#also if you say anything nasty about finding men attractive youre getting blocked too bc you fucking suck

[pftones3482]

Thinking about how the other day I was talking to a coworker about my girlfriend and she was like "aw we love lesbian love"

And I said "lol actually neither of us is a lesbian, I'm bi and she's pan"

And this woman (another queer person mind you) looked at me and went, "Well you might as well just call yourselves lesbians because you're in a lesbian relationship."

This pissed me off, so I told her, "No, we're not, because we're not lesbians. I think men are attractive and so does she. I'm bi, she's pan. We're in a queer, woman loving woman relationship."

And she ROLLED HER EYES AT ME, said, "I don't get why it even matters," and left

So to be clear:

Two women in a relationship is not necessarily a lesbian relationship. Two men in a relationship is not necessarily a gay relationship. A man and a woman in a relationship is not necessarily a straight relationship.

People wanting to have their labels properly used and not have their identities erased are not annoying.

(it's also interesting how the second I pushed back about not being a lesbian, it was no longer "aw gay love," it was: "ugh, why can't you just go along with it?")