#anon despite the tone of this im not angry at u just a little frustrated abt This Topic

[badnikbreaker]

You come across as elitist. I'm sure you don't mean to, but I just wanted you to know that it can be intimidating for people who may want to write with you.

normally i would delete this but yknow what. what am i, if not a glutton for punishment, and this is feedback i've gotten before. i just genuinely don't understand how.

my rules outright beg mutuals to send me asks and write me starters unprompted. i regularly encourage people to just assign our muses a pre-established relationship. i am constantly posting and reblogging opens and prompts and starter calls. i am nothing but encouraging in inviting my mutuals to write with me. i send ppl prompts all the time. i am doing just about everything short of DMing each mutual individually to be like 'can we write pwease?'

like, who am i being elitist to? because i'm sure as hell not being elitist to mutuals, since i am pleading with them to write with me, and i'm allowed to have boundaries about not writing with nonmutuals. if THAT'S what you mean, you don't take issue with me being elitist, the issue is me having boundaries. is it cause i write with the same handful of people a lot? some of that is because those folks are my friends, most of it is that those folks are the ones who actually write with me, who like my starter calls and send me asks and answer my asks and et cetera. like, what is my "it" that can be intimidating? is it just me like...liking my own writing? not visibly hating myself?

i know this answer is coming across as bitchy, and i'm genuinely sorry about that. i believe with all my heart that this wasn't meant to be a mean message. but this is a genuinely baffling and hurtful thing to hear when i am begging in my literal rules for my mutuals to write with me. when i am constantly throwing out opens and prompts to make it easy to do that. when i am so open about my willingness to come up with aus or verses to justify writing with pretty much any muse. when i am honest about how i'm not great at plotting but i'm always happy to do so when folks bring me an idea! when i am saying 'it doesn't have to be hard, let's just have fun!' like, i genuinely don't know what more i could be doing.