#and im fine being a feminine man but im just not okay being a woman. not even a masculine woman.

[daffodi1]

Genuine question, not meant as rhetorical or anything. Ik dismantling the gender binary is important and all, and I'm all for it as well as getting rid of gender roles. And I know that like, even if the gender binary isn't a thing, medical transition will exist regardless (or at least I hope so, bc I would not have survived this long without it even if my gender identity wasn't a problem). But like... if my identity as a man is important to me, how am I supposed to reconcile that? I know I shouldn't be fixated on any identity period and that I should probably just accept that regardless of gender, I am Me, but being a man has kinda been my shield against people just deciding I'm a woman and being done with it. Like, despite all of my feminine traits and interests, if I'm a man then I'm a man and they can't argue with that. And I guess I'm worried that if I don't have that anymore, I'll have nothing preventing people from just deciding I'm a woman. And maybe that is my problem-- maybe I should not be so opposed to the idea of being a woman but I can't help that I hate it when that's what every transphobic person has tried to shove down my throat all my life. So if anyone knows how to like... stop worrying about it, I would appreciate it bc I genuinely don't know how I'd be able to survive in the society we're supposed to want.

[deerboybreeder]

UPDATED PINNED LETS GOOOO!

[PraiseMe Link!] [Tellonym Link!] (Send me threats and scary things!)

Hi, I'm Deer but you can call me whatever you want idc! Im a trans man and use he/it pronouns (or any pronouns in kink), I'm in my late 20's, and my blog is primarily focused on breeding and pregnancy! However lots of my other kinks will be present here, such as cnc, kidnapping, intox, monsterfucking, hucow and gender play- this includes both force detrans and forcemasc!

Inbox and DMs are open, but keep in mind:

-i am fat! That's just a fact, don't go into this assuming I'm skinny

-I've been on testosterone for several months, and I am starting to be read as a man in my day to day life!

-I AM TAKEN and won't get in a relationship with you. I do have permission for roleplay, so assume unless stated otherwise that I'm playing a role here. I DO NOT SEND PICS BECAUSE OF THIS!!! they own my body ❤️

You Can: talk to me about impregnation, forced impregnation, breeding, pregnancy in general, reduce me to my womb and tits (PLEASE), send fantasies about breeding boys girls and anyone else, hunting deerboys (for breeding or otherwise), monsterfucking, anything hucow related, light blackmail, and forced marriage! I talk about it less here, but I'm also into having parts of me hacked off for meat- feel free to bring that up if you want but I don't expect much bc it's niche. I'm also a traumagenic system of many, so feel free to ask about that/take advantage of it!

Misgendering is good (but I really prefer degendering + dehumanization), forced feminization and forced detransition especially from pregnancy, forcemasc and trans superiority (ESP transfem superiority ❤️). See below the cut for specific boundaries about that!

I also genuinely love being sent: rape threats, stalking threats, degrading messages, porn, insults, messages that imply I'm not a real man (though don't extend this to all trans ppl that's a turn off), messages that call me stupid, and graphic violent threats. If it's not on my limits list, it's probably ok to send!

You can't: ASK FOR PICS, or talk to me about scat/piss, fauxcest/incest, raceplay, beast (not monsterfucker but like real animals). Don't imply I'd cheat on my partners either. Outside of kink warning that if I ever feel like someone actually has my personal information/location, I will delete the blog immediately. So if you want to keep playing with me, don't.

DMS ONLY: Due to privacy and the way Tumblr nukes blogs, I'll only engage with the following in DMs- hunger play, asking about my trauma, and Im CONSIDERING allowing blackmail play if we have a rapport built. I also will do ageplay in DMs but I identify as a younger teen in that space and not a little-little, and won't use family-related terms.

Required reading over! Read all of the above or I'll stomp you to death with my hooves!

Genuinely for blackmail play I gotta trust you. Assume everything here I mention irl is roleplay unless stated otherwise! I am genuinely pumping to induce lactation though, that's real, and so is me dressing more feminine on and off- that's not for detrans reasons but because I'm GNC. The god pregnancy is ALSO real, but some aspects are embellished to make it fit on the kink blog. Feel free to ask about that!

Detrans specific boundaries!

The biggest thing is don't imply all other trans people are not actually their gender. I'm okay with classing "fakeboys" as a group and being considered part of that group, but that's exclusively people who also have a detrans kink. I'm also more likely to engage with this kink with other trans people, and in a much harder context than I would with a cis person.

I'm okay with being called almost any term except for woman- even in the context of kink, I can't stand being called a woman. A womb, a girl, wife, even using she/her on me is fine, just not woman. In my kink narrative, women have a level of personhood that I can't ever have! I also am fine with a specific kind of "misogyny lite" play that's exclusive for fakeboys- fakeboys and ftm girls are subject to the typical "you exist to make babies and be in the kitchen and serve", whereas real trans men, cis men, nonbinary people, and women (both cis and trans) are granted full autonomy and agency.

I'm okay with being told I'm "lying" about being a boy/man, and being made to "go back" to being a girl/cunt/womb/whore/whatever, but what's BEST is breaking me. Sure, I was always a boy, if a fake one, but you decide to break me into a good girl for you and ruin me instead. That's better than anything else! It's also totally okay to do "light" misgendering/force fem to me- encouraging me to dress more femininely due to me being GNC and things like that, only to tell me later it's because you want me feminized.

[jjwho]

Who is your Next Lover

Pile 1. Pile 2

Pile 3. Pile 4

Pile1

Cards pulled out: Five of pentacles, ten of pentacles reversed, seven of wands reversed, three of swords reversed.

Okay pile oneee

Oof so what im getting is that your person might feel left out in the cold, having it ruff especially if its financially, maybe their parents are divorced because of financial issues.

This person really genuinely has it ruff, like they mightve unexpectedly lost a lot of things, like family and espically money, I'm seeing a scene of being in their parents debt and repaying their debt.

Shame man and I see them always surrender so easily and just saying yk fine I'll pay for their debts even though they should. I feel like this person is trying to stay optimistic

This person is someone who has it really ruff but still smiles yk. Hides the pain through a smile and just tries their best and stays optimistic even though the circumstances are bad. I do feel they are trying to ket go of pain and grief but shame man you should take care of them😭🥲

Physical traits:

-Might look German, Dutch or Afrikaans or raised there

-Dark skinned

-Youthful appearance

-Doe eyes

Awww so innocent. I hope that helps you pile one. Just know this is a general reading si nit everything is gonna resonate

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Pile 2

Cards pulled out: Revered- King of pentacles, death, ten of swords

Upright- The High Priestess

Okay pile 2 so uh

This person might not have the best background or past, cause this person might of been very unstable with money and just an unstable person. May come off as cold and rude and greedy. Now they also have a fear of change, they don't want ti change their old habits for some reason. Or didn't want to.

Now maybe they are trying ti change that now, but it takes a really long time for a man or woman like that to change so yeah. Just live your life and don't stay with this person if they aren't gonna treat you well.

They also might come off as mysterious at first or they have a thing for mysterious people and this person really has a thing for desire like he can't control himself and just takes and tales that's what im getting.

(Sorry very toxic masculine energy that's why I called it a him.)

Physical traits:

-oop they may appear to be more feminine, but personality might be masculine

-They have nice nails

-Curvy

-Asian(Asian also means Indian people)

Okay hope that helps pile 2222

Byeee

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Pile 3

Cards pulled out: five of cups,ace of pentacles,seven of cups, seven of pentacles revered

Okay pile 3 sooo

Your next lover is giving me daddy boss vibes

Like this person gots lots of money and opportunities and shit, but idk this person is always focused on the negative, this person is a workaholic doe

This person just needs to set their mind straight, like this person might have a kit of set backs or procrastinate or put their decisions on hold which they shouldnt cause.

Money.

If yk what I mean.

But that's really all that I'm getting tbh, they might a little lazy too when it comes to live, not too experienced in it and enter really been in love. To focused on work yk.

Physical Traits

-They got abs-

-Freckles

-Strong arms

-summer aesthetic

Damn they work out. Hot for uuu

Okay byeee hope that helps pile 3333

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Pile 4

Cards pulled out: eight of pentacles, the devil, judgement, ten of swords reversed

Okay pile 4 so uhm damn

Uh

So you might know this person from work, might be a new worker, they work really hard and might attract a lot of the higher ups. They're confident in there work too, now they might be a bit of a sexual person who's a bit obsessive and yk very sexual and naughty ooop. Yeah yeah. Like a dark but attractive aura. Pure and cool at work but sexy and whatever around outside yk yk.

Some who likes fairness though. Very strong taste in justice. And someone who stands up for themselves and other yk yk.

Sexy, hardworking, good morals, sexy again.

That's all that I'm getting tbh

Physical Traits:

-Doe eyes

-Light skinned

-Brown eyes

-they might not smell the best tho-

Hope that helps byeee

[gayhenrycreel]

what the fuck is wrong with this community?

why is there a requirement of trans men being subs? combined with the demonization of surgery, this cuntboy fetish thing kinda hurts. i never see any appreciation for, like... any dicks on men. unless said man is skinny, but also muscular to the point that im concerned for his mental health.

there are two (2) types of gay men allowed in the queer community: hairy muscular masculine cis man, and objectified "trans man" who is always white, fem, has no body hair at all, and is treated as a woman in every way. also he has to have a misgendering kink. its a requirement.

this would be fine if there was ANYTHING ELSE ALLOWED.

even irl i don't know any masc queer people at all. i feel very alone. does the queer community hate masculinity? i dont want to go into a relationship if its expected that im fine with being a submissive woman. i dont want to have sex before phalloplasty.

i go into a queer space (any space, irl or online) and everyone is talking about makeup and offering me some and calling me "girl" and theres this idea that men are evil. theres nothing wrong with femininity but radical feminism is never okay. the last queer space i was in irl had this one person who made jokes about how men suck and EVERYONE AGREED WITH HER.

everytime they have an event people offer me makeup and I GET CALLED A GIRL AGAIN.

even worse, the fucking coordinator tried to convince me to preserve my fucking egg cells after i said i want my entire reproductive system removed and stomped on. then she called me "girl".

and i said i didnt like makeup but people just said "are you sure?" like i dont know what makes me suicidally dysphoric.

i cant go into a space for people like me without my gender expression being questioned.

its bizarre that a cishet doctor would listen to me more about my sexual autonomy than a fellow trans person who says i might change my mind about HAVING A WHOLE FUCKING PERSON GROWING INSIDE ME. i have panic attacks about that. i have nightmares. and then she said i should still consider having sex, and when i said i don't want to she told me ill "meet the right person one day". i have a medical condition that makes penetration EXTREMELY painful, and when i try other holes i cant fucking feel anything, and no i dont like being pressured into sex because, shockingly, im not interested in getting raped.

i wont even consider sex until i get every surgery i can get. i just want a relationship that never goes past cuddles. i wish people would consider that i want to be a cis man, especially after ive already said thats what i want.

the cis people in my life always respect my gender. a lot of trans people in my life call me "girl" and tell me shit like "youll get to a point mentally where you dont need surgery to be happy".

i actually had someone say that to me. i said that not having t and surgery makes me suicidal, and they just told me i dont need it. then they said surgery is not necessary, even though ive wanted it for longer than i knew it was an option.

(dont worry gaylord and twobruhsinahottub im not talking about you)

[a-court-of-moonlight-and-ire]

Hey! I feel like Ive been at this for a goddamn eternity so in an attempt to speed things up I shall read 3 chapters today, how exciting. Im motivating myself by telling me that Im gonna get to watch the 2007 Takarazuka Snow Troupe Production of Elisabeth when Im done, specifically my favorite song because. okay so, when I talk about watching any Takarazuka production of Elisabeth what I actually mean is, I have pretty much all the proshots and a bunch of english subtitle files, but theres not a subtitle file for every existing proshot, so for example, theres a subtitle file for the 1996 Star Troupe Production but not the 1996 Snow Troupe Production which isnt a big deal since the diaogue and lyrics are all the same, but you cant just put the Star subtitle file over the Snow video because itll be completely out of sync, so what I do is, I put the Star subtitles into my subtitle editor with the Snow video and I manually re-sync every line to create Snow subtitles, and while I do that Im effectively just watching my favorite musical over and over again except very slowly. So yeah, in case you were wondering what your favorite acotar complainer does for fun, now you know

Anyway, enough of my life, now its time for my liveblog, last time Feyre and Rhysand got ambushed by some of Hyberns soldiers and Rhys got shot atleast 7 times and kidnapped and tortured, but Feyre was fine and she saved him and she pulled all the arrows out of him and now hes probably gonna be perfectly fine. I know this isnt gonna affect him in any meaningful way, like his wings are gonna bd fine and his back isnt gonna hurt, but I do hope that he atleast suffers for the duration of the 3 chapters im gonna read because otherwise whats the point

Chapter 50

Rhysands wounds are only healing very slowly and hes got a fever, we're off to a good start

idk why but I really hate Feyre kissing him on the forehead. the narrative has not earned such a tender gesture

THE SURIEL 🎉🎉

Oh, i hadnt noticed this before but I like the alliteration we get with the german translation of Feyre Cursebreaker, Feyre Fluchbrecher. 10/10 very fun to say

its been ONE year since Feyre first came to Prythian, Sarah im begging you, please stop pointing out the passage of time youre activel making it harder for me to get invested in this stupid romange

They translate 'Mate' as 'Seelengefährte' ['Soulmate'] and oh, you have no idea how happy I am about that, this and the fact that they dont say male and female but just man and woman/masculine and feminine makes this series about a million times better, once again, thank you Alexandra Ernst

I dont understand why Feyre being Rhysands mate is such a big deal anyway, she didnt grow up in this culture, and pretty much all she has at this point is Tamlin's vague explanation of it being a bond that goes beyond marriage and the fact that his and Rhysand's parents, both infamously horrible couples, were mates

'"He is the most powerful High Lord to have ever walked the earth. You are... new. You were created by all seven High Lords. Different than anything that existed before you. Does that not make you the same? Equal?"' ewww i hate that. If this is supposed to be romantic somehow why would you make it all about power, why wouldnt the Suriel say smth like "You both suffered in the same ways. He is the is the only one to ever truly understand you"

But also. Rhysand and Feyre are not even the same though ? Like yeah, Rhys is powerful, but wasnt Feyre special because shes capital-m Made, which he is not? If the logic behind mates is the two people being 'the same' in some way, then Feyre should really be Amren's mate methinks

Im not gonna lie, Feyre angrily forcing Rhys to drink her blood is pretty hot

'Deep down I hated myself for speaking to him like this.' No girl dont hate yourself, this is the first time in over 600 pages Ive found the feysand dynamic even remotely compelling

'I stared at him, this Illyrian half-blood whose soul was bound to mine.' what the hell? Top Ten Feyre Archeron Racist Moments

This mf really told his cousin and his weird freaky eldritch creatures whose apartment he pays for that he and Feyre are mates before he told Feyre

I just zoned out thinking about a version of Feysand where Feyre is basically constantly telling Rhys stuff like 'youre just a burden' or whatever she said during that one argument because shes starting to figure out his weak spots the more time she spends with him and she wants to like, break him emotionally as revenge for UTM and Rhysand doesnt do anything about it because he just represses all his emotions and he cant just stop spending time with her because theyre mates and he feels like he needs to be close to her all the time. Idk, abusive relationships have been my favorite angst fanfic premise lately

Its so wild how Feyre is super angry with Rhys for keeping the mating bond from her when literally everyone else already knew and not only is he gonna do the exact same thing with the baby in acosf, Feyre is just gonna be fine with it then even though its arguably much much worse

Chapter 51

Okay so I guess Cassian, Azriel and Mor have just been hanging out in Rhysand's warcamp house, do they not have anything better to do

god i wish being all pathetic laying in the dirt was Rhysand's default state instead of him always being the manliest man to ever man

Oh, so I guess Mor used to get locked up in this cabin in the middle of nowhere whenever she 'misbehaved'. you would think she'd have more sympathy for Nesta in acosf but from everything ive seen.....

this chapter was extremely short

I completely forgot that this book was split into parts, i guess its The House of Mist time now

Chapter 52

god the anachronistic clothing in this series is gonna be the death of me, why is feyre always wearing leggings and a cremecolored swester istg

Full offense, but if the mating bond is soooooo much stronger than marriage, Rhysand should not have been earnestly worried about Feylin getting married

This part where Feyre is relieved because it turned out that her relationship with Tamlin was always doomed to fail because she had a soulmate is pretty interesting, but it also feels like complete bullshit for reasons that Im struggling to articulate

I would just like to reiterate that I am so relieved that they just call it soulmates in the german version, I cannot imagine how insufferable this must be to read in english

Feyre started painting again hoorayyyyyyy. i feel like this wouldve been more impactful if she wasnt constantly thinking about wanting to paint whatever she sees, but hey

I actually think this part where Mor comes in and just goes around complimenting all the stuff Feyre painted everywhere is quite nice, I think i would enjoy it more if this whole story wasnt pissing me off rn

waiiiiiit ive never seen people talk about Mor's mother even though shes apparently alive and well, whats their relationship? Whats her role at the CoN if Mor is supposed to be the queen of the Hewn City??

Mor being like "Rhysand gave me his permission to kill my abusers but I dont do it even though I have pretty much no reason not to, but Cassian and Azriel really want to do it and would do it without hesitation so maybe I'll let them do it" is somehow a perfect summary of SJM's shallow wannabe feminism

Feyre still barely understands the relationships between individual members of the inner circle but sure, theyre the family she never had

[morimakesfanart]

I was born in a country that didn't really advertise the lgbtq Community ( most people are homophobic) I was about 14 when I learned that there were other genders the only ones I knew were boy and girl Im 15 years old now and still have a hard time asking questions about this subject to my parents, Im an internet child and everything I know is from the internet. Im not sure what is correct or wrong because internet people sexualises Im sorry for being silent. I just dont know what I should say

It's totally fine! You don't have to say anything if you aren't comfortable or don't want to. :3 I didn't find out that there were nonbinary genders until I was in my 20's. I thought I was a girl that was a boy sometimes and had no idea that there were other people like me. My parents knew and taught me about gay, lesbian and bisexual when I was 7-8, so I've known for a long time that I wasn't straight. We all get exposed to these things at different rates. (I didn't have private access to the internet until I was 19 when I saved up to get my own computer)

As long as you remain respectful, I am fully willing to answer any questions about my sexuality and gender :3

I'll say it forever: ignorance is not a sin. No one comes into this world knowing everything. And education and exposure to things is absolutely a privilege :3 As long as you are willing to learn and are respectful, it is okay to not know something. It only becomes a problem when someone tries to force others to fit their expectations.

Semi recently I was asked in dms to explain LGBTQ+ stuff by a few different people that were new to it, so I already have explanations ready :D

Note: these explanations use USA names and understandings for things. Other cultures and languages have different words. I am explaining the basics for a lot of aspects of LGBT+ so I won't be explaining a lot of the nuance. Consider this a place to get started in learning what terms to search for so you can find more, or have more words to be able to ask questions :3 The LGBTQIA+ WIKI is a good resource to look up more information.

Explanation under the cut because it's long. I broke it down into 3 sections: biological sex, gender, sexuality/romantic attraction.

Biological Sex

Biological sex, and gender are 2 separate things. Sex determins your gonads (sex organs).

There are many possible chromosome combinations that determine a human's biological sex. It is true that there are 2 combinations that are the most common (XX, XY). The others are rare and affect the body in different ways (X, XXY, XYY, YY, XXXY, etc). Many of these lead to a person having a mix of gonads, may be missing one or more sexual organs or have different hormone balances. This makes them ntersex. The fact that someone is intersex might not be visible if the difference is internal. Because of this many intersex people have no way to know they are intersex without getting a DNA test. There is a very small percent of the population that is innersex. Google gives the number 1.7%, but remember that 1.7% of 8.05 billionis is still tens of millions of people. (Intersex is the I in LGBTQIA+)

Gender

Gender is a collection of expectations and presentations defined by a culture -normally paired to a person's preceived sex. Many things that are normal for a gender in one culture will not be the same in other cultures. These expectations normally define: hair length, clothes, family role, etc). Most people do not fully adhere with the expectations on their gender.

Gender nonconforming means that the person does not conform to the social expectations of their gender beyond the normal deviation. This can include using vocal and visual mannerisms, or pronouns that don't align with their gender. (Feminine men, he/him women, etc )

Cis gender- identifying with your assigned gender at birth. (Man, woman (the binary genders))

Trans gender- not identifying with your assigned gender. (Trans man, trans woman, any nonbinary gender)

Nonbinary is not identifying with the social belief that there are only 2 genders; it is not a 3rd gender. There are multiple genders that don't fit in the binary that fall under the umbrella title of nonbinary. (You might see nonbinary shortened to enby which is from the pronunciation of "NB", but to differentiate it from NB which stands for "not black.") Some common nonbinary genders are agender, demi boy/demi girl, bi gender, and gender fluid (like me :D).

Sexuality (& Romantic Attraction)

Sexuality is what genders you are attracted to -normally uses your gender as a basis. Since the names of many of these were made before it was more widely accepted that there are more than 2 genders, the names often reflect the gender binary. If you research the history of all of them you will find far more nuance.

The term queer was used as a slur for a time, but the community has reclaimed it, and often uses it as an umbrella term for anyone who is LGBTQIA+ (it is also what the Q stands for). Since it was considered a slur, many people aren't comfortable being called it, so it's good practice to not call someone queer without their permission even if they are LGBT+. I really like the term queer and often refer to myself as queer because it can be a lot easier than explaining my specific gender and sexuality.

Straight- attracted to the opposite gender

Gay- men attracted to men

Lesbian- women attracted to women.

Straight, gay, and lesbian are generally considered attracted to exclusively one gender. The term "fluid" can be attached to these to say that while they are mainly attracted to [gender] sometimes they are attracted to other genders. You may also see these terms attached to bisexual to denote preference.

Since gay and lesbian are widely considered attracted to exclusively one gender there are other terms becoming popular that are not as exclusive. Sapphic is women that love women (and can love other genders). Achillean is men that love men (and can love other genders).

It's also worth noting that Straight, Gay and Lesbian are accepting of non binary genders in both who can identify with the sexuality labels, and who they are attracted to.

Enbian- nonbinary people attracted to nonbinary people (this is a semi new term that is still developing.)

Bisexual- there's a lot of debate on the exact meaning, but it has come to be accepted as an umbrella term for people who are attracted to more than one gender. (I fall under this one. I normally say I'm bi/pan fluid because my preference moves around a lot -depends on what characters I've been hyperfixating on recently XD)

Asexual (ace)- someone who does not experience sexual attraction. They may or may not experience sexual desire (horny). They can still experience romantic attraction and crave romantic relationships.

Aromantic (aro)- someone who does not experience romantic attraction. They may or may not experience romantic desire. They can still experience sexual attraction.

Note that Asexual and Aromantic are spectrums. These are the most common that I tend to see, and for a while where used as sub-umbrella terms:

Asexual/aromantic- does not experience attraction

Gray sexual/romantic- experiences attraction in rare circumstance or only when specific things are in place (can be like having very specific taste). Or they can only experience attraction in a mild way.

Demi sexual/romantic- experiences attraction only after forming a bond with a person. For many this is only after knowing someone for a long time, but doesn't always have to be.

Asexual and Aromantic people will often specify their combination. Examples: Asexual Lesbian Romantic; Aromantic Bisexual. (I am Gray bi/pan romantic, and Demi sexual (specifically cupiosexual))

Also, regardless on whether or not someone experiences sexual attraction, they may or may not be accepting of, or like sex. This is normally broken down into 3 umbrella levels: Sex Favorable, Sex Neutral, Sex Repulsed. Sex favorable is considered the normal for non-ace relationships. It's very common for people that experienced sexual abuse to be sex repulsed. (I am sex favorable)

There is a lot of overlap with these, as well as with ace and aro. For example: in fandom and fanfiction spaces expect to find many asexuals that are sex repulsed in real life but love to explore sex in fiction.

One final note: the A in LGBTQIA+ refers to agender, asexual and aromantic. It does not refer to ally.

If anyone has any questions about these, I will do my best to respond and give links to where you can do more reading. For obvious reasons I know more about the parts I identify with, than the parts I don't :3

[teawiththespleen]

okay i get it feminine women find NLOG narratives grating but these video essays about NLOG characters in historical dramas are soooo obtuse. like you really think youve analysed the story critically when your point boils down to jo march/anne shirley/anne lister werent all that for going against everything that was expected of them, or when the character trope youre critiquing are REAL people

there’s nOt LiKe OtHeR giRLs, and then there’s existing in an insular or conservative culture as a woman and being unable to exist in peace in any way other than a way that ACTIVELY makes your life harder. i live in a conservative place by and large and im okay dressing in any way that doesn’t have me be a focal point, so i’ll wear something that i dont feel entirely myself in and be fine. but man it’s tough out here for decidedly masc presenting women, who, if anything, check all the conservative dresscode boxes. and that’s NOW. like present day.

what these critiques fail to take into account is that what youd consider NLOG is often performatively so? like youre not just unlike other girls, you’re unlike other girls in a way that’s appealing to men or other such women or whoever decides things are cool. so much of being NLOG is about declaring that you are not like the other girls. and then listing out the ways that you are then not.like the other girls (but you’re still thin, light skinned, have long hair, have a carefully curated wardrobe dw).

ig it’s distancing yourself from admitting you’re preoccupied with figuring out how to perform femininity or feminine appeal or maybe not wanting to be hyperfeminine but youre still straight, or maybe youre at lvl 1 NLOG and you think hyperfemininity and critical thinking is a real life dichotomy or smth

idk what to tell the ytuber but anne lister was decidedly not like other girls. i dont think she’d even call herself a girl if she were plonked into the present day. anne shirley was either born ND or was put through a traumatising system early and for long enough to never be able to look at the world the same way as the kids brought up safely and with loving, money-having parents. and both of these characters loved women too much for you to conclude that they scorned “feminine” qualities (and therefore, the other girls).

you really cant ignore the context of the time. it took so little to not be like other girls. and so many of her points kind of made my heart sink. is attention to clothing and caring about feminine coded things all that there is to being a woman? if anything a historical setting lets you see there’s more to gender and that people contain multitudes. esp w little women, jo and amy are written as foils and share many core features that make them THEM, more so than their clothing or style or the way they choose to come across and the things they scoff at. they’re two ends of the SAME spectrum

where people get the idea that existing as a masculine woman is easy i do not know. i think people too often conflate being gender non-conforming, with actively rebelling against and/or denouncing gendered expectations, with the NLOG trope/phenomenon as seen in social media/published media

you would really make a “we need to talk about…” video about these women and characters while wearing jeans and having your hair down and wearing bright lipstick..

[virgoiscariot]

body hcs that nobody asked for, I’m just articulating them so it’s easier for me to visualize my silly little scenarios

vanya: biiiig guy. 6’5 of well insulated muscle. thick thighssssssss tree trunk arms tits and belly. High cheekbones and the quintessential big ass nose. Used to keep his hair really neat but now it’s kind of shaggy because he’s too cheap to go to a barber and just cuts it himself. Dirty blonde. AUGHmy big man 💗💗💗

al: college quarterback after three years in a frat. Lean, strong, but a little soft around the edges. Ass is 10/10. Tan skin with freckles, still a bit of a baby face. Bottle blonde to fit in with his European family lol. His hair is a little floppy but with some gel it sits nice. He has a poppy tattooed on his inner wrist!

Gil: saddest most pathetic frail little man. Literally looks like he’s dying because he is! Silvery hair is kind of thin and lifeless these days, there’s not much warmth in his cheeks, and he’s constantly covered in bruises from falling or whacking himself into things by accident. Crooked nose from fighting so much. He’s too shaky to shave himself and Erzsi is the only person he trusts to pt a razor to his throat so if she’s not around he gets kind of scruffy. And fine I’ll say it he was in a Camp and has a tattoo to show for it.

Erzsi: r/fit lady… does CrossFit and jogs like 10 miles a day. Killer muscle definition and abs of steel. A bit lacking in the boob department but nobody’s perfect and Gil has always been an ass man so it’s okay. Gorgeous dark brown hair and a prominent nose. Sculpted cheekbones and thinner lips. All in all a pretty angular appearance that’s still distinctly feminine.

Katya: STRONG GIRL! FARM! She’s a lot of woman…. Yes she is tall. Yes she is strong. Yes she is fat. Hourglass figure with body for dayssssss. Her face is pretty round but she’s still got those high cheekbones and rosebud lips. Prominent nose but not like Ivan’s. She has nipple piercings! Her hair is a pretty silvery blonde and she keeps it short so she can just put it back with a bandana.

Mattie: Big guy. Think hockey player in hibernation. Im so tired of people twinkifying Matthew and I will not stand for it!!! Also a bottle blonde but more vigilant about his roots than Alfred. Also tan skin but not as warm as his brother. The wavy hair was a gift from his papa but his curl pattern has been fried by bleach over the last few decades. Blessed and cursed by hockey player ass

Ber: built for endurance! Strong and stocky, like he could chop up firewood like a breeze AND keep you warm at night. Second tallest nord!c. Not glaring but squinting 24/7 because he needs new glasses but he’s too cheap to buy them lol. Stick straight straw blonde hair that he can’t do much with besides brush back and pray it stays. Little rainbow tattoo behind his left ear. Keeps a neat beard in the winter.

Ti: hurhfhfjdkjfkdjfj plump. Like there’s no other way to put it the guy is just fat. Still very strong but you wouldn’t know it looking at him. Built like a moomintroll. Very proud of how he looks except that he’s got a round face and can’t grow a beard which makes him look like less of a threat like no motherfucker I’ll kill you!! Pretty blonde hair that can do this nice swoopy thing to stay out of his face. Tits >>>

Mads: triangle man!!! Broad shoulders, defined muscle, taper down into a small waist. Strong arms and legs. Freckles aaaaall over that really pop out when he gets some sun. Strawberry blonde hair that sticks straight up so he’s learned to embrace it. Nose is crooked from being punched in the face a few too many times. Sharp defined jaw so he doesn’t like to hide it with facial hair.

Lu: *deep breath* CHUBBY LUKAS SUPREMACY!!! Stop Kate Mossifying my boy he takes Thorazine and it made him fat. He’s on the indoorsy side so although he does exercise some he’s not as muscular as Mads, Ber, or Ti. Platinum blonde hair he straightens and pins back because otherwise the waves are just too much. He would have defined cheekbones and jaw if his face wasn’t chubby lol. Thin lips and a thin, sharp nose.

Eirí: scrawny lil kid. The shortest nord!c. Not much substance to him at all so he dresses in somewhat baggy clothes to make him look bigger. Silvery blonde hair that he straightens like his brother. Occasional issues with acne and miserable volcanic pimples so he’s got some ice pick scarring. Same sharp nose and thin lips as his brother.

Feliks: Skinny queen, fairly toned but generally model-type thin. Soft blonde hair around his shoulders. Prominent nose and thin lips. Scarred up a lot over the last millennia.

Vi: Also scrawny, but you can tell that he used to be strong.

Sorry ladies the klonopin is hitting hard I can’t finish the post

[fantastic-mr-corvid]

fuck it Cecio is a trans man. Celia 'acquired' some Anderos salve for him, and then when he was sent to his father, his father bought him a potion of sex shifting to finish of his transition.

more detail under the cut [+ bonus wtf is Celias gender. well she don't know either] warning for talk of dysphoria

As a kid Cecio wasn't particularly fussed about gender, he was his mothers precious little Cecio and his sisters little Ceci, and it wasn't like they could be picky with their clothes [not to mention Celia being masc as fuck] but once he was older [like 7] and started interacting with other kids, he realized he was uncomfortable being a seen as a girl and jealous of his male peers, so he told Celia and she asked him if he wanted to be a boy, and boom. trans. she asked around about it, and was pointed towards the salve, so just before puberty, she made sure to get enough money for sixth months of the salve, so he didn't have to go thru the wrong one. [his name was Cecio & he kept it bc its was kinda masculine anyway.]

once Cecio was in andoran, everything had said son [his father wasn't around for the birth & Cecio quickly socially transitioned] so his dad just went 'okay! ig i better but a sex shift potion' and boom. hes fully transitioned

Celia is gender queer herself, and while she normally uses she/her to self refer, she is more than comfortable with being referred to using he/him & they/them, and has spent many undercover missions as a man, and many non-undercover missions going along with what people assume. she has a complicated relationship with femininity, but its much more bc of how practical shes forced to be, and how the role of 'mother' was forced onto her.

Unlike Cecio, who was dysphoric even before puberty, Celia is fine with her body, even once she stops viewing it mainly as a tool. she just doesn't think about her gender that much, and deems it irrelevant. if she used technical labels [and cared enough to think about them] she would be some flavor of Agender and very slightly gender fluid [she sometimes does prefer to be him, but he doesn't get very dysphoric about it, and he has more to worry about.]

Cecio isn't loud about being trans, its just something that happened, and hes very secure in his identity as a gay man. if he hadn't had the potion he would not be having sex nearly as much as he does, bc of dysphoria. Luckily for him, even without the potion, his mothers face is very masculine, and he eventually is a stupidly tall 6 foot two. [the truly self indulgent character trait] & his father did one good thing and bankrolled the potion

while he did/does have dysphoria, hes now secure in himself due to his full transition, and is fine with being seen as a very pretty man. he could cut his hair, but he likes it long, and he now likes being just as beautiful as he is handsome. No-one has mistaken him for a woman in a long time, and if some of the guys make comments that are to close, well they can fuck off. he wont tell people, but if they ask, he will confirm, and then ask them if they have an issue with that? if not its chill.

and no matter how much anderos salve or sex change potions, Celia is still taller than him. L. hey at least hes 6 foot 2 even if he will never be taller than his sister!

also just celia being like 'fuck my lil sibling says gender dont fit. guess ill ask around' and learning all about it. and still being like 'im a woman ig' i love her/him/them<33 'im fine with all pronouns but i forget to use the others for myself' ass bitch. worlds worst agender. [its not misgendering to use she/her mainly at all! she does it herself]

[0xo]

oh exciting update as of sunday!!! ive had four tshots now, not exactly in a month, but it's like a month's worth of doses so i'll say one month on t. some nice small things i've noticed & thoughts on my goals and presentation

- singing voice is different, speaking voice isn't, but specifically when singing i feel more strain in my mix/head voice when aiming higher and more ease in lower registers. i haven't Lost any range but i do feel the difference in trying to hit my highs

- slightly darker hair on my upper lip (used to be basically invisible) and more hair growing on my torso and thighs (had v little thigh hair before, like it's there but paler and sparse)

- a little but more breakout prone but seems under control, mostly just on my shoulders which has always been where that happens for me

- oh you know.

- definitely more sweaty, i do feel the need to take a body shower every day to avoid being gross. also sleeping in shirts instead of topless to not get my bed gross.

- however, my hair seems to need washed less often - very surprising considering two years ago it used to look very dirty by the end of the day (i have been working on reducing washes for a good year but this has seen a drastic jump from like every-other-day washes *if* i used dry shampoo, to looking fine on the second day and maybe needing dry shampoo on day three but being fine for day four after that. extremely nice to only wash my hair once or twice a calendar week)

- slight change in hair texture as well, a little thicker and the color has gotten a bit darker? i had mousy-brown hair when i was a child, dyed the shit out of it from age five onwards, and noticed it getting much darker around four years ago. i bleached my hair right before starting and the regrowth is a biiit darker than it was before and definitely a bit different in texture

- feeling more grounded in my body

i don't plan to stay on t very long, just to get a few little changes i'm interested in - mostly related to singing voice and uhhh downstairs (which im already accomplishing!) but not long enough to really truly grow facial hair (don't want it at all, but im fine with shaving a lil stache) or change my speaking voice.

or at least not change my voice enough to preclude me from the pitched-up feminine inflection i use with strangers; i use that for safety, people receive me better with it, it's how i prefer to interface with unfamiliar people. if my truly comfortable voice gets deeper, i'm very fine with that, i would even Like that.

but i'm highly aware that being perceived as a cis woman is much safer for me where i am, and i would prefer that even after top surgery i could be mistaken for a very flat-chested woman if i needed to be. and that kind of depends on my ability to keep speaking the way i do to be polite to strangers.

i would like my own kind of androgyny that's not really dependent on how others see me. more to change my body for myself than anyone else, right? i want a deeper singing voice for my own enjoyment, but i don't really care what my "home" speaking voice is like, that could stay as it is. it's deep enough to be comfortable for me, i enjoy it, my loved ones hear it as perfectly me. a flat chest is for my comfort, not so others see me as a man. i just don't want tits ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ not my preferred accessory for my skirts, yknow? and i'd like button-ups to fit nicer, or to go bare-chested at the beach if i want to. also THE BACK PAIN of carrying these things is ridiculous, just truly and fully ridiculous. i don't know how generations of my family have done it, because all of us who have breasted have breasted QUITE BOOBILY

i do not love being misgendered, but to be perceived as a woman is familiar to me and i know how to work with that. i don't know how to work with being seen by strangers as a man. i am not attached enough to the idea of Being either to really actually want to """fully""" transition to being seen as a man, if that makes sense. i'm okay if other people don't get it, i just want the autonomy to look how i want!

i don't think there's a reliable way to be just Perceived As Genderless, so i can settle with being confusing or being seen as a weird but nice lesbian. i am one!!! i am honestly very very feminine, i'm fine with people seeing that, i just want to be feminine with a flat chest and a voice that i can choose to drop. i'm also masculine and i want to be able to lean into that in a more comfortable body. like, wear well-fitted suits if i want, play with looking more manly if i want, be topless on beaches if i want. to just get dressed in ANYTHING without fighting with my chest.

anyways im so happy to be on t for a little while <3333 lesbian as a gender is sooooo real and soooo fun im kissing all the nonbinary transmasc lesbians <3333 also kissing all the nonbinary transfemme lesbians <3333 we are so cool for being nonbinary and lesbians!!!!!!!

[vtoriacore]

(This got explicit in the sexual sense (just for context it's not elaborate) im sorry you can still delete if you don't wanna answer)

Kay so I'm queer

A walking pride rainbow if you will

Then I'm also asexual, and majority know what asexuality generally represents

So when it comes to gender, as per cis men and women, I'm unsure if I can still be interested in 'men', cus we all know how boys are like (and I'm in the worst continent to look for a boyfriend in X_X )

So I've constantly asked myself 'What is it that a man could give me that women would still be able to provide, but is more common and easier to obtain from them?'

And the top answer I could get from that was ✨cock✨ (trans women would still provide and I'm greatful)

But then I'm asexual????? And I don't think I want a meat stick in me besides when I wanna start a family

And strap ons still exist sooooo

So then I asked myself 'what else can they provide???'

All I can come up with is muscles, strength, height and deeper voice

All of which women can very much still provide

So the question is

Am I under the bisexual umbrella? Even doe the only genders I see are society's cis quota cus they keep trying to shove it down our throats, yet for queer peeps gender is just another detail of identity, so aren't I pan cus gender doesn't really factor into my attraction?

Or am I lesbian? Cus time and time again the universe seems to be trying to convince me to just be queer and woman lover all the way

What do you think

hmm this is actually very deep and im so FAR from a professional so don't take my opinion to heart bc im not qualified for anything but

okay in short it seems to me like maybe you're attracted to femininity and fem aligned genders? it doesn't have to be sexual or anything (but even if you're asexual, that shit is a whole ass spectrum with levels to it so could still be possible and normal!!).

bisexuality is attaction to more than two genders (it's the definition!!) so you can still be attracted to masc aligned people, yes! but if you fully do not see gender even if you're asexual, but rather find people romantically appealing for who they are then id say you could be panromantic? gender as a whole is so damn complicated too, bc it makes pansexuality in particular a bit difficult. i used to think i was pan but then i had a preference for 'women' because of some traits society put on them such as being more emotional (which are stereotypes) so i then reverted to being bi. but if you find that you prefer fem aligned people then maybe you're biromantic with a preference for them? if you still hold attraction to men or masc aligned people then you still are bi yes. you could very well be sapphic actually tho if you find that fem aligned (or masc - but not cismam and non-binary too!) hit different depending on your own gender.

basically, this shit complicated as fuck and i think you're biromantic! BUT always go with the term that feels right to you! if you're fine identifying as queer that's perfectly fine! or if you feel panromantic is right then that's also fine? or bi and pan for short if your asexuality is also complicated because lord knows that shit took me so long to figure out fr. this was deffo an interesting rant so thanks for sending it in! i probably didn't help bc as you can see i know next to nothing JDNDJFB someone more qualified could probably answer better

[artezui]

transmisogyny affects me in a unique way because, to someone who is transmisogynistic, i am categorized in one of 2 distinct ways (and sometimes both simultaneously): a failure of a man or a mockery of a woman.

to clarify, i am a rather masculine trans woman in many people's eyes, and im very okay with that. though i am taking HRT, i don't wear traditionally feminine outfits and usually still dress in masculine wear (t shirts and jeans, collared/polo shirts, flannels, boots) and genuinely enjoy it. i find a lot of comfort in being able to dress how i want to, and i dress like that. however, i still assert myself to the public as a trans woman.

thus comes along the two categories. i am often seen as a "failure of a mam" due to either being seen as a betrayal to masculinity or someone who has "given up" on perceived self-improvement by feminizing myself and no longer acting as a man. because of this, both men and women reject me and continue to deadname (when possible), misgender, and disrespect me; the attitude i receive at my customer service job, for example, is of a far more negative average than my cisgender male coworker. i usually receive this treatment more in-person than i do online, though it absolutely does happen, usually from men.

otherwise i am seen as a "mockery of a woman", due to the fact that i either do not pass as a woman because of both my fashion and how early i am into my physical transition (which i am personally fine with, passing does not concern me) or because, upon learning i am transgender, the concept of who i am is rejected entirely on the principle of it existing at all. these are the "you will never be a woman" comments, the "nobody wants to fuck you" comments, the "you're pretending to be a woman for nefarious purposes" comments. it's an inherently accusatory point of view because it automatically assumes that it is my goal, as a trans woman, to either mock womanhood or exploit womanhood for one reason or another. this i associate most with terfs. this is treatment i receive far more online than in person, but people that seem to fall into this category are the people i find the most dangerous.

i do not encounter outwardly expressed transmisogyny daily (mostly due to intentionally avoiding spaces that enable it, though it is still every few days it happens) but now that ive stepped into a more corporate-focused job, i see traces of it everywhere with interactions i have with anyone above me. my previous lead director, before he suddenly quit due to our recent acquisition, was kind to me to my face but called me a "rat", "liar", a "cheat" and a "walking HR complaint waiting to happen". he had expressed intentions to fire me despite a worker shortage, my performance outpacing most trainees in the company until that point, and not intending to stick around himself just to eliminate any progress i could secure in that work environment. i am lucky to still have my job.

❗️❗️ This is asked entirely in good faith. This post is intended to open dialogue and help with solidarity and understanding. ❗️❗️

I would like to hear specifically from trans women and trans fems how the system of transmisogyny uniquely targets and affects you. Things that you feel other demographics do not experience. Reblogs and replies are very encouraged! If you would prefer, you could dm or send an ask to be added anonymously by me.

This is in the spirit of wanting to understand. I am listening. I encourage all non-trans-fems to not speak on this topic and let trans fems and trans women do the talking here. Reblog the post to spread it, but please say nothing.

Any and all people who identify as trans women and/or trans fems are encouraged to participate.

This is not bait to start a fight. I will block without hesitation anyone who is actively being a shithead on this post. I want to hear and uplift your voices by getting it directly from you.

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[thejokulatrix]

Hi, I will start saying that english is not my first language, so please forgive me for some mistakes. So, I identify as a radfem for some time now, it makes sense to me, for many reasons that are not the point, but even before knowing the radical feminist community I think about being trans. Like, started when I was 11, maybe 12, maybe even less, and never stopped. I understand that the feeling begin because I wanted to dress less feminine and cut my hair and my family full on bullyed me. But know im almost 29, get all the reasons this started, but the feeling does not stop. I want it to stop, because honestly I do not think i'm a man, but I have a lot of fantasies with transition, especially mastec and name changing.

I don't think i'm non binary (dont believe in the concept), I feel that im just a female; not a man, not a woman, not anything, just female. Anyway, just wanted to know your thoughts about this, I saw a post of yours saying that we could ask, so im asking, Am I fooling myself? Am I insane? Am I trans??

Hi Anon. Your english was just fine, no worries.

I could write a big long thing about signs of being trans and how we bury that and all that, but instead I'll leave you with the gutpunch I got recently on here; "Cis people do not think about transition for years.". Just something to consider as you move forward.

I don't think you're fooling yourself or insane. I went through the exact same thing because I couldn't handle being nonbinary myself. I didn't want to accept it, I liked things in two separate boxes with clear lines. But life doesn't work that way and sometimes things being both or neither is true and okay. If you want to see for yourself, go a day where you don't reaffirm to yourself constantly you're a woman. Use a term in your own mind that makes sense for how you just don't like being either. Don't even tell anybody, this is just for you. If it works, you're a bit closer to answering your own questions. If it doesn't, then you can try something else.

I think the most meaningful thing I learned how to do was to stop trying to force myself one way or the other and accept things as they happen. But obviously my experience as being multiple genders is different than yours of being neither. Hopefully my advice is still good.

And of course, I can't just let this go without at least mentioning something about radical feminism.

I've read some possible lore in your message (though I would hate to assume), and I do have to say the reason radical feminism seems like it makes sense is because it feeds on trauma. If you have been hurt, it validates that, but then it drags that out, constantly seeking to retraumatize you while convincing you your feelings of isolation and being in danger are the absolute truth. Then once you push everybody else away, it starts a destructive self-loop of constantly degrading your mind and emotional state and dragging you further away from any type of healing or resolution until you lose your grounding in reality. I don't expect you to believe me, of course. I just want to leave you with the question of if anything in radical feminism has helped you feel braver, healthier, able to go out and face the world, and meet your goals that aren't directly tied to radical feminism.

[thatonegaybrit]

; HEY. YOU THERE !! YES YOU.

( tw; swearing, aggressive positivity )

YOUR STYLE IS NOT WEIRD

YOUR GENDER IDENTITY IS VALID

YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A WOMAN TO DRESS FEMININE

YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A MAN TO DRESS MASCULINE

YOU CAN PRESENT HOWEVER YOU WANT AND STILL BE NON-BINARY

YOU CAN USE WHATEVER FUN FUCKING PRONOUNS YOU WANT

YOU DON'T HAVE TO GET A+/100%/GOOD GRADES IN SCHOOL OR WHATEVER TO BE SMART, TO BE VALUED AND TO BE WORTHY OF LOVE

YOU DON'T HAVE TO LOVE/AGREE WITH YOUR FAMILY, ESPECIALLY NOT YOUR PARENTS, IF YOU DON'T. SIMPLE.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO RESPECT YOUR ELDERS IF THEY DON'T FUCKING RESPECT YOU BACK

YOUR SEXUAL ORIENTATION IS VALID. YES, EVEN IF YOU DON'T WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH ANYONE.

YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS VALID AND DESERVES TO BE LOOKED AFTER ( YES, EVEN YOU TOUGH BOYS. )

YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE FRIENDS WITH SOMEONE IF YOU DON'T WANT TO BE

YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE MARRIED OR HAVE KIDS TO BE FULFILLED IN LIFE/MATURE

YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE SKINNY TO BE GORGEOUS, TO BE LOVED, TO BE VALUED AND TO BE RESPECTED.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE CLEAR GOD DAMN SKIN, IT'S FINE.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO WEAR MAKEUP, YOUR STUNNING OK ??

YOU ARE ALSO ALLOWED TO WEAR MAKEUP IF YOU WANT TO, AND YOU LOOK ETHEREAL DOING IT MOTHER FUCKER

YOU CAN DRESS UP TO DO DAILY TASKS OR EVEN RELAX, ROCK WHATEVER FANCY GET UP WHENEVER YOU WANT.

BUT YOU DON'T HAVE TO GET ALL FANCIED UP FOR NO ONE, GOT IT !!? DRESS YOURSELF FOR YOURSELF, AND IF THAT'S SWEATS AND A HOODIE THEN I ALSO AGREE. IT IS COMFY.

YOU DESERVE TO HAVE YOUR BOUNDARIES LISTENED TO AND RESPECTED, AND YOU DON'T NEED TO EXPLAIN YOUR CHOICES TO ANYONE. ANYONE THAT GOES AGAINST THEM CAN TALK TO THE FIST

YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE NEUROTYPICAL TO BE SMART, TO BE RESPECTED AND MOST IMPORTANTLY TO BE TREATED LIKE A DAMN HUMAN BEING.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO SNEAK OUT AND DO DRUGS AND HAVE SEX TO BE COOL, YOUR EXISTENCE IS THE COOLEST FRIEND.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE RELIGIOUS !! BUT IF YOU ARE THEN GOOD FOR YOU, FOLLOW YOUR BELIEFS BC THEIR VALID AS FUCK

YOU DON'T HAVE TO COVER UP TO AVOID SEXUAL HARRASSMENT/ASSAULT, YOU ARE NOT AND NEVER WERE ASKING FOR IT. THEIR THE PROBLEM, NOT YOU

YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE SOCIETALLY PRETTY TO BE RESPECTED, WHO GIVES A FUCK IF YOUR PRETTY IN SOMEONE ELSE'S EYES !? FUCK THEM AND THEIR OPINIONS, THEY SHOULD RESPECT YOU WHETHER THEY FIND YOU PHYSICALLY APPEALING OR NOT.

YOU CAN BE "CRINGE" OK ?? BE A FURRY, USE :3, DRESS EMO AND ROCK OUT TO SCENE MUSIC. AND WATCH FUCKING MY LITTLE PONY, IT'S A GOOD DAMN SHOW.

LIKE VIDEO GAMES, LIKE SCIENCE, EXCEL IN YOUR ACADEMICS. DON'T GIVE A FUCK IF YOUR CALLED A NERD, YOUR DOING WHAT YOU WANT TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE AND IM PROUD OF YOU FOR IT

AND GIRLS ? BE "BASIC". GO TO STARBUCKS AND GET PUMPKIN SPICE DAMN LATTES, DRESS FEMININE AND MINIMAL, LIKE PINK. THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH LIKING STEREOTYPICALLY BASIC OR FEMININE THINGS.

AND BOYS ? BE "BORING". LIKE SPORTS, DRESS MASCULINE AND CLEAN, LIKE BLUE. YOUR ALLOWED TO LIKE STEREOTYPICALLY MASCULINE THINGS

YOU DON'T NEED A BIG DICK OR A FAT ASS OR LARGE BOOBS, ETC, TO DESERVE LOVE AND TO BE LOVED. THAT'S WEIRD AS HELL IF PEOPLE DISCRIMINATE AGAINST YOU ABOUT SHIT LIKE THAT. FUCKING WEIRD.

BEING VEGETARIAN, VEGAN, GLUTEN FREE, OR WHATEVER DIETARY CHOICES PEOPLE SHIT ON FOR NO REASON, IS FINE. THAT'S YOUR GOD DAMN CHOICE WHAT YOU EAT, GOOD FOR YOU.

YOUR ALLOWED TO BE A SIMP. DO THOSE CLICHÉ SWEET ROMANTIC GESTURES FOR YOUR PARTNER AND/OR BEST FRIEND, BE OVER THE TOP AND LOVEY DOVEY. THERE'S NOTHING WRONG W IT AND HONESTLY IT'S FUCKING SWEET.

ITS OKAY TO HAVE BAD DAYS AND NOT BE 100% ALL THE TIME, IM PROUD OF YOU EITHER WAY.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO PLEASE EVERYONE, SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE IT'S A LOSING GAME FROM THE START AND ISN'T HEALTHY FOR YOU.

YOUR. ART. IS. STUNNING. I DON'T CARE IF IT ISN'T THE MONA LISA, IT'S YOUR PERSONAL WAY OF EXPRESSION AND YOU CAN DO IT HOWEVER YOU WISH

WRITE "CRINGEY" DAMN FANFICTION, IT'S FUN TO READ AND JUST DO IT, WRITE IT, READ IT. ( WITHIN REASON OF COURSE; NO WEIRD ASS PEDOPHILIA, INCEST, SEXUALISATION, ETC. <3 )

YOU CAN BE TRANS AND EXPRESS YOURSELF HOWEVER YOU SO FUCKING PLEASE, YOUR VALIDITY ISN'T DEFINED BY HOW OTHERS PERCEIVE YOU.

YOU CAN BE PHYSICALLY DISABLED AND STILL ACHIEVE AMAZING THINGS, BUT YOU ALSO SHOULDN'T FEEL OBLIGATED TO BECOME THE FIRST PERSON ON MARS JUST TO BE RESPECTED AS A DISABLED PERSON. YOU DON'T OWE ANYONE ANYTHING JUST BECAUSE YOU HAVE A PHYSICAL DISABILITY, OK !??

YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE YOUR PERIOD ( MENSTRUAL CYCLE ) TO BE A "REAL" WOMAN, OK ?? FUCK ANYONE WHO SAYS/BELIEVES THAT, THEIR IDIOTS.

YOU DON'T HAVE TO MAKE PROFIT OUT OF WHAT YOU ENJOY, IT'S FINE TO HAVE HOBBIES THAT DON'T FINANCIALLY BENEFIT YOU IN ANY WAY.

YOU CAN ENJOY ANIME, AND COSPLAYING, AND MANGA AND WHATEVER. YOUR NOT A WEIRDO ( UNLESS YOU SEXUALIZE ASIANS, THEN THAT'S MESSED UP BUD 🙅)

YOUR ALLOWED TO LIVE. UNDERSTAND !?? LIVE. ITS OKAY. WHO CARES IF PEOPLE THINK YOUR WEIRD OR CRINGE OR SILLY OR INVALID OR WHATEVER THE FUCK. L I V E. YOU ONLY GET ONE CHANCE AT THIS AND I'LL BE DAMNED IF YOU THINK I'LL LET YOU LIVE YOUR LIFE HATING YOURSELF BECAUSE OF OTHERS. HELL NO.

YOU CAN BE YOU. IT'S OKAY. AND YOU ARE THE MOST STUNNING YOU I'VE EVER NOT MET. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH AND I RESPECT YOUR ETHEREAL EXISTENCE ON THIS FLOATING ROCK, YOUR SO FUCKING STRONG !! AND I MEAN THIS; IM SO PROUD OF YOU, DON'T FUCKING FORGET IT !!!! <3

[lemontongues]

im continuing to ponder, meandering journal entry about gender below the cut lol

like idk i know i have a bit of a weird relationship to gender, in that i feel very firmly agender, like just. really very little connection whatsoever to being a woman or a man, but i do strongly prefer feminine things and i really like stories about people relating positively to their own femininity? like, stuff about gender euphoric trans women, or lesbians really reveling in "teehee we're girls :)" or just. people coming to value the trappings of femininity and how it can make you feel, despite like. really not going very far out of my way to present femininely in my actual life. i dont shave/wear makeup/etc, i used to have a buzzcut and may very well go back to it at some point, so on and so forth. but i do really like high heels and lingerie and pretty pastel colors and things of that nature..... so i have this weird distant-but-admiring relationship with being feminine, and i present pretty feminine rn for a variety of laziness-related reasons, and i do feel (and always have felt) some of the social pressures of womanhood, and i have no real relationship to or desire for masculinity lol

but in media stuff soooo much of the time i just. prefer stories about dudes. idk what it is! i like women having positive relationships with each other, but when its just one lone woman i dont rly care, or if its like, women who are struggling against each other im only interested in it if its like. theres a chance for them to grow and come to understand/support each other. like cassierose is good imo bc i genuinely think it could go from like glorious violent attraction to like. actually Getting each other and growing as ppl. but like stephcass and cissiecassie dont rly do much for me bc i feel like usually its just presented as "theyre friends so they should kiss :)" which is totally fine OBVIOUSLY but it doesnt. fulfill any deeper longing in me. idk.

but honestly i think thats true with all of my shipping so maybe the issue rly is just the media i consume? like. i dont feel like a lot of the time the relationships between women are as deep and gut-wrenching as the ones between dudes lol, even when theres actual lesbians or whatever it just feels more. shallow a lot of the time. they get along! they dont like each other! and okay but like why yknow?? like. okay back in the haikyuu days kiyoyachi was good bc it was like. yeah i know what they feel about each other lol? yachi admires kiyoko for being a beautiful and put together slightly older girl, and kiyoko feels warm and protective towards yachi as a fellow girl in a male-dominated space and a very earnest and enthusiastic person. so i can work with that!! vs like, stephcass (sorry to pick on it its just the first example im thinking of) is like. yeah theyre friends :) bc theyre...... girls. :) so it doesnt rly feel meaningful to me in any way lol

okay honestly i feel like that might be it lol, which. makes me feel better. like when i make my ocs i know they have personal depth and complex relationships with each other so i gravitate towards girls, but in media a lot of the time the more complex and emotional narratives are for/between men, and women are just kinda. hanging out. so that makes sense. okay i think im not being sexist lmao yay

[din-skywalker]

Okay, prompt but where Atreus tests out shapeshifting between male and female and he really wants to try makeup like he sees on Freya and he visits her to learn how she does it I would cry

Kratos is supportive in his own quiet way

no shut up cause this idea was so sweet i had to write something... and it got way longer than id been expecting. so here ya'll go!!

(disclaimers: i am on laptop so i can add the read more! also im not genderfluid so i wrote this based off of what i have read about being genderfluid mixed with my own experiences as someone who has struggled with no gender being comfy thing

also i didnt make the one who helped with the makeup be freya mY BAD I FORGOT bout that part of the ask and instead its angrboda now whoops)

Atreus had always wondered what it's like to be a girl, ever since he was younger. He'd ask his mom about it when he was younger, and no matter how much she ever explained to him, he never fully understood it, but by the Norns he wanted to understand. Most days, he was fine, not wondering about it. In fact, it never crossed his mind, and it didn’t matter. The other days, however, he couldn’t stop thinking about it.

He wanted to feel feminine. He wanted to understand; he wanted to wear dresses and makeup and be called pretty. He wanted to be looked at as a woman, not a man. It is such an odd feeling when this does happen, and he can never control it. He can tell it's more of a… “feminine day”, as he’s started to refer to it as, when he wants to paint his nails and grow his hair so long it nearly trails on the ground behind him like a cape.

He always tried to avoid Father as much as he could when he was younger on those days. Because he always called him “boy”, even on the days Atreus wanted to be a girl and not a boy. He felt bad about it, because Father didn’t know that. But he never knew how to articulate how he was feeling, because he didn’t even understand it.

He still doesn’t as he stares at his reflection in the water now, observing his face, skin itching. It’s a feminine day today, and he wants nothing more than to change his face, his hair and appearance to appear more of a woman…

…Wait a second. He can shapeshift. Why hadn’t he thought of this before? He can change his appearance. Normally it’s only between a bear, a wolf and his normal self, but maybe, maybe he could simply change his gender? His sex? 

He’s not sure, but he could certainly give it a try.

Concentrating hard on his face and his appearance in the water’s reflection- the trees of Ironwood as a backdrop- he focuses on that shifting in his gut when he changes form. He screws his eyes shut as his cheeks and forehead begin to burn, eyes stinging. He feels his chest shifting, his hands changing, even his stomach and legs and feet. Then he feels a change in a certain area and his eyes snap open. 

A new face stares back up at him from his reflection.

Instead of his regular face, with its smooth cheeks and curves, his face is much sharper, cheekbones stronger and his eyes much more narrow. His nose has become larger, his eyebrows thicker. His lips are plumper, and his cheeks have darkened with red. His hair is no longer shaved into his trademark style, but is much longer, falling like a curtain around his shoulders and over his wider chest. Some parts of it have curled itself into braids, while most of it flows freely.

He… He almost looks like Mother.

Atreus quickly hops to his feet, and finds that his thighs are thicker, his calves wider. Even his arms, hands and feet have changed, and he looks himself over with awe. 

He really did it. He changed his sex.

And while he looks a lot different in his new female form, he is still distinctively himself. He’s just… more sharp and long angles like his mother rather than his father’s broad and curved muscles. His strength is more obvious in this body, somehow, with his biceps defined and his calves strong.

He can’t stop staring at himself. He’s finally… feminine. He’s not a man. He’s a woman. A beautiful, gorgeous woman that’s not a rugged or handsome man. He feels giddy, and without thinking, he rushes to where he can normally find Angrboda; at her home painting on wood or large sheets of paper.

Sure enough, Atreus finds her there, Fenrir laid down nearby. He runs to her, grinning hugely while waving his hands. Angrboda smiles, looking across at him, “Hey Loki-!” until she suddenly loses her smile, no recognition in her eyes she stares at him. She drops her art supplies, standing defensively as he stops nearby, confused. Fenrir smells her fear and peaks his eyes open, but smells his father’s scent, and so he does not snarl at Loki. Instead, he lays his head back down. “Who the Hel are you?!”

Oh. Right. He’s not as recognizable as this. “Angrboda!” he exclaims, throwing his hands up to show he isn’t aggressive. “It’s me, Loki!”

Angrboda hesitates, tilting her head to the side, eyes squinting as she studies his face. Finally, she relaxes, but her eyebrows stay raised. “Woah,” she says, cupping her chin between her thumb and forefinger. “It is you. You look… different.”

He grins again, flapping his hands at his side to help release some of the energy. “Yeah!” he says, grin somehow doubling as he crosses the rest of the way to stand in front of her. He grabs her hands in his, both slotting together near perfectly. “I shapeshifted into a woman!”

“What? Why?” she demands, and for some reason, she sounds angry. Atreus hesitates, grin faltering at her tone. Why does she sound angry? “That’s disgus-”

“Can I tell you something I’ve never told anyone else?” he asks, voice dropping as his words crack. She snaps her mouth shut, frowning at him before she nods in response. He wets his lips, nervous. He’s never told even Sindri or Mimir about his past feminine days. But he knows he can trust Angrboda. He quickly tells her, some of his words crashing together with his nerves. Angrboda listens intently, not looking away from him once, their hands still entwined.

Once he’s finished, she nods. “I completely understand,” she says, and his eyes widen at her admission. “I-” she draws in a breath through her nose, and just as quickly as he’d spoken, she tells him, “When I was born, I was a boy. But I never felt like a boy. So I became a woman. So I am a woman. I just never feel like a boy again unlike you.”

“Really?” Atreus asks, his voice dipping with surprise. When she nods, her eyes filled with tears, he lets out a shaky laugh. “Oh- wow! I never… I never thought there’d be anyone else like me! Or that anyone else would understand.”

Angrboda’s eyes widen with surprise, “You’re- you believe me?” When he nods in response, brows furrowed with confusion, she lets out her breath, “Sorry. No one else has understood. My parents tried to, but my… my grandmother never even tried to.” She throws her arms around him to hug him suddenly, laughing as she does so. “This is amazing, Loki!”

Atreus once more grins and quickly hugs her back, breathing shakily. “It really is, Angrboda!” Then, hesitantly he asks, “Does that… does that mean I can be… referred to as a.. Woman…?” It sounds silly to ask out loud. He was born a boy after all, even if he did change his sex. He’s not like Angrboda, who truly became a woman. He wants to be a boy again… eventually. He doesn’t know when, but he will at some point.

But she merely pulls back, grinning at him brightly. “Of course!” she exclaims with excitement. “You are a woman when you want to be, Loki! And you are a boy when you want to be, too! I’ll do my best to keep up with you.” She hugs him again. “You are… quite pretty.”

In an instant, his- no, her- cheeks burst with heat. She chuckles sheepishly as pulls away shyly. “Aw, thanks,” she says quietly. Angrboda merely giggles at her, and catches one of her hands. 

“I mean it, Loki,” she says earnestly. “You’re really pretty.” Then, she tilts her head to the side, studying Atreus once again. “Want a makeover? I’ve never tried doing someone else’s makeup but-”

“Yes yes yes please!” Atreus shouts quickly, nodding her head eagerly. She grips Angrboda’s hand tightly with her excitement, and Angrboda grins back, tugging her towards her treehouse.

“Right this way then, little lady!” Angrboda says, and Atreus finally realizes that as a girl, she is much shorter than Angrboda. Which isn’t fair, because Mother had been just as tall as Father and they’re both huge. So why is she never huge as a girl or a boy? Makes no sense in her opinion.

“I’m not that short,” she argues, and Angrboda snorts.

“Uh, yeah, you are.”

“Am not!”

“Sure sure. Let’s get you some eyeshadow… What color? Orange to contrast your eyes and match your hair? Or…”

----

Atreus breathes heavily as she approaches her and father’s home, tugging at the color of her armor fitted for her body in this form. Angrboda had helped her make it, because apparently, that’s another of the Giant’s talents. They seem to be endless, and Atreus will never stop loving her for it. 

Years after going on her solo journey, she’s finally returning home. And on a feminine day, no less… At first, she’d been debating on whether to just see her father again as a boy, but Angrboda had been firm in the fact that Atreus should not change herself. Not even for her father. Or anybody, for that matter.

“He loves you,” Angrboda had pointed out one night as they watched the stars together. “Even if he doesn’t really understand it, he’ll try to, and he’ll still love you.” She grinned at him, and he smiled back at her nervously, “Besides, you’ll want to tell him one day. Why not rip the bandage off now?”

Atreus is beginning to regret listening to her. She knows she’s right; Father does love him. He’s proved it time and again, no matter what she has done. Yet it’s still nerve wracking.

“Just act as if nothing has changed,” Angrboda suggested. “I did it with my parents until they asked, and then I answered all of their questions. Helps things be less awkward. Or, it did for us, anyways.”

So that’s what she’s going to do. Act as if nothing is different. She can do that. Hopefully. 

She reaches the entrance to their home and knocks. Quietly at first, before doing so again louder. It takes only a moment for the door to open, revealing her father on the other side. And it takes only a moment longer for Father to recognize him, eyes going wide as he stares down at her.

“Atreus…” Father breathes, disbelief in his tone. Atreus smiles up at him nervously, and scratches the back of her head nervously. She’s still shorter than him… Sure she’s grown, and now stands at the height of his shoulder, but she’d been hoping for more! Maybe as a boy she’s finally at least as tall as him. 

“Hey, Father,” she says, trying to put as much confidence into her voice as possible. “It’s, uh… been a while, huh?”

There are tears in Father’s eyes, and suddenly, he’s reaching through the distance between them. He cups one of Atreus’s cheeks, his touch featherlight, barely brushing against his cheeks. Atreus’s own eyes are beginning to sting. 

“You look just like her,” he whispers, words and voice tight. Her heart stops at the mention of Mother, and a few tears do slip free. Father brushes them away with his thumb, a great pain but love in his eyes. An old, deep pain rooted from the past. “Am I now to call you beautiful?”

Atreus’s eyes widen with shock, and her lips begin to shake as she realizes that Father already understands without her even needing to explain. She sniffles and pushes forward, hugging him tightly. He hugs her back, holding her close and tight.

“Y- yeah,” she says shakily, shoulders slightly shaking. “For today, yeah. Yeah. Beautiful.”

“Then you are beautiful, and I have missed, daughter,” Father mumbles, and Atreus is suddenly tiny again, the tiny child who had been confused by everything but always searching for their father’s approval and understanding. Finally. Finally she knows that he does, and always would have, if only she had, too.

Atreus nods against his chest, fingers digging into the new fur cape Father had sewn.

They are Father and son.

They are Father and daughter.

And they are Father and child.