#also i dont think any of those words should ever be censored i'm just doing that bc I dont wanna risk tumblr labeling this mature or smth

[bellysoupset]

hi again!!

okay first off i LOVED Bella and Luke’s impromptu wedding AHHHH they’re so so adorable😭 also, i know i said sicily part 6 was WONDERFUL (all time fave fr) but i never commented on part 7 and OH MY GOODNESS i had to take breaks from reading bc of how hard i was blushing at vin teasing wen 🤭 she was so real for every single one of her reactions omg

on that note OMG so excited for that food poisoning fic I CANT WAIT TO READ IT <3 and i love that it’s gonna be angsty and touch on her body dysmorphia ahhhh 😭🫶🏽

ALSO i’ve been meaning to ask this because i feel like you haven’t talked about it much? (or maybe i missed it? if so im so sorry lol) but basically, i know you said that wendy’s parents were NOT happy with her coming out, but that they eventually sort of “allowed” her to transition bc her mental health got bad. i clearly love angst (all your angsty fics are TOP TIER🤭), so i really wanna know more about her mental health struggles. is that something you’d dive into in an ask, or would you maybe incorporate it and/or hint at it in fics? i would genuinely LOOOOOVE to learn more about this!!!

ANYWAYS again YOU’RE AWESOME & IM OBSESSED WITH YOUR OCs‼️

- 🦦

Hi 🦦!!

What a wall of love, my heart is bursting out of my chest 😭 And Sicily 6 being your all time fave of all 102 fics of mine, this is HIGH PRAISE!!

Wendy whenever Vin brings up tummyaches is like Error 404, I feel her in my bones. If a hot guy did that to me I think I might just have a stroke and die.

I haven't actually covered any of Wendy's mental health issues in my fics! I had planned on doing one in NY with Vin & Wendy, but I keep putting it off bc I know I'll have to tap on some sensitive topics that require research on my part and I'm lazy.

Here's some things I think on Wendy's case. She's always been a chubby girl, but before her transition this bothered her a lot. It added to the already installed feelings of something being off with her and even when she managed to put things together, but was not allowed to transition physically this made her life hell. It was a toss up between gender dysphoria and body dysmorphia.

She got a pretty bad eating disorder back then (which btw, never made her thin, only fucked up her health) and she s*lf-h4armed, up until her parents found out about this, alongside some pretty concerning journals with su1cide ideation and they "caved".

Simply put her parents are jerks, but they're not evil and in hindsight they do know it was the right thing to do, they're just... Well, jerks who refused to own up the fact they were wrong and certain things are still very wrong.

I think it's important to highlight Wendy and Leo are very different in this aspect, even if both of them have had suic1dal thoughts and struggled with their queer identities. Wendy is not chronically depressed, she hit a rough patch and she has since healed up. She's in a great place right now and, yes, she's got insecurities and fears, but she's not medicated and doesn't need to be.

Leo's depression is chronical and he's medicated and will always be so. Without his meds he will struggle with su1cidal thoughts and erratic behavior regardless of how happy he is with his life at the moment.

Wendy's trigger make her cry, at most they make her sad for a week. Leo's triggers cause severe panic attacks.

[problematicfactive]

Look what I got (there's no way I can image ID all of this, I'm sorry)

My name, as well as the name of the person I explained faitive to has been censored.

Here are direct receipts of what happened. It's still on the server so you can see for yourself

So that's the literal action of what got me banned

Here's what they said about me after I left. Inactive 4 now is the person who wrote the manipulative little vent that I dissected here

My pronouns don't have anything to do with the situation, they're just reaching for shit to make fun of me for now

I use my name and an icon of myself because those are the only things that ground me as a person. I dont enjoy or have any sort of connection to killing people, I dont lay in my bed and think about it and smile. But having a name and an apicture of myself makes me feel like a real person. It does make my smile. My bot makes me happy every time I see it.

"Kin hate" implyong they dont even know what the fuck thyre doing

By this servers definitions, nobody should be allowed to use a proxy bot. The point of a bot is to showcase yourself as who you are. You don't have to use your own face as a faceclaim or use your own name, but many chose to.

If you cannot use your bot to showcase yourself, there is no point in having it. And another person's triggers are not your responsibility. For the victims and their families, yes, but these people don't give a shit about the victims and their families, they aren't mentioned once. But if you're triggered over a picture of Disney actor Ross Lynch and a name that an estimated 1,150,000 people in the US ALONE have, that is your issue.

To say if your name or pfp makes someone uncomfortable you SHOULD have to change it is the most shitty entitled mess I've ever heard in my life bro.

We're auditioning for a character named Nathan. Nathan is a trigger word for oneof the hosts exes because he had a really really horrible experience with a guy with that name. I'm so, genuinely sorry it happened, but I am not going to demand the characters name be changed became it makes someone uncomfortable.

We have cynohobia. I'm not affected and actually really like dogs, but imagery of dogs make the whole really uncomfortable. We don't ask people to change their dog alter pfp, we just don't interact with them.

I'm also really interested in the "being interested in a story (is not equal to) needing to have an entire fictive/factive" what they're saying seems to be that its fine to enjoy the story of the person for the fun of it, but not fine to gain a factive of it, meaning they believe you can chose who you do and don't introject, which is interesting to me as this was a truamagenic only space. Especially because they "understand having fixated and spliting" because introjects only form from hyperfixations, not truama.

Their rules were not changed and so nowhere in their server does it say problematic factives are not allowed and you can see easily where they broke their own rules

(I dont have enough room to show a picture but it's a public server just join if you wanna see)

And, yk, unrelated, but since you wanna jab at my pronouns, these are your roles.

N knee Wayz I'm in that server on my alt now if you wanna join n chat (alts are against the rules but I think the rules are just for show)

"Our goal is to make each and every system feel welcomed"

I just got kicked from a server for existing lmao

"Our goal is to make each and every system feel welcomed"

Here's what went down :)

I joined and said "hey there" I proxied and engaged in the beginnings of a little conversation with someone

Someone else responds to my message and asks if I am a factive on insert person

I explain that im technically a faitive, explain to someone who was confused what a faitive is. I clarify my connection to source and don't get a response from the person who was asked.

My boyfriend has a bot on discord as well and I like for him the be able to use it so I clarify that there's another one of us and I need to know if that's not okay. After a little, someone responds "Yes, get help." And I'm BANNED

IN A SERVER FOR TRUAMAGENIC SYSTEMS ONLY LMFAO THIS IS THE TRUAMA RESPONCE

They did not have a rule against problematic factives and they did have a rule saying not to hate and judge people on their source. Here's what they said after I was banned

I censored my name, sorry.

"Our goal is to make each and every system feel welcomed"

[wyrmwynd]

Hey, I kinda look up to you a bit, and I wanna know if you think it's acceptable to tell people who are avoidant (for whatever reason) towards the q word that they are terfs? I'm seeing posts that are basically "if you tag the q word you're a terf and should be blocked" everywhere and I kinda wanted to know your opinion, thanks and if this discourse is something you don't wanna touch I understand

I? Have not heard this one yet? But I guess I haven’t been on tumblr much today?

Lots of people avoid the word bc of personal experience or the history of the word or even just bc they don’t like it or even trauma so like not wanting to use the word or be labelled as it is? totally cool? And as long as ppl realize that it is not up to them to tell everyone else not to use it then it’s fine. Like. My gender identity is genderq*eer bc it’s the closest word I have to describing my gender. But there are also other people who would hate to be called that word. Both are cool and okay and can exist in the same space, and have been existing the same space ever since the word was used to reference lgbt+ people. It’s easy and free for me to censor the second half of my gender in text if it makes other people more comfortable, or at least alert them beforehand if it were a speaking-conversation, and for me to not use the word around those who don’t want me to use it around them.

I also really hate this trend of calling literally everyone a terf. To be a terf one must be 2 things: 1 a transphobe AND 2 a radical feminist. that’s. that’s it. the majority of transphobic ppl that we deal with are….. transphobes…… and by calling every transphobe a terf we’ve made this environment where? literally anything can be called “terfy” if even one (1) transphobe used the same “rhetoric”. It allows ppl to assign behaviors to “terfs” as a universally hated group instead of faulting the individual people for being shitty and transphobic. In this example it makes it so that instead of some transphobe being avoidant of q***r (which could have been strewn to be a “trans” word that they didn’t wanna be called since it includes trans people? idk i dont know where this Discourse originated but either way it’s ridiculous) it becomes “terfy” to avoid the word and then even trans people who don’t like the word would be then called “terfy”. I know many trans people who don’t like the word, are they all “terfy” now? Like, henlo???? Anyways this paragraph got off topic but. Baseline: it’s not terfy to hate or love the word, bc it has nothing to do with being a transphobic radical feminist.

My advice to u is to like. Unfollow whomstsoever is saying these things bc in reality it’s best to just. Ignore them? You don’t need to deal with people who are so willfully obtuse ya know? Like I said I haven’t even seen this Discourse yet so it could be something w/ a few people u follow, I know that’s happened to me before, where it feels overwhelming, like all these people have a hurtful opinion, but then it’s like o hey. It was only a couple ppl I followed who wouldn’t stop talking about it. Which has happened to me… quite a lot. It’s cool to remember that this website is made in such a way that allows u to be with people/content you WANT to associate with, and that there’s never any harm in unfollowing someone if they are doing anything that bothers u. Even if it’s something small. But in this case I would say it’s a big issue, since it was enough for you to even message me over it! So in your case I would definitely try to see who it is that is saying this a lot on your dash and just. Unfollow them. No harm done!

TLDR cuz this got long but: calling people terfs for random things is ridiculous on many levels but this is most likely one of the worst i’ve seen.There’s literally nothing transphobic about the word, or avoiding the word, it’s literally just a reclaimed slur for lgbt+ people, so yea. Unfollow people who are bringing bad discourse into yr life and u will feel better. Also sorry for talking about it for so long this was just the first i had heard about it so I kind of, got long winded with it,, I apologize. It’s super sweet that you look up to me, I appreciate it a lot! I hope I didn’t disappoint u with my response, although I probably overwhelmed you, sorry