#also you’re telling me Ronan would abandon the opportunity to be married to a guy named ADAM PARRISH ???

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Surely the only answer is that they keep their own last names: Ronan is far too attached to the Lynch name to rid himself of it (especially since niall’s death (I also remember there being a direct description of his resting face looking like he’d just finished saying it; his identity is too deeply-entrenched with the name ‘Lynch’ for him to be without it)) and Adam is far too hell-bent on being his own man, forged by his own hand.

Adam might be ashamed of where he comes from but I think his desire to become something more despite it outweighs this. Generally, I think it’s more of an issue of Adam’s own prideful independence than anything to do with how actively proud he is of his last name (if that makes sense). Plus, I think he learns fairly quickly that ridding himself of everything he find shameful about his identity isn’t really what he wants anyway.

Besides, I think by the end of Greywaren, both Adam and Ronan have a much wider view of family that doesn’t begin and end with a last name (honestly probably even before— even in book one of TRC, it’s noted that Adam seems to view Gansey as a brother). In my opinion, marriage just dots the i’s and crosses the t’s for them. I don’t think either of them would be all that attached to the idea of having the other change their last name— I mean, in CDTH Ronan literally says he liked that he didn’t feel as though he was dating Adam but that he felt like he was living his life with/alongside him.

Idk. Adam learns a lot about identity and what it means to him over the course of 7 books but ultimately there are things that can’t be unlearned in such a short period of time and I think this is just one of those complicated things that sticks

Cannot believe there are people out there who think Adam Parrish would ever take Ronan’s last name as if he didn’t spend 4 books clawing his way into spaces built to be inaccessible to him, trying desperately to have his own name said in the same breath as Dick Gansey III’s. His relationship to class is so much more complicated than wanting to run away from it. Taking the Lynch name would surely feel fraudulent to him and god doesn’t he already suffer enough with feeling like he doesn’t deserve the spaces he occupies