#and why did i actually have a sketch of an answer on tap 😅

[cmchill]

Why do I feel insecure about things that don't matter

Many people get a lot of implicit and explicit messaging from society and people around them about what they "should" be like and internalize it, even if it's not good or healthy or realistic.

Also, this happens especially to:

people that grow up in insecure environments,

people who have often gotten large negative reactions for minor transgressions,

people for whom attachment and connection feel unstable and unreliable,

people who have learned to be compliant people-pleasers,

people who have been told they don't matter or aren't good enough as they are

Not an exhaustive list!

Because these all lead to believing that you must be a very precise perfect way, and that operating outside of this ideal at all threatens connection.

A silly poll since I couldn't take it off