#also i want to reiterate i hold no negative feelings towards my future SIL about this shes really lovely | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

gaytobymeres · 2 years ago

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it's actually so sweet that I told my friends (all at separate times) I'm one of the bridesmaids at my brother and his fiancee's wedding and they all asked 'oh so are you wearing a suit?' and then got really offended/defensive on my behalf when I said I was wearing a dress. 'if it was my wedding I'd want you to wear what made you comfortable' kind of thing 🥺 like I don't mind wearing a dress for it, I have accepted that I will probably be forced to get a spray tan and will have to shave, wear makeup etc, and I don't really mind; I'm of the opinion that it's the bride's day and so I should just acquiesce, and I am really touched that she wants me to be a part of the wedding party. But it is also nice to hear my friends being protective of me and my identity and who I am as a person :')

#makes me feel hashtag valid #i think part of the reason theyre so protective is because they know me well #but they don't understand that i keep my general genderweirdness quiet from my family because it's easier that way #like my family are accepting and they know im a lesbian but i dont talk about it and neither do they probs bc i dont #but in terms of gender stuff it's easier and more pleasant if they think im cis #because lowkey they are transphobic #like i actually really like being referred to as ej (emma is also fine mind you) but i could never ask them to call me a diff name #whereas if i asked my friends they would 100% with no issue #im rambling #anyway its just nice to be known and also to have friends who will get offended on your behalf #even if youre not offended #they then also all said that i looked really hot in the dress (even though i dont feel it or see it)#also i want to reiterate i hold no negative feelings towards my future SIL about this shes really lovely #and also im at peace with wearing a dress like there are worse things lol #also also even if she was fine with me wearing a suit (she wants all the bridesmaids to look the same which is fair) finding a suit in the #right colour is actually really hard lol #also i wouldnt want to wear a suit because that would basically be like coming out to my entire extended family and um. no thanks.#theyll know if they need to

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