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purplesaline · 2 years ago

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I mean, her big thing is if an item has no utility and doesn't bring joy then you can get rid of it right?

My first thought when I heard about this article was "well yeah things are gonna be getting a little messy and full because with that many kids there's gonna be a lot of stuff that's useful and a lot of stuff that brings the kids joy".

It's not that she's giving up her philosophy, she's just realizing that with three young kids in the house it's not ever gonna look minimalist if you care to keep what they find useful and fills them with joy as well.

And let's face it, we know with three kids anyone with their own life outside the household is never gonna be able to clean up after all of them all them time so there's gonna be mess.

I love the fact she's being open about this so other people can see that no matter what your organizational philosophy is, life is still gonna happen sometimes andrtting your house get messy isn't a moral failing.

I saw the headline of that new marie kondo article that’s goes ‘mk admits to giving up on tidying up after her third child’ on twitter with just hundreds of people yelling about ‘vindication’ in the comments below, and I was like… I’m willing to bet actual money that the article is really about her priorities changing and that she still enjoys tidying up, but her approach to and amount of time spent on it has been altered because she’d rather spend time with her children? sooo I skimmed the article and I’m not saying somebody owes me money but somebody definitely should.

I wish I could say that I’m shocked that people on the internet would - still - be so erroneously outraged over an asian woman politely suggesting you treat yourself and your home with kindness (because your home has an enormous effect on your mental and physical health) while giving you tips on how to organise your home in small, achievable ways that you can adapt to suit your needs and wants, but I’ve been on the internet way too long for that.

she taught me several small tips that I still use in my everyday life and find hugely helpful, especially as a neurodivergent person who’s definitely not a minimalist. anyway, I hope marie kondo has a good day.

#I love that woman so much #and look I know she was talking about houses #but you can apply her philosophy to mental health too #we have so many thoughts and beliefs that don't serve us #and we keep them around because we think we're supposed to #even when they don't bring us joy #we can get rid of those things #we can thank them for their service #we can thank them for teaching us things #and especially we can thank our maladaptive coping mechanisms for keeping us alive #because they really did #but now they no longer serve is and it's time to let them go #so we can clear the space for healthier coping skills #but it's so #so #so important to be thankful for them #otherwise we default to shame about them #when really we just did the best we could with the tools we had at the time #and that's what I love about MK #is that you don't need to feel shame about the clutter in your house #and you don't need to feel shame about the clutter in your mind either #it's okay if things got out of hand for awhile #it happens to the best of us #and now you have a moment where you can sit down and maybe sort through a few things #and let go of the ones you don't need anymore

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