#and soul searching and examination of bad behavior and failure and fuck ups

[gracemarkss]

far be it from me to hand it to any man but i think some of the reactions to dd’s podcast are um. insane. like yes he’s got a bit of an ego problem and a tendency towards acting like an ass. no he’s not irredeemable or to blame for every issue on the txf set or his rship w/ ga. yes he’s a guy and there was going to be some major divergence between his experience and ga’s experience due to misogyny exacerbating what she went through. no i don’t think he’s completely ignorant of this anymore. like idk unfortunately his vulnerability and willingness to think critically about his behavior is extremely endearing to me and while there are many instances of him being an asshole, ego driven, self centered, and having unfair expectations of ga emotionally and otherwise i don’t think that’s all he is or was. idk unfortunately i am a bit bewitched by him, i’m not saying anyone has to like him or give a shit at all and i wouldn’t even go so far as to label myself a ~fan~. but i think just in general this type of vulnerability and humanity and willingness to engage with one’s flaws and missteps and hurtful behaviors and shame being met with such disdain is kind of sad. of course forgiveness or absolution is not the required or even most appropriate response by any means. no one’s opinion has to change. it’s more about being open to a space existing to talk about this stuff, even if it doesn’t change how you feel. or something lmao