#and the overemphasis on the verbal part of the relationship just strikes me as gnostic and I haaaaate that | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

francesderwent · 1 year ago

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sometimes the tumblr therapy-speak crowd makes it seem like in a real-life healthy relationship, you can never, ever expect anyone to anticipate your needs because that would require them to read your mind and people can’t do that, so you’ll have to talk explicitly about every single issue every single time for the rest of your life. and I don’t know, I just don’t think that’s true.

#one: the language of the body is scrambled but not silenced! if a person is being attentive they can often read it truly!#two: people can REMEMBER stuff! they can make good assumptions based on previous experience #I believe that it is possible for two people to come to KNOW one another well enough that not everything has to be said aloud!!#a person can know you’re not okay without being told! a person can remember what you need because you told them once and they paid attentio #don’t get me wrong I love a man who checks in verbally and explicitly. I love open lines of communication #but a relationship isn’t just what you speak to each other. it’s seeing each other and serving each other too #and the overemphasis on the verbal part of the relationship just strikes me as gnostic and I haaaaate that #(no hate to anybody in therapy or who works as a counselor. just hate to the tumblr culture around it)#in which cate tells stories #i will still not be elaborating at this time

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