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trekkiedean · 2 months

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I've said this before but I can't find it right now so: the real answer to top/bottom discourse is that they are both vers unless there's a scenario where it would be really funny if one of them is the designated top or bottom.

#the REAL real answer is that while people IRL may have a preference it's generally not nearly as deep as fandom thinks #and they do not typically view their preference as somehow corresponding to/reflective of fundamental personality traits #at least not to nearly the degree that fandom seems to #and that fandom is really bad about conflating 'bottom' with 'sub' and 'top' with 'dom'#(and if we wanna get REALLY spicy: that fandom's tendency to say 'X bottoms because they have Y trait' is rooted in the same #gender essentialism that prompts ignorant cishet people to ask queer couples which of them is the man and which is the woman)#but that doesn't really make for a funny shitpost #jules.txt

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