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terrainofheartfelt · 1 year ago

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Do you have any friends that annoy the crap out of you? And if so how have you handled it? Just slowly stopped answering their messages?

my dear I need to preface this by saying that as much as I share of myself on here, I’m still just a stranger on the internet, and I don’t know you or your situation

But from your phrasing I’m wondering, if a person is annoying the crap out of you in a regular basis, are they really your friend? Are you really theirs?

I guess I’ve had what you may call proximity friends, in that we met because of school or work and when one of us left those places that friendship fell away. And the friendships I wanted to keep I put in effort to keeping them, and those people reciprocated, and my life is better for having them in it.

I guess then my advice is nothing lasts forever and that can be a good thing. I’m also very much a believer in If It Sucks, Hit Da Bricks! of course that doesn’t mean cut out anyone and everyone who wrongs you, but it’s up to you to decide what you can take, and you can have compassion for people without wanting to be in their life anymore

#I’ve had a few friendships over the years with people who….#they had a lot going on. and it wasn’t their fault they had a lot going on #but it reached a point where they needed / expected more from me than I had the capacity to give #which wasn’t fair to either of us #and those where schoolmates so when we went our separate ways after school we just didn’t out in the effort to stay connected #there was another friend who was always…. I loved her and we were roomies and got aling fine but she was always kind of aloof #and then when I went to grad school I moved someplace else and she moved in with her partner and just basically stopped talking to all of us #and then came outta nowhere months later trying to sell the groupchat on an mlm she was in #reader we created a new group chat without her #I have a couple close dear friends who have had to do the friend breakup #but I think that had more to do with them still feeling a fealty to the friendship of the past #even though the other person wasn’t putting forth the effort anymore #and not to sound a billion years old but I think —#i think this is a teenage/early adulthood kind of #thing. because — limitations of physical distance and late capitalism excepted—#i am so so grateful and happy with the people in my life that I call friends #and I love them very much #and there isn’t anyone I have in the category of friend that I don’t want to be there #and many friends are ones I’ve made here on tumblr dot com!#asks #anon

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