#also even when you are a queer person. obviously you can reclaim and idgaf but when you're dropping slurs in EVERY SENTENCE.

[pigeonwit]

i don't want to talk about dream or the fuckass smp ever but everyone is misunderstanding slur discourse and it's pissing me off:

the whole 'dream was RECLAIMING the slur!' excuse is so childishly weak that i'm surprised dream isn't trying to emotionally abuse it for content. everyone using this excuse seems to be willfully misunderstanding how to use slurs - by which i mean there is no 'how to' for using slurs. a slur is not a funny little no-no word that comes free with whatever marginalized identity you have; every community is going to have a different relationship with the slurs associated with them.

the N-slur, F-slur and T-slur have all been used to establish a sense of community and rebellion (though all in slightly different ways) - the R-slur, however, has never been used in a community-building way AT ALL. so when you use a word like the R-slur, a word that has NEVER been used to establish community or rebellion for the neurodivergent community, as an insult against 5 million people (the implication being that watching tommyinnit makes you autistic and therefore 'wrong') then yeah, i don't really buy the 'but i'm RECLAIMING it!!!!' excuse. as someone who used to just throw the word around in the past, i genuinely cringe now when i see other neurodivergent people (especially low-support-needs NDs like dream, because it is ALWAYS low-support-needs NDs like dream) using the R-slur, because it just proves you have no idea about the history of your community or the context of the word; you just want your own N-slur to be able to pepper into conversation without anyone telling you off for it.

so no, dream was not reclaiming the word, and it is not comparable to him getting called a slur by nicholas cantu (and honestly dream trying to find a way to use 'gumball called me a faggot' as an excuse for hurling slurs would be so fucking funny if it weren't so sad and pathetic.) it's not comparable to the N-slur or F-slur or anything like that because, say it with me, slurs aren't a fucking,,, Perk you unlock the second you enter a marginalized community. they're all very unique with very different contexts and histories behind them. this is just another privileged fuckwad grasping at straws to use a no-no word because he knows he's not allowed to use any of the other ones.