#and he was very careful aout asking at first bcoz he didnt want to offend me and i was like dude your chillness about discussing differences

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THISSS THISSSS IS BEAUTIFUL!!! THIS IS WHY I MAKE AN EFFORT TO BE THE CHILLEST TRANNY EVER WHEN PPL HAVE QUESTIONS. The average cis person usually just Doesn't Know this stuff bcoz they don't live it and society tells them it's wrong to seek out that information or whatever!! I absolutely love it when my cis friends get that funny sort of embarrassed look on their face and say 'hey.. is it okay if I ask you a question?' Like YES ALWAYS I LOVE YOU FOR ASKING!!!

I will never dull my queerness to make people comfortable, it's healthy to be a little uncomfortable sometimes, then i will do everything in my power to make them feel comfortable educating themselves. When they get the courage to show their curiosity they then Can become someone who says "hey my friend/coworker/family member/classmate is trans, I sort of understand" that's how allies are made babyyy

Like health care workers who took care of my dad this past week, two mentioned that they had trans family members when my dad talked about the discrimination he had faced from their coworkers, they had compassion and wanted to make him feel safer, they stood up for him. Others just listened and either didn't know what to do with that info bcoz they don't know who was 'in the wrong' or actively didn't care bcoz they had their own distant negative ideas of what trans is and wanted nothing to do with it, maybe even thought it was deserved.

It also helps people's world views and views of themselves when they realize the neat boxes they are put into with gender and sexuality are purely cultural, mostly harmful, and can be taken apart to be whatever they want and that cis and het isn't the default.

Normalizing requires not hiding, being bold and tough and just a little bit in your face about our queerness, but it also requires Patience and Gentleness and Humor!!!!!

Yes sometimes they know a little bit already and get upset when hearing words or concepts they thought queers considered problematic but I love explaining the concepts of reclaiming and the idea of this post, that everyone defines themselves differently and used different language, and someone who supports the community whole heartedly but has "off" ideas or language about it are much better than people who are dividing the community over semantics or fucking whatever!!

"The trannies should be able to piss in whatever toilet they want and change their bodies however they want. Why is it my business if some chick has a dick or a guy has a pie? I'm not a trannie or a fag so I don't care, just give 'em the medicine they need."

"This is an LGBT safe space. Of COURSE I fully support individuals who identify as transgender and their right to self-determination! I just think that transitioning is a very serious choice and should be heavily regulated. And there could be a lot of harm in exposing cis children to such topics, so we should be really careful about when it is appropriate to mention trans issues or have too much trans visibility."

One of the above statements is Problematic and the other is slightly annoying. If we disagree on which is which then working together for a better future is going to get really fucking difficult.