#and not going to lie a big component of queerness for many is rooted in trauma
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You know, even if somebody was "turned queer" because of trauma, that is:
1. Not your business
2. Not something you should be interrogating them about, be you queer or otherwise (see point one)
Trauma is a deeply harrowing experience, and it's oftentimes something people don't want to share if they don't feel safe or comfortable. Creating environments where queer people have to both interrogate their queerness and defend themselves is simply hostile.
If somebody seemingly became queer after a traumatic event, what you do is support them. Likely the last thing that person needs is you barging in and demanding explanations and justifications before they're allowed to be queer and/or exist around you.
#queer#lgbt#lgbtq#trauma tw#and if they later decide they aren't queer or have a different queer identity they can do that when they are ready...#...which will likely not fit into the timeframe that you might expect...#...because healing is just as messy as trauma and queerness is as messy as cisheterosexuality#because being a person is messy and complicated and it takes time to figure out#again my problem is the entitlement and possession people have over *other peoples* identities and lives#maybe my tone is harsh but i just find this hard to show compassion because it's often deliberate...#...as in a deliberate action toward the person suspected of being 'queer after trauma'#and not going to lie a big component of queerness for many is rooted in trauma#because of the violence of homophobia of transphobia of queerphobia#because we often are closeted and hide who are and we hear and witness what people think about queerness#and that's just the tip of the iceberg. queerness is beautiful. queerness can also be painful.#it isn't always happy times to be queer and our trauma is important and we deserve to heal at our pace#we deserve compassion. we deserve to exist. we don't deserve to have to justify and explain and placate#we are also entitled to our individual stories. we deserve to tell them *if* we want to and to whom we want to tell them to#there are aspects of my own story i will never tell. because i want it to be *mine* and i think i deserve that control over *my* story
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David Silvercloud, 27 Oct., 2017.
Terry David "Butch" Silvercloud, Visual Artist, Photographer, Physicist.... This is my naked life in photos. If you are looking for me naked, then go here and sign in... http://ButchNaked.com
(https://www.flickr.com/photos/david_silvercloud)
I learned, a long time ago, that a single person can’t change the world... but I try, anyway. My name is Butch and I’m not quite like anyone you know, nor likely have ever met. I DON’T GIVE A FLYING F**K WHAT ANYONE THINKS, (I DO THINGS MY WAY.) You must prove your are worthy of my company for me to take any interest in you. I don’t wait up. I haven’t time for things like texting... I disown anyone who texts me. Don’t waste my f**king time... f**k off and go away. If it’s important, phone me. I haven’t time to waste on sites like FaceBook nor Twitter. I consider them to be cesspools of idiocy and co-dependency.
27 October, 2017. I've been experiencing changes in my life, lately, which I expect are related to the medications I'm taking for Arthritis, as well as my age. I'm 73 now. Fortunately, I'm retired and don't have to be anywhere as my sleep patterns can vary from day to day. Presently, it's 5am. I woke up and am wide awake. Some days I sleep 9 hours. Old age is not recommended.
Had a coffee and T3 then went back to bed and snoozed until 10:30am. Sunny and cool out there. Had a quiet day housecleaning and doing sound and mic connection tests. Did some sit ups and light weights, took a few selfies.
We have had very unusual weather this past year. I've lived in Vancouver for nearly 30 years and this is the driest, most sunny year I've experienced here. I'm a scientist and am not surprised. Climate scientists have been telling us climate change is upon us for many years. Humans are not prepared for the changes coming our way. ===========
FIRE SAFETY
I, recently, learned of a safety tip that had never crossed my mind before. Now that I'm aware of the idea, I have tried to put it into practice... it's simple enough. There is a way to save many, many lives in a house fire. KEEP YOUR BEDROOM DOOR SHUT AT NIGHT.
Large numbers of fire deaths are caused by smoke inhalation while a person is asleep... you never wake up before you get toasted. It would also be useful to install smoke and Carbon Monoxide detectors in your bedroom and to have an evacuation plan. If you live in an apartment building, you might want to have a strong rope kept handy to escape from a balcony or window. I'm a bit like Sheldon Cooper of Big Bang. I have emergency water supplies, first aid supplies and a strong rope. I also keep a garden hose in my apartment... just in case. I live in an Earth Quake zone so I keep emergency stuff in my apartment. It's never enough but something is always better than nothing.
You might try, also, to shut all doors when you leave your home... compartmentalize the place to prevent rapid spread of fire. It's a simple idea that works.
One other tip... buy a FOX40 whistle at outdoor stores...
https://www.fox40world.com/
and keep it on your key chain. You never know when a whistle will come in handy. The whistle is cheap and loud. Girls... the best way to escape a man is to get close to him, then LOOK DOWN... STAMP ON ONE OF HIS FEET... bring your foot down as HARD as you can on one of his feet (you break his foot) and run like hell... SHOUT scream a lot, too.
Kids, if you have the presence of mind when attacked by ANY ANIMAL/SHARK... HIT IT ON THE NOSE AS HARD AS YOU CAN. ANY ANIMAL. RUN LIKE HELL. BEARS CAN RUN FASTER THAN YOU AND CAN CLIMB TREES. LIE DOWN, PLAY DEAD... REMEMBER THE NOSE. HIT THE F**KING NOSE AS HARD AS YOU CAN.... REPEATEDLY. RUN. MAKE A LOT OF NOISE WITH ANY ANIMAL... SCREAM AND SHOUT AT IT... BE AGGRESSIVE. ALWAYS CARRY A WHISTLE.... FOX 40 AT ANY OUTDOOR STORE.
======== MORE STUFF ABOUT ME TO READ===== I have a video channel... http://YouTube.com/ButchNews and other channels you may find at that link.
Somebody, recently, tried to scam me on Craig's List: See video, below...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RR_iuHL6HCo
===== TERRY DAVID SILVERCLOUD =======
GET TO KNOW ME... I began http://ButchNaked.com which is at https://www.flickr.com/photos/david_silvercloud/ to store my images and make them available to other people... I take a lot of them. I wasn't expecting so many visitors, but here you are... about 100,000 photo views a week, lately... 10 million photo views, just now. Thank you for visiting. TELL EVERYONE.
You are free to download and share nude photos of me. Some of my selfies are boner shots. I find that harder to do, now... I'm 73, but will continue to shoot boner shots when my body is in the mood. It's become difficult for me to ask my dick to stand up, on demand, lately. The joy of old age... I don't recommend it, but no cure has, yet, been found. You may share boner shots of me. Download tool is on lower right of each photo with ability to choose download file size. There are thousands of nude selfies, of me, on this site. Artists might find some useful for painting, or drawing. Small computer projectors are inexpensive, these days, and work well for outlining objects, people, scenes, etc.
I don't have time to FOLLOW people I don't know, so you should not expect me to 'follow' you. I don't know you and you must prove you are worth the effort to even bother. I find this whole "following" thing to be some kind of social disease that is prevalent upon the planet, just now, co-dependent interaction and I don't do co-dependency. People are so insecure and lacking in self esteem they are glued to their smart phones to maintain their self worth. I'm a "you get what you give" kind of guy. Whether, or not, you like me, I don't care. I'm just trying to be a nice person who is useful to the planet. Strangers are, mostly, interested in what's in my pants... so I show you.
I'm not into social media... I don't do FaceBook, nor Twitter. I consider them to be cesspools of ignorance and co-dependency. I'm a quiet, intellectual kind of guy, I talk a lot... kind of a motormouth because of my ADHD brain. I can be obsessive compulsive, at times. I've been working on controlling that.
My specialist knowledge is science/particle physics and relativity (time/space stuff). I'm interested in Quantum Field Theory. I'm an expert in the field of photography and am becoming a pretty good painter, now. You will not understand me unless you have a PhD in psychology and, even then, you will be perplexed. I'm not like you... get over it. If you tell me we are all the same I will immediately dismiss you as a bone head, brain dead, idiot. I don't much trust humans, at all, and am very uncomfortable around the huggy kinds of people, as I find them to be among the least intelligent of all. Don't touch me, please, I'll figure you out really, really fast.
I don't enjoy being old. My energy levels are falling and I don't care for that one little bit. I try to stay in shape and exercise most days. I watch the food I eat and try to avoid too many carbohydrates. Fat and sugars are good for you, carbohydrates can be dangerous to many... we are, genetically, carnivores with a meat, root, nut, and fruit digestive system. Grains were not part of our diet until about 8,000 years ago.
We require very little food to survive and are not, physically, adapted to cold climates without a heavy coat of body fat. Fortunately, we discovered fire and cooking which breaks down carbohydrates into more digestible compounds. On the downside, heat destroys many food components. It's tricky, but workable. Humans have become gluttons devouring anything that moves or grows on the planet. Humans are a virus destroying the Earth.
http://TheShapeOfGod.com (http://The-Shape-Of-God.Tumblr.com)
I don't want invisible friends who know nothing about me. I don't give out my phone number lest boneheads text me. Why people assume it's OK to text me, I have no idea. I don't text. I have, absolutely, zero interest in chatting online. Who has the fucking time? I'm a busy person with things to do. If a person can't find the time to phone and talk, I really, really, really don't want to know them... ever. Send me an e-mail or letter, but NEVER text me. If it's important, phone me. I'm sick to death of mindless, unthinking humans.
I have more than a dozen e-mail addresses. I don't own, nor have any use for, a smart phone. I don't give out my phone number, easily. My main address is [email protected] which has extreme spam protection... I may not even get your mail if it has the least hint of spam as you must pass through two separate spam filters, first. My personal blog is at:
http://DavidSilvercloud.com (http://David_Silvercloud.Tumblr.com)
I don't make a lot of video, any more, but do keep a number of YouTube channels. My main channel is http://YouTube.com/ButchNews and you may go direct at http://ButchNews.com
I have old person health issues... severe arthritis and have been on a pain management program for more than five years now... T3's and Diclofenac. The Diclofenac slows my energy, a bit, I sleep longer and more, but the benefits outweigh the side affects. I'm a queer man who likes much younger guys, than myself, with a brain and skinny.
I have no sexual nor social interest in women, at all. I am not comfortable in typical "gay' environments such as gay clubs or bars. I rarely drink, only socially at dinner, and am a heavy pot smoker. I don't smoke cigarettes. I try hard to be fit by frequent, usually daily, exercise of sit-ups, toe touching, and light weights. I watch my calorie intake, attempt to avoid processed foods. I try to eat a variety of foods.
I have no shame regarding nudity, or sex. I am a visual artist and retired studio/commercial photographer. I don't see so well, now, and use a Sony Nex-7 on auto everything (intelligent auto mode). My 'normal' lens is the 16mm pancake lens and I normally use the dedicated Sony Fish Eye attachment or Wide Angle attachments for that lens. You will have great difficulty duplicating my photos without the use of that lens combination. I have lots of time on my hands and spend it on learning to paint, and taking photos.
http://SeriousThunder.com (http://SeriousThunder.Tumblr.com)
I am NOT, presently, online, to save on cash flow... I live on a couple of very small retirement incomes and don't have a lot of money. I don't post every day, but often.Check me out... while above ground I maintain several domains:
My home page...
http://ButchBoard.com
Main YouTube page...
http://ButchNews.com
Main photo cloud...
http://ButchNaked.com
Paintings:
http://SeriousThunder.com
Physics... The Speed of Light...
http://ElectronSpeed.Tumblr.com
God... My manuscript...
http://TheShapeOfGod.com
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