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[drdemonprince]

a lot of times i feel like i need aftercare after just masturbating because i end up Going There in my thoughts in order to come. do you experience this too? if so, other than finding a human to talk to afterwards, do you have advice on this?

I do experience this! Because what I am into is very intense and heady, I often feel really weird and dysregulated after jacking off and do something in the way of aftercare.

The first thing I do, truth be told, is remove myself from whatever screens I was using, take any gear or restraints or clothing off, and then pace around the house for a few minutes talking to myself, going "Ugh!!! Ugh!!" or "what the fuck! what the fuck was that!" or "that was a good one god damn" or "wow im so fucking insane" or narrating out the end of whatever scenario i was locked into. or even repeating mantras relevant to what i was just doing. it really helps me to verbalize whatever im feeling in that moment, to mentally offload excess energy and begin to gear shift.

then i stand naked in the kitchen for a while drinking a cold glass of water and begin talking to myself more in the way i usually do when im not in a headspace. this usually involves hyping myself up into tackling the next objective for the day. so ill say things like "okay, now we need to vaccuum the carpet and THEN we will lay out an outfit for the party later" or "its time to get out of the house and get some sunshine, man" or "shit we forgot to send that email".

then, if nothing on the agenda for the day is too urgent, i'll usually curl up like a goblin with some snacks and a youtube video. aldi spicy salmis and brie cheese and nick diramio clip breakdown videos are favorite staples. cereal and mike mgtv's videos about bartending and queer bar culture are fun, frothy distractions too. if it's night time ill also curl up in a fuzzy blanket and maybe a stuffed toy.

i also sometimes like to wake my brain back up by reading something mildly intellectually stimulating but concrete, and not *too* demanding of long attention. something kind of practical and grounded and nonsexual. so like, ill scroll the r/amateurinteriordesign page on reddit or r/vanlife to look at the various homes people have made in small spaces, or ill check my favorite investment blog. nothing too heady or abstract.

after ive cooled down for a bit, like an hour or something, then ill be ready to put clothing on and maybe act like a human. a walk outdoors also helps once im not jittery or dissociated. but i find i dont want to engage with anybody or have to pretend to be a person until ive had adequate time to down regulate and savor the headspace i was in.

thanks for asking this question anon, i thought i might be unusual for being like this so it's nice to hear someone else goes through this too. honestly the recovery time and the fact a need for it exists is a big part of the fun! it helps reveal just how genuinely intense the experience and headspace actually was.

[katherineitacy]

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[together-or-separate]

Been collecting vintage boxer photos from the ‘20s and later, and we finally got them framed and mounted on the wall. There’s nothing like these boxers to inspire us to fight on every time we leave the bathroom. It feels good to get projects done. Next up, a pub table for our patio made out of leftover butcher block from our kitchen renovation. We got the legs today! #beautifyyourhome #makeityou #vintage #nomorepicturestobehung #timetosimplify #amateurinteriordesigner #thepastspeaks (at Lakewood, California)

[together-or-separate]

Been collecting vintage boxer photos from the ‘20s and later, and we finally got them framed and mounted on the wall. There’s nothing like these boxers to inspire us to fight on every time we leave the bathroom. It feels good to get projects done. Next up, a pub table for our patio made out of leftover butcher block from our kitchen renovation. We got the legs today! #beautifyyourhome #makeityou #vintage #nomorepicturestobehung #timetosimplify #amateurinteriordesigner #thepastspeaks (at Lakewood, California)