#anons for bisluthq

[bisluthq]

https://www.tumblr.com/bisluthq/761158838742335488/love-how-yall-are-calling-out-taylor-hugging?source=share

Anon is joking but I literally just saw someone comparing Taylor hugging Brittany with her hugging her mom but not agreeing with her politics. As in she has to live with and hug her mom, the same way Taylor has to with Brittany

… I also think again Swifties miss that this woman is a billionaire. Yes, if you depend on your parents or you’re underage then there’s fuck all you can do about their political opinions. Also if your parents or other family members are weird and even if you don’t depend on them like obviously you can’t be a complete asshole. I have this legit homophobic uncle (also the guy who tried to like shoot his now ex wife’s then lover, he’s just a crazy dude lol) and my dad is not close to him because of a bunch of stuff and he was SUPER weird when my ex and I were together and my dad got pissed at him about that (also other things) and now I’m with a guy so that man has tried to be nice to us again and both my dad and I are like “eh you’re kinda a trashy human tho we’re not sure we forgive you” lol but we still have him at big family functions and we still are both relatively nice to him and we both like all the pictures he posts on FB (and the ones his new new wife posts). Anyway like we don’t dig him per se but he’s my dad’s brother/my uncle. We deal with it. We aren’t THAT nice to him because we don’t depend on him but he’s still our relative so 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ whatever.

Brittany’s Tay’s bf’s work husband’s wife.

That’s really not the same thing. You shouldn’t throw stuff at them or be a compete cunt but cuddling your bf’s work husband’s wife is really not necessary lol even if she’s not a Trumpie. You can just be nice to her. You def don’t need to cuddle the Trumpie one.

[whatiwillsay]

submission: we need to talk about ttb (spade-riddles)

Hey Cam. Seeing that ask defending TTB’s doxxing has sort of pushed me to finally share some of my story on Tumblr, I guess. I haven’t had the opportunity to talk about this to anyone fully, so this will probably be long, but I hope you don’t mind me venting.

I’m one of the people that got emailed by TTB. I don’t feel comfortable posting this off anon, but I was in a Discord server with you and @bisluthq and some other people back in Dec/Jan. I don’t know if you remember me, but my name on there was one word and began with an L and ended with an S.

I want to share the full story, but I also don’t feel comfortable with sharing certain details publicly because I’m still very wary of getting outed further by her if she sees this, so I’m gonna be vague about some things

Request to her followers — If you see this, please don’t send this to her. Like I’m genuinely asking you not to because I don’t trust her not to cross any more lines. My dad is a major homophobe with serious anger issues who has literally been arrested for violence before, and she doesn’t really think carefully or maybe even care about how any actions she takes could lead to people being harmed, so I’m not eager to see how she might react.

Anyway, I first got an email back in December, and I was really freaked out by it at first. I spoke to one of my mutuals about it, and although we both agreed it was super weird and invasive and creepy, we ended up trying to see the funny side of it. So, I kinda just brushed it off and moved on. I was mainly just really confused about why I had been targeted because at the time, I thought it was only me who’d gotten an email like that. I didn’t understand why she’d specifically targeted me instead of other people who she clearly disliked a lot more.

About a week later, I saw someone on Tumblr mentioning a strange email, and I realised other people must have gotten them too. I spoke to Nat about what happened to me and ended up in the Discord

At the time, I felt like I’d gotten off really easy comparatively to others because I initially didn’t realise that she’d contacted anyone else. And so I tried to act chill about it because I didn’t want to make things about me, but honestly, I was extremely anxious. I felt on edge for over a week. I would keep checking her blog again and again because I was super worried that she would post our personal details publicly. I scrolled through my entire blog from start to finish and deleted a lot of posts that were either personal or that I just didn’t want anyone I knew in real life to read.

This part I have to be vague about because it would basically give away who I am, but it was only a while later when I thought I was in the clear that someone I knew in real life texted me and mentioned seeing a weird email about me. The email had been sent a while back, and they’d been shown it by the original recipient/s. Multiple people had been shown it, but luckily (kinda), only two of those people were actually people I saw on a regular basis

I’m mostly closeted, but I’m kind of technically out to a few of my immediate family members. But it’s very much a DADT situation because they’re not accepting, and they like to just pretend I’m straight. And so I basically have to act closeted even when I’m around them, and I can’t even ALLUDE to being gay.

But with my dad, it’s different. He’s very homophobic. I’m only gonna mention this next part so that people understand what kind of dangerous situation that TTB could have put me in. (And the other people that she doxxed too because she didn’t know how safe their individual situations were). It’s all really personal, and I wouldn’t ordinarily feel comfortable sharing any of this at all, even anonymously, but I think it needs to be said because her actions were extremely fucking irresponsible.

Right, so when I first “came out” to my dad, it was actually an accident, and he reacted… extremely badly. This was back in like… 2018 or 2019, I can’t remember the exact year

(TW // physical abuse, homophobia)

He was extremely angry, literally shaking. He yelled at me, he described in graphic detail how he was going to “break every bone in my body”, ���strangle the life out of me”, “drown me”, etc. He kept telling me that I’m disgusting and going to Hell, you get the idea. He was having a lot of fun with making strangling motions and stabbing motions with his hands, and he kept slamming his hand onto the table. That went on for about 15 minutes, and then he stood up and threw a chair from the dining table at me. That was fun lol. And he punched me in the head pretty hard which kinda knocked me back. I felt dizzy, I had to sit down on the floor. At that point, my mum who had been crying and asking him to stop physically intervened, and he ended up storming out of the house instead. My mum’s a genuinely good person btw. She’s a little homophobic, but she cares about me a lot, and I’m very grateful for her. She hates him too, but she’s kinda stuck with him… It wasn’t her fault

He literally hates gay people. He complains about us on the regular. One time, he threw the remote at the TV and cracked the screen just because there was a gay male couple kissing onscreen. Another time, he threw a rock at a gay man on the street. There was also a time where he forced a few of my siblings (who didn’t want to do it) to throw peeled oranges out of the window at people celebrating pride while he drove past them and yelled insults at them. He found that really funny. Anyway, I’m sure you guys get the idea of what kind of person he is

He hasn’t laid a hand on anybody in several months though, so I do think he’s trying to be better at least. Like he’s still verbally abusive and controlling and awful, but I appreciate that he’s at least making an effort to calm down with the hitting and kicking and stuff

Anyway, with my dad, it’s less DADT and more that I think he’s got it in his head that he managed to scare me into “seeing the error of my ways” and that I’ve “stopped choosing to be gay” and that I’m now straight. So, if it had been HIM who had gotten that email, it would’ve been like… extremely bad. Like I’m getting anxious just thinking about it. And this is why I’m so angry at TTB. It was extremely, extremely irresponsible of her to not consider these kinds of possibilities before she sent out her stupid emails. She’s supposed to be an ally, but it didn’t even cross her mind that these emails would lead to people being outed and possibly even harmed?? It’s not okay at all. I’m just very grateful that she didn’t send one to him because I don’t even know what kind of situation I would be in right now.

Anyway, enough about my fucking awful dad… I feel uncomfortable that I even typed all of that out, but I wanted people to understand how dangerous her actions could have been. Like I mean, my dad’s got PTSD and extreme anger issues from his teenage years, so I do try not to judge him TOO harshly, but there’s no excuse for being a huge bigot or occasionally violent. The idea of him being the one who got that email is still so scary to me. Like my heart is racing just thinking about it

One of the people that DID read the email was the male friend I mentioned earlier though. He was shown it by someone else for a particular reason, and he was a very important person to me. Like he was a good guy, we were close, he helped me out with certain personal issues I have and is one of only two people that I know in real life that I felt comfortable confiding in about them. We’d always meet up once a week, sometimes twice, and we’d just talk about stuff and make an effort to help each other out with things. Like he was very important to me.

It turns out that he’d looked through my blog before I’d got around to scrubbing it, and he asked me if I was gay in person the next time we met up. I couldn’t lie because like… he’d have known I was lying right to his face. So, I told him I was, and you should have seen his face. It made me feel so awful about myself. He looked really stunned and shocked and kinda uncomfortable. Like it got so awkward, and I started rambling and making things worse. He was avoiding eye contact, and my voice was shaking.

I ended up making up an excuse to leave about 5 mins later and had an actual anxiety attack. Again, this is embarrassing and something I’d never usually talk about online, but I just want to get it all off my chest so that I can move past it all.

So, I was like on the verge of tears (I don’t cry easily), I couldn’t breathe properly, I was pacing around the building, and I just wanted to escape, so I headed straight for the doors. There was a queue of about 100 people lined up and waiting to leave, and I couldn’t think straight or breathe and just needed to be outside, so I tried to go out through the other exit which is for staff only. The security guard stopped me and basically publicly humiliated me in front of all of those people. He loudly shamed me and said I “didn’t have any decency” for attempted to jump the queue, lectured me in this really condescending tone, and then sent me right to the back of that huge line. Meanwhile, I was literally in the midst of a bad anxiety attack.

And then I eventually got outside and had to call my mum to come and pick me up instead of just making my own way home like I usually do. She’s amazing though tbh because she actually came to get me and didn’t even question why. I had to skip all of my plans for the rest of the day and instead just hid upstairs in my bedroom with the lights off until the next day. I refused to tell any of my family members what had happened even though they kept asking. I just felt so, so awful, and my anxiety was through the roof

To be honest, before that happened, my mindset was like: “I mean, if I get outed, it obviously wouldn’t be good, but I think I’d be able to deal with it fine”. But then, when it actually happened, and I saw the way my close friend reacted, I had like a whole emotional breakdown lol. It’s like, you think you’d be fairly chill in a situation, but when it actually happens, your reaction can be really unpredictable. I was so embarrassed by everything about that entire incident. I didn’t even want to show my face the next day.

It’s been almost two months since that happened, and in that entire time, my friend has contacted me once. We literally used to meet up once or twice a week (and during lockdown, we’d do video calls or phone calls instead), but since then, we’ve barely even spoken. Things are just so awkward now. I know this sounds stupid, but I feel like TTB’s taken one of my best friends away from me. I don’t think he’s a homophobe or anything, he has openly gay friends and is fairly accepting, but I think it’s just the way that he found out that has just made things so weird between us now. I feel like if I’d had the chance to come out to him myself in my own way, he wouldn’t have reacted like that. But I’m gonna text him next week and see if we can maybe try to fix our friendship, but I doubt it at this point

The other people who were shown the email, I mostly just avoid. I don’t really care about them knowing that much because I wasn’t close to them, but it’s just really embarrassing knowing that they probably scrolled through my Tumblr blog before I scrubbed it

And about Tumblr… This used to be the only place that I could fully be myself. It was like a “safe space” for me which feels ironic now. But I haven’t been active on my blog since December. I still lurk occasionally, but I just don’t feel comfortable here anymore. I did consider deleting my current blog and starting afresh with a new one, but I don’t think it’d make much of a difference… Like she’s kind of ruined Tumblr for me. I do still enjoy reading people’s blogs every now and then, but I don’t feel relaxed here anymore, I just feel on edge.

It’s mainly the fact that SHE’S still here. She still has a platform, she still has a bunch of followers. It’s been so hard seeing her face next to no consequences whatsoever for the horrible things that she’s done to so many different people. And it upsets me that she hasn’t even acknowledged that what she did was wrong. Plus, it makes me feel even worse that the Hard Kay blogs and some other people are still supporting her and pretending that this whole thing just didn’t happen. Like do they just not care? Or is it that she’s twisted things and made them believe that the situation was different to what it actually was?

And tbh, this whole situation has even set me back in my own sort of personal self-acceptance journey. I had such bad internalised homophobia when I was younger, and it took me so many years to get to a place where I had mostly accepted myself. But now I just feel ashamed again, and I’ve gone back to my old habit of trying to force myself to be attracted to men. Like I downloaded Tinder the other day and set my preference to men and was swiping through profiles. It’s kinda silly actually. I did snap out of it and delete the app the next day though. But I don’t know, I feel like this whole thing has just kinda fucked with me a bit. I am trying to work this stuff out and get back to normal though. I think I’ll be good again in maybe a month or so, hopefully.

And… yeah. I just really resent her, and this situation upsets me. Because the reason she did this was so petty and ridiculous, and I guess she didn’t even realise how much it would impact people? Like I do know that my situation wasn’t as bad as some of the other people’s situations, and I feel really bad for them, and I hope they’re all doing okay. I can’t imagine what it must have been like for them. But it still has impacted me a lot more than I actually thought it would. I thought I’d get over it within a couple of weeks. But it’s been like two months, and I’m still not completely over it

I know it might not sound like a huge thing, but being outed really does affect you, even if it’s only to a few people. Because to me, I feel like I’ve had my sense of like, security and comfort taken away, and it’s kinda distressing. Sorry if I sound dramatic with any of this, I just really needed to say all of this stuff to other people besides myself lol

Like her actions have literally led to me being outed to a few people. A close friendship that I had has basically been ruined. I don’t feel comfortable or secure on Tumblr anymore, even though it used to be an important outlet for me. I’ve had a resurgence of anxiety about my sexuality. Etc.

And again, my dad is extremely homophobic and literally made death threats to me and physically attacked me back when I accidentally came out to him in 2018 or 2019. And if he had gotten that email, I don’t even know what would have happened. I don’t think he would have like… SERIOUSLY physically harmed me, but there would definitely have been a repeat of the first incident. More throwing chairs at me and hitting and screaming and death threats. I don’t really want to think about it.

It just bothers me that she didn’t even consider that? Like did it not even cross her mind? And my dad is bad, but I’m sure there are people in the fandom who have even worse parents, and she could have got one of those people instead. It’s just so… I don’t know, it’s just so frustrating to me.

Anyway, I just hate her for what she did… Like maybe I shouldn’t, but I really do resent her so much, and I don’t think I could forgive her even if she apologised to us all (which I don’t think she even would because she doesn’t seem to have any decency whatsoever). The least she could do is at least express some kind of remorse, but she just genuinely doesn’t care, and that’s super messed up. All over some stupid Tumblr blog that is much less important than she thinks it is.

But anyway… I apologise for the whole rant, and if anybody read all the way down to here, I appreciate it. I do actually feel a bit better now that I’ve got this all typed out. And I’m sorry for the oversharing lol, I usually don’t do this, but I just felt like I really needed to tell people and get it off my chest so that I can try to get over it — L

submisssion⬆️⬆️⬆️

ok L i am trying to remain calm here because this isn’t about me.  but i am very emotional right now.  i am so so so infinitely sorry that you had to go through this harrowing and terrifying experience.  ttb (now blogging under spade-riddles) is absolutely disgusting, lower than dirt, that she would put your life, safety, and well-being at risk over a fucking kaylor blog.

please please please im me or get in touch somehow because i want to offer you support.  have you been financially impacted by this?  we can raise money.  do you need therapy?  we can help you find the support you need.  this community is unequivocally here for you.  whatever you need, if it’s in my power to help you get it, i will.  you have my solemn promise on that.

i am so deeply and desperately sorry that you have gone through this.  i was shaking while reading your story.

i am in touch with other people and we are in discussion about the best way to let tumblr know what happened.  this will be a safe space for you (and all of us) again if it’s the last thing i do.  this community is 100% here for you in any way we can help, sending you all the support and love we have.

[maria-eve-falcon]

Do you know some fic about swift and Alwyn??? In my head I have this storie of Joe coming home from the rehearsal/shooting of Cwf and meeting Taylor, cause they where together during the filming. And he would describe the scenes he did that day and Taylor will immediately get "inspired" and wanted to give J a extra rehearsal 😌🔥. Wonder if there is someone who could write it for me..... 👀👀👀

hmm I could but I am really lazy yk?

I haven't seen the existing one one but @bisluthq(nat) had written one about when they meet after tay goes to belfast

and I have the one in croatia so

here!: nat's three part

anon on youareinlovees

there are loads of fics @youareinlovees @jaylorfanfics @jaylorfics-blog @towearhisinitial @joeandtaylorfanfiction and more! even in mine but mine aren't that good.

[karliesbuzzcut]

TTB and Spade Riddles are innocent.

They are being slandered and defamed.

They have done nothing wrong.

They did not out anybody.

Everyone is lying.

Deactivate.

Or instead sign your blog name in the apology letter that @bisluthq is going to write.

TTB and Spade Riddles will always prevail over toxic "Gaylor" and Toe blogs.

I really like that this anon went through the whole trouble of adding a touch of colour to their grumpy message. Do it for the aesthetic, gurl ✊

[taylortruther]

yeah, grammygate. bisluthq's gf took over her blog and has been beefing with anons

i don't think grammygate was that big of a deal but the content of nat's blog has nothing to do with me, gang

eta: oh i see this was in response to me asking what we're fighting about today. idk, i was hoping for a little more razzle dazzle with my drama but it's a slow week in swiftieland

[kaylorfails]

Omg dots anon just visited you!! See that long ask with no space between punctuation marks? Yeah. Basically, they’ve been around on the bisluthq blog forever. They keep sending cracked out anons, from hard Kaylor to ‘joe should dump Taylor’ to now tily. Whenever Nat (the person who runs bisluthq) went hard against a certain theory (like Kaylor), they pivoted to some other form of crackheadery, and she always told them off for beinf crazy lol. Check the dots anon tag on her blog if you want more info. However, Nat’s on a break right now, so dots anon has no one to yell at them and is sending asks to random anti and gaylor blogs alike (mostly those Nat reblogged) 💀💀

Dots look! You're famous!

[justzawe]

not that anon but nat is bisluthq

Oh ok

[justkarliekloss]

I saw a few anons in that bisluthq blog and frankly it's very disturbing. I didnt really write anything there because that would be just adding to the vile atmosphere but, I don't know anyone who follows it so I am writing to you. The only positive thing I really found was that they are helpful to queer people.

I don't know what you want me to say, anon. I've spoken with Nat a few times over dm and she's been very helpful explaining things about Karlie's conversion, and it all has been very friendly. But that's it. I don't follow her blog or keep with what they discuss because it's mostly Taylor related and I'm not interested on her 🤷🏼‍♀️ I know they sometimes talk about Karlie and that I disagree with some comments, opinions and their tone. But that's normal, not everyone is gonna like the person you are a fan of. I wouldn't publicly say those things even if sometimes I think them about other people, but that's me and the way I am online 🤷🏼‍♀️ And I'm not gonna go to someone else's account to tell them how to run their own blog just because I disagree with them.

So I don't know. If you don't like what she talks about, don't check her blog, block her even. And if you enjoy some of her content, block and filter tags and words. It's something Tumblr has and that actually works 😅

[bisluthq]

https://www.tumblr.com/bisluthq/757878611812417536/httpswwwtumblrcombisluthq757859806678843392?source=share

Yeah, lmao, a LOT of people love Stevie Nicks, and Stevie Nicks seems to LOVE a lot of people, including multiple of Taylor’s exes. She did a podcast episode with Matty where she made it very clear that she was a HUGE fan of the 1975, has performed with Harry multiple times and seemingly taken him under her wing, wrote a song about Twilight which then inspired her to get back into making music generally, and introduced herself to Taylor Lautner because of it.

The only one of Taylor’s exes (off the top of my head) that has expressed being a big fan that Stevie hasn't outwardly supported is John (though i do think they've met)💀 he could not shut UP about Stevie Nicks when promoting Half Of My Heart (though to be frank, I think his fixation on Stevie, much like his fixation on Taylor, had very little to do with them as people or artists, and much more to do with the idea of being a 70s rockstar (he played lindsey buckingham's guitar everytime he played that fucking song) and having a duet partner (who he could also fuck). According to Jessica he also DESPERATELY tried to collab on a song of hers that interpolated Dreams, though it ultimately fell through).

Maybe there's something to be said about the Stevie/Taylor comparison occurring around the Fearless era, AKA when she really "made it", but it would be ludicrous to suggest that the mention is ENTIRELY because John Fucking Mayer told her she was "just like Stevie Nicks" 15 years ago, just as it would be ludicrous to say that the ENTIRE reason she mentioned her was because of the Matty connection, though the poem is a little more ~ based on the contents and the Lindsey parallel (which I'm SURE they discussed). If anything, the fact that they performed together during Fearless era (rip grammys 2010) is more of a connection to the "point" of Clara Bow than the John stuff.

fair points yeah. My take is Taylor’s comparison to Stevie is related to Matty yes (and the Lindsey/Stevie thing) but also as someone said it’s kinda her playing with what she’s seen as - Stevie’s this unmarried, childless, an anon said “witchy” presence (which Taylor plays with on WAFOLOM) who everyone admires as an artist and I think Taylor relates to that a lot actually. Same as with Clara Bow right like no one is directly linked to Clara in Taylor’s life but she was this tragic It Girl whose life was ruined by fame. So my feeling is it’s not unrelated to Matty but it’s not just about shit Matty likes/people who like Matty (which Stevie absolutely does).

[bisluthq]

https://www.tumblr.com/bisluthq/757688492549652480/alwyn-bros-seem-emotionally-unavailable-but-good?source=share

That second paragraph seems like a cupcake swiftie trying to stir up shit and asking for validation, cause no one here said Taylor was lying.

Also anon, I hope you're trolling because Nat was just musing a bit. Brynn's song about Patrick sure as hell has nothing to do with Joe or how his relationship was. So like her song is not a proof of anything Joe related FYI. Brynn has no idea if he was or wasn't emotionally distancing. She knew him,but her boyfriend was his brother not him

yea I'm musing on how similarities in upbringing may reflect in similarity in how these guys are. I do think that our upbringings do affect our relationships idk and obviously the relationships between our parents/our relationships with our parents affect how we process things. So there may well be similarities between Joe and Pat. That said, it's also important to note that they have a HUGE age gap and Pat's childhood/teenage years were quite different (Taylor is a factor too there lol like he got exposed to things/experiences Joe and Tom weren't exposed to, but ALSO Richard stopped the traveling when Pat was small whereas he was traveling a lot when Tom and Joe were small so the relationships they witnessed at home would've been slightly different).

and yes Brynn's issues with Pat are - musing about families aside - obviously not a commentary on Taylor and Joe. The former were college aged and dated for around about a year and then broke up for reasons that remain unclear but are still in the same broader friend group although THEY are seemingly on bad terms, and Pat apparently has a new gf which may have irritated Brynn. Taylor and Joe were full blown adults who lived together for like 5 years and were together in general for 6.5 and broke up because Taylor wanted to go back to her ex lmao so those are not really very similar situations at all.

but I do think these guys aren't the best at communicating lmao and that may be a family/upbringing thing. Because psychologists' kids are often a bit fucked in the head lmao.

[bisluthq]

https://www.tumblr.com/bisluthq/757240538954104832/i-dont-think-any-of-those-lyrics-imply-that-they?source=share

Answering your reply to the anon Nat, I have said it before but I think Taylor was trying to pull off a Hannah Montana and get the best of both worlds here. Giving up Joe would mean also their house, friends like a whole bunch of stuff she never had before; but I also think if she still held off for that long was because there was still good moments, they were still bonded somehow. He still was the person the knew her, that she was sure was a grounding safe force. And so she wanted that still, but also wanted the thrill, that rollercoaster passionate feelings of chaos she had with Matty. Like I said the best of both worlds. And if it didn't work out with one of them there would be a plan b.

Ofc this is straight up bonkers, but I think she didn't leave Joe earlier because like there were still good in it and even if she wasn't fully happy it was a safe place to land and definately more trustworthy than Matty. But she also wasn't willing to give up Matty, because he was giving something Joe wasn't and was also promising her stuff that Joe wouldn't. It's like that saying that goes if you try to grasp all, you lose all. Idk how's the saying goes in English but that's the sentiment

that makes sense!

[bisluthq]

https://www.tumblr.com/bisluthq/753110611587710976/you-guys-gotta-stop-saying-stuff-like-shes-the?source=share

Did you mean to describe Taylor herself with this?

And do you really see her as being the perfect partner all the time? Are you really that far up her ass that thinks poor Taylor she just gives them everything and they don't see it? Or maybe that's because there's no such thing as a perfect partner and Taylor like everyone is not perfect. And also doesn't mean that they don't value or see it. Sometimes is simply because things don't work, you are not well suited, you both made mistakes etc. No, Taylor's relationships don't stop working because she's the perfect partner and the men she's with don't see it. I don't even know how you get the idea she's a perfect partner anyway but I digress

yeah I think no one is a perfect partner. We can be good fits for some people and terrible fits for others. There are certain things we can all always work on regardless of partner choice (communication for example, knowing our own values and boundaries, listening to hear not to respond etc) and we can and should make an effort to do things that make our partners happy rather than projecting what we think would but those are ongoing efforts lol. We shouldn’t twist ourselves into pretzels for other people. That doesn’t make you a good partner. A good partnership actually requires two people both compromising and both working on things (but as we’ve said before like it shouldn’t be HARD if it’s THAT HARD then you’re probably with someone who isn’t a great fit and rather take some time to figure your own shit out - and this is a do as I say not as I do teachable moment because I monkey bar or whatever tf that anon called it and have done so for the last 15 years BUT I will also say I’m working on me rn and I’m finding it’s improving my relationship and partnership wise it’s great lol and easy when we’re both yk trying which is something we’ll need to keep doing for the rest of our/his life ideally 💀💀💀)

[bisluthq]

so which one is which… joe alwyn is dating kendall just last week now he’s back with lorene… also not to mention apparently some of his fans wants him be with ellie bamber… or this one quite unknow west end actress… yk what im gonna just go ahead to deuxmoi and start a rumour joe alwyn is dating MEEE!!! 😊

it's so true he's dating anon from bisluthq. source: I said so and ergo it must be true.

[bisluthq]

https://www.tumblr.com/bisluthq/764207755733172224/httpswwwtumblrcombisluthq764142036688519168

hi! responding to this anon’s take, im the anon who sent the original message LOL.

don’t worry LOL im not a stalker of joe’s family or who might have relation to joe (& one of his family members). but i was in the same high school (&year too!) with pat’s newest gf, and we’re following each other on instagram. and no although i wont say who is it, her account is pretty much public so it’s not like im breaching a ‘private wall’ here. hope this clears things out! and yes your concern is pretty much valid but also just like nat said, it’s also a pretty much grey area.

yup that’s my take on this. It’s a grey area. Also like this anon, a lot of people in fandom do genuinely know these people irl so it’s kinda like… idk. Like I’ve said, I know one of Tom’s friends irl so it wouldn’t be a huge leap if one day I met him/his gf or whatever. I wouldn’t necessarily post about it but I also wouldn’t like be overly secretive idk? And that’s like more morally wrong because they are legit private private citizens than the celebutante crowd Pat hangs with. I think if you’re like fully stalking that’s weird but being aware of what’s going on is… pretty normal idk.

[bisluthq]

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(this isnt @ you, nat)

I don't say this to make anyone feel bad, but i'm willing to bet Joe's little brother's new girlfriend is a normie. Joe's little brother himself (although very messy) is still a normie.

I get that they might look cute, but come on anon, you would probably hate it if a complete stranger kept tabs on you because your sibling - with very little social media presence as is - was famous. Those kiddos are what? 20, 21? What if we all took a step back from the people around joe?

Like, niceboy_ed is one thing bc he does release music and shit (good music!) (annoying rollout!) and william is another bc he's ☠️, but everyone else are just normies having a normie lives. These people have locked accounts and alts for a reason.

joe’s little brother has dated several kinda famous girls who aired out their dirty laundry lmao but this new girl is indeed a normie. Brynn has like beefed with her tho online seemingly and Brynn’s not really a normie so eh it’s kinda a grey area for me. Like I do understand keeping tabs on Pat lmao and his messy social circle. No one really stalks Tom yk because he’s legit just a random man but Pat’s like… fame adjacent not just through Joe/Taylor like because his friend group is kinda celebutantey and messy lol. I think it’s a grey area and I don’t have strong feelings about it. If it’s like following real randos then yes that’s a bit eh but if it’s following that friend group of like rich bitch kinda semi influencerish or nepo artsy or legit semi famous kids in NYC eh like I think that’s okay.

[bisluthq]

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You actually gave some good advice Nat! I have been an lacto egg vegetarian for idk like 8 years now? Maybe more. In case someone doesn't know what it means, this is kind of most standard version of being a vegetarian. You still eat eggs and dairy, you don't eat meat, fish and seafood which seems to be what anon is going for too.

Tbh if I were just starting to be vegetarian now I would probably be able to eliminate dairy too. When I started, atleast in my country, you had like 2-3 brands of vegetarian food and even abroad it was a lot harder than it is now to find veggie options in supermarkets and restaurants. So I tried the only brand I could find of soy milk to eliminate milk but I kinda hated it. Now you have soo many alternatives. Soy iogurts to me taste just as good as dairy ones. You have tons of options to put on bread if you don't want to eat cheese.

The other reason why I haven't tried to eliminate more is because I sometimes have phases where I struggle to eat. Nothing to do with being vegetarian, but more to my anxiety. I'm not someone who eats a lot too. So trying to cut down sources of protein, in this case, could actually be irresponsible of me because I probably wouldn't compensate in other ways

All of this to say, if you are just cutting down meat and fish and eating dairy and eggs normally you are consuming protein. If you want something to substitute the meat, tofu and soy are very versatile. Tofu doesn't have any taste by itself, but it absorbs flavors so take that any mind and use condimentos. There's a bunch of recipes online you can find with both of these. Soy bologne is great. Lasagne too. You can do kind of a shepperd's pie using soy. There's certains dishes popular in my country I simply turn them vegetarian by using soy or tofu. Tofu works great for salads. I like eating mixed with scrambled eggs too (that's kind of one of my lazy meals) . Another thing I use for lazy meals are tortillas, because they are so versatile. You know when you're in the mood for a pizza but you don't have it? Just use a tortilla to make one, spread ketchup if you don't have tomato and use whatever toppings you have at home (great to get rid of leftovers)

And if you want something premade, there's tons and tons of brands now that do veggie versions of popular food like burguers, nuggets, meatballs etc. It's a bit of a matter of trial and error, because different brands do different types of the same thing and just because you don't like one doesn't mean you don't like none. Let me tell you that as more brands began to emerge I actually became more picky. I'm much more aware of textures and strong condiments, which usually don't go well with my stomach

yea I think all the new products available make it much easier!! I’m not vegetarian rn and certainly not vegan but I actually love milk alternatives (I use almond for coffee and tea and I also love coconut and oat milk) and yogurt alternatives. I don’t have oats often at all but when I do I like it with those too (and muesli but I can’t think when I last ate muesli). I cook with “real” milk mostly because I find the alternatives add funny flavors but I prefer coffee and tea with the alternatives.

also good point on trying all the different brands of the meat alternatives. Some are super fucking weird but some are reaaaally good.