#and then when i mention the other degrees ive studied theyre like ?

[lesbiradshaw]

Genuinely interested in what you think about Bucky being perceived as female-coded in some parts of the fandom. I read that thread years ago and agreed with because it sounded logical, but now I'm not so sure. Recently found out about the existence of this Tony Stark meta essay called "Tony Stark as the most female-coded superhero" and they use the same arguments: loss of agency, playing the damsel in distress role more often than their counterpart, etc. I can't take "fm-coded" seriously anymore

oh boy ...

idk how long this will end up but to preface whatever we do end up with: 1) im a nonbinary lesbian so my perception on what it means to be a woman and femininity in general is not going to be what a lot of other peoples is and 2) im a few months out from getting a degree in gender studies. take that for what you will. no i will not be arguing about this in my inbox.

to be frank, in my opinion, bucky being female coded is bullshit. not only is it bullshit, i have seen it used as a weapon by so many white women and terfs that even if it were true, i wouldnt care! whoever came up with the term “woobify” (which i have most often seen used in reference to how tony stark is treated) needs to tell bucky stans that they aren’t exempt. a lot of them see bucky being a victim as something that needs a continuation into every other part of his life, hence why he’s so often put into these weird dynamics with his ships and given traits he’s never displayed on screen.

i keep thinking of disclaimers to make in anticipation of people coming to my inbox crying so here’s another: if you are a woman or someone who feels a close connection to certain parts of womanhood, me saying bucky isnt woman coded in no way takes away from you identifying with him or parts of his story. that is personal. a woman’s personal relation to him is not reliant on “woman coding” as i’ve seen a lot of white women and terfs suggest, not does it strengthen the existence of such coding. coding is created within the original media, not within the fandom.

i also just realized ive been using the term woman coded rather than female coded, but i think subconsciously there is a reason for that that ties into one of my main points pretty well: the mcu stan’s definition of “female” coding relies on stereotypes, not about female roles, but about what it means in their opinion to be a woman. the issue with this is they take traits they think only exist in (cishet) women and use them to deem these (cishet) male characters as woman coded when in fact these traits are not exclusive to women and enforce weird standards upon people who are women that might not be cis or het or share these traits!

tony stark being short and bucky having long hair is not what would make them woman coded. bucky being rescued by a man while woozy is not what would make him woman coded. bucky being submissive to pierce when LITERALLY BEING BRAINWASHED is not what would make him woman coded. and perhaps a harsh wake up call: bucky’s story hinging around loss of agency issues and trauma in no way shape or form is what would make him woman coded. does it perhaps make him easier for many women to relate to? yes. but is this something exclusive to women? no. a vast majority of trauma victims are going to relate to him, and chalking up trauma to being something female makes me feel really funny.

i know exactly what thread youre talking about lmfao and its right up there on my shit list next to the childlike bucky post. theyre actually very similar now that i think about it ... but anyways. now that ive listed my woes about what doesnt make a character woman coded, what actually would! AND HERE IS WHERE WE GET INTO AN ACTUAL CASE OF WOMAN CODING! mr prequel series anakin skywalker aka my shakespearean downfall dilf. why is he seen as a valid example of woman coding? i will tell you.

the thing about woman coding is that its meant to subvert heteronormative tropes while remaining self aware of that to exploit and emphasize the change. DO YOU HEAR ME? SELF AWARE! anakin is given many of these stupid stereotypical traits i mentioned before, but they arent reliant on physical appearance at all. they are reliant on roles. padme is the levelheaded senate leader, the one with power and stability, while anakin is hotheaded and frankly a bit whimsical while he struggles for his own type of power and control. another classic example of woman coding (which i actually wrote a paper on last semester in my men and masculinities class) is heathcliff from wuthering heights, whose counterpart to his coding is cathy. both men have that whimsicality in common that contrasts heavily with how we would expect them to act. bucky does not act like them at all.

the reason that this is different from bucky and steve’s ‘damsel in distress’ argument is the self awareness i mentioned before. not to mention the weird heteronormative standards being applied as requirements for their gay relationship to be seen as valid because it “fits the narrative” but .. anyways.

anakin and heathcliff both have their subverted traits played up in a way that shows off how ridiculous the women usually written in their roles are forced to act. its tongue in cheek, because woman coding is not only about individual traits, but about how the character interacts with the story because of this as a whole. bucky is often seen as woman coded because he is put into these situations where he is “rescued” by someone that half his stans see as his love interest (steve my baby im sorry) when hes really only rescued maybe twice? at azzano and from the water when the helicopter crashed. only one of those is a real damsel in distress situation. all of the others are cases where hes fighting his own way out ????? bucky doesnt just sit around waiting for a “real man” to get off his ass as that post suggested but i digress.

anyways. mcu stans lack any self awareness that would be required even if bucky and tony were woman coded. calling them woman coded does not count as self awareness! the real self awareness comes with recognizing that woman coding doesnt actually make these characters women and it doesnt mean they forever belong in these “female” roles. mcu stans take the stereotypes they pick out at face value and use them to say “look! bucky is a bottom!” or to continue taking away his agency by ignoring all of his other actions and traits that dont fit in to this mold theyve made around the idea that he needs a man to save him or boss him around. his story as a whole is the only thing that would make him woman coded and seeing as there is no self awareness of this shown, no attempts to subvert, he displays little to no traditionally feminine traits, and loss of agency on its own is not something that only applies to women ...

in short: in my opinion, bucky is not woman coded. mcu stans just like rolling with stereotypes that rely around cis bodies and straight relationships. the end.

[the-literary-teacher]

1. Do you think your TC will teach you next year?

i hope so, probably for literary studies

2. If you have to move to another city, how would you tell your TC? Would you confess to them? How?

id bring it up i casual conversation

3. Have you written a letter to your TC? If no, would you ever do that and what would be in it? If yes, what did you write?

no im too awkward for that

4. Are you attracted to your TC in an emotional or sexual way? Or both?

emotional, im asexual so uh

5. How did you meet your TC? Do you remember your first conversation?

he was my classes teacher for transistion day, he was so nice and we talked about what career i want to pursue

6. Have you had a serious problem because you have a TC? If not, what problem could you have to deal with?

no, but maybe just feeling awkward

7. Have you ever had an argument with your TC?

no we generally agree

8. Do you see your TC outside of school?

sometimes when im buying groceries

9. On a scale of 1-10, how badly do you want to kiss your TC?

9 bc im a nervous wreck

10. If your TC is married, would you (still) want a relationship with them?

he IS married oop

11. Do you have a photo with your TC? If yes, how did you get it?

no but i want one for graduation

12. Do you think anyone you haven’t told about your TC knows you’re crushing on them?

i havent told a soul

13. When is your last class with your TC? Will you see them in summer break?

i havent gotten him this year :(

14. Have you ever mentioned teacher crushes/the tcc to your TC?

no no no

15. Do you think one of your classmates has feelings for your TC?

nah theyre all into eboys

16. Do you get jealous when you see your TC with other students?

no jealousy is ugly

17. If you and your TC had a long distance relationship, do you think it would work out?

maybe, im pretty dedicated, ive been in 2

18. What is your TC’s degree? Do you like what they studied?

he studied health and physical ed but he also teaches english because hes amazing at it

19. Have you ever cried about your TC? If yes, why?

no

20. Have you ever cried in front of your TC? If yes, what happened?

i got stressed and anxious, he was very calming

21. Do you know about your TC’s family? If yes, what do you know? What else would you like to know?

he has a wife and 2 kids

22. What would happen if you found out your TC is dating another student?

id be disturbed bc hes married

23. Have you ever secretly taken pictures of your TC?

no thats stalkerish

24. Do you like your TC’s classes? Are they easy or difficult?

yes! he makes them enjoyable

25. Describe a special moment you had with your TC.

when we sat in the library going over my work for an hour 🥺

26. Are you in love with your TC? How do they make you feel?

maybe im mistaking admiration for attraction, but he makes me feel validated and cared about

27. Have you ever gotten angry at your TC? Is there anything you don’t like about them?

no

28. Has your TC ever given you a compliment?

yea! he said he genuinely enjoys reading my work, thats one of my favourites

29. Have you ever given your TC a compliment?

yea! he dresses really well

30. Will you remember your TC when you don’t see them anymore? Will you keep in touch?

maybe for a while, but life goes on

[johnnydora]

okay but,, let’s talk for a moment about jake and amy,, ive been thinkin bout this for yeARS but for some reason recently it just won’t leave my head and guys just,,, hear me out okay

i’m fascinated by their work dynamic like not their relationship i mean that def plays into it as well but literally HOW each of them work and how they fit so well together bc of it

we’ll start with amy, yeah? she’s a nerd without a doubt her father is a cop and she’s been living with cop stories for years probably grew up on shitty cop shows too and fell in love with it (a bit similar to jake right? besides the point but a fun fact to throw in) HERE’S THE THING my girl puts an emphasis on studying and hard work. she wants to be a cop? she gotta focus every little part of herself to getting there (also there’s her art degree which is so cool but unfortunately will not be talked about rn) so here’s the thing, aight? she is not a naturally gifted cop (see the latest ep where she mentions you can’t be good at puzzles. oc you can. some people see the world differently and can piece things together like that. but she makes up for all of that in HARD WORK AND FOCUS) and i could go on but this brings me to....

JAKE PERALTA offspring of a douchebag and an arT TEACHER we all know our girl karen she’s a mess but a girl has passion and little boy jakey here knows nothing about cops except buildings exploding!! chasing german bad guys!!! propelling from roofs!!!!!!! and that’s enough for him to follow his dreams. but here’s where he lucks out. this boy can solve a fucking puzzle. we don’t see it all too often in canon (i cant even think of any examples rn jus trust me) but he hella cares and jus,,, hella wants these cases solved. he doesnt work hard. he doesnt know what paperwork is. but he can,,, jus do it.

the thing about police work tho is u cant get there on luck OR hard work alone. and u can see that, even tho jake and amy approach their job comPLETELY differently, theyre very evenly matched (the bet, anyone?) which is why it’s pretty impossible to say which one is the best detective bc theyre,,, best together (was that sappy enough)

no but here’s where it gets fun, bc u can rly imagine the places this dynamic takes them.

like jake working late on a random case bc he can’t figure out the solution and it Bothers him especially if it was something a bit more high profile with a few more stakes bc my boy cares sm

not to say amy doesn’t care but she has a p professional line like when she’s not working she can let go (unless jake is the victim which is like evERY OTHER CASE NOW dont mind me) but she can go home and not worry about it theyll get him tomorrow its fine cases like these dont solve themselves overnight anyway they still have time

but then u can imagine jake getting so stressed over not knowing the answer to like,, idk say a home robbery and he let the little girl use his computer for a sec to play games something that gets a little personal yknow (also jake has such a weak spot for children dont get me started on this) and he can’t!! stop!! worrying!!

and amy, gods blessing to this earth, goes over the case with him at home bc she knows he’ll lose sleep over this and she offers angles that lil jakey never could think of bc he’s just so weirdly invested and she just keeps talking bc theyve gotten to the point where they know how they each function they know how to help each other out and eventually something she says will match up with something he was thinking except, like, from another angle and it!! MAKES SENSE!!!! and jake GETS it and tada!! all solved!! except jake, sweet child, wants to go to the precinct Immediately to solve it and amy has to be like babe its 11pm it can wait lets go to sleep

and just etc etc etc etc

of course it works the other way around as well. bc amy can bury herself in her work and forget to breathe sometimes. bc she needs to get thru all her paperwork and ALSO jakes to spellcheck it meanwhile going thru all the open cases and dealing with the weird shit that comes in and also sometimes (always) its hard to focus with jake just across from her so she kicks herself a little on particular days she just Cant and jake!!! knows he’ll talk about her cases with her just casually (she talks out loud when she’s solving cases its Cute) and oc his perspective is hilarious so he’ll come up with the most ridiculous scenarios and it just,,, calms her down,,, gets her to think outside the box a little

(oc sometimes he doesn’t catch it until she’s in a full blown panic attack and that’s a whole different thing it requires less talk about cases and more kisses)

anyway that’s all i love my dumb children and how much they love and support each other thanks for coming to my ted talk bye

[gethealthy18-blog]

233: Decoding Childhood Allergies and Letting Kids Get Dirty With Dr. Amy Shah

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233: Decoding Childhood Allergies and Letting Kids Get Dirty With Dr. Amy Shah

233: Decoding Childhood Allergies and Letting Kids Get Dirty With Dr. Amy Shah

Today I’m sitting down with Dr. Amy Shah, M.D., who is one of my favorite people to follow on Instagram. I’ve cited her work in at least a dozen articles on the blog and she’s quite simply a wealth of knowledge about all things health from both a holistic and a conventional perspective.

Besides taking my word for it, why should you take her advice? Well, how about being a double board-certified medical doctor who trained at Grinnell, Harvard, and Columbia! She also worked as a medical consultant in the past with Bobbie Brown, the makeup guru, and created an impressive line of health foods and supplements.

Dr. Amy is a key medical advisor for a company that I love, Genexa, which is the first natural pharmaceutical company. There’s so many topics we could cover, but today we decided to tackle childhood allergies, gut health, hormone balance, and so much more.

Take a listen and you’ll see why I can’t get enough of what Dr. Amy has to say!

Episode Highlights With Dr. Amy Shah

Some of the reasons childhood allergies are rising so drastically

The reason childhood allergies are doubling every year

A significant problem with the hygiene hypothesis

Why we all need more dirt exposure

The unexpected benefits of nature that can help our children

Why 85% of childhood illnesses are viruses and don’t need antibiotics

The science-backed reason that sleep and gut rest are the most effective healing tool

Why kids need to be allowed to get sick, especially in the first five years of life

Reasons why Dr. Amy doesn’t reduce a fever in her own kids

Practical tips for gut health

A reason to avoid antibacterial soap

Dr. Amy’s perspective on when to use antibiotics and when to skip them

Another major problem with plastics

Natural remedies every mom should have on hand

And more!

Resources We Mention

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[benthepotato]

1/? um, im kinda not all that comfy w specifying it too much here, but yes, im from south america. not colombia tho, and ive def never eaten ants! my friends dad has tho, he says theyre actually pretty good (not to mention insects are a great source for protein and rly theres even predictions that they're gonna be like what saves us stupid humans bc farming isnt rly sustainable and all that) and you should dEFINITELY try some!! tell me if theyre any good :P uh, considering i graduated 1 yr early

2/? from hs two years and 1 month ago but still have no clue what i want to do, its quite urgent already? and like, it sucks, bc i kinda feel like im wasting time - and so does everyone else in my life, though they dont put it in so many words - but also not and i dont wanna say ‘ah fuck it’ and just pick w/e bc i know i wont put any effort into whatever i chose, and i wont be happy, y'know? and like, it’s not even just enrolling, it’s qualifying for enrolling, and bc i dont have a Thing i want

3/? to study im not motivated to even cover my basics on the qualifying front and i just. why cant we just pause. like. everything. yeaaah i get that, i see college/uni as a tutorial level for whatever profession you want to have, like, you start to get to know how the game engine works, how to use the tools you have, how to make/get more tools, etc but like. i dont rly have a Profession™? like when i was a kid and ppl asked what i wanted to be i always said 'i dunno’ and i still dont? and like

4/? i have no idea how uni works there but here you dont pick a field, you pick a course, like if you want to be a mechatronic engineer you’ll do mechatronic engineering, theres no broad course, like if ppl ask what youre doing and you say 'engineering’ theyll ask 'which one’ bc its all abt the specifics and thats shit :( and like i like a few fields, so if i pick a specific within one of them i think ill feel like im settling w/o even trying the other ones and i just UGH im so done w this

5/5 oh and my teeth have chilled out a bit, i mean, Bottom Left One (i named him tony) is still pissing me off and making himself heard but its more of a discomfort now (thank fUCK) but i googled it and apparently it comes in waves? like it will hurt for a bit then stop then again then stop and. i hate u tony. y do u even exist, tony. youre even more useless than my stupid uterus, tony. and Honey do i have zombie survival tips lol darling i am rEADY COME AT ME ZOMBIES

yeah dw :) that’s awesome! and i’ll definitely try the ants then haha, frankly won’t be the worst insect i’ve eaten (and i’ve liked most other ones tbh)

i see what you mean… sorry you feel like you’re wasting your time, i’m sure not everyone is thinking that :/ it’s ok to be unsure!! and i don’t have a Profession™ at all either, it’s more like. i want to learn how to think and be critical and do research and All of That!! except if you want to get into science, you don’t have to worry too much about your degree -as long as you do it well, people are interested in diverse types of education for diverse jobs i think :) do you know what you want to do in the broad sense? science, social sciences, arts, literature…? but yeah feeling  like you’re settling is exactly what’s holding me back as well, i feel u anyway you’ve probably heard this all before, sorry if i sound like i’m demeaning the struggle :( i know it sucks

courage tho!! i’m sure you’ll do something amazing!!

get rekt tony

hahahaha you’re less fatalistic than i am that’s goodi’m like eh. if we’ve reached the point of zombies, might as well call it quits haha