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youcanthandelthetruth · 1 year

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so what gets me about those ~sweet~ coming out stories where the kid gets up the courage to tell their parents and "oh yeah we've known since you were five" or whatever

is like if you knew. all that time. why would you have done nothing to make sure your kid knew it was okay? like go get yourself some gay friends or openly support gay rights or whatever or just say directly hey if you were gay that would be cool with us. why would you leave that a subject of doubt and fear for your kid? like I get that the format of the story, the emotional hook, is that it feels scary to come out but then everything was fine and they loved us anyway and nothing about our relationship to our family has to change, yay! but then you take a step back and the question is just there, if you knew this about your kid and loved them anyway this whole time why didn't you do anything to let them know?

(anyway i'm saying gay because i'm yelling at the emotions bait coming out acceptance stories that were everywhere 5-7 years ago but it goes for all queer identities)

#i dont even see those stories around anymore so this is 90% old man yells at cloud #but i've been thinking a lot as Sweet Bean gets older #he still doesnt seem to have really noticed genders yet. and he acts like a pretty typical cis boy #but like if he did turn out to be a girl what am i doing or what can i do to give him some childhood memories he can look back on fondly?#idk his mom and i both paint his nails and he loves that.#and elucubrare correctly suggested i bring him clothes shopping and let him pick whatever appeals to him #idk i'm trying to create a trans-friendly childhood for my kid who has given no indications of being trans #and its just making me mad at people who claim to have known their kids were gay and just did nothing about that

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