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Some progress and detail shots from the Arthur portrait I posted earlier! I painted this in black and white first, then added a gradient map layer for base colors, then added more detailing manually.
My partner said that this piece gave him “Mindhunter vibes”, which was really sweet, since that’s also a show that I love. One can only dream of season 3.
I switched from a Wacom Intuos to a Cintiq 16 last year, and I thought that surely a display tablet would be much easier to work on, but it hasn’t all been smooth sailing. In the process of painting this piece and uploading it, I’ve realized that the display colors on my tablet seem to be a little warmer and brighter than those on my computer. I’ve tried eyeballing the RGB color settings and I think it’s better now, but a more accurate way would be to actually get a colorimeter somehow.
#my art#inception#arthur#making of#maybe my lab has a colorimeter?#appropriating work equipment for your hobbies is totally fine
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You’re My Dad (Boogie Woogie)
Fandom: Avengers Pairing: Peter Parker & Male!Reader Summary: You are my dad! You’re my dad (boogie woogie woogie) Word Count: 1,507 Request: hello! how are you? can i request a platonic peter parker x male reader where reader likes to take care of peter, like cook him meals, give him snacks when he's studying or just give him snacks when he sees peter lounging. and maybe reader and tony are dating A/n: You sent a hefty request, hopefully I got everything in - I really hope that your cousin will enjoy this though!
Peter Parker was no stranger to death.
His parents were killed when he was a young boy and his uncle was shot when he was only a teenager. He only had his Aunt May until he didn’t. She was driving back from work and got in an unfortunate accident.
Peter Parker was no stranger to death, but that doesn’t mean he didn’t have a family.
Tony and you took him when you heard about the accident. Peter was still a kid, he’s still a teenager and you wouldn’t stand for him to go to foster care. You have known Peter since Tony asked him to join him in Germany. How Tony asked if Peter if he wanted to intern under him.
After all, you were Tony’s boyfriend for quite a while so when Peter slept over at Tony’s house, you were there. You would cook meals for your two science boys and remind them to take a break from their long science experience. Peter saw you and Tony as father figures, the men he really looked up after his Uncle Ben had passed away.
Tony didn’t have the greatest childhood, he vowed to himself and you if you happen to adopt that he will be the best father any child could as for and you’ve seen him pick up calls from a lovely boy called Harley, which you have met a few times, and will always drop anything to have a conversation. You saw how Tony acted with Peter, to see pride and joy, you couldn’t help but smile at your boyfriend.
You had a great childhood, you grew up with loving parents and loving yet bratty siblings. Your childhood wasn’t quiet and always fun - your parents valued making memories with their children, so your parents took you and your siblings to sporting events, festivals (age-appropriate), holidays. They were strict, but you could recall how they let you sleepover with friends and bring friends over, you can remember how they let you go to concerts with your friends and/or siblings.
You kept that family love in your heart and Peter really felt it.
Peter wasn’t much of a sports person, but when he was in the presence of you and Tony, he doesn’t mind much.
“Listen, kid,” You say, ruffling his hair, “You’re part of the Avenger family and you’re a superhero with wicked abilities - you know for the fact that Rogers and Romanov will not go easy on you in training.”
“He’s right,” Tony calls from behind, not looking up from his work as Peter groans.
“But, you could totally avoid intense training if you told them that you do sports with me, nothing too heavy,” You smiled, as Peter thinks it over.
“Like what?”
You shrugged your shoulders, “I don’t know, we could play baseball? The good all hit and run style. Or maybe volleyball, you pick the sport that week and we’ll do it.”
“Do you even have the equipment?”
You raised an eyebrow, “Peter, honey, you’re currently in the home of a Stark - you think Tony doesn’t have these things on standby.”
“I don’t know, he doesn’t seem to be an athletic type.”
“I heard that!” Tony exclaimed as the two of you laugh.
When Peter moved in for the final time, Peter felt like he was somewhat out of place. He had a room at the Stark-(L/n) residence and he would spend nights, if not weekends, at theirs but he felt like he was intruding. It was a sudden change in Peter’s environment.
And yet, he felt warm in the house, whilst it really messed with his head for the past few days - you and Tony were slow with the process. You never pushed him out of his comfort zone. You helped him put up the stuff of his family around the house to allow him to heal.
You weren’t in The Avengers, so you had a lot of free time. Instead of working in an office, you created things to sell on the internet, it was a hobby because Tony insist you live a lavish life. But, that doesn’t stop you from working around the house. Peter was often met with delicious smelling food, whilst you had a rule that he would cook his own lunch if he didn’t have school and you would cook dinner for everyone.
You, Tony and Peter, would sit down together with each other, talking about Peter’s day at school and how Tony is dealing with things with Avengers and Stark Enterprise despite Pepper being in charge of that. Even after eating, sometimes you’ll dig into some dessert and talk about shared interest such as music and shows.
If you guys are watching a series together, you’ll update them on lore or when the next episode is being dropped out. If it’s about a shared interest in music, you would happily indulge in what music has been released recently.
Peter and Tony will happily clean after dinner, one will washing up and the other doing drying.
“You know we have a dishwasher right?” Tony called through as he hands Peter a soaked plate.
“And?” You called back, “It’s called responsibilities, I will not have lazy boys in my house!”
Peter chuckled as he put the plate down and takes the wet glass, he doesn’t mind the chores you ask him to do. You teach him lessons in life because sometimes just hanging around with you felt like home to him.
“You know how to work the washing machine, right Pete?” You asked, standing in the doorway of his room looking at the floor of dirty clothes.
“I’ll pick it up - I promise, but, um not really? Aunt May usually go to the laundrette.”
“Alright, when your laundry basket gets full, I’ll show you how to work the washing machine and dryer. I don’t mind doing your washing but every now and then, you can do it.”
“Yeah, that’ll be fine!”
When Peter fully settles into the house, he found himself loving his life. He loves watching you bicker with Tony about the stupidest things - mostly over characters in a show or film. In which, most of the time, he backs you up because the two of you are major geeks over shows and movies.
Peter noticed how much you care for him, knocking on his door and reminding him to drink water and always coming to his room to deliver snacks ranging from a healthy plate of the juiciest fruits to unhealthy sweets.
Whilst both of you were in Peter’s life, he saw you more as comfort - it was taking a while for Peter to adjust with Tony, he still see it as a mentor and student sort relationship. But, with you, he sees someone who he could come to for any troubles with school and relationships.
Peter walked into the living room, hearing how you and Tony were bickering over which character was better in Game of Thrones in each house. Peter couldn’t help but laugh about it.
“Hey, kid! Tony greeted with a wave, placing the hand back on your shoulder.
You smiled at Peter, “Heya Pete!”
“Hi Mr Stark, hi dad!”
Silence.
The only thing that was playing was the show in the background as Peter stood in his spot in utter fear. Tony sat there in silence as he looks over at you, you slowly got up from your seat without saying a word and made your way to Peter.
Peter looked at you with wide eyes, “I- I mean...!”
You engulfed him into the biggest hug you could muster. One hand on his back and the other in his hair, Peter found himself relaxing as he immediately wrapped his arms around you and grip you tight. You brushed his hair as he buried his face into your shoulder.
You release him, in fear that you might suffocate him, “I’m really honoured.”
“I-” Peter turns red, looking down for a moment before looking at you, “You are my dad, to me.”
You smiled widely at him, “Okay, celebration time, let’s bake cookies!”
You lead the way as Peter offers to help, the two of you pull your sleeves up as you bring the ingredients onto the counter. Tony followed, silently watching with a fond smile upon his face. He ruffles Peter’s hair with a smile as Peter beams at him.
“Alright, what can I help with?” Tony asked as you asked him to bring out the kitchen utensils, “Oh and Pete?”
“Yeah?”
“What about me?” Tony pouts as Peter widen his eyes as you laugh loudly.
“Tough luck baby, it looks like Pete favours me,” You teased as Tony scoffed.
“No, unacceptable, I’m taking Peter for a week out, I’ll be the favourite parent.”
You roll your eyes as you look over to Peter whilst Tony rant, shaking your head and nodding your head towards your boyfriend, as you mouthed to Peter “Get a load of this guy.”
Peter smiles.
Peter knows death, but he’s well acquainted with family.
#peter parker#peter parker imagine#peter parker x male!reader#x male reader#platonic#Avengers#avengers imagine
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Visit Al Qudra Lake in Dubai
There are numerous approaches to spend a beautiful day in Dubai, with beautiful beachfront, lively boulevards, and various outdoor activities. Anyone preferring more serene surroundings, on the other hand, can discover it at Al Qudra Lakes, a true desert oasis that is great for wildlife-seekers and those wishing to interact with the natural world.Multiple islands provide shelter for the various species of birds that hatch here, and small vegetation give food for both nesting birds and insects, while there is little cover for people.
Desert Safari Dubai is the best option for adventure. If You are a adventure lover and you have a plan to visit dubai you should go for desert Safari.
Show up early, and you'll be mostly alone as birds sing and a gentle air sweeps all over the water. Biologists will strive to draw binoculars to look for the various bird species that assemble there. For both local and seasonal, and several bird-watching towers provide excellent vantage points. Some less unique swans, curlews, and duckling, as well as a huge flock of flamingos, make for a lovely sight.
Roaming through the tracks
Prepare your motorbike or work boots if you want to get some exercise and enjoy the benefits of the flat path. It travels around the lakes and across the desert for a total distance of 86 kilometers. Keep a close eye as you walk since you might see most of the area's larger local species. You might spot sand gazelle, desert foxes, or perhaps the rare Arabian Oryx eating or dashing around if you're extra silent. Drive to neighboring Love Lake to inject a layer of beauty into your day. This man-made lake, fashioned to represent two linked hearts. It is a very evocative area to enjoy and shoot pictures with a beloved one.
Camping
First and foremost, Al Qudra Lake is among the top campers' locations in the United Arab Emirates. The area can get busy on holidays, but you can generally find a quiet space to pitch your tents in the Al Qudra Lakes East campsite.Camping at Al Qudra is a popular enjoyable event in Dubai. You must, though, ensure that you are ready. Bring your camping equipment, such as tents, air mattresses, and lights, with you. One of the camping supplies stores in Dubai will have everything you require. You must adhere to the regulations and tidy up yourself.
Al Qudra Love Lake
A highly recommended adventure on the list of stuff to do in Al Qudra is to explore the Love Lake and experience its splendor and unique design. It is perfect for those looking for an Insta-worthy image. Around the Al Qudra Love Lake, there seems to be a designated running track. This heart-shaped lake in Dubai is complete with covered arches.
Wildlife Admiration
The Al Qudra Desert is home to around 170 local bird species and animals varieties. The Al Qudra lakes are a man-made wonder that also makes them an appropriate environment for biodiversity.If you're a bird’s lover, Al Qudra is a fantastic location to see black swans, flamingos, and ducks if you're lucky. Though its creatures are a little more mysterious, they do make appearances now and then. Just remember that trying to feed the creatures is illegal and might result in a fine, so don't do it. Soak in the stunning sandy dusk from the water's edge. An among the 170 bird species living near the waters, this is one region of Dubai where people observe nature in its native environment. Foxes, swans, flamingos, ducks, and other birds are among the many varieties.
Sunset Views
At the lake, there are numerous fantastic sites to see the dawn. You may enjoy undisturbed and beautiful sights of the sunsets over the sands as the sun goes down.If you're a cameraman, you'll have the opportunity to click some incredible images. For those who love observing natural beauty, bring some folding seats, tunes, and refreshments. The sky above Al Qudra Lake glows once it becomes darker, making it an excellent site for stargazing.
Cycling Activity
Bicycling is among the most favorite hobbies at Al Qudra. Because of the large 86-kilometer road that runs across the area. You'll see a combination of young and older adults cycling through the sandy dunes.
Eateries and food stores
There are eateries and cafes at Al Qudra's Final Gate where you may get a bite to eat. A full day of discovering all of Al Qudra's new experiences will undoubtedly boost your confidence, so if you need a fast, nice meal, head down to Al Qudra's Last Door. It features a variety of eating choices to accommodate all of your food desires. There are also restrooms there, so if you need to refresh, here is the spot to go. Al Qudra lacks cafes and bars when it comes to food, which doesn't prevent guests from eating on the beach. Otherwise, bring a lunch and a mat and find a quiet location to unwind while taking in the scenery. Diners can dine at neighboring eateries or try premium Arabian food at Bab Al Shams, a five-star desert hotel. You can also have a barbecue or have a relaxing ride at Al Qudra Biking Trough amongst the other series of lakes.
Desert Safari
Last but not the least, comes top tourist attraction that is Desert Safari. When you are finished with you day visiting these wonderful places head towards any of deserts of Dubai. For a thrilling and mesmerizing adventure make your Desert Safari adventure thrilling by experiencing exciting rides. If you want to make your day fantastic then don’t skip the must-do activities like camel safari and dune bashing and so much more.
Conclusion
As darkness comes, the waters provide a great impact for some very amazing panoramas. The songbirds prepare to nest as crimson sky shine off the calm waters, as do Dubai's most courageous residents, who are enticed into camping nightly by the quiet environment. Before you depart after the sun goes down, make sure to look up. The clouds here are completely devoid of traffic or lights. So you'll have no trouble spotting glittering stars and beautiful patterns.
Reference Link:
https://desertsafarisuae.blogspot.com/2021/07/visit-al-qudra-lake-in-dubai.html
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Something I’ve run into quite a lot while doing the whole “project manager” thing is artist who are openly hostile to the idea of engaging with the “business side” of what they do. There’s this broad perception that that business side of art means advertising and merchandising and selling out, and while it certainly can mean that, a lot of it is much more basic - and it’s stuff that’s absolutely not optional if art is anything beyond a personal fun-time hobby for you.
Stuff like:
1. Having reality-based metrics for time and resource commitment - or, in plain English, making sure that what you’re charging for your commissions is actually based on how hard they are to do.
It’s downright shocking how rare this is. I’ve encountered digital artists who routinely charge less for a spec that takes them much longer to do based on purely abstract notions of how “complex” the piece is, without reference to their actual, demonstrable time commitment. Heck, I’ve run into a traditional artist who ended up making nickles per hour for a major commission because she hadn’t correctly tallied up the cost of the art supplies expended in producing it!
The only way to arrive at appropriate metrics is based on evidence; your off-the-cuff estimates will always, always be wrong. Literally time yourself as you work on pieces of various types, and write down how long it took you. And never assume that it will be quicker next time; that’s called the planning fallacy, and it will eat you alive if you let it.
2. Having a lifecycle management plan for the tools you need to work.
Tablets don’t last forever. Neither do computers. Even software can become so outdated and incompatible as to lose utility over time. Basically, your tools have a finite lifespan, and you need to have a plan for replacing them as needed.
I understand that many independent artists don’t have the means to save up for new and replacement tools, and rely on second-hand hardware, gifts from friends and family, or donation drives on their blogs to fill the gap. That’s fine - artists relying on patronage has a long and distinguished history. The important thing is that these avenues be part of a plan, not a desperate scramble after some 100% foreseeable circumstance has rendered you unable to work.
Data on average time-to-failure for your hardware is readily accessible online; if, for example, that particular brand of tablet tends to last about three years, then you need to start organising your donation drive or dropping hints for your birthday at two years and six months, even if your equipment seems perfectly fine. The same goes for software; the vendor’s support window (i.e., the time after which they’ll stop publishing bugfixes and security updates) for your version of the software is a known factor.
3. Having a formal requirements-gathering and signoff procedure.
I know that sounds like a lot of boring paperwork, and to be honest it kind of is, but it’s also critical for anything you’re not drawing for yourself. Language is an imprecise medium; based on a few minutes of casual conversation, you can easily end up in situations where you and your commissioner have totally different understandings of what the job entails, yet you’re both convinced you’ve understood the other perfectly.
You should have a detailed written description of what’s involved, and your client’s explicit, documented confirmation that they’ve read, understood and agreed to it, before you draw a single stroke. This includes timelines and deliverables as well as content; I’ve run into numerous cases of clients who’ve alleged non-delivery of services based on their understanding that they’d be receiving a traditional, ink-and-paper piece where the artist understood the commission to involve only digital work, and more than one case where a client started hollering about breach of contract less than 24 hours after signing off because they honestly thought it would be done already.
You have to nip that in the bud; this level of documentation is a bare minimum for anyone who takes money to do art, not a nice-to-have.
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Coming To Conclusions
Misaki is in the midst of a sexuality crisis, and is further thrown for a loop when he finds out Tatara is transgender.
Pairing: Misaki/Tatara (trans male!Tatara)
5,241 words. Fluff.
Content warning for internalised homophobia, internalised transphobia, and mentions of domestic violence. Brief mikorei mention.
(Slightly belated) Fic for my fav ginger’s birthday.
AO3 | Ko-Fi
When Tatara had told Misaki he’d finally found a buyer his father’s old home and would be away from the bar for a couple of days to empty the last of the things out of the house, Misaki had been quick to volunteer to help him out. He’d reasoned that Tatara wasn’t exactly strong, and Misaki didn’t know how he’d cope moving heavy boxes and bits of furniture around by himself. Izumo was too busy running the bar to help him, and Mikoto was… well, Mikoto, so Misaki had taken it upon himself. It had taken a little while to convince Tatara to accept the offer- initially he’d been insistent that he would be fine on his own, and Misaki didn’t need to trouble himself, but eventually, he gave in.
It had been somewhat surreal for Misaki to enter Tatara’s childhood home- a tiny, run-down cottage just outside of the city. It didn’t seem like the kind of place someone like Tatara would have grown up. The house was fairly sparse; most of the furniture was gone, save for some of the things Tatara hadn’t had the space to bring with him when he’d moved into his apartment in Shizume city. The only indication Tatara had lived there were the knickknacks and paraphernalia of his old hobbies that cluttered the shelves, now dusty from disuse.
The pair spent the first morning moving out the furniture- most of it was rickety and held together with wood glue and duct tape, so Misaki pulled it apart and tossed the remnants into the dumpster Tatara had hired (he had great fun wielding the axe he’d found in the shed, though Tatara couldn’t watch in fear that Misaki would accidentally chop off his own foot, or something equally silly).
By lunchtime, the house was devoid of furniture. The pair had sat in the unkempt grass of the front lawn to eat their lunch, but as they returned into the building, Tatara was stopped in his tracks by the sight of the house he’d grown up in.
“Seeing it empty is so strange.”
Now that the cosiness of the mismatched and well-used furnishings had gone, the main room looked barren and cold. The wear was easy to see- the floorboards were scratched; the paint was flaking off the window frames, and damp had begun to peel away at the faded wallpaper.
Misaki didn’t know how best to comfort him, so he simply clapped Tatara on the shoulder in what he hoped was a reassuring way. “If someone’s buyin’ it then maybe they’ll do it up and it’ll get turned into a home again.”
Tatara smiled faintly. “I don’t know why I’m getting so nostalgic all of a sudden; it’s not like I had the happiest childhood here. But it’s still strange.” Despite the nod to what seemed to be a dark chapter of his history, Tatara’s expression was as carefree as ever.
“What do you mean?”
“Hmm?”
“About it not being the happiest.”
“Ah. As you can probably tell, we didn’t have much money when I was a kid. My dad… had some troubles. Debt, that sort of thing, and my mother left him when I was younger. He tried his best, but he was absent a lot, so I ended up being here by myself most of the time.” As Tatara spoke, he wandered over to the windowsill, where some of his old things still stood. He was still smiling slightly as he talked, as though he was simply discussing the weather.
Misaki frowned, but followed him across the room. A few photographs in cheap wooden frames perched between the other keepsakes and souvenirs on the sill. Tatara picked one up, leaving in its shadow a clear spot amongst the thin film of dust that covered the rest of the surface, and he smiled fondly at the faded picture.
“I still loved my family, and I still remember the happy times. My dad wasn’t a bad person, he was just troubled. It’s sad to think of what could have been here instead of an empty room if things had gone differently,” Tatara said, and as he spoke, Misaki peered at the photograph he held in his hands. The image had been bleached by the sunlight over the years, but it still clearly depicted a man and a woman, standing with their arms around one another in what looked to be a neater version of the front of the house. The lawn wasn’t overgrown, and flowers grew in terracotta pots beneath the window and beside the doorstep. Between them stood a little girl, smiling at the camera.
“I didn’t know you had a sister?” Misaki said cautiously, looking at the child in the photo. She bore a great resemblance to Tatara, but she wore a lilac dress, and her hair was longer and tied into pigtails.
“Hm? Oh, no, I don’t.” A sheepish look crossed Tatara’s face.
“Is that like your cousin or something then?”
“No, it’s me.”
Misaki raised an eyebrow. “Why are you dressed like a girl?”
Tatara smiled shyly. “I always forget you guys don’t know… I was sort of born a girl.”
Misaki paused, his brow furrowing as he tried to process the information. He was vaguely aware of people changing gender as a concept, but if he was perfectly honest, he was totally flying blind when it came to this sort of thing. He’d heard people mention things about sex changes and transsexual people in the past, but he was dubious about how reliable the information was.
He clammed up, stuttering as he tried to come up with something appropriately supportive to say, but his attempts were thwarted by the dozens of competing thoughts that bubbled to the forefront of his mind at the revelation. He bit his tongue, holding back the questions that even he had the good sense to know were inappropriate. Now that Tatara had mentioned it, it was sort of difficult not to notice how… feminine he was. Tatara had always been effeminate, but Misaki had always put that down to just being the way he was- that and the fact that Tatara was openly queer, and it sort of showed in his mannerisms. But in the light of what Tatara had just said, Misaki couldn’t not pick up on how delicate his hands were, how narrow his shoulders…
He shook the thoughts from his head- they felt disrespectful somehow, but he wasn’t quite sure why.
“S-sorry…” he began. “I’m, uh, not super up on all this stuff…” Misaki rubbed the back of his head nervously. “S-so that makes you, tra… transsexual, right?”
Tatara chuckled gently at his bashfulness, and to Misaki’s relief he didn’t seem offended. “That’s sort of an outdated term; most people use the word ‘transgender’ now, but yes. When I was born, they thought I was a girl, but I figured out as I got older that that wasn’t right.”
Misaki nodded slowly, and apologised again. “Who else knows…?”
“I was already out as a guy full-time by the time Homra really started to form, so the only other people in Homra who know are King and Kusanagi-san. And Anna. I try to keep it quiet- it’s not actively a secret or anything, but the guys have all always known me as a man, so it’s easier just to keep it that way.”
Misaki gave another nod. “I understand… I won’t tell.”
“You don’t have to treat me any differently or anything like that. I’m just like you and the rest of the folks in Homra, just wasn’t born with the same equipment.” He paused for a moment, then smiled, leaning against the windowsill. “I can tell this has kinda thrown you for a loop, hm?”
“L-Like I said, I don’t really… know anything about all of this.”
Tatara started setting the knickknacks from the windowsill in a cardboard box as he began to explain: “I figured out when I was about nine or ten that being a girl didn’t really feel right- I didn’t like being referred to as a girl or dressing in girly clothes. It’s like… how you feel when people say your name is a girl’s name, but turned up to eleven.”
Misaki nodded slowly.
“And then I hit puberty and my body started changing to be more like a woman’s and it made me uncomfortable, but I didn’t really put together why that was until I watched a movie with a trans character in it. I was watching English language films because my hobby at that point was learning English, and there was a woman in one of the movies that was ‘born a boy,’ so to speak. And I started to wonder: if she could be a woman even though she was assigned male at birth, maybe I could be a boy. So I did some research, and here I am.”
“But like… how do you look like a dude?”
“Testosterone injections. I’ve been on them for two years now; they help to masculinise my body- changing the way I store fat, making my voice drop, making me grow a bit of facial hair, amongst other things... Well, we’re still getting there on the facial hair front,” Tatara conceded, fingering a patch of sparse peach fuzz on his jawline.
Misaki smiled a little at the self-deprecating joke. In a way, it sort of dropped it all into perspective for him- worrying about being able to grow stubble was such a normal thing for a guy to worry about (indeed, Misaki had his own insecurities around his smooth face). “That… makes sense, I think. As long as you’re happy, I guess it doesn’t matter whether the doctor said you were a boy or a girl when you popped out, right? S-sorry if I say anything dumb.”
“It’s okay- you’re learning. If you have any questions, you can ask.”
Misaki offered a weak smile. “Thanks.”
The rest of the afternoon passed mostly without incident- the pair continued packing away the keepsakes on the shelves, and by the end of the day, they’d finished emptying the house even though Tatara had predicted it would take a couple of days. Having two sets of hands made quicker work of it, even with Tatara pausing every now and again to recount some anecdote about an old hobby of his, or a childhood memory. The insight into Tatara’s youth was sort of strange for Misaki. Aside from the whole him not always having been a dude thing, it was weird to see him talk so casually about what was objectively quite a neglectful childhood. It amazed Misaki that he turned out to be the sunny person that he had, considering everything he’d been through. Especially considering that the only other neglected kid Misaki really knew was Saruhiko, whose attitude was the total opposite of Tatara’s.
But underneath that, Misaki could still feel himself seizing up. He tried to distract himself with the packing, but there was only so much of his brain he could occupy just putting stuff in boxes. He felt like an ass for it, but he could feel the anxiety he usually only got around women tying knots in the pit of his stomach. And he didn’t know why- he’d always seen Tatara as one of the guys; why should he feel any differently now? He tried to avoid his friend’s eye as he worked, chewing his lip as a wash of guilt settled over him.
And of course Tatara noticed- Tatara was the sort of person who could read people’s thoughts off them like they were typed across their foreheads.
“Yata-san, is something wrong?”
“H-hm? Oh, no, just tired I think,” he offered, attempting to give a reassuring smile.
“Well, we’re nearly done here at least,” Tatara replied, though Misaki wasn’t entirely sure he was convinced by the lie.
It wasn’t until he got home that Misaki could really reflect properly on what it was that had been bothering him all day. He kicked off his shoes, collapsing onto the couch in his apartment and staring up at the ceiling with a deep huff. He didn’t like to think about this sort of thing- in fact, he actively hated it. But he hated the idea of Tatara feeling uncomfortable even more; he didn’t want Tatara to think Misaki’s obvious awkwardness and discomfort had anything to do with him being trans.
In a rather uncomfortable recent period of self-discovery, Misaki had come to the realisation that the reason he wasn’t exactly confident around women was because he didn’t feel the way he thought he was supposed to about them. Ever since he was a kid, he’d seen men in real life and in the TV shows he watched lust over women, pursue them to the exclusion of all else, obsess over them, get in fights and fall out with their best friends over them. It seemed to be the norm to do stupid and detrimental things just to get in some girl’s pants.
And Misaki didn’t get it. He just didn’t. He didn’t get what was so great about the idea of dating a girl or kissing a girl or having sex with a girl or whatever.
And then he’d met Tatara and the pair had become close friends, and Misaki suddenly started recognising the feelings he’d heard people talk about in the past- the butterflies in your stomach, the dry throat, the daydreams, the distraction, the desire to spend time with them. Except he didn’t feel them about a girl; he felt them about Tatara. Tatara was kind and funny and gentle and beautiful and Misaki felt a sort of magnetism toward his clansman that he’d never felt toward any woman.
It had taken Misaki a long time to process the fact he thought he might be gay- even now, he hadn’t completely made peace with the fact, and he’d never breathed a word about it to anybody.
At first, he’d worried he was a misogynist, and that was why he didn’t like girls in that way. Which had made him hate himself. Ever since he’d seen the black eyes his biological father used to give his mother before they’d gotten divorced, he’d promised himself he wouldn’t be the kind of guy his dad was. Being the sort of man who respected and cared for women, the provider, the man of the house, the protector, was important to him. It had taken a while to reconcile this desire with his lack of attraction to women.
In a weird sort of way, it had helped when he started hearing rumours that Mikoto was involved with the Blue King. Mikoto was the kind of guy Misaki had always aspired to be- he was strong and brave and he protected those who couldn’t look out for themselves and he never let himself show weakness. The only depiction of gay men Misaki had ever seen before that were the stereotypical effeminate guys with lisps and feather boas, and as much as Misaki respected those people, that wasn’t what he wanted for himself. And then he’d caught Mikoto and Reisi kissing in the bar, and aside from his initial mortification, in an odd sort of way, Misaki was comforted. It was reassuring to know that someone like Mikoto could still be… well, Mikoto, and still kiss guys at the same time.
It had taken months, but Misaki had finally started to come around to the idea that he might be gay after all, and maybe that wasn’t such a bad thing. He’d even started to fantasise about asking Tatara out, and had a plan half-formulated in his brain.
And then this happened. He’d discovered the guy he felt so strongly for had been born with what most people would deem a girl’s body, and now the parts of himself that had fought so vehemently to suppress the idea he might be gay had resurfaced with a vengeance. They told him he was wrong after all- if the guy he wanted to date wasn’t really a guy, then maybe he wasn’t really gay.
Misaki pulled the front of his beanie down over his eyes in frustration with himself, resisting the urge to pull on his own hair. If he’d heard anyone else suggest that Tatara “wasn’t really a guy” because of the way his junk looked when he was born, Misaki would have punched their lights out. He knew Tatara was a guy- he’d been a guy as long as Misaki had known him. But he was having difficulties getting those intrusive thoughts to shut the hell up.
Eventually, he managed to get them to tone down their misgendering, but he still couldn’t quite shake the thought that maybe if he was attracted to someone with what most would consider female body parts, then perhaps he wasn’t gay after all. He didn’t even know what parts Tatara had- even he had the good sense not to go asking about whether Tatara had boobs or what he had in his pants, but even the slightest prospect that Misaki might have a crush on someone with a vagina was enough to sow seeds of doubt in his head.
And Misaki could feel that doubt starting to make him act strange. His nervousness around Tatara continued to bug him, and he felt his cheeks heating up whenever he was in his vicinity. He’d also noticed himself getting more protective of his friend. Tatara’s effeminate appearance often meant that people weren’t quite sure right off the bat how to gender him, and it wasn’t uncommon for people in his vicinity to be heard whispering to one another wondering if he was a man or a woman.
Unfortunately for the whisperers, Misaki overheard some of them one day, and something just sort of snapped in him. A pair of boys from the nearby high school were walking not far behind Misaki, Tatara, and Dewa as they made their way back to the bar.
Chuckling, one of them whispered to the other: “Do you think that blond is a dude or a chick?”
Misaki normally wouldn’t have done more than shot them a glare, but this time, before he could stop himself, he whirled around and snapped at them:
“Are you an asshole or just an idiot?”
The boys looked flabbergasted for a moment, but then had the decency to mumble an apology as they hurried past, abashed.
Tatara tried to assure Misaki that it was alright- he didn’t have to defend him, but Misaki hadn’t been able to resist the urge. A part of him knew he was overcompensating for the intrusive thoughts he’d had after Tatara had first come out to him, and it only made him feel more guilty.
Misaki could feel himself continuing to acting weird for a couple of weeks. The unwanted sexuality crisis was bad enough, but piled on top of that, his shame at the fact he was even having this crisis in the first place was eating away at him. Tatara was a man, regardless of whether he’d known that his entire life, and Misaki was attracted to him, but not to girls, and that made him gay. It was simple. So why couldn’t he shake the doubt taking root in his mind?
He was also mortifyingly aware of how observant Tatara was, and constantly convinced that his friend would pick up on his behaviour, and somehow figure out what it was that was on his mind. It’s not like it would be difficult- he’d mysteriously started acting strange right after Tatara had come out to him, and he hated the thought that Tatara would assume Misaki was uncomfortable with his gender identity.
Thankfully, he didn’t mention Misaki’s odd behaviour, and when Misaki’s birthday rolled around, he seemed as eager as ever to organise something to celebrate. Seeing as his birthday fell mid-week that year, Tatara had planned something big for the following weekend when more people would be free to attend, but he also insisted that they have a small gettogether on his actual birthday, even if most of the Homra guys wouldn’t be able to make it. Tatara had been so excited to plan it that Misaki couldn’t bring himself to decline (he felt awkward, allowing him to do all this when he was having all these shitty thoughts, even if he couldn’t control them), but he was secretly sort of reassured- at least he knew Tatara didn’t hold a grudge.
To Misaki’s relief, Tatara’s plans for his birthday itself were low-key: movies and pizza and a couple beers (the invitees were instructed not to tell Izumo that Tatara was enabling underage drinking) with the guys at Tatara’s apartment, and all Misaki had to do was show up. Unfortunately, only a few people could make it- most of the clansmen either had plans that night or work the following morning, so either couldn’t come, or could only do so for a few hours. Rikio seemed a little off all day at the bar, and predictably he texted to say he couldn’t make it as he had a stomach bug, which Misaki thought was fair enough, so at the start of the evening, aside from the host and the one celebrating his birthday, the guest list consisted of Yo, Dewa, Kosuke, and Akagi. However, most could only stay for one movie, with the exception of Yo, who left two-thirds of the way through the first film, citing a hot Tinder matchup as the reason for his premature departure.
When Misaki was left alone with Tatara, he offered to leave, not wanting to make things awkward, but there was a genuine smile on Tatara’s face as he asked him to stay.
“There are plenty of snacks left,” he joked, and Misaki gave a weak smile, settling back onto the sofa beside him.
And of course, Tatara immediately picked up on his odd demeanour. “Everything okay?” he asked casually.
“Y-yeah…” Misaki cursed himself internally for his stutter- Tatara didn’t seem too concerned before, but now he leaned forward in his seat, a crease between his eyebrows.
“You sure? You’ve been acting a little strange for a while…”
Misaki shut his eyes in embarrassment. “S-sorry…”
“Sorry? What for?”
“I’ve been acting weird since that day at your place…” he mumbled. “S-since you told me…”
“…Told you I’m trans?” Tatara offered, his tone neutral.
“Y-yeah… And I didn’t want you to think I was bein’ intolerant or anything. I’ve never seen you as anything other than a dude and that ain’t gonna change.” His voice was quiet, and though he’d opened his eyes, he kept them fixed on the coffee table. He drummed his fingers against the half-empty beer can in his hands anxiously; he didn’t really want to be having this discussion.
“I didn’t think you were being intolerant,” Tatara reassured him, and as he rested his hand comfortingly on Misaki’s shoulder, Misaki felt his heartbeat stumble in his chest. “You didn’t seem disgusted or anything like that. But I am a bit worried; what’s bothering you? Are you afraid of saying the wrong thing?”
“Y-yeah.” It was true, but only a half-truth, and Tatara obviously knew it.
“…And?”
Misaki shifted uncomfortably in his seat. “I-It’s heavy, I don’t wanna be a downer.”
“You’ll probably feel better once you’ve gotten it out. I don’t mind.”
“I’ve never… talked about it before… I don’t wanna make things weird…” The words almost seemed to physically snag in Misaki’s throat.
“It won’t,” Tatara promised immediately.
Misaki screwed his eyes shut, taking a deep breath. “I-I sorta… had a sexuality crisis… and all the gender stuff brought it back up in my head.”
Tatara patted him on the shoulder comfortingly, waiting for him to elaborate.
“Over the past few months, I’d… I dunno, sorta figured maybe I was g-gay…” He let out a shaky breath- it was strange to hear that said aloud. “B-but it took a while to like… fully accept it, I guess. I thought you had to be like stereotypically gay, and I didn’t want to be like that. I didn’t want to have a lisp and watch crappy daytime TV and listen to Lady Gaga. So I fought really hard against the idea.”
Tatara smiled softly. “That’s okay. You don’t have to fit into society’s stereotypes to be gay; the only thing you have to do to be gay is to only be into other guys. I know it’s easy to internalise all the crap people say about queer folks, but liking other men doesn’t make you any less of a man.”
Misaki gave a weak smile. “Thanks…” Then, he sighed again, steadying himself to force out the next sentence. “I was getting pretty sure I really was… gay… especially after Mikoto-san started screwing the Blue King or whatever, like if he can kiss dudes and still be kickass then so can I…”
“That’s good. I’m glad you’re starting to accept yourself. There’s nothing wrong with being gay; you’re still you, no matter who you happen to fall in love with. Am I the first person you’ve told?”
Misaki nodded. “Mm. I’ve never even said it out loud.”
“That’s okay. There’s no pressure to ‘come out’ if you don’t want to, or even to label it if you don’t want to. It’s nobody’s business but yours, and perhaps any guys you’re interested in,” he added with a grin.
“T-thanks.”
“Is there anyone you’re interested in?” Tatara asked playfully, but then he paused, examining the expression on his friend’s face. “You okay?”
“Y-yeah, fine,” Misaki replied, but he spoke far too quickly.
“…Coming out wasn’t the only thing bothering you, was it?”
Misaki bit his lip. “I-I dunno if you wanna hear the other bit.”
“It’s okay, you can talk to me about anything.”
Misaki huffed a sigh, slumping back against the couch with a torn look on his face.
“I promise. No judgement.”
“Hnn… fine,” Misaki conceded, fixing his gaze on his shoelaces. “I-I thought I’d sort of come to terms with it, you know, the whole gay thing… and then you came out to me…” He paused, taking a deep breath. He didn’t dare look over at his friend. “…And all these stupid voices in my head I couldn’t get to shut up were doing some fucked up mental gymnastics to try and reason that maybe I wasn’t gay after all.”
Tatara tilted his head. “Why would that make you not gay?”
“Because… y-you’re hot, okay? It’s just an objective fact. Like, there isn’t a person alive who’s into dudes who wouldn’t be attracted to you. But these stupid voices were trying to persuade me that if you weren’t born a dude or whatever or if you have girl junk… n-not that I’m asking! Whatever’s in your pants is your business… but like… Ugh, I sound like such an asshole. I don’t know how to say it without coming off like a total douche. Like, you’re a dude, so whatever junk you have is dude junk, and I’ve never seen you as anything but a dude regardless of junk and I really need to stop talking about your junk I’m sorry…”
Tatara continued rubbing his shoulder. “Take your time.”
Misaki sighed, trying to slow down the pace of his words. “The dumb nagging voices at the back of my head were trying to twist you being trans into an excuse to say I wasn’t really gay, because I still think you’re hot even though you’re trans, and I’m pissed off at myself for trying to think that way.”
“You weren’t doing it on purpose. Like I said, it’s hard not to internalise people’s intolerance when you’re figuring yourself out. As long as it’s not really you talking, then it’s fine.”
Misaki gave a stiff nod. “T-thank you. S-sorry, I shouldn’t be making you comfort me for being like this… Y-you’ll always be a dude in my eyes and I’ll fight anyone who says you’re not.”
Tatara was quiet for a second, and Misaki finally lifted his gaze to look over at his friend, afraid he’d upset him. But to his surprise, a faint smile curled the corner of Tatara’s lips, and his cheeks were flushed.
“Totsuka-san?”
“People don’t usually question their entire sexuality just because one person they think is hot turns out not to have the junk they’re expecting them to. It usually takes a little more than that…”
Misaki opened his mouth to protest, but Tatara cut in before he had a chance.
“Yata-chan, do you have feelings for me?”
“W-what? Why would you think that?” Misaki’s heart squeezed in his chest in panic, and he could feel himself stumbling over his words.
Tatara gave him a soft smile. “I had suspicions for a while- you get this look in your eye when you look at me, but I didn’t really dare believe it…”
Misaki paused. “W-what?”
“I thought: ‘maybe it’s just wishful thinking,’ ‘maybe I’m just projecting’.”
Misaki blinked in shock, the surprise almost knocking the wind out of him- he’d forgotten to breathe for a second. He couldn’t quite allow himself to process what he thought Tatara was suggesting. The room felt sort of wobbly, as though he was dreaming.
“A-are you saying…?” Misaki didn’t quite have enough breath to finish the sentence.
But he didn’t need to. The next thing he knew, Tatara had cupped his jaw gently, and had leaned in to brush their lips together. Misaki froze on the spot, unable to do anything more than close his eyes.
Tatara pulled back, and after a moment, he chuckled. “Breathe, Yata-chan.”
Misaki nodded, finally managing to draw in a gasp of air. “Y-you…?” was all he could manage to say.
“…Like you?” Tatara finished for him, and Misaki managed another stiff nod of confirmation. “Yeah, I do. You’re handsome, and you’re really sweet beneath your hardcore exterior. After Fushimi left and we started spending more time together, I found myself really looking forward to seeing you, and getting butterflies and being self-conscious about how I looked because I wanted you to see the best side of me…” He blushed deeper as he spoke, and the sight of Tatara’s cheeks turning pink made Misaki’s chest feel funny.
He couldn’t quite summon words for a few second, and when he could, all he could think to say was: “A-am I awake?”
Tatara burst into a fit of giggles, rocking forward to bury his face in Misaki’s shoulder, almost bashfully. “You’re so cute…”
“S-shut up…”
Tatara looked up, a hopeful grin still playing across his lips. There was a playful twinkle in his eye, and Misaki didn’t think he’d ever seen anything so pretty in his life.
“So what do you say? Wanna go to dinner with me sometime?”
“I’m definitely gay,” Misaki blurted, staring at Tatara in disbelief. Now he’d finally come to that conclusion, he sort of couldn’t believe he’d ever doubted it- it seemed obvious now. He was really god damn gay and he had a big fat gay crush on his closest friend, the contents of his underwear be damned.
Tatara giggled once more. “Is that a yes~?”
“F-fuck yes!” Misaki didn’t seem able to spit the words out fast enough, and Tatara threw his arms around his shoulders, hugging him tightly with a dazzling grin.
Misaki decided this was the best birthday present he’d ever gotten.
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How to Use Fertiliser Spreader – Get It Done in Just 8 Easy Steps How to Use Fertiliser Spreader – Get It Done in Just 8 Easy Steps
Fertilisers play a key important role when it comes to gardening and planting and lawn care. Too much or too little can cause damage to your grass and plants and may result in death of the plant. While too much can cause your plant to dry out, too little can deprive your plants of the necessary nutrients. With all that being said, it is imperative that your fertilisers are well-spread out
Enter the fertiliser spreader, a device that allows you to evenly distribute the fertiliser. Whether landscape architecture, land management, environmental conservation are all part of your hobbies or you’re just dipping your toes in botany, horticulture, and gardening, this tutorial will walk you through the entire process
Materials
All-purpose fertiliser
The heart and soul of this tutorial is the fertiliser. But not just any fertiliser, you need an all-purpose one that is equipped with all the necessary nutrients that your lawn or grass or plant require. The main three core nutrients would be NPK which stands for Nitrogen, Phosphorus, and Potassium
Tape measure
When it comes to maintaining outdoor recreation, land management, environmental design, and lawn care, important materials such as tools used to measure is imperative. In this tutorial, you will need a tape measure, long enough to measure your lawn
Hose or sprinkler
If what floats your boat are the usual outdoor recreation or your hobbies involve environmental conservation then chances are you are already equipped with a sprinkler or a hose at home
Guidelines
1.
Choose the appropriate type of fertiliser for your plant
There are different types of fertilisers from quick-release to slow ones. The former yields quicker results. Meanwhile, the latter may last for around 4 months. Generally, I’d recommend fertilisers with 10-10-10 or 15-15-15 compositions
2.
Know how to properly calibrate your device
Everything will all be for nothing if your fertiliser spreader is not calibrated properly. When it comes to using this type of device, the number one cause for confusion among users is how to calibrate it. However, this is actually one of the easiest as opposed to popular belief
All you need is to bring out your manual guide. Different fertiliser spreader comes with different settings and so it is essential that you double check with the manual first. In the manual, you’ll get to know what setting is appropriate for the kind of fertiliser you are using
3.
Adjust the appropriate settings in your device
After checking your manual guide, you now have to properly adjust the proper settings. One of the first things you need to adjust would be the flow rate
Remember, this differs depending on the type of fertiliser you are using. To control the rate of flow, locate the dial which can be found on the handle of your spreader. This dial is to be adjusted to fit the proper setting
4.
Fill up the fertiliser
After adjusting the proper settings in your device, you can now fill up the fertiliser. Refer to what’s stated in the fertiliser package to determine the proper amount
The hopper has holes so always make sure that the holes are thoroughly closed when you’re doing this step. In the event that the holes are open, at least make sure that the spreader is kept away from the grass
5.
Use the spreader
Next step involves having to use the spreader on the lawn. During this step, one of the things I can highly suggest is for you to start with the edges of your lawn. Once you are done with the edges, you can work your way in towards the middle part. The handle is to be pushed when you are dispersing the fertiliser
Be sure that you are settled on a specific pattern as this can help you ensure that the distribution of the fertiliser is even. For best results, walk at a normal pace. It should not be too slow or too swift. What I would recommend is to cover about 3 miles per hour
6.
Holes should be closed if you’re taking a break
Whenever you need to take quick stop, there’s no need to worry as it is completely fine to do so. However, one thing to keep in mind when doing so is that you have to make sure the holes of the hoppers are properly closed
The purpose of this is to make sure that no fertiliser will be wasted as there is a possibility that the fertiliser will pour out. This can be bad for your lawn or grass as too much can kill them.
7.
When finished, dampen the soil
After you’re done dispersing the fertiliser, you are going to need to dampen the soil to about an inch. Use either a sprinkler or a hose
8.
Clean up your spreader, hopper and rotating disc
Finally, the last step. When you’re done with all the aforementioned steps, the last thing you need to do is to rinse your spreader, hopper and rotating disc. It is best to use a hose for this one so as to make sure that there are no residues of the fertiliser left
Before walking around the lawn and dispersing the fertiliser, it is quite essential to have an idea of what the total area of your lawn is. This helps you determine how large your lawn is and therefore helps you determine how much you need to coverTo do this, you need to take out your tape measure and measure both the length and the width of the area of your lawn. After getting the measurement for the two, just multiply the two numbers to get the total area
Make sure the spreader is set aside along the sidewalk or driveway. This ensures that in the event that spills will occur, it will be easy to just clean them up
Distribution amount can be found in the fertiliser package. It is imperative that you refer to them to ensure that your fertiliser amount is just right. Using the area measurement you have gotten, check the package to determine the corresponding amount of fertiliser for the measurement of your lawn
Typically, the distribution is in the range of 1 up to 10. Once you have figured out the proper distribution rate, you may adjust the level which is found on the spreader. The level can also be the rate dial
Final Thoughts
Dispersing fertiliser all throughout your lawn and garden can certainly be a hassle but by following the right steps and the precautionary measures, you should be okay. Just remember the key is in the details: proper amount of fertiliser, right flow control as well as distribution rate, and the measurement of your law. When you have all of these things settled, you should be good to go
There you have it, folks! I hope you enjoyed this article. Should you have any other suggestions, comments or suggestions, please do not hesitate to leave them down below. I’ll see you on the next article!
Fertilisers play a key important role when it comes to gardening and planting and lawn care. Too much or too little can cause damage to your grass and plants and may result in death of the plant. While too much can cause your plant to dry out, too little can deprive your plants of the necessary nutrients. With all that being said, it is imperative that your fertilisers are well-spread out
Enter the fertiliser spreader, a device that allows you to evenly distribute the fertiliser. Whether landscape architecture, land management, environmental conservation are all part of your hobbies or you’re just dipping your toes in botany, horticulture, and gardening, this tutorial will walk you through the entire process
Materials
All-purpose fertiliser
The heart and soul of this tutorial is the fertiliser. But not just any fertiliser, you need an all-purpose one that is equipped with all the necessary nutrients that your lawn or grass or plant require. The main three core nutrients would be NPK which stands for Nitrogen, Phosphorus, and Potassium
Tape measure
When it comes to maintaining outdoor recreation, land management, environmental design, and lawn care, important materials such as tools used to measure is imperative. In this tutorial, you will need a tape measure, long enough to measure your lawn
Hose or sprinkler
If what floats your boat are the usual outdoor recreation or your hobbies involve environmental conservation then chances are you are already equipped with a sprinkler or a hose at home
Guidelines
1.
Choose the appropriate type of fertiliser for your plant
There are different types of fertilisers from quick-release to slow ones. The former yields quicker results. Meanwhile, the latter may last for around 4 months. Generally, I’d recommend fertilisers with 10-10-10 or 15-15-15 compositions
2.
Know how to properly calibrate your device
Everything will all be for nothing if your fertiliser spreader is not calibrated properly. When it comes to using this type of device, the number one cause for confusion among users is how to calibrate it. However, this is actually one of the easiest as opposed to popular belief
All you need is to bring out your manual guide. Different fertiliser spreader comes with different settings and so it is essential that you double check with the manual first. In the manual, you’ll get to know what setting is appropriate for the kind of fertiliser you are using
3.
Adjust the appropriate settings in your device
After checking your manual guide, you now have to properly adjust the proper settings. One of the first things you need to adjust would be the flow rate
Remember, this differs depending on the type of fertiliser you are using. To control the rate of flow, locate the dial which can be found on the handle of your spreader. This dial is to be adjusted to fit the proper setting
4.
Fill up the fertiliser
After adjusting the proper settings in your device, you can now fill up the fertiliser. Refer to what’s stated in the fertiliser package to determine the proper amount
The hopper has holes so always make sure that the holes are thoroughly closed when you’re doing this step. In the event that the holes are open, at least make sure that the spreader is kept away from the grass
5.
Use the spreader
Next step involves having to use the spreader on the lawn. During this step, one of the things I can highly suggest is for you to start with the edges of your lawn. Once you are done with the edges, you can work your way in towards the middle part. The handle is to be pushed when you are dispersing the fertiliser
Be sure that you are settled on a specific pattern as this can help you ensure that the distribution of the fertiliser is even. For best results, walk at a normal pace. It should not be too slow or too swift. What I would recommend is to cover about 3 miles per hour
6.
Holes should be closed if you’re taking a break
Whenever you need to take quick stop, there’s no need to worry as it is completely fine to do so. However, one thing to keep in mind when doing so is that you have to make sure the holes of the hoppers are properly closed
The purpose of this is to make sure that no fertiliser will be wasted as there is a possibility that the fertiliser will pour out. This can be bad for your lawn or grass as too much can kill them.
7.
When finished, dampen the soil
After you’re done dispersing the fertiliser, you are going to need to dampen the soil to about an inch. Use either a sprinkler or a hose
8.
Clean up your spreader, hopper and rotating disc
Finally, the last step. When you’re done with all the aforementioned steps, the last thing you need to do is to rinse your spreader, hopper and rotating disc. It is best to use a hose for this one so as to make sure that there are no residues of the fertiliser left
Before walking around the lawn and dispersing the fertiliser, it is quite essential to have an idea of what the total area of your lawn is. This helps you determine how large your lawn is and therefore helps you determine how much you need to coverTo do this, you need to take out your tape measure and measure both the length and the width of the area of your lawn. After getting the measurement for the two, just multiply the two numbers to get the total area
Make sure the spreader is set aside along the sidewalk or driveway. This ensures that in the event that spills will occur, it will be easy to just clean them up
Distribution amount can be found in the fertiliser package. It is imperative that you refer to them to ensure that your fertiliser amount is just right. Using the area measurement you have gotten, check the package to determine the corresponding amount of fertiliser for the measurement of your lawn
Typically, the distribution is in the range of 1 up to 10. Once you have figured out the proper distribution rate, you may adjust the level which is found on the spreader. The level can also be the rate dial
Final Thoughts
Dispersing fertiliser all throughout your lawn and garden can certainly be a hassle but by following the right steps and the precautionary measures, you should be okay. Just remember the key is in the details: proper amount of fertiliser, right flow control as well as distribution rate, and the measurement of your law. When you have all of these things settled, you should be good to go
There you have it, folks! I hope you enjoyed this article. Should you have any other suggestions, comments or suggestions, please do not hesitate to leave them down below. I’ll see you on the next article!
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Some kids want to grow up to be pro basketball players or astronauts; my daughter on the other hand wants to grow up to become a unicorn. Lots of parents still tell their children often that they can grow up to be whatever they want to be. That’s all well and good unless your daughter wants to become a unicorn or your son is 16 years of age, only 5’5″, and wants to play for the Chicago Bulls. If your 16 year old has unrealistic pro sports dreams without a backup plan such as a college education or goals outside of these pro sports dream, then you are failing them as a parent by saying “you can be anything you want to be”. The odds of my daughter becoming a unicorn when she grows up are zero. I can respond with “that would be so much fun to become a unicorn, but we don’t get to change species when we grow up, although it is fun to pretend to be a unicorn now though”.
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Don’t dole out poor advice and absolutes that simply are not true in the real world. Evaluate the advice you are giving your kids: Is is true or realistic? Is it helpful or harmful to them in the longterm?
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Below are some of the common words of advice that parents are still using today that need to stop, along with suggestions regarding what should actually be said.
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2. “Everything will be ok.”
How do parents know everything will be ok? Parents are not fortune tellers, so sometimes it’s best not to use that phrase, especially when it is not helpful.
If your child’s best friend is dying of Leukaemia, it’s unrealistic and actually harmful to your child to say “everything will be ok”. Often to a child that phrase is internalized that things will turn out how they want them to turn out. To this child, that phrase can thus be interpreted in their mind that their friend will be cured and coming back to school soon. You don’t know if that is the case, especially in a situation where things are deemed “terminal” of “highly unlikely”.
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3. “Boys don’t cry.”
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4. “Push through the pain.”
This lie can do actual physical harm to children. I was a runner for years and I had a coach that used to say “you need to run through the pain”. I was just a teen, but took those words seriously. I pushed through the pain and ended up with eight stress fracture and missing state finals with the team as a result of the injuries. Pain is a way our body signals to us that something is not right.
Discomfort is one thing, but to tell a child to push through actual pain is harmful. Instead, teach your child to listen to the signals from their body. Is it discomfort they are feeling or is it actual pain? Teach them to distinguish between the two and to get help if they are truly injured.
My hobby of running was ruined for a lifetime. Other athletes have done the same, creating so much injury in their body that they can never again enjoy their hobby. Don’t kill your child’s love for a hobby or sport by making it no longer possible because of a permanent physical injury.
5. “You can be anything you want to be.”
This was discussed above in the article. A better approach to this topic of their future is to be an encouragement to your child in regard to their hopes and dreams, but also the voice of reality (in a kind and sensitive manner).
As a parent, help them stay grounded in reality so that they can set life goals and ambitions that are attainable. You don’t want them to feel totally and utterly like a failure in life when they learn they are not making the pros with no other goals or prospects for the future even entertained. Don’t squash dreams, but help them also think about realistic and attainable goals, even if you have to present the idea to them as a “backup plan”. At least it will get them thinking about various, more realistic options, rather than one lofty goal that has less than a 1% chance of happening.
6. “Just be yourself and everything will be fine.”
This one can be especially hard on kids socially. Sometimes their behavior or actions are not socially accepted or welcomed by friends. If your daughter has a habit of “giving her friends a piece of her mind” every time they upset her, because that is just who she is as a person, then perhaps it’s time to make some adjustments. Just being yourself does not always have the best outcome. Sometimes it has negative outcomes. Your daughter will lose friends by giving them a piece of her mind on a regular basis.
Not all of our propensity traits are good ones. Sometimes we need to learn to manage the bad ones. More harm than good will be done in your daughter’s social circle if being herself alienates people. Let your child know it’s ok to be themselves unless they are doing something illegal, unethical, immoral, or harmful to others.
Being ourselves is not always acceptable to others and that is something that can help us decide if we need to make changes in ourselves or find new friends. The choice for change is up to each individual, which is more empowering than the falsehood that if you act like yourself all will be ok.
7. “Focus on the future and you will be a success.”
Whatever happened to allowing kids to be kids? It can do more harm than good when parents push their kids toward success by “focusing on the future”. Children in elementary school do not need to be thinking about what sports and extra curricular activities will help them get into a great college. So many adults and young adults self medicating with alcohol and drugs just because they have been stressing about their future since they were small children.
There will always be a future, stressing about it in childhood is more likely to lead to earlier burnout. It is also more likely to push the child toward bad habits and choices in order to self medicate and relieve stress. Don’t push your child toward bad choices or burnout by stressing them out about their future. Allow your child to be a child and to experience the present.
Psychology Today discussed research that found happy people were more successful in life.[1] Research also showed that happier people are better equipped to handle stress in life. Allow your child happiness by letting them live in and enjoy the present. Don’t put their childhood in fast forward by having them focus on the future. Happy children and people live their lives in the present and not the future. Children will be more successful if you allow them the joy of living in the present and not the future.
8. “All you need for success in life is to work hard.”
This piece of advice is a farce that some families embrace for generations. Just because someone works 16 hours a day and does their job well doesn’t mean they are going to be a success. People can be working at a dead end job with no chance of promotion. Working smart will give you a better chance at success than hard work alone.
Working hard is a good trait, but it needs to be paired with working smart. Say a family has two children. They grow up and one believes that hard work is the key to success so he stays in the same job working up and getting promoted, yet he works 16 hours a day and can only be promoted so far in the company because he doesn’t have any special skills. The other child believes in working smart. This person tries to take courses and equip himself with new skills. He selects a career field that is in high demand. He continues to climb higher in his career field afterwards. The second sibling has more opportunities because he isn’t limited because of not having any skills. The second sibling sees a career field that is in demand, so he equips himself with skills needed in that field. Both have worked hard, but the second worked smarter because they aren’t going to dead end in their career because of not having a degree.
This is just an example. Not all careers and jobs require special skills or a college education, but you need to help your child figure out what their idea of success in their desired career looks like. Help them see what decisions need to be made, to make smarter moves toward achieving that goal. Work smart to achieve, not overworking yourself into a dead end.
Every Single Piece of Advice Parents Give Does Matter
Many parents may have recognized themselves in some of these advice scenarios. Most parents mean well, as they want their children to grow up to be successful and happy.
However, you can now see that some of the advice parents are giving needs to be changed. Recognizing the problem is the first key toward change. Next is developing a plan for what you will say the next time the subject arises.
Having a plan for what you will say will help you be prepared to provide helpful advice that will benefit your child in the long term. Write down your new found advice so that you can reflect and remember the wisdom or advice you want to pass onto your child to help them.
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Below are some of the common words of advice that parents are still using today that need to stop, along with suggestions regarding what should actually be said.
1. “Do as I say, not as I do.”
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2. “Everything will be ok.”
How do parents know everything will be ok? Parents are not fortune tellers, so sometimes it’s best not to use that phrase, especially when it is not helpful.
If your child’s best friend is dying of Leukaemia, it’s unrealistic and actually harmful to your child to say “everything will be ok”. Often to a child that phrase is internalized that things will turn out how they want them to turn out. To this child, that phrase can thus be interpreted in their mind that their friend will be cured and coming back to school soon. You don’t know if that is the case, especially in a situation where things are deemed “terminal” of “highly unlikely”.
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3. “Boys don’t cry.”
I don’t know who made up this lie, but it is a doozy. When parents say this to their sons, they are denying them their feeling, sending them the message that they need to hold back their emotions, and the society ends up with a whole lot of men who repress their emotions.
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4. “Push through the pain.”
This lie can do actual physical harm to children. I was a runner for years and I had a coach that used to say “you need to run through the pain”. I was just a teen, but took those words seriously. I pushed through the pain and ended up with eight stress fracture and missing state finals with the team as a result of the injuries. Pain is a way our body signals to us that something is not right.
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5. “You can be anything you want to be.”
This was discussed above in the article. A better approach to this topic of their future is to be an encouragement to your child in regard to their hopes and dreams, but also the voice of reality (in a kind and sensitive manner).
As a parent, help them stay grounded in reality so that they can set life goals and ambitions that are attainable. You don’t want them to feel totally and utterly like a failure in life when they learn they are not making the pros with no other goals or prospects for the future even entertained. Don’t squash dreams, but help them also think about realistic and attainable goals, even if you have to present the idea to them as a “backup plan”. At least it will get them thinking about various, more realistic options, rather than one lofty goal that has less than a 1% chance of happening.
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This one can be especially hard on kids socially. Sometimes their behavior or actions are not socially accepted or welcomed by friends. If your daughter has a habit of “giving her friends a piece of her mind” every time they upset her, because that is just who she is as a person, then perhaps it’s time to make some adjustments. Just being yourself does not always have the best outcome. Sometimes it has negative outcomes. Your daughter will lose friends by giving them a piece of her mind on a regular basis.
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Being ourselves is not always acceptable to others and that is something that can help us decide if we need to make changes in ourselves or find new friends. The choice for change is up to each individual, which is more empowering than the falsehood that if you act like yourself all will be ok.
7. “Focus on the future and you will be a success.”
Whatever happened to allowing kids to be kids? It can do more harm than good when parents push their kids toward success by “focusing on the future”. Children in elementary school do not need to be thinking about what sports and extra curricular activities will help them get into a great college. So many adults and young adults self medicating with alcohol and drugs just because they have been stressing about their future since they were small children.
There will always be a future, stressing about it in childhood is more likely to lead to earlier burnout. It is also more likely to push the child toward bad habits and choices in order to self medicate and relieve stress. Don’t push your child toward bad choices or burnout by stressing them out about their future. Allow your child to be a child and to experience the present.
Psychology Today discussed research that found happy people were more successful in life.[1] Research also showed that happier people are better equipped to handle stress in life. Allow your child happiness by letting them live in and enjoy the present. Don’t put their childhood in fast forward by having them focus on the future. Happy children and people live their lives in the present and not the future. Children will be more successful if you allow them the joy of living in the present and not the future.
8. “All you need for success in life is to work hard.”
This piece of advice is a farce that some families embrace for generations. Just because someone works 16 hours a day and does their job well doesn’t mean they are going to be a success. People can be working at a dead end job with no chance of promotion. Working smart will give you a better chance at success than hard work alone.
Working hard is a good trait, but it needs to be paired with working smart. Say a family has two children. They grow up and one believes that hard work is the key to success so he stays in the same job working up and getting promoted, yet he works 16 hours a day and can only be promoted so far in the company because he doesn’t have any special skills. The other child believes in working smart. This person tries to take courses and equip himself with new skills. He selects a career field that is in high demand. He continues to climb higher in his career field afterwards. The second sibling has more opportunities because he isn’t limited because of not having any skills. The second sibling sees a career field that is in demand, so he equips himself with skills needed in that field. Both have worked hard, but the second worked smarter because they aren’t going to dead end in their career because of not having a degree.
This is just an example. Not all careers and jobs require special skills or a college education, but you need to help your child figure out what their idea of success in their desired career looks like. Help them see what decisions need to be made, to make smarter moves toward achieving that goal. Work smart to achieve, not overworking yourself into a dead end.
Every Single Piece of Advice Parents Give Does Matter
Many parents may have recognized themselves in some of these advice scenarios. Most parents mean well, as they want their children to grow up to be successful and happy.
However, you can now see that some of the advice parents are giving needs to be changed. Recognizing the problem is the first key toward change. Next is developing a plan for what you will say the next time the subject arises.
Having a plan for what you will say will help you be prepared to provide helpful advice that will benefit your child in the long term. Write down your new found advice so that you can reflect and remember the wisdom or advice you want to pass onto your child to help them.
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[1]^Psychology Today: Happy People Succeed
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