#and some people respected tgem. spme absolutely did not | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

dokyeomini · 1 year

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when i first learned what personal boundaries /are/ i had a lot of realisations in a short amount of time and there certainly were some changes in who i kept as my friends. and all of this was super awkward to navigate (it was hs)

#like i basically started to assert my boundaries in like small everyday things #and it was nerve wracking as hell #and some people respected tgem. spme absolutely did not #even after repeatedly pointing them out #so i grew apart from quite a few people #maybe it was almost like ghosting them ...#and with one friend it was mostly just an off feeling on top of everything #bc i could not admit to myself what made me uncomfortable (him being subtly homophobic lmaoo)#and why on like a personal level #so i never explained to him why i stopped talking to him #and he probably sees me as a cold bitch tbh #he doesn't rly like me anymore im sure #i mean idk what he feels abt me but #i felt so guilty for not having explained to him why i started avoiding him #the point is. sometimes setting boundaries is really fucking awkward #and if you have to use therapy talk to do it the idfc.. go for it #i may be missing the point a bit bc im just going on my own tangent as a reaction #but that article won't leave my mind #bc it us so one sided #and then does usong phrases like these make the person sn assh #????#imo no #yk like how people usually don't get really angry for no reason from 0 to 100?#this doesn't really happen with ultimatums either #these people might not be perfect communicators but there might be smth else there.....

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