#and then its the green 3yo

[stellaron-hunter]

honestly im currently stuck riding the ex carriage horse and she really is the sweetest!! but its so frustrating bc she just doesnt understand leg&weight clues and i tend to be very soft with rein aids so the whole thing is usually a clusterfuck😭😭 everyday im hoping the bo will see that ive improved a lot since she last saw me and lets me ride her little dressage pony again just so i can focus on refining my aids and everyday im left DISAPPOINTED

[lovl3igh]

"they made greens worse in show to push blacks agenda" "they made blacks worse in show to push green agenda" truth is they made daemon and viserys worse and greens are now arouse sympathy and rhaenyra is made more soft and all that destroys mostly female characters and is for more drama and to push whole tg vs tb thing for bigger marketing while saying that's not what we supposed to do (season 1)

and yes, greens are worse in the books, making alicent innocent in the beginning and stating murder of luke as accident was to make them look better. and yes daemon was more "grey" character in the book, while in show almost every scene who was supposed to make him look like good father, husband or just vulnarable guy was cut out or belittled, his relationships make him look like bad guy - killing rhea, admitting to not fully loving laena, abusing nyra - instead of book!daemon who is against everyone but his family (except of green side), there's show!daemon who goes against his family or ignore its' members. and yes there are things when the greens are shown worse than in the books and black better than they were written

but changing ages of characters harms team black only. and since there's many changes of those and that's of many important characters it DOES make team black look worse and makes team green victims

1. alicent instead of being adult woman going against little girl (alicent 18yo and rhaenyra only 9) is now teenager sexually abused by viserys who is even older than her in the show than in f&b. being rhaenyra's peer - and her former friend - also changes the dynamic because now people claim rhaenyra caused break up of their friendship as if she wasn't just suffering 14yo. no, alicent is no more adult woman climbing for power and acting against child, it's a teenager abondoned by her best friend after being force into relationship with much older guy

2. jace, luke and dragon twins aged up - now in book it was 10yo aemond who attacked 3yo joffrey and then fought 4yo luke and 5yo jace*. in the show 11yo (according to s2 timeline) aemond is fighting four kids in the age from 8 to 10. so he doesn't attacks children at least 2x younger than him but is jumped by almost his peers. poor aemond, right?

*before someone say "jace was 6 and luke 5" - jace was born in late 114 AC and luke in late 115, meanwhile laena died at the beggining of 120 AC, which makes them 5 and 4 years old respectively

3. we don't have actual age of twins but looking at actors' ages, jaehaerys and jaehaera were 4, maybe 5 years old, tho in s1 they looked like toddlers. now it's not a big book to show change, 6 to 4yo, but it still look kinda worse to murder boy who barely stopped being a toddler than 6yo

4. daemon fell in love with laena when she was 22 (!!!). she wasn't a teenager. she wasn't also 12yo when offered by her parents to viserys. making her younger in the show made daemon, corlys and rhaenys look worse than in f&b (the only person who looked "better" - there's no good word for that i'm afraid - in that situation was viserys, who decided to marry 15yo and not 12yo. good for you, pedo?)

5. joffrey being 6yo with baby dragon makes rhaenyra look worse and like an oathbreaker. sending baby dragons to the vale instead of dragon who can at very least carry his rider doesn't look cool even though was funny for a second, because she technically didn't break her word, she DID send a dragon, even two, but that was a loophole

6. not exactly the same but - fabien frankel and matt smith' casting. i'm not saying they don't play their characters well or anything. that's not the point. the point is that fabien was born in 1994, matt smith in 1982 and milly alcock in 2000. there's 12 years age difference between fabien and matt but between cole and daemon is supposed to be only a year. now daemon is still called a groomer and cole is not because he is played by a guy only 6 years older than milly. and there are also people who now call him a victim and not rhaenyra

so yeah, i don't really wanna see anymore how much blacks look better in the show than in the book and greens worse... because that's not true. yeah, there are things done that make tb look a bit better but the show started with making the greens victims they weren't at all in the book and a lot of that has to do with ages changing

[allthetropes]

you have no idea how much i hate to say it, but damn it, it is the apps. the apps are the problem with the kids these days. with all the love from your friendly high school teacher, the problem is absolutely the fucking apps. hear me out (i promise, it's worth it)

see, the way it worked back when I was a baby, was that your mom and dad would buy you this big wooden plate with shapes cut out of it

and the shapes that were cut out would just be scattered around. and you would be like 9 months old. So you'd pick up the wooden plate and put it in your mouth and shit, but it didn't do anything and the actual shapes were so much easier to pick up, so you picked them up. and your fingers felt the soft curved edges and the pointy corners and the texture of the wood

and you tried to slam them into the wooden board and got frustrated when they didn't fit, but then you tried the star shape in the star shaped hole and it made a satisfying clunk sound and your mom would clap for you cause you made her happy and that made you happy. and you learned that each shape had its own place in the board

and over time and repetition you would associate the feeling of pointy with the look of pointy. and you'd be able to match up pointy bits. and curved bits. and round bits vs square bits. and soon you'd be able to fix the whole puzzle easily. and at the ripe age of [checks notes] 1, you had laid the foundations of problem-solving skills.

These days, we have an app for that.

But the app doesn't do all the leg work. The app goes tap, tap. Oh, it didn't work. Okay. tap, tap. ooh, yellow stars make baby happy! tap, tap. tap, tap. Sometimes the tapping works. sometimes it doesn't. baby isn't getting the same sensory input that helps them understand why the star shape didn't go into the square hole. There's nothing to feel. There might be nothing to hear. There's no satisfying feeling of the wood moving under your fingers and clicking into place.

tap, tap, tap, tap.

all that engagement for baby's brain is robbed. eventually, baby does learn the same outcome: circle goes into circle hole, triangle into triangle hole, but it takes so much longer and the information can't be retained easily. baby has learned facts and not skills. present baby with the same puzzle in different colours and you will even see that baby takes huge steps back in their understanding because the facts have changed.

fast-forward and baby is now 3 or 4 years old and is bored, but doesn't have the problem-solving skills to fix that. "Mom, i'm bored." and mom has an app for that. or a show. Mom has shit to do and she needs 3yo to not be in her hair for an hour, so long live peppa pig. mom grabs the ipad that hasn't been off since it first came out the box, opens netflix, puts on the kid's show, hands it back to 3yo. 3yo is entertained, having had to do absolutely nothing to fix their boredom but call on mom.

when I was 7 you had a bucket full of lego blocks, random fucking lego blocks, green yellow blue red white black, 4 prongs, 6, 8, all shapes and colours. and it was up to me to figure out what to do with the blocks. i could build anything i liked. and if i built too high it would fall over and i'd have to start again. but 7yos these days don't have big buckets of random blocks. they have a lego-set. the exact number of correct blocks to create a single item, and step by step instructions. they don't have to think about what to do with their new toy. they mindlessly assemble according to the instructions and then the toy is all done, the thing had been made.

so now you fast-forward and i've handed out word search puzzles to my 12yo students. and i've explained, with visuals on the board, what you're supposed to do with a word search puzzle. how it works. there's written instructions on the board, and on your worksheet as well. here are the words you're looking for. you'll need a pen or pencil or a marker. first one to find them all wins.

5 minutes later, nearly the whole class are on their phones.

and i go up to little johnny confused because, did you finish your word search already? and little johnny goes "i did my best". johnny has found 2 words in the puzzle. He's read each line from left to right and found two words, and circled them. that's 2 out of 15.

i ask him, did you read up and down for words? did you look at the list of words you were meant to find and did you try to locate those letters in the big search box? and little johnny looks at me like i've got three heads. 'no' says johnny. 'i don't know. i didn't know what i was meant to do.'

did you ask a friend to explain what you were meant to do? did you ask your teacher? did you read the instructions? 'no. i didn't know i was meant to ask somebody. (or: yes and my friend didn't know either!)' so johnny sat with an assignment he couldn't finish and to avoid feeling like he was 'too stupid', he found something he did understand. an app.

and the worst part is that little johnny really did do his best. some students didn't try at all. some couldn't even find the 2 words he did, even though they really tried. johnny has never not had the solution within hand's reach. johnny has never had to solve a problem himself, ever, and i can tell.

and then they grow a little bit more and mary is fifteen and has been in the girl's bathroom for over two hours now. one of her friends is worried enough that she tells me, and I go in. mary feels sick and is in a stall, weak after throwing up cause her period sucks. it hadn't occurred to mary to ask a friend for help, or to go to the nurse, or take herself home, or get a tablet for her cramps, or ask somebody for a tampon. she texted her mom, 'i'm sick', but her mom's at work with her phone on silent. mary didn't know asking somebody else for help was even an option. it takes twenty minutes of pointed questions before i even find out she's on her period, because when i ask her, 'what do you think made you sick?' she tells me she doesn't know. she's never had to think about why.

and now alexleigh is eighteen and their parents have helped them move into a dorm on campus and it's all up to them and they just sit on their bed without the sheets on, staring at nothing, because, well, now what? eventually their stomach starts to grumble. that means they need food. they open the fridge, but there's no food in there, because they never bought any food. they're hungry. there's an app for that. some of their tight student budget is handed over to ubereats just so they can have dinner. it doesn't occur to them to set an alarm so they can get to the morning lecture on time. and even if they did set the alarm, they would need to have the forethought to factor in how much time it will take them to get ready in the morning and find their way to class, rather than just set their alarm for the moment the lecture starts.

when their professor asks why they are late, they will say the same thing they've always said. "I don't know."

and it's not their fucking fault. they've been robbed of problem-solving skills since their infancy. they've never had to think their way around a problem. they've never had to entertain themselves. when they have no instructions, they simply shut down.

my macbook isn't working. the screen is dark. did you charge it? i don't know. do you think you should try charging it? maybe it's just out of juice. i don't know. where's your charging cable? i don't know. find your charging cable. but i don't know where it is!? you have to look for it. where? where do you usually store your charging cable? in my bag. okay. look inside your bag. oh, my charging cable is here. okay! [...] try charging your macbook. oh, it's working now! Thank you!

this is the kind of conversation you are meant to have with a five year old. This is not the kind of conversations that should be happening with 13 year olds, but it is. en masse. these kids aren't stupid. they aren't disabled, at least, not in the way we think of disability. they have full brain function. the same function i had at their age. but they were never, ever taught problem solving skills. so they are constantly left floundering with nothing to do. and you know what? there's an app for all that free time.

it's like we are asking them to explain the theory of relativity to us, but we forgot to teach them addition and subtraction. they can count to 10 and we figured that was enough. so now you have whole classes of kids who constantly feel like they are too stupid for school. their teachers make them feel stupid. thank heavens, they've assigned an essay. there's an app that will write it for them.

and it's nobody's fault. having kids is like fighting in the trenches. you need 2 full time incomes to make a single child thrive. your body and mind are wrecked by the time you clock out. BESIDES - how are you, the parent, supposed to know that the app version of the wooden puzzle won't deliver the same results and will have long-lasting consequences? unless you studied child- or brain-development in tertiary education, you probably won't know. And even if somebody tells you: once won't kill them. twice won't hurt. where is the boundary? how are you meant to stay on top of all the developmental milestones?

but i've had to help thirteen-year-old kids navigate a panic attack because they were asked to write with a pencil and not a pen, and they'd never used a pencil to write words before, so the pencil remained where it lay on their desk while the pressure of but now i'm not doing the assignment mounted in their brain.

i've helped ten year olds out of tears because it had been so long since they had held a real book and not a kindle, they didn't know you had to physically move the page over rather than press a button.

so yeah. it's the fucking apps. insidious. painful. i am so sorry. every single of you deserved so much more. so did your parents. idk how to fix it. but it is, definitely, absolutely, for fucking sure, the apps

[spearxwind]

RULES: Tell your followers 11 random facts about yourself, and tag 11 people in return! Tag backs are allowed, but you mustn’t repeat any of the facts you mentioned previously!

I was tagged back by @koolaid-girl ayyyy

1. My hair is anime af and will do whatever it wants at any point 2. My obsession for drawing started with horses but then i switched to dragons a few years later 3. Some of my freckles make real constellation patterns (i have cassiopeia on my shoulder for example). i dont know why i think its cool tho ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 4. I have over 430 hours of volunteer work at a summer camp and no one believes me when i say i just genuinely liked working there and didnt mind not getting paid 5. I went to harvard at 17 B) 6. when i get really upset my ability to draw disappears thats why theres barely any vent art from me i just cant draw at all 7. My eyes are stormy blue but when i cry they look green for some reason?? 8. When i was a 3yo i was in a super market with my mom, i went over to a rly fat lady and asked how many children she had in there and i think thats the moment when my mom decided having me had been a terrible idea 9. I know ive stared at death in the face at least one or two times in my life 10. When i was a kid i was an expert in the art of catching lizards  11. when i was 5 i had a crush on hamtaro that lasted a week for whatever fucking reason

I tag ?? idk @duskdragonxiii @akiri-chann @dragons-new-artist @vultariashoard @evolution-incarnate @talktomeidareyou @milkiis @cyboogs @aerokiinesis @nyxdruid @thatweirdlizard  

you dont have to do it if u dont want to lmao i just havent tagged anyone in 4 billion years and felt like it maybe :’>

[gumzfarms]

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[looselipssinkships]

When You Find A Pea In Your 3yo’s Pocket

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