#and yes you're its misogynistic that suddenly NOW there are so many people WAY more angry

[usercelestial]

"why didn't you call out oliver for not defending the actresses when they were getting bullied but only want him to say something when it's a white man" well you see, that's funny because i did oppose to those actresses getting bullied, now can we address why YOU 🫵 were bullying those actresses 🤨

[colorisbyshe]

I think you've talked about this before, but it's so odd to me how the "misogyny defense" always comes out for the randomest shit. I hate gossip sites like the deuxmoi subreddit because I think anyone whose life is so consumed by gossip is weird no matter how many times you say you're not a stan if you have someone's life memorized yes you're a stan. "People hate X thing because it is female coded"/"mostly women do it" can be right in some contexts, but it's a bad hill to die on & not an excuse.

I have spoken about this before!

I just reblogged a post about people using fandom language to make points in social justice issues (the post about people accusing people of being "stans" when they defend abused women like Amber Heard or Megan thee Stallion) but the inverse is true as well--people are using actual social justice terms and concepts to "win" in fandom.

And it's kinda driving home the idea that... a lot of people are so fucking disengaged from real life that the lines are blurring between real issues that have fuck all to do with fandom (like Megan coming forward about being fucking shot) and fake issues that have fuck all to do with systemic oppression (like the boy band you like not being taken seriously because 'uwu most of the fans are teenage girls').

Social justice exists as a place to "own" people you disagree with and win brownie points for being the most progressive/oppressed person in the room rather than like... a meaningful movement to improve the material reality of vulnerable people. Like, these people have no interest in benefiting anyone other than themselves.

The same way people are trying to boycott Loona's next comeback because it seems Loona hasn't been paid ANY wages and the girls are stuck in contracts they are trying to escape but a lot of people have made their "jobs" in the boycott making it so people can still consume Loona's content (reposting teasers and videos so fans can still enjoy them, promoting pirated music so people can still listen, and creating fan spaces so "people can still talk about the girls").

The boycott to actually help these 11-12 women who are being fucked over by a company suddenly is second place to the fandom's enjoyment of the product of their exploitation. The boycott is just window dressing to make them seem progressive.

And this is all over the place. You think Wednesday is a poorly written, racist show? Well, you don't respect teenage girls, you misogynist. You're tired of the MCU's monopoly on the film industry? Well, you just hate it now that their leads are slightly more diverse than they were 10 years ago. You don't support Bros because it looks like a dog shit film? Well why aren't you supporting a film by gay people for gay people.

Nothing exists on its own merits. And real issues get swept under the rug because there is no social standing to be gained by caring about them.

OR people will promote half-assed, often ultimately harmful "solutions" to these issues to prove they care and then refuse to engage when those "solutions" end up being debunked or exposed. Because that would ruin the value they got from pretending to be saviours. (See: when people were promoting BUYING INDIVIDUAL BULLETS to help Ukraine. And then that was tied to fucking nazi groups.)

Everything is about the SOCIAL not the justice.

[pikachusenergysource-999]

As a kid, even in India, I was extremely privileged to a point where I was never exposed to racism or misogyny or literally any of the real world issues and therefore lacked the experience and understanding to notice them being inherent parts of the people and culture I loved and was proud of and then I grew up and got everything thrown at me and now people I used to look up (ahem ahem my uncle the Pakistan hating misogynistic sexist ahem ahem) and the culture I loved are suddenly so so awful to me. The goal of my life is not to get back out of this country again, it is not to always hate and distance myself from its people and culture because I do believe that there is a lot of potential and a lot of brilliantness there, thought, evidently not always prominent. See I understand why people want to leave and distance themselves but the thing is there are still going to be millions of people right here who are still going to have to deal with all this shit so the trick is not distancing ourselves, the trick is working on the system and the mindsets of people and I know that, that will take hundreds and thousands of years maybe, but at some point we have to start, at some point we have to reach a turning point and I want to be that turning point.

I plan on moving too, I lived in England for five years and then came back and if I settle I think one of my highest faring competitors for where I would settle it would be England, more specifically, perhaps, London, because, god I love the place (yes, despite the shitty weather 90% of them time) and yes that has something to do with how bad some things are here but it's a lot more about the bond I've formed with England. Thing is even with that idea, I feel guilty sometimes because there are parts of being in India which are huge parts of my life and have shaped me positive ways which my kids would miss out on.

Nothing is all bad, yeah, India's pretty shitty but what's the point in just abandoning an entire culture, which has many good points, if it's just going to be harming millions who will forever be stuck in that culture and place.

We can make life better for so many people if we just try working on it. That being said, I really don't mean to be offensive or suggest that moving away from India and its toxicity is in any way like "running away from the problems" - it's not, it's your life and you have the right to make decisions which make you and your loved ones happy and you're awesome and you can do whatever and I love you please don't hate me, I'm not trying to be mean I'm just trying to say that maybe we should also start like doing more stuff to change the system and mindsets of people cos I really think that will help a lot of people ok I'm done, I think, thank you for listening to my Ted talk, bye.

If I ever went to school in India, both the boys and girls would be terrified of me because I put off so much masculine energy that one of my close friends whom I’ve known since 10th grade and who is 6’ 1” told me I’m very masculine years ago before I realized I’m a bigender lesbian.

But also, I am never going back to India. Ever. I am not putting my kids through that kind of hell. Especially with regard to the schools. The open homophobia and racism is rampant. And we all know Brahmins (was raised in a Telugu Brahmin family) are some of the most bigoted people.

fuck yes brahmins (and nairs--thats us) are the worst when it comes to bigotry

and believe me, im getting the FUCK OUT of this country whenever the fuck i get the CHANCE i want my kids to grow up in a place where they know they’re going to be loved and accepted no matter who they are or who they love this is so sad that this needs to be said though