#and the nerve of that love is love speech... maybe I'll have a different opinion after I think it over

[chemsitryforthegirls]

Bridgerton writer really thought "Fine, we'll check the gay diversity box" and then stuck homosexuality decidedly in the corner with the characters who drink too much, aren't productive, and generally have loose morals.

[themoodyestj]

not the same anon, but I would like to answer that question. I don't believe, not even for a second that Danneel is above criticism. but I firmly believe that every living being deserves to be treated with a modicum of kindness and respect, just for the simple fact of being alive. don't you? us humans are capable of understanding our emotions and be empathic with others. yes, you are entitled to your opinion, free expression is a right, so you can hate Danneel and write all the bs that you want and that's fine. what is not ok is to dehumanize and insult her and then turn around and claim you do it out of love for Jensen. She is his wife and mother of his children; he chose her to share a life because he loves her. how do you think he would feel if he actually read your bs? how would you feel if somebody made a blog just to hate on your loved ones?

Hello dear anon,

Because you seem to use a decent ammount of respect, I'll use it back with you. Let's see if we can have an interesting back and forth here.

I don't believe, not even for a second that Danneel is above criticism. but I firmly believe that every living being deserves to be treated with a modicum of kindness and respect, just for the simple fact of being alive. don't you?

No. While I can empathize and see other people's POV, i dont think everyone should get the same treatment. That speech is wonderfully rainbow coloured and it totally makes one a true justice warrior but it will quickly fly out the window once one finds themselves on the wrong side or abuse or prejudice. My abuser will not get the same treatment from me as my loved one. An anon that comes to my inbox and speaks with me respectfully will not have the same treatment an anon that comes here insulting me will have. That means there would be zero consequences to anyones actions, and who gets the brunt of this? The people that are actually fragile. Would you treat someone who murdered a loved one with respect? Pfft.

Look, Im trying to be cool about this. But stop throwing manipulative platitudes at me. Im not 9.

Besides, Im not treating Danneel any particular way. She doesnt know i exist, and in the largely remote possibility she does, shell get another shot of botox and quickly forget who i am. None of this is personal. You are making it personal.

us humans are capable of understanding our emotions and be empathic with others.

And I can. I could actually give you a detailed in depth analysis of why i think x, y and z act a certain way. In my personal life, it's part of my job to actually be able to read people and see why they react a certain way (and no, Im not a therapist). But being empathic doesn't mean being lenient. It doesn't mean that i agree with a behaviour. It means I can analize, see the origin and understand it.

I could easily analize the behavior of all the people leaving ugly messages in my inbox, and even feel sorry for them (which honestly, i do), but i think at this point it would just be insulting, so i'll refrain.

yes, you are entitled to your opinion, free expression is a right, so you can hate Danneel and write all the bs that you want and that's fine. what is not ok is to dehumanize and insult her and then turn around and claim you do it out of love for Jensen.

OK, I think you need to take a firm stance here. Not that it would actually influence an outcome, but am I or am i not allowed to write what I want? Is freedom of speech a right that assists me, or just to the point where i hit a sensitive nerve?

And lets focus on the concept of dehumanizing. Dehumanizing would mean that i was stripping from the individual every right or quality they may have as a human. Thats not what Im doing. Im pointing out the human qualities I dont appreciate. See the difference? On the other hand, I could easily argue that some people idolize her, meaning: to love unquestioningly and uncritically or to excess. So maybe its not me who is holding an extremist stance. Food for thought.

She is his wife and mother of his children; he chose her to share a life because he loves her. how do you think he would feel if he actually read your bs?

First of all, while i can agree that to some extent he did choose her, Im not going to be bold and claim I know why, and neither should you. Both of us work on assumptions, and the thing is, mine are as good as yours.

How I think he would feel? Well, I think that, like any other rational human being, he would read what i write and either identify with it or not at all. I think he would take what resonates and leave what does not, and go on with his own merry life. But if he were to read me, a very little blog with close to zero visibility, i would also assume he would have read other blogs, AA blogs, with far cringier comments. Something in the lines of watching him like a rabid dog in heat, or other masturbatory borderline psychotic comments, that, indeed, dehumanize him and turn him into a sexual object, and not a man. I think those would be the comments that would worry him the most, as those would be the people that most likely would have him hogtied in a basement, given the chance.

As to being the wife and mother of her children, you'd think his wife would hold her behaviour in higher standards as so to not give her children bad examples. Criticizing her husband in a passive agressive way some people call banter in front of his peers and his clients (yes, because in Jensen's case, his audience is, in an indirect way, his clients) is not a behaviour I would consider dignified or even smart, since he is, after all, her breadwinner.

how would you feel if somebody made a blog just to hate on your loved ones?

Well, I dont have a blog offending me and my loved ones, but i have read some nasty comments about me so far, not in a blog, but directly in my inbox. How do I feel? I'm a big girl, I own my actions and i know the consequences of having a different opinion. This isnt my first rodeo. People who are not celebrities go through it also on a daily basis, some people are prejudiced because of skin tone, ethinicity, religious beliefs, gender...

By the way, are you advocating for those too? Or you just stick to the celebrities you like? Which ironically points to the original question: why would Danneel be an exception?

Still waiting for an answer on that one.