#and. again. i am not saying the show is flawless women representation or whatever

[bybdolan]

sorrrryyy more game of thrones posting but one thing that has been on my mind quite a bit while thinking about the show is the question "how much of its misogynistic reputation actually is the fanbase's fault?" and I am not arguing game of thrones is some piece of flawless feminist media, god forbid, but I was genuinely surprised by the sheer amount of well written female characters and how well a lot of them actually hold up, because people in my corner of the internet have treated it like this ugly beacon of modern misogyny. (Looking back this is deeeply ironic when considering what shows a lot of the tumblr userbase was watching at the time.) However. then I watch any video related to the show and go into the comment section and am HIT with a wave of nasty evil disgusting sexism usually only found in AITA reddit comment sections. and then i get it.

[marwritesgood]

Sweet Pea Dating a WoC would include...

A/N: 

Day 10 of 31 Days of Christmas

This includes a small thread of bulletpoints, and will soon include links to individual posts, dedicated to different racial groups, because I want to ensure that I am as inclusive as I can be, however if you feel that something important is missing, or that something can be added then, by all means, let me know and I’ll add it in. 

I know, firsthand, that with all of these fanfictions that almost always seem to have a white main character, and even all of these readers-inserts that somehow end up catering to people only with fair skin and other popular European traits, us women color can often feel left out and forgotten.

It is a truly indescribably hollow feeling when we are not represented in just about anything. It can make us feel like maybe we just don’t deserve to read books that have characters with similar descriptions to what we look like. If I had a dollar for every time I felt small because of the under-representation of my people, I would have enough money to make my own blockbuster film with actual WoC (s/o to you Scarlette Johannsen & Jennifer Lawrence) who have actual personalities.

But that is a  very long conversation for another day. So, I dedicate this one to all of my black, brown, beige, African, Latina, South, East and Middle Eastern-Asian, Pacific Island and Native American sisters.

Okay, first of all lemme begin by saying that if Sweet Pea was ever with you when an idiot makes racist remarks towards, you bet your ass his eyes will ignite and Sweet Pea Protective Boyfriend 2.0 will be unleashed.

It could be something even so small as a weird look

Or a suspicious one from a shop-keeper

To something much bigger than a person who felt the urge to actually approach and say something racist

“Go back to your country”

“Stop stealing all of our jobs”

“This is America. Speak English”

“Make America Great Again”

It doesn’t matter how minor or major the encounter was

Or even if Sweet was there with you

Like, if he was with you he would go balistic on the person, and/or just wrap a protective arm around you and walk you away from whoever it was that bothered you.

“My baby is one of the many things that make this country amazing”

“Did you ever stop to think that maybe you’re just not as qualified?”

“I’m sure that’s what you’re ancestors said when they came and massacred tribes of Native Americans, but whatever bro.”

“You better stay the hell away from my baby if you want to live to see tomorrow, you fucking asshole.”

But, of course, if you tell him about what happened and you’re all upset, he would react much more differently.

He would instantly pull you close and then reassure you about just how wrong and stupid the racist person is and will forever be.

“Baby, you are fucking fire exactly the way you are. Please don’t let that idiot convince you otherwise.”

“You and your people are the fucking backbone of this country, so don’t even worry about what his irrelevant ass has to say about you.”

If he was a middle aged white man, then Sweet Pea would probs be all

“Well, we’re gonna outlive him anyways, so why give a shit?”

As well as that, if you’re brown or black, or have some degree of melanin in your skin, you bet you’re life savings that this boy will gladly remind you every waking second of every minute of every day just how beautiful you are.

Because unless you have flawless self esteem, of course you are going to find yourself being insecure about certain traits.

For WoC with melanin, often times, these insecurities involve the darkness of our skin.

And I think that at first, Sweet pea won’t really realize that that’s something you’re insecure about, because he loves you exactly the way you are and cherishes everything about you.

So when he finds out that you sometimes go to mildly drastic measures just to keep your skin as light as most possibly can be.

Like avoiding the sun at all costs

Never leaving the house

Covering you body from head to toe

Basically, if he finds out that you’ve been really upset with yourself because of how dark your skin is, it may take him a small while to fully understand why that is

And when does

WHO EVEN NEED SELF ESTEEM-THERAPY WHEN YOU CAN JUST GET YOURSELF A SWEET PEA.

“Baby, you are so fucking beautiful.”

“You’re not beautiful even though you have dark skin”

“You’re fucking beautiful because you have dark skin”

“And because of you beautiful fucking hair”

“And gorgeous fucking eyes”

I feel like if Sweet Pea had an instagram or some form of Social Media

As soon as he finds out you were feeling low about your skin

He would just take millions of photos of your face in a minute

Then post it with the caption:

“Look how fucking fly my baby is”

“My baby could be a fucking model with that complexion”

“And those lips”

“And that smile”

Like, once he’s done smothering you, you have experienced more love than what most people feel in their entire life.

Okay, but do not even get me started with Sweet Pea meeting your family at a celebratory dinner or a family reunion, where he also witnesses some of the traditions your culture may require you to practice.

Like, I’m not completely sure on other races, but I know for a fact that us brown folks are related to just about everybody.

So Sweet Pea would be really startled to find out that whilst he was imagining like five or six people to be at the dinner table, in reality there are about thirty set to arrive. 

He would have absolutely no time to decide whether he’s nervous or not, because the very minute he gets past that threshold, he is harassed by just about every aunts and cousin and niece and nephew know to man.

“So you’re the boy Y/n won’t shut up about”

“Y/n, honey, you didn’t tell us he would be so tall”

“Or so handsome”

If you speak a different language at home, you would have to play the translator all night.

“My grandmother wants you to pass the salt”

“My aunt wants to know if you’re any good with fixing cars.”

“My dad says.... actually, I don’t think you want to know”

You would have to prep him about any customs you practice at your house, and may even have to teach him a few basic phrases in our native language.

“So you take your shoes off, and bow when you enter.”

“So don’t wear any nice shoes, because once you take them off, there are no promises that you’ll see them again.”

And then when he gets a glimpse into your culture

Like, if he sees a photo of you from when you did a cultural performance when you were five

Like  if you did a salsa for a talent show

Or if you did the hula

Or something like that

He would absolutely melt

“Omg, my baby was so fucking cute”

After 31 Days of Christmas, I will begin posting racially specific head canons. The way I will be categorizing it and the order in which I will be posting it will go as follows:

African / African-American

Asian (Eastern, Southern & Middle Eastern)

Latin-American 

Native American

Pacific Island (Polynesian, Melanesian, Micronesian).