#also i censor girl bc i feel weird referring to myself as one and doing that makes it funny to me instead

[iamyelling]

ok what do u all think of this.

and here’s what i typed out but then deleted and did NOT send bc i was gettin too heated. i instead said we can talk later about this. this is the friend i believe very much needs to read SBB.

well i don’t know why a cis man would call himself a dyke that just doesn’t make sense to me.. and why do you keep bringing up someone’s birth sex assignment i don’t understand what that has to do with anything. it feels to me like you are using “femme” to mean girl/woman/female and “not femme” to mean male/man/boy?? which i .. find confusing to say the least. why not just say what you mean? also i really disagree that like anyone can call themself a dyke bc it just simply doesn’t make any sense. it obviously is a slur rooted in lesbophobia so wouldn’t make sense for people who don’t have ties to sapphic/wlw/lesbian DYKE community. not that theyre like not "allowed" to say it lmao it just holds no meaning and it doesn't make sense. like the "limp wristed" thing being applied to ALL gay people.. when it literally refers to the effeminate gay man. doesn't make sense for me to use it as a symbol of my gayness. it's not like i'm not allowed, it just doesn't make sense! and honestly it feels pretty.. uncomfortable that you’d consider you and annah (two very masc people) “femme” but then.. not the same to a similarly masc nonbinary person who happens to have been designated “”male”” like. in what world does it make sense to call afab masc people femme but not amab masc people - it doesn’t! bc masc and femme shouldn’t be about assigned sex and it shouldn’t be brought up. if you wanna invite [person] do that! if you wanna invite gay guys do that! if you want it to be any queer people in general go for it! but say what you mean bc it’s fuckin confusing. especially when in the context of lesbians and dykes. one should fuckin HOPE that non-femmes (whether you mean mascs or butches or studs or whoever) are included to a damn dyke party omg .

so. obviously not super well written but. ugh. dealing w irls is hard. it’s weird how this shit comes up.

these folks are really. wishy washy therapy speak and it’s frustrating i just wish they’d say what they mean. i feel like i’m always needing to be careful, handle with kid gloves like be gentle and stuff. bc they’re sensitive and all anxiety and stuff . so i feel this is too harsh with all the swears ugh. whatever. i just want to be able to fuckin talk without having to censor myself or step on eggshells bc i’m concerned they’ll be sad or like be needing all this reassurance and affirmation and validation. i just want to be able to talk yknow.

it just . is so frustrating the way people use these words in bizarre ways. wtf do you mean by "femme"?? like its obvious to me they are using these words in. uh sus ways. how do they not see how this is fucking confusing. especially in a lesbian context oh my god. DYKE hello. wtf. wtf!!! wtf!!! am i going insane like whattt is he talking about its nonsense

i’m so tired of feeling like i have to check my lesbian identity at the door to have friends. why can’t people just not be shitty and clueless about lesbians for once

[freakshowcowboy]

i am a dean g*rl thru n thru baby but Because im a dean g*rl anytime deans mean to sam or cas i take their side. like sorry babe i kin u too hard i Will fight you for the mean gay angel and the hot girl blood junkie :/