” and like, sure it’s like “haha i’m a bit more temperamental than i’d like still” but also i sure sympathize w/ the fact that like, oof, depression makes it tricky sometimes! and i do pretty okay at like, being Aware of when my mood is cursed and trying to be as chill about it as poss! or like, “haha wish i was better at conversation lmao” but yknow also understanding that like.....i’m just kinda Not great at it and that’s what’s Natural for me and like, again, a balance between “trying to be easier to talk to, lol” and “being okay with the fact that i’m not super easy to talk to and most ppl aren’t very easy for me to talk to either, lol”

im trying to be a bit less cagey lol which i guess might not be the first word someone might use to describe me for a variety of reasons, But......and but then also, i just like, for me there is no simple Be Yourself, Just Talk Naturally As U Would conversation mode lol, but you know. it’s hardly a pressing issue, and at the same time, like, sometimes when i find it hard to talk to people it’s like “well this is just you needing to Be Nicer” or whatever, or like, well you’re just not used talking to Anyone so like, push through it, and then it takes me a while to realize like, well no you just don’t love talking to them, lmao......and at the same time i’m Really slow to realize when people *do* actually enjoy talking to me, lmao, i am just not used to it And used to people like, not really being super interested in interacting with me even if they think i’m alright lol. lord! so i’m still slightly surprised whenever Anyone likes me, but also like, then again there’s sort of always these repeated scenarios where it’s like [Glum Trombone Noise] i’m also the recipient of various ppl’s various contempt for various reasons........which like, i sure don’t Absorb that as like “way 2 go, you deserve that” but also like, sure also never is the most fun experience of your life. but i have a way more solid sense of the fact that like, i don’t inherently deserve that, and an understanding of Why people will be Like That sometimes, and that’s all been acquired knowledge from the whole journey of this decade lol

also like, i have always been and continue to be like, Basically A Cat lol.....cats-sonas for everyone, ___ the ___ cat, But Seriously Folks........like, oh, there’s a lot of ppl and/or noise around?? unless i have chosen to put myself in that situation for fun, i’m probably gonna be finding whatever quiet / distant corner to hide out in and try to remain as undetected as possible.......kinda wary about interacting with people sometimes, though then also, i like to be friendly w/ strangers (if they’re friendly with me) and won’t necessarily mind spontaneous interactions but only if it’s Plausibly Expected in the situation, and even then, i might just prefer that Nobody Talk To Me......and i’ve yet to be Really comfortable in a group of ppl if i’m there *with* that group lmao, like, i don’t like to take the lead or compete for attention or anything and just kinda will try to do my own thing on the outskirts, whereas if i’m by myself it’s just like, i feel a lot more comfortable and like i can just do whatever lmao..........and also i don’t like to make noise lol. unless again, it’s deliberate, and it’s Fun. like at a concert? i will be the death of whatever nerd like, wants it to be like a solemn “listening to a record” occasion or wants everyone to yell out complete sentences if a performer asks an Arena full of people How Are You Doing 2nite or whatever. i’m gonna yell!!! anyways. idk. i am always like “oh i am Very Much [this way], except for all the times i am totally [the would-be Opposite way]”........i can’t really opt out of having Anxious Qualities and that’s alright, even though it does get in the way of things sometimes for sure. like, c’est la vie!!! i understand why i am like this, and that like, while for my own sake i can try to hold my own hand here and encourage myself to be a little bolder, it’s totally fine that like, i have Problems and Difficulties.

i’m also at like, maybe the lowest levels of Impending Dread that i’ve had since i was like, 8 or some shit lmao............like again kind of a Wild Decade and one where like, it was totally all like “wow am i even gonna make it to [a few yrs in the future] -> [a year in the future] -> [half a year from now]” aaand it hasn’t been a full year yet since i was last thinking like “lmfao oof i might not be alive by __, who knows!!” but even while that was going on it was at least an improvement from the times i thought i might like, hmm hope i don’t off myself. and like, this is probably the first Start Of A Year in like. well possibly the past decade lmao, where yknow, it hasn’t felt quite as dire. i mean im not really out here a cockeyed optimist about anything, and like, i’m aware that things are always a little tenuous and there’s other factors i’m always nervous about, but That’s nothing new, and i’m kinda more like, neutral about the future rn lol? feeling less Dread and Doom is new-ish lmao and like, allowing that yknow, despite how crappy the past decade has been re: how i felt in my Outlook, there’s been a bunch of surprising Good Things to come along, and i totally allow for the fact that that could easily continue to happen. having Less(ened) Bad Feelings about Things might not = Absolutely Thriving but i appreciate it!! i also try to be appreciative lmao. like, what with the dread and doom & (hope i don’t die this year, i guess,) feelings, it’s wildly hard nowadays for me to like, anticipate stuff in a ~fun~ way or at all, but yknow when anything nice, even a really small / unspectacular / ordinary moment and/or detail, is being experienced by me, i try to enjoy that. i like to be Appreciative. and i think i’m also sort of like, sharing more of myself than i’ve probably gotten to or felt capable of doing in the past, and i appreciate that a lot too. like, it can be really Depressing for sure to think of like, hmm i haven’t had the chance to like, feel in control of things and like things are Totally Fine and i feel Totally Okay & like i’m enjoying everything, and i can choose to pursue [things i might enjoy], and maybe i Won’t have that chance? [another glum trombone noise] but like. i appreciate the good experiences that i Do and Have gotten so far. and the fact i’ve ever been in situations to connect with people and enjoy things the ways that i can and like, it’s really nice that My Presence in other ppl’s lives, even as just like Some Online Rando re: some ppl lmao, has had some positive effect for them or even just been enjoyed is like, wow, this is pretty great lol.........not sure where i was taking this tangent but like, i am someone who appreciates this a lot.

hmm i am also a passionate person at the end of this decade lmao!!!! that has definitely always been true. i am Of That Temperament. it is funny b/c like, the fact that i am A Motormouth Actually But Often Not Saying Anything In The Least To People, they think i’m like, of this very mild disposition and Not someone with strong opinions that they will launch into, or else i would have been doing that already........but you know!!! here i am online, fully able to just dive into things and start talking about whatever for one million years. and i sure latch onto stuff in a Big Way sometimes, which is why anyone follows me at all lol, b/c if you like [whatever particular content] and i am just all about that too, it’s a beneficial situation for us both i guess lmao. i can get really excited and focused about stuff, obviously, and i sure Also Obviously like to explore the emotional aspects of things. which is a vague thing to say lmfao but you all know what i mean!!! it continues to be the only reason i draw lmaooo like i draw so much and like, Making Fanart And Sharing It Online has i think also been a journey of this decade for me, and i really only draw a) exactly that fanart that i feel like making, and b) what i feel like making is always also probably abt Feelings somehow, like the Three Emotions: kissing (aka gay), crying (sad), and angry (angry)........great news if you want to see the stuff i already happen to be drawing lol!!! bad news i guess if you were hoping i’d draw anything but whatever i end up wanting to draw. i cannot be diverted. and i don’t even draw for its own sake lol like, i’ve always doodled for fun and all that, but like, ive never been a “wow i want to make my own __ someday” or whatever, and if i’m trying to draw something which is anything other than [the exact thing i might feel like drawing] it is Such a chore that like, i just don’t do it except for like, total Exceptions. except exceptions lol. don’t ask!! anyways why did i get on that drawing tangent there........yeah it’s definitely lucky that i’ve been giving myself that Drawing Experience so that i can connect w/ ppl that way, cuz i’m godawful at like, necessarily providing other stuff lol Or at being the one to Make Connections Happen otherwise......and also of course sometimes it is easier to convey/communicate something via drawing. woohoo!!

anyways yeah i’m a bit excitable lol and i sure guess i’ve got that Chaotique energy at times, for better or worse lol........like sometimes my Contribution can be like, just an absolute wild card thrown into the pile, or just like, maybe adding some Boost to a situation that other people can run with if they so choose. just throw things out there sometimes and enjoy when other ppl find that fun lmao

what else is there about me??? lol.......oh yeah i’m always sort of an Office Goofaround (not actually in an office ever, though). like, when ppl Don’t have that sense of Collaborative Humor where like, if someone does something a bit silly u just roll with that bit, or if god forbid they have Exhausting Cishet Guy humor where they think everything is about Dry, “Intelligent” Sarcasm and that being “funny” is about making yourself look like the coolest or cleverest person there who Wins the Center Of Attention spot?? it’s like, eff that, where are my Get Silly gang. also puns are funny but also only b/c they are silly. you have to really lean into it lol.

well anyways!!!! and when i am asked to talk about myself i can be very extensive and yet not necessarily cover everything. here we are

26)favorite look you had?

my look hasn’t changed too much! Tees n Jeans (or shorts? or jorts? lol) are pretty much my thing altho you Know i have at times added in A Layer, or even accessories.......as always, part of the first few years of the decade for me was the whole “aha, yeah okay i’m trans” process, but before that i wasn’t ever really trying to be more “””””””””fashionable”””””””””” than the tees n jeans type of look anyway lmao, and even nowadays like, i have some Wardrobe Items that like, ppl might consider ”androgynous” or whatever when cis dudes wear them, like leggings or a v-neck sweater........really some of the only significant Changes was getting binder/s eventually (by 2012?? ugh idk) and also like, by 2011 i cut my hair relatively short, and from there on i just like, every year went “ugh god i need it to be shorter” and even now i’m like, hmm, do i want it shorter or is this fine?? but also i’m somewhat limited styling-wise b/c i just continually cut it myself in a bathroom mirror, true chaotic. and! i’ve been like, god i wish i had a baseball cap that’s just like, solid [my fave blue] or yknow, black or something, or idk. one that i like. and also someday it would be nice to like, not only have an updated prescription of lenses but also Multiple Glasses Frames to choose from, even though my current ones are alright still lol.......this is me just talking abt my past looks and how i’d like to potentially update my look lmao i did Not answer the question but, as usual, i also don’t have a great direct answer lol

38)a prediction you had for this decade that came true?

lol this was not a decade where i was ever looking ahead to 2020 and making any assumptions about this Block Of Time as a whole.......i mean like, i was Really starting to suspect byyyy 2012 for sure that like, i could not like, be able to exist And have my parents be in my life at all lol and by 2013 it was just like. increasing confirmation of that. and i last saw / spoke to them prior to me just effing out of there at the end of 2015. snaps for me

43)an important relationship (of any kind) you had?

well a couple i appreciated that might not be obvious were pretty brief and fairly impersonal lol. so in 2015 i had this Nightmare Job for five whole months which was obviously miserable in most ways, but there was this other guy who wasn’t even a Coworker, we just had the same job and had similar routes of Stores to go to, so we would run into each other a lot of mornings, and he would talk to me and i’d talk to him and he was totally good-humored about everything and that was helpful lmao b/c it’s great to have Someone you enjoy seeing. i also struck up a rapport with a baked-goods stocker at one particular store, and that could be an enjoyable 14 seconds. it was a godawful job lmao and like, Any pleasantness at all / decent treatment from other people was very helpful

also at this other job the next year which was a lot less hellish, there was this customer lady who like, i can’t remember at what point she started talking to me but yknow it got to be that if we’d run into each other she’d kind of update me on her life. and she would be like “sorry i’m talking to you, a stranger, about all this stuff all the time, but my life is a mess and i don’t really have anyone to talk to” and i would be like, lmfao mood, do not even worry about it, and yknow this was someone i only ran into usually once every few weeks at my job, and could only listen to for however long, but she was Going Tf Through It all the time and as much as i am a chatterbox who will go on for a century about myself b/c i can’t be concise abt anything ever, i’m also decent at being in Listening Mode lmao or yknow, i was like No Truly i don’t mind you venting, and also yknow, i’m like well i know how much it sucks to have Nobody to talk to about Big Problems. and i am this random restaurant worker and if i’m one of the only people this lady can talk to, you can bet i’m going to listen lol.......and she was really goin through it all One Thing After Another and yknow i’d catch her two weeks later and she’d be all like, well [this situation] has gotten worse, or This One Problem is over but now New Problem has replaced it, etc, and a whole issue that i got updated on was like lol. she had this boyfriend who she’d kinda mention early on when she was talking abt trying to find a job, or losing a new-but-terrible job and once again being back in that Job Hunt Stress, and idk like. i just sort of have decent Relationship Instincts lmfao of like “hmm this doesn’t sound great” but like, a month or two later she’s straightup Married to this dude, and i’m like oh congrats :) and then when a month or two after That she’s talking about how like, she’s maybe having Job Probs again and her now-husband is really giving her shit for like, not having found a new one yet, i’m like internally all [ :)))))) Not Surprised :))))))) ] but i’m like. yknow you Sympathize n Validate but if you just up and tell someone who’s being treated real bad like “you are being treated terribly, this person is acting terribly” then they might just want to defend them like oh it’s not That bad, or minimize it, and blame themselves for making their terrible partner “look bad”.......and by extension when she once was in our restaurant With said husband and introduced us i was like, just getting further confirmation abt this dude’s shittiness from his Immediate Vibe lmao like....whenever i feel uncomfortable enough in someone’s presence in a [not just universal level of Anxiety] way, it’s like, that instinct is pretty reliable & accurate lol.....but i had to pretend Not to hate him or act too standoffish towards him lmao cuz like!!! i figured i could “get away with it” but yknow, this lady had already said how isolated she was and the husband sure seemed Controlling and like, yknow, if you act like you don’t Like the shitty partner or said shitty partner catches wind of you maybe telling this person that “hey your partner is being shitty” then it’s all, them telling their partner “don’t go around that person who is so obviously Against me >:(” and like. yknow i figured as Random Restaurant Employee this dude wasn’t about to be super on guard about me but i still was not wanting to risk it but luckily i only met him the one time and only had to casually pretend i didn’t think he was shit that one time. and anyhow! soon enough the lady is talking to me about how she thinks getting married to him was a mistake but like, again, she was real isolated and didnt have family or friends or ppl in the area to talk to, and like, yknow she would be pretty sure her husband was cheating on her but of course He was the one all like, wanting to be controlling and invade her privacy and accuse Her of cheating on him, and i’m like, internally screaming but again yknow, i’m just letting her vent to Anyone (me) and sympathizing. and iirc her talking about her “uh oh my husband sucks” was like, i had come back from this delivery so we were in the parking lot lol and she was so upset about all of it and like, “sorry i’m just this random person talking to you for twenty minutes in a parking lot and crying lol” and i’m like. i mean yknow if the only person you can vent to about this terrible situation is me, this random person in a parking lot, absolutely i am glad to do it, even though i would’ve done it anyways lol...........and i was so mad at our General Manager this one time lmao b/c. yknow it’s a couple weeks later and wouldn’t you know it, The Lady is really stressed b/c her husband was yelling at her and broke a window in their apartment, and the Cost Of Repairs added to their monthly rent meant they might not be able to make that rent, and she was in that crappy situation that gets pulled on Tenants Who Probably Don’t Have Much Money, where you’re supposed to get 5 Days Notice or whatever when they’re like “get out b/c your rent is overdue” but you get that Notice on like, friday afternoon when your Last Day is supposed to be the following monday, and nobody is at the office all weekend, so obviously that’s not five days and it’s really only One Day and that Last Day that you’d even have a chance to talk to anyone, which is also a monday when you’d probably have work, and yknow, good luck finding help over the weekend, when probably ppl will just want to spend that time rushing to just pack their shit up and leave anyways.....ANYHOW it’s just some particular heinous bullshit and it was like, the saturday after it had happened to her, and i sympathized entirely b/c that had happened to me and i now lived in my car but i figured i wouldn’t bring that up lmfao.......and anyways i was sitting down with her to listen to her b/c it’s an Insanely Stressful Situation and again like, whenever she’d show up i’d let her talk to me abt her Problems for however long she felt like. and anyways of course eventually the one By-The-Books manager gives me shit all like “what are you doing daring to Sit Down and Not be doing restaurantly actions, ugh” and i’m like. i mean, unsurprising lecture to get lol, of course, but i was just so impatient like. well this person was having a crisis so i prioritized that above keeping the coffee stirrers fully stocked at all times, bite me. ENNYHOW and i didn’t see her for a minute after that and i Was a bit worried b/c like. of course i had every reason to be and she was just always looking so completely exhausted but then like, actually the last time i saw her she was actually more upbeat than ever b/c like! turns out that during an argument her husband had assaulted her and had been arrested. which is of course like. i was like oh i am completely sorry about that trauma but congratulations at this person being separated from you!!! and like, i wish i could have kept up with her beyond that, but i couldn’t, but like, that was the first Improvement in her life that i’d heard since i met her, and it was a way better last-thing-to-hear-from-her than her stressing out abt eviction thanks to her abusive husband breaking shit. and like, weird relationship lmao but!! idk i did feel lucky that i could be The One Person This Lady Gets To Talk With b/c like, god forbid she have absolutely nobody to talk to about this shit or treat her with any sympathy, even if it was just me, the rando she only got to see on occasion. and i hope she’s doing okay still! wish i knew for sure of course, but i’m glad i at least got to be there for her in a tiny way for a period of time and did eventually like, Know that she both knew that this was a bad person to be with, and got that Reason to be separated from him.

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1. Sileves

I love Sileves, I love her big generous heart and how eagerly she accepts friends of her children and her husband as honorary family members. I wish I could talk more about her job as a healer because she takes such immense pride in it and she is what I would want any nurse or doctor to be; so caring and patient and kind.

2. Methenor

Methenor is a soft boi hidden under layers of icy indifference, sarcasm and dry etiquette and I love it. He cares for his family so much ;-; And like I feel incredibly bad for him because no wonder he’s cold as ice when pretty much his entire family left him in Rivendell; His parents sailed, his older sister is who knows where, his younger brother ran for Lothlorien and now his only son left him too.

3. Malgelir

Chirpy social butterfly with a small bit of a “ME FIRST” complex towards her siblings. Malgelir always wanted to get married and have a child, and the fact that she did so before her siblings does make her prouder than she probably should be. Thankfully this isnt out of pure malicious intent because I don’t think she ever had an evil thought in her life.

She also cares so much about her hubby and her son ;-; i cry

4. Rhoscthel

Fun fact I aint got a single clue about what goes into fashion design and yet here Rhoscthel is being a tailor. Send help. Plz. I’m making this up as I go and I just hope nobody notices I’m bluffing my way through anything that takes half a glance at her skill as a tailor.

I also wish I knew how people Actually Flirt TM because Rhos is supposed to be a charming she-elf with bargaining powers that could almost rival Caranthir’s but idk anything about either flirting or haggling. The woes of an introvert trying to play a socially savvy extrovert TM

5. Amathel

With Amathel I’ve been contemplating switching her social status of engaged to married but Amathel kind of has concerns and worries about the act of getting married so idk how to really.. change her status? Like should I just change it or drabble it or..

Like it’s not that she doesnt want to be married to Lagoron, she loves him very dearly, but there’s certain expectations that comes with having a wedding especially as a highly valued member of the Rivendell guard.

Idk I kinda want to dive more into the complex nature of her always wanting to be on top and number one in her class despite the fact that she has a lot of… performance anxiety, I guess you could call it?

She doesnt like to be put on the spot or even necessarily in the spotlight even though she has an ambitious drive and is always looking to improve as a guard.

6. Innith

With Innith I’m kinda having the opposite problem I do with Rhoscthel. I don’t get to use her much because she’s a shy, introverted scholar who would really only want to interact with coworkers and patrons of the library in Rivendell; and unfortunately there’s not a lot of those muses around.

this is very much me asking you to throw Pan at her sometimes I think they could be fun together plz

I’m also a bit sad the one ship I had for her has long since sailed away. F/F ships are so hard to come by.

7. Nethel

You would think I have a similar problem with Nethel like I do with Innith but since Nethel is such a drastically different character I actually dont find it hard to find interactions for her lol. People seem to be rather drawn to her even though she’s brutally blunt. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, Nethel is a lot like Feanor just minus the genius linguistic part.

Plus while Nethel is cooped up in her workshop most of the time she does need to come out and tend to her biological needs like eating, bathing, sleeping, much to her dismay as she has little patience for small talk.

Aside from that I think most of the muns I toss her at are aware that she’s a deeply insecure person under all that brutal facade, and people generally seem to have a little more patience with a character like that? like idk, just something I noticed.

8. Miston

Honestly without Miston this blog wouldnt exist and I wouldn’t be here to gush about all my characters, so needless to say Miston is incredibly important to me. I feel like he has grown as a character a lot since the beginning of this blog but that he has also remained true to the description I give him in his about section. He is still a character who doesn’t like sharing his feelings and rather deflect them, ignore them entirely or distract you with conversations about literally anything else.

Miston is very near and dear to my heart.

9. Eredhon

Baby. Precious soft child. Eredhon is such a sweetheart and it’s truly thanks to a lot of brainstorming with @legolasgoldy that he has been crawling out of his shell because for quite a while I myself didnt even know all that much about Eredhon.

He is a soft, gentle soul with a lot of deep running emotions and his social anxiety can definitely play cruel tricks on him, but with the right support system he blossoms into a very sweet and devoted friend who will always try to help you through any emotional problems. He’s also a lot more emotionally intelligent than I originally gave him credit for. He’s usually paired with social butterflies (see Malgelir) because he does get those type of characters to kind of.. relent the walls they build around themselves and let him see the emotional struggles they tend to ignore

He’ll also never apologises for feeling his emotions. He’ll apologize for snapping, for raising his voice, for letting his anxiety drive him up a wall and for anything that deserves an apology, but he won’t apologize for feeling sad or anxious or happy or in need of comfort.

10. Calithilon

I’ve been thinking about aging canon Cali up to at least a talkative elfling because honestly because he is so young in canon I haven’t really gotten a chance to use him all that effectively in the main storyline.

Most of Cali’s development comes from modern aus with @hclliish where he’s a teen, dating her Sleipnir (another precious child, just not one of mine lol)Cali takes after his mom in looks and unfortunately for him after his dad in personality, making him a rather shy and quiet person with a lot of insecurities. Being born to two singers makes him a natural singer as well, and his voice is higher in tone than that of his father.

Despite being an anxious teen (because when is puberty ever kind) he does find a lot of comfort in his parents unconditional love for him. They’re a very solid parents-child unit tbh.

11. Lagoron

Another character that I don’t get to use all that much, which is unfortunate because I find Lagoron an incredibly funny and interesting character. He’s a very un-elvish elf, in fact he’s more a hobbit in an elven disguise. While also being a guard, he is an entirely different type than Amathel; where Amathel yearns to be the best and the strongest, Lagoron is a team player who believes in the strength of numbers and strong bonds between guards to drag them through the most difficult situations; and that hasn’t exactly made him the top performer of the class.

He is however truly the kind of person you want on your team, and in a fight he’s surprisingly endurant and likely to exhaust his opponent by focusing on dodging their power attacks rather than wasting his energy in fighting back.

Always has food on him and will offer it to anyone he feels like stricking up a friendly conversation with. 10/10 good friend.

12. Hinnoron

Hinnoron is definitely more of the tradtional elf. He’s radiant, and ethereal, and pleasant to be around. He also has a natural calmness about him and a certain kind of wisdom. Y’know, typical Tolkien Elf TM stuff.

Hinnoron gets interesting when you dive into his deeper relationships. His relationship with his eldest sister is on a very low pit, and the one he has with Methenor has definitely taken some blows. When Gelwenil left to follow the stars, Methenor got rather clingy towards Hinnoron, who felt suffocated in return.

Hinnoron left for Lothlorien, and to this day regrets that he abandoned Methenor when Methenor was clearly struggling with the departure of their parents and their sister. While they have mended their bond since, this kind of guilt does seem to creep into his relationships with Haldir ( @thehiddenhero ) and Oropher ( @oropherrrrr ) He often doesn’t tell them when things about the relationship upset him and bottles his emotions up to an unhealthy degree, all because he fears of upsetting their feelings or even damaging the image they have of him if he’s not the perfect, ethereal and unconditionally supportive partner. For someone who gives love so easily and unconditionally, he seems to have a hard time believing that the love he receives doesn’t come with the condition that he has to be a perfect lover or it’ll be revoked.

Someone plz teach him that he’s allowed to have needs and that he’s allowed to have those needs tended to.

13. Gelwenil

Ah yes. The lost one. Well no, not lost, she knows exactly where she’s going but nobody else does. Gelwenil honestly never meant to upset Methenor or Hinnoron when she left to follow the stars. Like Methenor was definitely struggling when his parents left for Valinor, but in retrospect Gelwenil left several years after that. Maybe not enough for him to have healed and moved on, but I don’t blame her for thinking that with his wife, children and their youngest brother Methenor would have enough of a support net to justify her wanting to explore the skies.

Gelwenil is an avid believer in the power of Varda, and also deeply respects Tilion and Arien. Any type of celestial Maia can be expected to be treated with the deepest respect from her.

Out of all my characters Gelwenil deserves the most TLC tbh I feel like she’s underdeveloped compared to everyone else because I dont use her a lot.

14. Faerveren

Uuuugh I miss Faerveren so much. Mistons second cousin twice removed, and probably the only person to ever leave him flabbergasted and when Miston is the voice of reason in a duo, you know somethings up.

Faerveren is also an interesting character because with her I wanted to present the idea of people assuming you’re always emotionally fine as long as you’re physically strong enough to be virtually invincible.

15. Nengelon

Local edition of the “I’m so fucking done with this shit I don’t get paid enough to deal with” club, together with Feren and Lindir. Nengelon tends to fall into an elven variety of Welsh when he runs upset with the leader of the Sabaid elves, and just about no one knows what he’s saying.

There’s also the implication that he basically ran away from the Riunnag (waterelves, maybe related to the Teleri through distant blood but sources (ie me) dont confirm that yet so its just rumors) tribe he belonged to because of his secret romantic ties to said leader, but Nengelon doesn’t speak of his romantic outings to anyone so it’s just a rumor.

16. Braigon

Ah, big, bulky, burly, 7 foot something Sabaid leader Braigon. Rides a grizzly bear as a warmount, wields a gigantic twohanded battle axe, and is an absolute terror on the battlefield… when he bothers to get his tribe of warrior travelers involved. Braigon tends to stroll around like he owns the place, because not many dare to defy this mountain of an elf.

Maybe thats why people are so bewildered when 5′9 sized Nengelon curses him out on his bullshit in some incomprehensible tongue they don’t know.

Braigon is actually a pretty solid leader of a tribe where elves can pretty much do as they please as long as they do their job as either warrior or provider (finding food and other supplies) outstandingly. The Sabaids aren’t a big tribe, there’s only a couple hundred of them, but they make for fantastic allies… but only if you can manage to convince Braigon to risk any of his people in any given war; and he usually isn’t concerned with fighting the battles of others for them without a good reason.

17. Bereneth

Bereneth is an interesting case. An accident between a Sinda lady and a Noldo refugee, at a time when those relationships weren’t exactly accepted after the reign of destruction left by the line of Finwe. (I like to believe thats something that took a generation or two for elves to get over dont @ me.)

Because of this, Bereneth was relentlessly bullied to the point where as soon as the oppertunity rose, her mother left for then newly settled Rivendell. Being under the rule of Elrond, she figured her daughter would be safe there. Bereneth remained there and bore three children to Carandolon and sailed to Valinor when their daughter in law was pregnant with her first child

18. Carandolon

Chieftain of a squadron while Greenwood was under the rule of Oropher, Carandolon was a bright eyed and wanderlust filled soul, born to two fullblooded Silvan elves. When on a mission to Rivendell, where he had to accompany a diplomat, he saw Bereneth and for him it was love at first sight.

When the mission was over and he returned to Greenwood, he immediately requested to be dismissed from his chieftain status and to be allowed to move and live to Rivendell.

A reckless and bold move, and it did take him a while to woo Bereneth, but they ultimately fell in love, got married, and had three children. He sailed with his wife when their daughter in law was pregnant with her first child

19. Nemiron

The missing link that connects Miston to the line of Finwe. Nemiron is the bastard son of Írimë and an unknown father of Vanyarin descent. Nemiron lost complete vision in his right eye when the healer tent he worked at got raided by the enemy in that war; and he threw himself as a shield between the blade and the wounded soldier it was aiming for.

During the war, he was usually found in the company of either Finrod or Edrahil, as he needed help to adjust to his new lack of depth perception. Sometimes during that same war, he left to settle in Lothlorien, where he met the weaver apprentice Dillothés. They married and moved to Rivendell as a position for an experienced healer was open there, and they had their family there.

Nemiron remained in Rivendell, despite yearning to sail, for the sake of his only daughter, and he ultimately sailed for Valinor when she was pregnant with her third child.

I havent decided if the power of Valinor heals Nemiron’s injury, but if it does (and I doubt it), it would do so only partially. His right eye will never be 100% functional.

20. Dillothés

The third and last born daughter of her parents, Dillothés worked as a weaver’s apprentice in Lothlorien before moving up to becoming a weaver of her own, selling her selfmade fabrics to tailors and others interested and making a comfortable living out of it

She became infatuated with Nemiron, who was often found in the library studying Lothlorien native herbs to aid in his small healer practice. After she learned of his injury she never backed away from him once, and helps and supports him to the best of her ability. This remains the case when they went to Valinor and whether or not he partially heals from his injury

#cuilpantielthesleepyscribe #THERE. I DID IT #-flops-#all my bbys

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logical-east · 6 years ago

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I Want a More Interesting Life Challenge: Day Five and Six

I want a more interesting life challenge

Challenge: See if a stranger likes your outfit

This one made me panic. It made me panic because, the evening that I pulled this challenge from the jar, I knew I would have to do it. I would have to waltz right up to a stranger and blunder my way through an awkward conversation; the thought of it making my heart do cartwheels in my chest.

I have never been good with confrontation, since I am riddled with the annoying symptoms of social anxiety. I find it hard to express myself to people in a way that doesn’t seem to them like I’m either completely apathetic, or weirdly creepy. Y’know, in a way which makes it seem like I’m not quite trying to be creepy, but because of my fidgeting and darting eyes, it comes off as suspicious and untrustworthy.

It’s a real problem.

It was also a real problem that I somehow allowed myself to impersonate a deceased person until an hour before I had to go to work, sleeping in so late that I completely missed day five’s update because I had to zoom right out the door. Want to know what’s worse than asking someone if they like your outfit?

Asking customers at work if they like your uniform.

Every time a customer would interact with me, I would silently and determinedly size them up, wondering if they would be the kind of person to laugh off such an odd inquiry. Yet how would I land such a remark? How could I tell if they would be okay with this random employee asking about their uniform? Would they take offense? Would they laugh? Would they run for the manager and complain that “that employee just implied they hate working here because of their uniform!” (Give people an inch, I tell ya, they’ll go a mile).

After a few false starts, and no friendly, open customers that I felt safe breaking the ice with, I decided the best course of action would be to give being cheeky a try. With my best faux confidence, I sauntered right up to a younger girl and said to her:

“I love you pink hat!”

“Thanks!” She brightened, “It’s my favorite.”

With her welcoming demeanor, I felt more assured. I said, “I can see why. As for me, well, this isn’t my most favorite thing ever.” I gestured to my outfit, “How do you like this uniform?”

She laughed, and I immediately noticed something changed in her, like a flower turning itself towards a sun, she felt more open with me, caring, and inviting. She began to tell me that her friend used to work here, and that the uniforms had always been awful, so she was well aware of my pain. She turned to look at me, her smile lit her eyes, a genuine kindness was there which was intriguing to me. Actually, it was shocking.

After more pleasant small talk, we parted ways and she, very earnestly, told me to enjoy the rest of my day, leaving me feeling equally elated and perplexed.

Which, as I was still digesting this strange and uplifting outcome, another woman walked in. She was stunning, and I genuinely loved her outfit, and I was quick to let her know.

“Excuse me, but I love your outfit!”

She turned to me, her eyes widened. “Oh wow, that’s such a kind thing for you to say,” Her voice soft, just like her smile.

“Well, I absolutely mean it, and I wish I had your sense of style. Say, what do you think of my outfit?”

I noticed once more the change occurred. She began calling me by my name, which she read from my name tag, and I felt more connected to her because of it. This, I noticed, added to a feedback loop where the kinder she was with her questions, the happier I was to help her. Soon enough her whole family had arrived, and we were all chatting, happily, like people in a supermarket who hadn’t seen each other in awhile. Though before long, they also left, but not before telling me to enjoy the rest of my day, which was backed with a beaming smile from all parties.

I think there’s certainly a lesson to be had in all this, one which I think I will try and utilize whenever I am feeling anxious!

Challenge: Drink 6-8 glasses of water today

This is LITERALLY one of the EASIEST challenges in the jar, and I failed, guys! I FAILED! Why? Well, I have never been good at drinking water. In fact, most doctors have voiced their concern over my molasses-like blood (Kidding!...Sorta).

To be honest, I am kind of shocked I’m not at least 80% leather with how dehydrated I am all the time, which sounds bad, but my body actually rejects it, so it’s not really my fault. Firstly, I don’t get thirsty, I just crave coffee. Second, if I so much as have a drop of water on my skin, suddenly I have to pee like a race horse. All. The. Time.

I drank 5 glasses of water, and I could not stop peeing. It was like every 10 minutes, and I thought my kidneys were going to up and quit with the sudden and excessive overtime.

Sheesh. It’s just water, not the end of the world. And surely not enough to warrant me spending a good portion of my day in the bathroom. Looking at you, BODY!

To anyone reading this: DRINK WATER!!!!

Don’t be like me. For the love of yourself, please don’t be like me. Drink water, love yourself, and happy peeing!

...Guess this challenge is just gonna have to go back into the jar.

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broke-bitch-diaries-blog · 6 years ago

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Here’s some backstory, I guess...

The making of this blog is long overdue. I got the idea for it before I even started uni. Of course, back then, it was nothing but a thought: I didn’t have a name for it, I didn’t know what I would write about (hell, I wasn’t sure I would have anything to write about), I didn’t know which platform I would choose for it. I have to admit it -I didn’t even see the blog as a good idea. It was simply a whim.

As soon as my journey began, from the second I loaded my suitcase into the trunk of my bus to the airport, I was overwhelmed with new responsibilities. I was starting a new chapter of my life and, let me tell you, it wasn’t as pleasant as it sounds. First trip alone, first flight in my life, leaving home so far behind -I was absolutely terrified. And yet, in the back of my mind, there was a tiny whisper that kept pushing me forward -it was my own persistence. I knew I could do it, no matter how many challenges life threw my way. I’m not going to bullshit and say that I worked on my fears and I’m doing great now. Life’s still kicking me in the arse and I still fall on my face every time -I just came to terms with it and accepted it as my reality.

I spent the first month in a different city, living with my aunt. Sure, it was a headstart -I had a place to stay until I found my own and I wasn’t instantly left on my own (looking back at it, I kind of wish I had been). It was hellish. I was stuck in a studio apartment with an over-sharer and her cat, sleeping on a blow-up mattress next to the balcony, I had no place to go and no real human interaction outside of face-timing my family and friends on the daily. You would think this would have saved me loads of money, right? Wrong.

My aunt convinced me that it was a good plan for us to share the responsibility of buying groceries by me paying for them every other week. She asked for fifty quid just for the groceries. The first time, it seemed reasonable as I was just getting to know the country and figuring out the cost of everything. Later on, I realised it was just empty spending (now I spend no more than a tenner a week, sometimes it’s even less than a fiver, no matter what my financial situation is that week). I’m not the one to waste money on random shit, but I can’t deny that I like to treat myself to a pack of custard creams or a can of Rockstar. But that amount of money on food for two people? Absolutely bonkers.

I was stuck in that damn flat. My aunt worked four days a week. She would leave early in the morning and come back around 7 pm. While that gave me some alone time, I was desperate to do something other than go for a stroll in the park or play with the cat. The days were going by dreadfully slowly. I couldn’t find a day-to-day job, I was only beginning to freelance, and I had a lot of university expenses. My mental health hit a new low. I spent my days on the couch, watching Netflix, walking around in the local park or taking a bus to the city just to escape the house. I had nothing to do and it was killing me. It’s not hard to guess what happened next, is it? I became irritable and more anxious than ever, my depression was at its lowest and the intrusive thoughts were echoing in my head every waking minute of the day. My aunt and I already had personalities that clashed pretty badly, but I was trying my best to be civil, polite and not make a scene out of anything -she was providing me with a roof over my head, so I had to live by her rules, right? That was until she pushed me past my breaking point and towards a breakdown on the bathroom floor with her convincing me to get out and talk like adults (yeah, as if her making me feel like my worth was equal to zero just because I couldn’t find a job was a reasonably adult thing to do). I wanted to drop everything and fly back home: I was missing my parents, I was missing my friends -I was missing every single thing about home and I couldn’t do anything about it. Thankfully, I had moral support from the people whom I love the most, of which I will forever be thankful. It helped me push through that absolutely dreadful month and gave me hope that everything would get better.

Not to spoil it all, but everything did get better. Well, slightly. I moved to the city my university is located in, I got my own room and had the opportunity to decorate it however I want, turn my own little space into a home. In a way, the move here was a whole new chapter as I can’t push myself to bond it with my first month in the UK.

I made it to the international week that my university had organized for students and met my first friends. At first, I thought I’d be alone. I thought my anxiety and crippling fear of social gatherings would be the end of me. As soon as I got to the celebratory dinner, I realised that everyone there was just as lost and alone as I was. In all honesty, it was also the only time I was happy for ice-breaking activities.

Not too long after that, I met my course-mates. Over a hundred and fifty soon-to-be Forensic Scientist. It was insane. In less than a week, I picked out the ones I liked and the ones I hated and I based all of that solely on their behaviour in the introductory lectures and practicals. Before I even knew it, I was already having lunch with my closest friends (I don’t even remember how we came to be this close, but I’m sure it must’ve been just me asking for directions when I was lost or something along those lines). Not too long after that, I tried out for fencing and met a girl I now call my little sister -one of the sweetest, most caring people I’ve ever met. Fencing turned out to be quite boring, so I ended up in the student choir, which was equivalent to finding a family away from home. An amazing bunch of people mixed with my love to sing -what else could I have asked for? As it turns out, uni wasn’t as bad and scary as it seemed.

Of course, let’s not go too soft and happy -this girl is still struggling. I’m constantly financially unstable, my irregular schedule is stopping me from getting a regular job and my freelancing is just not a thing anymore. My mental health is slightly better, but it definitely has its ups and downs (mostly downs, but let’s not focus on the negative here). I’m still unbelievably homesick, even after coming back for a couple of weeks. I’m stressed to the max on the daily and I barely sleep, but that’s just normal for everyone that’s trying to get a science degree (to some extent).

That’s all I have to say for now. I truly didn’t expect the introductory post to be this massive, but I believe that everyone who may come across my blog needs a little backstory. No case study starts without a short briefing. In conclusion: university life is hard, I’m constantly broke, but hey, it’s not all bad.

-D.

#university #Adulting #new chapter #Uni #Uni life #Student

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chelsorz07 · 7 years ago

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i was wondering if i could just be you tonight

2010/2018

If you woke up naked next to the last person you texted what would your reaction be? wouldn't be the first time. That person was Faith. Soooo...it’d be weird but I wouldn’t complain. lol Do you drink bottled water? no. waste of money. Yep. The tap water here is undrinkable. Think of the last person who hurt you, do you forgive them? no. Can’t think of who it was. What do you think of when you hear the word "meow"? david. My children. When is your birthday? july 26. Obvs same. When was the last time you ate Taco Bell never have, never will. Still never. What happened last night? sleep. Well I cleaned a little bit but didn’t finish. Watched tv. Played games on Pogo. Do you want to get married and have kids? no. I am married. Been trying to get pregnant for a couple years now. No such luck. What's something you really want right now, be honest? to not go anywhere tonight. For my cleaning to be done and for it not to snow tomorrow. Are you afraid of falling in love? i already have. Nope. Have you ever had your heart broken? no. I was lying then lol Do you plan on sleeping in tomorrow? yes. I don’t go to bed till the morning. Would you rather go to Greece or Hawaii? greece. hawaii has no appeal whatsoever. I stand by that. Have you ever slept on a couch with someone else? yeah. I have but it’s not comfortable. I like having the couch to myself. Would you like the ability to read minds? yes. More than I want most things. What did you dream about last night? i don't remember. Dean Winchester. Did you wake up in the middle of the night last night? every night. Always. Several times. What time did you wake up today? 3ish. I went to bed at 9:30am. How much cash do you have on you? none. I don’t carry cash. What has pissed you off today, if anything at all? pretty much everything. My computer freezing and the fact that the first Speedway I went to didn’t have any regular Rockstar so I had to go all the way across town to another one. Do you ever apologize first? i don't at all. I don’t even interact with people so I don’t give myself cause to apologize. Who did you last cry in front of? i don't know. Dave. Have you ever seen someone sleepwalk? yes. I guess? I don’t recall that. Do you share food with your friends? rarely. Joey doesn’t share food! Do you like your phone? hate it. It’s too big. What are you listening to? gilmore girls. The Walking Dead. What did your last sent text say? hooray. “It sucks but I’ve got my heating pad.” Who was the last person whose phone number you added to your contacts? i don't know. Sarah from work. Where is the person you miss the most right now? in north carolina, where she has been for six, almost seven, years. In Bradford. It’s Amanda. What are you most anxious/excited for right now? nothing. I don’t feel a whole lot of anything right now, except back pain. What were you doing at 8:00 am? sleeping. Watching TV. How did you get your last bruise? i don't know. just noticed it today. I actually haven’t had one in a while so I don’t remember. Is there someone you wish you were still close with? no. Yeah. Where was the last place you fell asleep other than your bed? couch. I sleep on the couch more than I sleep in my bed. Who was the last person you gave a dirty look to? my mother. Customers probably. Last person you talked on the phone to? dad. My boss. Last thing you laughed about? good question. i know it wasn't recently. Something on tv. Where is your dad? work. Home. Do you fall for people easily? yes. Not anymore. Does your life feel like it's going anywhere? no. Nope. Do you bite your lip? i am right now. Constantly. Do you believe in love at first sight no. Kinda. Strong interest at least. Do you open up to a lot of people? no. I mean I have verbal diarrhea so I guess so. What is your current mood? pissed. Meh. How many people have you completely fallen for? one. Still one. How is your hair styled right now? it's actually straightened. Hahahahaha styled...it’s been in the same bun since Thursday. How was last night overall? boring. Lame. Will you keep your last name when you get married? i won't get married. I changed my name. Are you a jealous person? no. Yeah. Do you give out second chances too easily? not at all. And third, fourth, fifth, etc. Do you think you'll have the same best friend next year? i know i will. Absolutely. We’ve been best friends for fifteen years. Have you ever thought about getting your tongue pierced? no. Nah. Are you currently wanting any piercings or tattoos? several tattoos, and my lip pierced. Many, many tattoos. I need to get my psoriasis under control first. Does it matter to you if your boyfriend/girlfriend smokes? no. I smoke a pack a day so no. But Dave doesn’t at all. Do you think someone is thinking about you right now? don't care. I doubt it. Most people I know are in bed because they have real jobs and have to work in the morning. How many people do you trust fully? one. One. When you're bored in class, what do you usually do? i'm not in school. Haven’t been in school for eleven years. But when I was I’d write notes to people or copy lyrics or write my own songs. Are you really happy right now? no. I’m not even slightly happy right now. Where did the shirt you are wearing come from? old navy. Amanda gave me the t-shirt and I took the hoodie from Dave. Do you believe that there are certain circumstances when cheating is allowed? no. Never. Do you think you will be in a relationship 3 months from now? hopefully. Months? Sure. How do you feel about your hair right now? it's too long. It’s WAY too fucking long. Also really dirty. Are you texting anyone? no. Nope. What were you doing at midnight last night? watching tv. Omg. I’m always doing the same thing. Are you happy with the way things are going? no. Kinda answered this several times already. Have you kissed a random person for money? no. I don’t kiss random people. Could you last in a relationship for over a year? probably. It’s been almost nine. Do you have a hard time admitting you're wrong? i'm always wrong. My previous statement is accurate. Who is your last received call from? united way. Work. What was the last thing you and your mom talked about? my cocky attitude. I have no idea. Random stuff on Christmas day. Ever have those days, you could just punch someone out ? like now. I get the sentiment often but I could never do it. I’m weak AF. What did you last drink ? water. Water. Which is rare because water doesn’t have caffeine in it. Have you ever dyed your hair? all the time. Probably a hundred times. I have hair dye now I’m just too lazy to put it in. Do your parents have facebook accounts? yes. They do. Do you believe love lasts forever? probably not. I mean I’d like to believe that but I’ve seen little evidence to support it. When was the last time you wanted to punch someone in their face? now, now, and now. I really don’t know. Ever receive a really long apology? no. You’re funny. Usually when somebody does me wrong they turn the tables and make it my fault. What were you doing at 7:45AM this morning? sleeping. I’m getting tired of this. Do you put ketchup on top of your french fries or on the side? i don't use ketchup. On the side. Who was the last person you talked to in person? my mother. The cashier at Speedway. Is there anyone holding a grudge against you? yes. My sister. I’m still surprised that she was pleasant to me on Christmas because last time she wouldn’t even respond if I spoke to her. Last person you hugged what are you to them ? her aunt. His wife. When is the last time you have cried ? earlier. Couple days ago. Would you be mad if your best friend dated your ex girl/boyfriend? no. she dated him before i did. I don’t think I’d be mad but it would be weird. Plus he’s really into sports and she hates sports so I don’t think they’d be a good match. Do you wish you were somewhere else right now? no. i wish i wasn't going anywhere in about ten minutes. I wish I was in Pennsylvania. Is it easy to annoy you? very. Yep. But it’s also easy for me to annoy someone else. How many kids do you want? none. If the first is a girl, one. If I get two boys in a row I’m not trying again. Yes I prefer girls. Come for me, tumblr. Have you ever glued your fingers together? yes. Yeah it’s relaxing. Do you have a problem with bisexuals? no. I kind of am one so no? Do you use hearts like this <3 a lot? no. I don’t use it now but I have one after Dave’s name in my contacts. Always have.

#not spn #personal #about me #bring back myspace surveys 2k18 #i do what i want

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jngles · 5 years ago

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An Extrovert’s Lament

I love people. Genuinely. They’re all fascinating- such a wide range of potential exists for each person’s path, yet there are so many formulas of probable outcomes guiding and overlapping them all. Their capacity for creativity, even if unintentional, is equally delightful and terrifying. I have always loved watching and trying to “solve” people, with varying and hopefully increasing degrees of success over the years. Becoming a sociology major was one of the best decisions I’ve made, as it was like applying an outline to colors I had already laid down in my mental picture of human nature and function.

This affinity has been endlessly helpful in my own quest for self-acceptance and belonging. The more generosity I can give to another person as they perform their character, the more freedom I can imagine for myself. Even if a person is downright disagreeable, placing the source of their behavior within a scientific framework helps me remove the immediate reaction my anxious brain otherwise snaps to, which is to blame myself for the other person’s ill humor. It gives me a way to organize otherwise incomprehensible hatred and selfishness. In my daily interactions, allowing room for random and insistently pleasant conversations has helped me build local connections and establish a sense of home post-college. I see it as “encouraging serendipity,” and though it’s still not a perfectly oiled machine, I’m glad to have figured out ways to make others feel welcome and engaged while also satiating my own social needs. Stories and friends are available everywhere.

So please explain to me why, despite having a seemingly endless amount of social energy available at all times for new friends and acquaintances, the second a romantic prospect initiates communication with me, every fiber of my being wants to screech and cringe like shrink wrap being scorched with the fires of Hell?

I can look at the man next to me in this coffee shop where I’m writing, and see that although his sweater smells like my grandma’s old living room couch, he is clearly earnest about his work and sensible in his lifestyle choices. We could have a lovely conversation about books. I could ask him to kindly watch my things while I run to the restroom, and upon my return he might make a joke or ask me what I’m drinking. We might both smile and have a nice little adrenaline rush that comes with a mutually successful social interaction.

Yet a boy from a dating app, likely much more suited to my interests due to the curation those apps enable, will start a conversation that has to cover the same initial ground of pleasantries, and each reception of a message will make my stomach wrench. What kind of drink did I order at this coffee shop? Why the hell does he care? How is any of this anything but pointless and irrelevant? Why am I so irrationally annoyed by his question? Yet now that I’ve reasoned myself back to calmness, there he goes addressing me with unearned endearments, despite not knowing anything about me or how “dear” or “darling” I am. So am I the problem or is he?

The root of my irritation is the knowledge that any version of me a person is flirting with is their own imagined projection of who I am, and I suppose I dislike not being able to have more control over managing their impressions of me. This is especially true in a potential dating situation where one is testing bounds of vulnerability, not just compatibility. My identity feels imposed upon, and each comment or joke feels invasively presumptuous. My choices in these situations are either to play into their simplified and pedestal-perched vision of me for the sake of keeping them strung along until a real date is suggested, or else to painstakingly toe the line between disillusioning their misinterpretation of my personality and being unnecessarily rude. None of it feels authentic, but even worse, none of it is challenging. We all know exactly what to say to be likeable while also having no real chance of being understood enough to really be liked. I feel like I’m completing a level one sudoku puzzle- the solution is assured as soon as the first few numbers are written in place. No actual deduction is necessary, just mechanical chain reactions of filling in the boxes until the puzzle finishes itself.

This sense of frustration with the predictability of dating conversations leads to another problem. The people I start to engage with more, especially in these weird textual app interactions, are the people who most surprise or amuse me. Occasionally this leads me to someone who is genuinely funny and intelligent, but more often I find myself following a string of conversation where I’m entertaining myself with my own ability to build repartee off of their ridiculous comments. Inevitably I’m suddenly way too caught up with someone I know will annoy or be wrong for me, yet because of my inability to intentionally ghost or be rude to anyone without being crushed by my own guilt, I exhaust myself appeasing their growing infatuation.

Whereas greeting a stranger or building a new friendship will enhance both participants’ lives, talking to a romantic prospect is assured from the beginning to disappoint one or both parties, a nightmare for those whose energy and self-worth are generated from their social successes. Add in the need to be accommodating which Western patriarchy cultivates in femininity, and it becomes apparent that the dating world is set up to punish extroverted women for the very qualities of social availability that all other social situations have taught them to rely on. It makes us betray ourselves no matter our course of action, whether by being unkind, ingenuine, or insecure.

This helps explain why both I and others have been so quick to place blame for my perpetually single status as well as any hurt caused to my suitors squarely upon my shoulders. I am sociable, I am smart, I am creative, so the only reason for my being alone must be that I have allowed my attitude in this department to calcify into one of cynicism and disaffection. Yet why shouldn’t I, and why shouldn’t I be able to forgive myself for it? Why shouldn’t I prioritize self-preservation over potentially disappointing a stranger? If they actually care about me or are trying to, they should be able to understand. I cannot be the only one to be deferential to others’ feelings while also enforcing boundaries of realism.

I have no idea what the solution is for making more men understand this or filtering out those who don’t, but I do know that it’s not to continue carrying all of this guilt. So here, at the end of my extrovert’s lament/rambling bitch-session is my Extrovert’s Resolution, aspirational though it may be: I will not allow qualities I value in myself to be used against me. I will not be caged in as equal parts martyr and self-saboteur. Reserving energy is not selfish, but rather allows me to distribute it more meaningfully. I will be better able to deliver the kindness and engagement I wish to give to others if I am first and foremost kind to myself.

And thank you for asking, I got a honey lavender latte.

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Is Iran safe in 2019?

One of the frequent questions I normally get requested for is what’s the greatest nation I’ve ever visited.

It’s a very difficult query as, mainly, there isn’t a proper reply, and the reason being that each nation has it personal magnificence, its execs and cons, so it’s simply unimaginable to find out which one was the perfect, particularly as a result of it additionally is determined by numerous elements, out of your temper to your luck, the folks you meet and the time you spent within the nation.

Nevertheless, whereas it’s troublesome to say a favourite vacation spot, mentioning a bunch of nations the place you had a few of your greatest experiences is unquestionably simpler and, for some purpose, Iran all the time makes it to the checklist.

I like Iran and I completely loved my time there, not solely as a result of that is residence to essentially the most placing Islamic structure and a few of the most hospitable folks I’ve ever met but in addition, as a result of Iran is among the most secure international locations on the planet.

True story.

This information is a private and thorough evaluation that can take you thru all the explanations why Iran is secure, with out forgetting all its inside political issues and, in fact, a sequence of tremendous helpful security ideas.

For all the sensible data to go to the nation, don’t neglect to learn my journey information to Iran

Index:

My private expertise Iran right this moment

Delicate areas Security ideas

Solo feminine journey Individuals and British in Iran Driving in Iran Conclusion

Be taught right here easy methods to get a visa for Iran

Is Iran secure? My private expertise

I’ve been to Iran twice.

The primary time, I barely spent 10 days.

On my second time, I spent 2 months.

Now, I’m planning a 3rd time, and I’m fairly certain there will probably be a fourth.

Iran is superb.

On the one hand, the nation is large and it’s residence to infinite various things to see, from dreamy islands to alpine mountains, desert and historic cities. Every area has one thing very completely different to supply and it might take an eternity to go to all the things.

If you wish to know the locations I visited, test my 1-month itinerary.

Then again, Iranians are nice folks, extraordinarily hospitable, well-educated, kind-hearted and, general, stunning people who find themselves very curious to satisfy foreigners and assist them, more often than not anticipating nothing in return.

Do not forget that, due to the sanctions, most journey insurance coverage firms, together with World Nomads, don’t present protection for Iran. The one which does, nevertheless, is IATI Insurance coverage, a European-based firm that gives plans for all sorts of vacationers, from backpackers to households. Moreover, the readers of this weblog can get an unique 5% low cost. BUY IT THROUGH THIS LINK TO GET YOUR 5% DISCOUNT

Pleasant locals are those who make you all the time really feel secure in Iran

It’s a kind of international locations the place you might be constantly making native mates.

Tea and home invites, infinite random conversations, sharing road meals…

Throughout my journey, the native interactions had been all the time nice, and real, and this is among the issues that can make you notice that Iran is a secure vacation spot, as a result of Iranians make you’re feeling so.

I can’t suggest Iran sufficient and, primarily based on my great expertise, I’m actually snug sufficient to say that that is certainly one of many most secure international locations I’ve ever been to.

Nevertheless, there are some things it is advisable to find out about security in Iran and that is the rationale why I wrote this publish. Proceed studying to know extra.

With Vali’s household in Mashhad

Is it secure to journey to Iran? The scenario these days

In keeping with Wikipedia, official sources say that in 2013, Iran reached 4.76 million overseas guests and, since then, the nation has elevated massively in recognition, which implies that the determine could have simply doubled and even tripled – only a guess.

These statistics are simply insane for Iran, particularly if we take note of that the Western media, particularly American, has been portraying the nation because the worst, most harmful and repressive of all international locations.

At present, historic Persian cities such as Shiraz, Esfahan or Yazd, are stuffed with each vacationer teams and impartial vacationers, completely lined memento stalls and cute boutique accommodations.

And this could solely imply one factor: Iran is secure as hell.

The structure is really attractive

The media: is Iran harmful due to the Western media?

After all.

If anybody thinks Iran is a harmful nation is due to the media.

For many years, the American newspapers have been promoting a very biased picture about Iran, solely centered on nuclear weapons, non secular fanatics, human rights abuse and, mainly, a dictatorial regime.

In Europe, it was the identical story however I really feel that they’ve softened their speech and right this moment, whereas they’re nonetheless speaking about all of the loopy issues happening there, they’re constantly publishing reviews and chronicles speaking about its nice vacationer sights and other people, and this is among the the reason why many vacationers began to think about Iran as a secure vacation spot to journey to.

Do you assume whether or not Iran is secure? Anti-American propaganda simply exterior of the previous American embassy in Tehran

This isn’t the case of the American media, nevertheless, particularly with the present Authorities, who retains on contaminating the general public opinion with the concept Iran is the last word arch-enemy and one of many unfriendliest international locations on Earth.

You’ll be stunned to know what number of Individuals consider that.

In actual fact, I’ve had just a few small arguments on social media, just like the day when that American dude replied to one in all my tweets – see under – saying that why would somebody need to go to in such a harmful place and, to assist his reasoning, he posted one article from Fox Information. Hilarious.

I’m conscious that this has been stated again and again, however don’t belief what the media has to say a couple of nation and do consider the lots of of hundreds of vacationers who’ve been there.

Issues: is it secure to journey to Iran now?

Is Iran secure to go to regardless of all the present issues?

Certain, Iran is secure for vacationers, however we are able to’t ignore that they’ve some critical inside points.

Iran is a dictatorial regime dominated by Islamic Legal guidelines – As a lot as I like Iran, we are able to’t ignore that this can be a repressive dictatorship that violates human rights once in a while. Nevertheless, having a nasty Authorities doesn’t make their folks unhealthy as nicely and, so long as you observe some easy guidelines – extra on that later – you shouldn’t be anxious about it.

Violent protests (replace 2019) – You in all probability heard about some violent protests in 2019 which concerned a number of useless civilians and the Authorities shutting down the web for practically per week. Certain, the Authorities’s response to demonstrators will all the time be repression and extra repression, however that is occurring internationally, together with in Chile, and I don’t see Donald Trump complaining about it. The perfect you are able to do is to keep away from any public demonstration.

Terrorist assaults – There have been some terrorist assaults in Iran, the final massive one being in 2017 in Tehran, the place a number of Iranians died. It was an unlucky occasion however terrorist assaults additionally occur in Europe – extra typically than in Iran – and, within the USA, there’s a mass taking pictures each different day.

Ladies at Tehran metro exit

Areas in Iran which aren’t secure for vacationers

In accordance to the FCO Recommendation, the province of Balochistan and the areas bordering Iraq and Afghanistan are suggested towards all journey, for apparent causes.

The remainder of Iran, nevertheless, is completely secure for vacationers.

Nonetheless, there are two issues it is advisable to find out about these harmful areas:

To begin with, they’re distant from all touristic locations

Second of all, the FCO recommendation will all the time be totally exaggerated

Comparatively harmful areas in Iran

Border with Iraq – There could also be some pressure within the southern a part of the border however I crossed myself the northern Iran-Iraq border, on the Kurdistan half, and I can guarantee you that that a part of Iran is secure to go to.

Border with Afghanistan – I haven’t been there however intrepid vacationers cross that border on a regular basis and, to this point, I’ve by no means heard of any unhealthy experiences or reviews.

Balochistan – Balochistan is a province whose majority of individuals are Sunni so, for the previous couple of years, there have been some tensions however the scenario has improved plus, with the rise in recognition of Pakistan, this area is day-after-day receiving increasingly more vacationers on their approach to Pakistan.

As I stated, I strongly consider the FCO Recommendation could be very biased however, in case you are undecided about it, you simply want to stay within the touristic and secure a part of Iran.

The Iran-Iraq border

Is it secure to go to Iran? – My prime security ideas

These are just a few further security ideas for Iran:

behave in Iran (cultural etiquette)

As I stated, Iran has some strict Sharia guidelines however they’re really extra relaxed than in Saudi Arabia for instance, a rustic with a big Western expat group.

For males, the one factor you’ll be able to’t do is sporting shorts.

For ladies, it is a little more difficult however all it’s a must to do is protecting your hair and never displaying any of your curves.

Apart from that, simply apply frequent sense and know that public reveals of affection are usually not tolerated – like in Dubai – and alcohol just isn’t allowed, though it’s extensively out there within the black market and locals do drink typically.

About faith in Iran In Iran, most individuals are Shia, a department of Islam completely different from Sunni, the prevalent department throughout the Arab international locations. By nature, Shia individuals are extra relaxed than Sunni, which implies that, relating to faith, Iran is extra liberal than contries like Oman or the United Arab Emirates, plus Iran has additionally a big inhabitants of atheist folks, greater than every other Arab nation, and you will notice it while you go there. In any case, faith nonetheless performs an necessary position within the nation, so be all the time respectful such as you can be in every other Muslim nation.

I feel mannequins are the one scary factor in Iran

Is there a hazard of being arrested?

One other of the the reason why Iran is commonly perceived as harmful is as a result of each time a foreigner will get arrested, it seems all around the information, and reviews say that foreigners could also be locked down in a cell room for months with out having the ability to talk with the skin world.

Nevertheless, there are two sorts of foreigners who get arrested: journalists and vacationers doing silly issues, like these bloggers who obtained arrested as a result of they flew a drone over a army facility or these Individuals who had been caught crossing the Iranian border illegally from Iraqi Kurdistan.

Simply be good and you may be positive.

Journey insurance coverage for Iran

One thing it is advisable to find out about journey insurance coverage is that it is among the necessities for getting your visa on arrival. In case you don’t have one, they may make you purchase a dodgy one on the airport.

Furthermore, keep in mind that, due to the sanctions, most insurance coverage, together with World Nomads, received’t present protection for Iran.

The which does, nevertheless, is IATI Insurance coverage, a European-based firm that gives loads of completely different plans for any sort of traveler, from funds backpackers to households.

Furthermore, the readers of this weblog can get an unique 5% low cost.

BUY THROUGH THIS LINK TO GET YOUR 5% DISCOUNT

Maintaining your cash secure in Iran

This isn’t a security tip however a precaution.

In Iran, worldwide bank cards don’t work, which suggests that you’ll want to hold all of your money for no matter time you might be within the nation.

For this, you’ve two options:

Purchase an area bank card and prime it up – There’s a service for foreigners which consists of an area debit card which you top-up with money upon your arrival, so that you don’t want to hold all the cash. Mah Card is one in all these providers which you’ll belief.

Guide your accommodations, home flights, and bus tickets ONLINE by 1stQuest – 1stQuest is an area firm that gives a big number of reserving providers for Iran, together with accommodations, bus & flight tickets, and so on. You received’t be capable of buy these providers on-line by an area web site – as they don’t settle for bank cards – however 1stQuest is among the only a few firms which does so, not less than, you received’t want to hold all of the money for accommodations or home flights, which is perhaps half of it. The perfect of it’s that readers of this weblog get an unique 5% low cost. How? Through the use of the promo code ATC-QST. CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT 1STQUEST

Browsing the web safely

As you might know, in Iran the web is censored, so a whole lot of web sites are blocked, from Fb to YouTube.

With the intention to entry these web sites, you’ll need one thing known as a Digital Personal Community (VPN) and yow will discover extra details about it right here.

However, isn’t it unlawful to make use of a VPN? Why ought to this be a security tip?

Sure, utilizing a VPN is unlawful however everyone in Iran makes use of it – actually, everybody – and the one individuals who get punished for utilizing it are, for instance, those that use the web to arrange protests towards the regime.

Additionally, a VPN is not going to solely can help you entry blocked websites but in addition, it permits you to browse extra privately and safer and, in these sort of authoritarian regimes the place anybody may very well be spied at, you actually need to use one.

I personally use ExpressVPN, one of many quickest VPNs out there out there.

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If you wish to know extra about this subject, learn: discover the appropriate VPN for Iran

The extra distant you go in Iran, the safer it will get!

Is Iran secure for solo feminine vacationers?

This is among the questions I get requested for extra typically from girls.

Is it secure to journey in Iran as a solo lady?

Effectively, I’m a person, so I clearly obtained a really completely different expertise than most girls, however I don’t know a single girl who didn’t have an exquisite expertise so, primarily based on their opinions, I can definitely inform that Iran is a secure vacation spot for ladies.

If you wish to know extra particulars about it, I interviewed Eveline from Earth Wanderess, who shares her journey experience about solo feminine journey in Iran.

Eve from Earth Wanderess in Iran

Is Iran secure for Individuals and British?

The million-dollar query.

No one has ever requested me this as a result of I’m neither American nor British, however I do know some folks from these international locations who’ve been to Iran and all of them stated that it didn’t actually make a distinction.

As I stated, Iranians are curious to satisfy any foreigner and, really, they may in all probability be extra excited to satisfy an American than every other vacationer.

Furthermore, I can guarantee you one factor which is that an American will really feel 10x safer and extra welcome in Iran than an Iranian will really feel within the USA, the place they is perhaps subjected to racism and prejudices, True story.

On this publish, Jackie wrote about American vacationers in Iran.

Is driving secure in Iran?

Like in most international locations within the Center East, the locals don’t actually observe the visitors guidelines, so automotive accidents do abound.

Nevertheless, I felt that in locations like Egypt or Saudi Arabia, the locals are crazier.

Crossing the streets in Iran

One of many potential threats most vacationers face in Iran is crossing the road, particularly in Tehran, as crosswalks are fully ineffective so, when attempting to cross, automobiles don’t cease and easily keep away from you.

The primary few instances you do it, you assume you’re going to die however after some apply, you get used to it. In any case, it’s all the time advisable to cross the highway subsequent to an area particular person.

Public transportation in Iran

The entire of Iran is tremendous well-connected by a super-effective and environment friendly bus community, so it’s the preferred method of transportation amongst impartial vacationers.

There are two kinds of buses, regular and VIP and, with the intention to journey safer, it’s best to get the VIP one, because it solely prices 20-30% extra, which is just a few extra € and, since they’re newer and greater, they’re undoubtedly safer.

Bear in mind you’ll be able to ebook your bus tickets by 1stQuest and reap the benefits of my 5% low cost through the use of the next promo code: ATC-QST.

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Alternatively, if you wish to keep away from touring by highway and, since distances in Iran are big, it’s best to contemplate taking home flights and, as soon as once more, you are able to do it by way of 1stQuest and in addition reap the benefits of my 5% low cost.

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Conclusion: Is Iran a secure nation to go to?

Total, Iran is a secure vacation spot and that is the rationale why the nation has suffered a vacationer growth within the final couple of years.

Like in every other nation, nevertheless, there are, in fact, some small threats however the excellent news is that these tiny risks are usually not explicit from Iran however they do occur in lots of international locations internationally.

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Text

Is Iran safe in 2019?

One of the frequent questions I normally get requested for is what’s the greatest nation I’ve ever visited.

True story.

For all the sensible data to go to the nation, don’t neglect to learn my journey information to Iran

Index:

My private expertise Iran right this moment

Delicate areas Security ideas

Solo feminine journey Individuals and British in Iran Driving in Iran Conclusion

Be taught right here easy methods to get a visa for Iran

Is Iran secure? My private expertise

I’ve been to Iran twice.

The primary time, I barely spent 10 days.

On my second time, I spent 2 months.

Now, I’m planning a 3rd time, and I’m fairly certain there will probably be a fourth.

Iran is superb.

If you wish to know the locations I visited, test my 1-month itinerary.

Pleasant locals are those who make you all the time really feel secure in Iran

It’s a kind of international locations the place you might be constantly making native mates.

Tea and home invites, infinite random conversations, sharing road meals…

Nevertheless, there are some things it is advisable to find out about security in Iran and that is the rationale why I wrote this publish. Proceed studying to know extra.

With Vali’s household in Mashhad

Is it secure to journey to Iran? The scenario these days

And this could solely imply one factor: Iran is secure as hell.

The structure is really attractive

The media: is Iran harmful due to the Western media?

After all.

If anybody thinks Iran is a harmful nation is due to the media.

Do you assume whether or not Iran is secure? Anti-American propaganda simply exterior of the previous American embassy in Tehran

You’ll be stunned to know what number of Individuals consider that.

Issues: is it secure to journey to Iran now?

Is Iran secure to go to regardless of all the present issues?

Certain, Iran is secure for vacationers, however we are able to’t ignore that they’ve some critical inside points.

Ladies at Tehran metro exit

Areas in Iran which aren’t secure for vacationers

In accordance to the FCO Recommendation, the province of Balochistan and the areas bordering Iraq and Afghanistan are suggested towards all journey, for apparent causes.

The remainder of Iran, nevertheless, is completely secure for vacationers.

Nonetheless, there are two issues it is advisable to find out about these harmful areas:

To begin with, they’re distant from all touristic locations

Second of all, the FCO recommendation will all the time be totally exaggerated

Comparatively harmful areas in Iran

As I stated, I strongly consider the FCO Recommendation could be very biased however, in case you are undecided about it, you simply want to stay within the touristic and secure a part of Iran.

The Iran-Iraq border

Is it secure to go to Iran? – My prime security ideas

These are just a few further security ideas for Iran:

behave in Iran (cultural etiquette)

As I stated, Iran has some strict Sharia guidelines however they’re really extra relaxed than in Saudi Arabia for instance, a rustic with a big Western expat group.

For males, the one factor you’ll be able to’t do is sporting shorts.

For ladies, it is a little more difficult however all it’s a must to do is protecting your hair and never displaying any of your curves.

I feel mannequins are the one scary factor in Iran

Is there a hazard of being arrested?

Simply be good and you may be positive.

Journey insurance coverage for Iran

Furthermore, keep in mind that, due to the sanctions, most insurance coverage, together with World Nomads, received’t present protection for Iran.

The which does, nevertheless, is IATI Insurance coverage, a European-based firm that gives loads of completely different plans for any sort of traveler, from funds backpackers to households.

Furthermore, the readers of this weblog can get an unique 5% low cost.

BUY THROUGH THIS LINK TO GET YOUR 5% DISCOUNT

Maintaining your cash secure in Iran

This isn’t a security tip however a precaution.

In Iran, worldwide bank cards don’t work, which suggests that you’ll want to hold all of your money for no matter time you might be within the nation.

For this, you’ve two options:

Browsing the web safely

As you might know, in Iran the web is censored, so a whole lot of web sites are blocked, from Fb to YouTube.

With the intention to entry these web sites, you’ll need one thing known as a Digital Personal Community (VPN) and yow will discover extra details about it right here.

However, isn’t it unlawful to make use of a VPN? Why ought to this be a security tip?

I personally use ExpressVPN, one of many quickest VPNs out there out there.

CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT ExpressVPN

If you wish to know extra about this subject, learn: discover the appropriate VPN for Iran

The extra distant you go in Iran, the safer it will get!

Is Iran secure for solo feminine vacationers?

This is among the questions I get requested for extra typically from girls.

Is it secure to journey in Iran as a solo lady?

If you wish to know extra particulars about it, I interviewed Eveline from Earth Wanderess, who shares her journey experience about solo feminine journey in Iran.

Eve from Earth Wanderess in Iran

Is Iran secure for Individuals and British?

The million-dollar query.

As I stated, Iranians are curious to satisfy any foreigner and, really, they may in all probability be extra excited to satisfy an American than every other vacationer.

On this publish, Jackie wrote about American vacationers in Iran.

Is driving secure in Iran?

Like in most international locations within the Center East, the locals don’t actually observe the visitors guidelines, so automotive accidents do abound.

Nevertheless, I felt that in locations like Egypt or Saudi Arabia, the locals are crazier.

Crossing the streets in Iran

Public transportation in Iran

The entire of Iran is tremendous well-connected by a super-effective and environment friendly bus community, so it’s the preferred method of transportation amongst impartial vacationers.

Bear in mind you’ll be able to ebook your bus tickets by 1stQuest and reap the benefits of my 5% low cost through the use of the next promo code: ATC-QST.

CLICK HERE TO CHECK BUS PRICES FOR IRAN

CLICK HERE TO CHECK DOMESTIC FLIGHTS FOR IRAN

Conclusion: Is Iran a secure nation to go to?

Total, Iran is a secure vacation spot and that is the rationale why the nation has suffered a vacationer growth within the final couple of years.

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Text

Is Iran safe in 2019?

One of the frequent questions I normally get requested for is what’s the greatest nation I’ve ever visited.

True story.

For all the sensible data to go to the nation, don’t neglect to learn my journey information to Iran

Index:

My private expertise Iran right this moment

Delicate areas Security ideas

Solo feminine journey Individuals and British in Iran Driving in Iran Conclusion

Be taught right here easy methods to get a visa for Iran

Is Iran secure? My private expertise

I’ve been to Iran twice.

The primary time, I barely spent 10 days.

On my second time, I spent 2 months.

Now, I’m planning a 3rd time, and I’m fairly certain there will probably be a fourth.

Iran is superb.

If you wish to know the locations I visited, test my 1-month itinerary.

Pleasant locals are those who make you all the time really feel secure in Iran

It’s a kind of international locations the place you might be constantly making native mates.

Tea and home invites, infinite random conversations, sharing road meals…

Nevertheless, there are some things it is advisable to find out about security in Iran and that is the rationale why I wrote this publish. Proceed studying to know extra.

With Vali’s household in Mashhad

Is it secure to journey to Iran? The scenario these days

And this could solely imply one factor: Iran is secure as hell.

The structure is really attractive

The media: is Iran harmful due to the Western media?

After all.

If anybody thinks Iran is a harmful nation is due to the media.

Do you assume whether or not Iran is secure? Anti-American propaganda simply exterior of the previous American embassy in Tehran

You’ll be stunned to know what number of Individuals consider that.

Issues: is it secure to journey to Iran now?

Is Iran secure to go to regardless of all the present issues?

Certain, Iran is secure for vacationers, however we are able to’t ignore that they’ve some critical inside points.

Ladies at Tehran metro exit

Areas in Iran which aren’t secure for vacationers

In accordance to the FCO Recommendation, the province of Balochistan and the areas bordering Iraq and Afghanistan are suggested towards all journey, for apparent causes.

The remainder of Iran, nevertheless, is completely secure for vacationers.

Nonetheless, there are two issues it is advisable to find out about these harmful areas:

To begin with, they’re distant from all touristic locations

Second of all, the FCO recommendation will all the time be totally exaggerated

Comparatively harmful areas in Iran

As I stated, I strongly consider the FCO Recommendation could be very biased however, in case you are undecided about it, you simply want to stay within the touristic and secure a part of Iran.

The Iran-Iraq border

Is it secure to go to Iran? – My prime security ideas

These are just a few further security ideas for Iran:

behave in Iran (cultural etiquette)

As I stated, Iran has some strict Sharia guidelines however they’re really extra relaxed than in Saudi Arabia for instance, a rustic with a big Western expat group.

For males, the one factor you’ll be able to’t do is sporting shorts.

For ladies, it is a little more difficult however all it’s a must to do is protecting your hair and never displaying any of your curves.

I feel mannequins are the one scary factor in Iran

Is there a hazard of being arrested?

Simply be good and you may be positive.

Journey insurance coverage for Iran

Furthermore, keep in mind that, due to the sanctions, most insurance coverage, together with World Nomads, received’t present protection for Iran.

The which does, nevertheless, is IATI Insurance coverage, a European-based firm that gives loads of completely different plans for any sort of traveler, from funds backpackers to households.

Furthermore, the readers of this weblog can get an unique 5% low cost.

BUY THROUGH THIS LINK TO GET YOUR 5% DISCOUNT

Maintaining your cash secure in Iran

This isn’t a security tip however a precaution.

In Iran, worldwide bank cards don’t work, which suggests that you’ll want to hold all of your money for no matter time you might be within the nation.

For this, you’ve two options:

Browsing the web safely

As you might know, in Iran the web is censored, so a whole lot of web sites are blocked, from Fb to YouTube.

With the intention to entry these web sites, you’ll need one thing known as a Digital Personal Community (VPN) and yow will discover extra details about it right here.

However, isn’t it unlawful to make use of a VPN? Why ought to this be a security tip?

I personally use ExpressVPN, one of many quickest VPNs out there out there.

CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT ExpressVPN

If you wish to know extra about this subject, learn: discover the appropriate VPN for Iran

The extra distant you go in Iran, the safer it will get!

Is Iran secure for solo feminine vacationers?

This is among the questions I get requested for extra typically from girls.

Is it secure to journey in Iran as a solo lady?

If you wish to know extra particulars about it, I interviewed Eveline from Earth Wanderess, who shares her journey experience about solo feminine journey in Iran.

Eve from Earth Wanderess in Iran

Is Iran secure for Individuals and British?

The million-dollar query.

As I stated, Iranians are curious to satisfy any foreigner and, really, they may in all probability be extra excited to satisfy an American than every other vacationer.

On this publish, Jackie wrote about American vacationers in Iran.

Is driving secure in Iran?

Like in most international locations within the Center East, the locals don’t actually observe the visitors guidelines, so automotive accidents do abound.

Nevertheless, I felt that in locations like Egypt or Saudi Arabia, the locals are crazier.

Crossing the streets in Iran

Public transportation in Iran

The entire of Iran is tremendous well-connected by a super-effective and environment friendly bus community, so it’s the preferred method of transportation amongst impartial vacationers.

Bear in mind you’ll be able to ebook your bus tickets by 1stQuest and reap the benefits of my 5% low cost through the use of the next promo code: ATC-QST.

CLICK HERE TO CHECK BUS PRICES FOR IRAN

CLICK HERE TO CHECK DOMESTIC FLIGHTS FOR IRAN

Conclusion: Is Iran a secure nation to go to?

Total, Iran is a secure vacation spot and that is the rationale why the nation has suffered a vacationer growth within the final couple of years.

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