#anyways would have problematic age gap sex w her

[woundthatswallows]

wilfs (widow i'd like to fuck)

[thealternatemind]

hi ty for ur post on ur thoughts abt widojest, as someone who is bi and in a relationship w the opp sex, it’s been rly rly disheartening to see so many queer fans be so unintentionally cruel abt this reveal ? caleb being in love w jes doesn’t negate beaus feelings for her nor does it negate the soft reveal of his attraction to essek, which was also so exciting!! anyways thank u much appreciated i’ve been seeing a lot of rly harsh things untagged lol

Of course! ❤️ I want to do whatever I can in order to make sure bi/pan people feel welcomed no matter where they go. As a bisexual person myself, I grew up with a lot of internalized biphobia. I was convinced that bisexuality didn’t exist for a very long time, and this bred a lot of self-hate and confusion in myself. Even after I discovered my identity, I identified as a lesbian for around two years because, as a bi woman with a lot of queer friends, I was afraid of my attraction to men. I thought that it made me “less than.” I have experienced disgusting biphobia from both close friends and an ex-girlfriend. This stuff is maybe tmi, but I think this journey is incredibly important when considering how I feel regarding the current widojest situation. I still struggle with internalized biphobia in terms of my self identity. I’m trying to change that, and seeing bisexual characters in the media helps a lot.

I think a lot of the reasons for my internalized biphobia have to do with my time in fandom culture. I’m 21 now, and I’ve been deeply involved with fandom culture since I was maybe 12 or 13. I have seen the same stuff time and time again. It’s like fandoms recycle the same biphobic nonsense every few months. In several fandoms I have been in, I’ve seen the argument that a bisexual (or presumed, in this case) character in a m/f relationship is “straight” and “not gay enough.” I went into this in my other post, but by god is that damaging to bi/pan fans!

I don’t think I was completely clear about this in my other post, but I also want to emphasize that a ship doesn’t need to be “problematic” in order for you to dislike it. Sometimes, you can just dislike a ship because it interferes with one that you like more. That’s alright, and you don’t need to justify that dislike by making that ship “problematic,” again, especially if it hurts bisexual people in the process. I also want to touch base on the age gap: Jester and Caleb are both consenting adults. The age gap is not an issue because they are both of age. I am 21 (a legal, consenting adult), and I would date Caleb if I was given the chance. Have you guys seen him????

But anyway, the outward cruelty and negativity that I’ve seen toward fans based off of a ship is... disheartening to say the least. Caleb can be in love with multiple people at once, and honestly, can we blame him for being in love with Jester? I would be too! It’s hard being a bi critter, being in love with every character lmao... Caleb’s crush also, as you said, doesn’t at all interfere with Beau’s crush. Or Fjord’s crush, for that matter. It’s great that Caleb is likely attracted to Essek, and it’s great that he has a crush on Jester. Why is that great? Bisexual representation! Bi rights!

I really wish some people would remember one of our best fandom phrases: “don’t forget to love each other.” There is no point in being horrendously cruel and negative toward fans that share a mutual love with you.

Fandom culture was created out of that love and a deep, deep passion shared by many different people. Let’s try focusing that love on each other. ❤️