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gemmasdeadwife · 4 days ago

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I feel kind of bad about doing something so petty, but each time I block a shipbrained weirdo, I feel a little lighter. And I think this will make my experience a lot better overall. I wasn’t caught up on the show until Chikhai Bardo, which is when I finally got online about it. And I’ve loved speculating about what might happen and discussing interpretations of various details and things like that, but honestly the shippers are also ruining it a little bit for me, to the point that I’m starting to feel hints of bitterness toward characters I love and relationships I’m invested in. Solely because of the dismissive, reductive, and bizarrely competitive attitudes I see shippers take toward the characters outside of their ship, and also tbh the objectification of the characters within their ship, and the horniness for the most toxic, psychologically damaging possible versions of the ship & characters. So this is the policy now. If your weird aggressive post makes me feel a streak of resentment toward a beautifully written character, well then so long, friend

#I recognize this post is also weird and aggressive. sorry. I’m just so tired of it and I hate that it affects my enjoyment of the show #inb4 someone thinks this is vagueposting a particular ship: no I’ve felt pissed if at plenty of both markhelly and markgemma fans #*pissed off #although when I talk about the frothing at the mouth for psychologically damaging toxicity I am thinking more of markhellys.#I think probably bc the fetishization of huge age gaps; weird crazy power dynamics; hypersexuality born of serious mental health issues etc-#-all tie in way too closely with my severe traumas of my teens/early twenties #and it’s fucked up bc I don’t think any of those things are actually significant factors in the markhelly relationship on the show!#like for one thing once you’re in your 30s a 13 year age gap is pretty meaningless #another side of this is ppl insistingggg that Gemma was really dead and only existed as a shell of herself. or was doomed in some other way #or that the relationship with mark was a failure. I’ll grant that the infertility issues put a lot of strain on the relationship. but also -#-every long term relationship goes through times of strain like that #but then on the other hand there are people who refuse to acknowledge that mark and helly’s relationship can possibly be meaningful-#important and real #reducing it to two children who like each other when the truth is it’s a deep connection and bond between adults #that’s love! they are in love #saying that imark should blindly follow omark and just walk into oblivion leaving his love behind #painting helly as catty and cruel #like have you even watched the show?#and either faction insisting that their ship is INEVITABLE and the only conclusion that makes sense for the show’s narrative arc-#when actually it’s perfectly transparent that the reason for saying so is not good faith analysis but rather ship motivated #BOTH relationships are beautiful and meaningful and important. that’s the point! that’s the tragedy!! is it so impossible to lean into and -#-explore that? I get that the tension that creates is challenging and maybe it feels psychologically easier to just pick a side and die on-#-that hill #idk I just think these guys might prefer something more like… The Twilight Saga maybe?#or just sports. pick a team and root for the team and that’s pretty much all there is to it!#r&r (ranting and raving)

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