#all these straight women talking shit don’t speak for all the straight ppl lol cause i personally can’t wait

[mioakem]

happy pride to the CANONICALLY bi bridgerton siblings 🥳🥳🥳

[alexiaugustin]

Hey, I’m just curious cause I’m never considered it before and I don’t want to be casually biphobic! Your Adam Blue post has me thinking. If a ship between a man and a woman where only one of them is bi/pan/queer is not called a straight ship, what are they called? Are they called a queer ship? I understand a bi man and bi woman dating aren’t the same as a cishet man and cishet woman, cause unlike them they experience discrimination and biphobia and homophobia too, but a bi man and a straight woman? Is that a queer couple? Cause that’d technically mean Tiff and Max are also not a straight ship since only one of them’s cishet? I know Max being trans impacts them cause they don’t have the same privileges as two cishet people, but should we call Max and Tiff queer then? Or at least not straight? I don’t know who Adam and Blue are, I follow for Skam stuff so that’s why I’m talking about them, and I don’t want to be biphobic accidentally. Hope you understand what I mean 😅😅 I only recently realized I wasn’t straight so I’m still learning ❤️

hey anon, thank you for asking so respectfully and yeah i definitely understand what you mean!!💓

first of all to answer your question about tiff and max; as far as we know both of them are straight and are only attracted to members of the opposite gender which means that they're a straight couple. however, they're not a cishet couple as the term cishet takes both sexuality and gender identity into account and max is trans and not cis gendered so as you rightfully pointed out their relationship is not the same as the relationship of two cis gendered people. (also the term queer does include trans people/ gender identities but im not sure if it's that commonly used? as im cis gendered myself i really don't want to speak over trans people here so everyone feel free to add on to this post and/or correct me)

about m/f couples where one or both partners are bisexual to be completely honest until you sent this ask i had never even checked if there's a term other than either calling those relationships 'gay' or 'straight' relationships so i just did and you could actually just call it a 'mixed-orientation relationship' tho (obviously lol) i've never used that term myself. i guess the reason why i find it way more problematic to call these relationships 'striaght' relationships is because it a) plays into the false belief that bisexual people pick a side when they get into a relationship and are either gay or straight depending on whom they are in a relationship with and it just erases their identity and b) indicates that oppression for bisexual people starts and ends with a relationship. it's obviously super stupid to assume that being in a m/f relationship means that bisexual individuals are suddenly not opressed anymore and don't face biphobia and/or homophobia anymore. I would really recommend reading this article on The Myth of Bisexual (and Straight-Passing") Privilege if you want to read more about this topic.

especially when we're talking about fictional couples i don't think that when we call a f/m relationship where one or two ppl are bisexual or mga queer that it takes much time to just explain that we're not talking abt a mlm or wlw relationship but that it doesn't make the representation any less good. if we're taking skamverse couples for an example the first one i can think of is alexia/arthur where alexia's identity as a bisexual women definitely wasn't suddenly erased just because she was in a relationship with a man and it even was part of their conversations so as a bi women i still felt very much represented by alexia, positively as well as her struggles when for instance in s3 her boyfriend (forgot his name lol) asked her if she was up for a threesome or when Arthur outed her without her consent to his parents in s5. (apart from that i absolutely hated how alexia was treated in both of her relationships and definitely don't wanna praise these writers for shit- they very clear hated her).

irl i would honestly just ask people what they are the most comfortable with, i know bi women who are in relationships with men who refer to their relationships as straight so obviously im not speaking for all bi ppl here.

anyways, thank u a lot for your ask i really liked spending some time thinking abt all of this and im so happy for you that you recently found out that you're not straight- if you have any other questions my inbox and dms are always open💓

[sweet-xoxo-thatcares]

1st dream I ever had of JA together was right after I started my new job at the tax spot, and Jay was texting me about a house they wanted to rent and was looking for a roommate to help cut the cost. They showed me this brown house with an upstairs and downstairs, but it was like near the Northside kinda...but near Kettering. I remember looking at the map thinking dang it look kinda rough in the neighborhood, but 800 something month sounded good split between 3 ppl.

The dream that night was us in this small looking house in the forest, but we were happy until we actually went outside towards our backyard and there was the trees. Pine trees to be specific. We started running towards it because we were playing a game,, idk if it was tag or hide and seek...all I know is that it felt like we both were playing, me and Jay running with Ayunna nearby running too, and then all of a sudden we had to start running back to the house cause a bunch of peopl started coming out of the woods chasing us, before we even hit the trees.

We ran for our lives, at almost full speed, but I don't remember who hit the house first and no they didn't look like zombies. It was just a burst of a bunch of people covered in black, from head to toe chasing us, going as fast as we were. I remember when I got to the house I couldn't find everyone and I told my lil sister (idk why she was there) to go check downstairs and low and behold Ayunna was whispering, calling someone on the phone as she was in the living room and I was peeking in on her through the kitchen. She said my name and said it sort of alert, but kept it on hush hush like a teacher calling a student's parent. She said "Kylee's shaking and freaking out about it."

And I think she meant it like I was ready to go home. I thought she was calling her mom, cause I didn't plan on telling my mom about moving out with them at the time.

Because I was scared and paranoid about being far away from home with strangers chasing us from the woods. I didn't see Jay when she made the phone call, Interestingly enough. I remember there was a closet filled with supplies with like an orange kayak, some sports gear, some oars, and some other stuff. I don't remember what I was looking for in the dream, I was just trying make sure nobody from outside got into the house.

Crazy right? And this was in 2019. Had I said anything, I'm sure they would have just thought it was a bad dream. The house in the dream didn't look Nothing like the house Jay had shown me. It looked sorta different, because there wasn't no carpet on the floor except in the living room. The house in the ad had carpet everywhere.

Also, as gross as I'm willing to admit....the 1st sexual dream of Jay happened in January right before we got let go of that bookstore temp job....

Jay was grinding on me fully clothed and kept grunting the words "respect it" with each ride/hump on my..... I woke up wet and confused because I didn't understand why Jay would have said that to me, hovering over me, starting with a serious face, one hand over my left shoulder, the other between my right arm and right side of my body. As if I was supposed to be scared or something....like wayyy too rough.

Now that I see it, I think Jay wanted me to respect their privacy and their body. Because around that time, I was questioning if I was even gay and how I could possibly even like them when I didn't even know if they had a dick or not or nothing at all....I was concerned and confused because Jay was taken and why was I thinking about it so damn hard for like a solid week I didn't see them at work and it drove me nuts not to know, but I couldn't ask cause that's rude. I kept trying to prove myself wrong with counteraccusations like "how can you know you're gay, when you haven't even kissed a girl? We don't know if she or they has boy parts?"

I felt really guilty about liking Jay, someone out of the spectrum and not my normal type....cause they weren't normal. They were like an alien to me, I usually could observe people 1st before talking to them and trusting them to see if we would even be a good fit or so....but in Jay's situation....i needed to do some research before I was the curious George asking too much information that I shouldn't have been interested in knowing but still wanted to know for my own sake. Like how to address non binary ppl, how to say they and use the pronouns, and xr./xrs. or etc...but Jay wanted to be called Mister later on.

I made sure I knew alot more than my coworkers to be prepared for conversation matters so I didn't come off like an ignorant associate who didn't bother to Google it before saying it out loud. Cause with anything new, I always google 1st and look on reddit for unfiltered personal opinions about stuff.

Which is still the reason why I think Jay could actually want to date/have sex with men in the future. after taking hormones so many ftms said once the dysphoria felt like it was gone and they were comfortable being themselves, as a man...they started opening back up that door they once closed towards men. Some even went girls only, to bisexual, to just gay (dating men). And there were a bit more reddit asking why there isn't as many straight ftms and why is there more ftms turning gay after transitioning....which sorta sucked to hear but I needed to know in case I had another panic attack again from being shocked from any more unexpected, extreme news from someone who always acted like they were anti-dick. Even to go as far as declining dick offers from sugarmommas they told me about.

It was gross to hear that they offered me up to that same random sugarmomma without even asking me if I was comfortable or even wanted to have sex with another stranger. Cause I sure as hell didn't. They just offered my name up to her, like they were selling me off as some hoe-sub. Being petty cause I started looking for an actual commitment on tinder.

I hated them for doing stupid, inconsiderate, uncomfortable shit like that, thinking Imma just go along with everything just because I liked them.

I'm still mad about that too. That jealous pig. Man whore themselves. They've slept with more ppl than me and had the nerve to call.me a "bedhopper" when you're the one getting yourself emotionally caught up and cheating on your girl by breaking rules she told you not too. Petty, angsty, stupid bitch with man issues. Didn't want nobody checking them about they behavior cause I guess they thought they were being overdominated.

This idiot thought I was tryna challenge their dominance (red flag #142🚩lol) when I said sarcastically "I wasn't gonna buy you none, anyway" when Jay interrupted me with "oh I don't want any candy." after I said as we waited in the avengers movie line "I should have gone to the dollar party to get some candy, had I known it was gonna be this long of a wait." They thought I was being hostile....when noooo I was just stating the candy wasn't for you, and why should I give a fuck? Lol 😆 I always do that with my sisters and parents at home. That's how we talk to each other, sarcastic assholes and smart jokes. I asked Jay is your masculinity sensitive after they called me out about making that comment that I thought wasn't offensive...but I guess it rubbed then the wrong way?? But like how, cause it was about candy and I wasn't mad at them when I said it.

They took that candy comment way too seriously. Cause even ayunna agreed with Jay that I was challenging their dominance? Like wtffff how can I challenge someone's dominance without even being aggressive, pushing a button, or getting in your face?

I think they thought I was just the nice girl who never talks back. Bullshiiiiittttt I have a mouth. I'm allowed to speak 🤣😅 fucking idiots and they thought I was the sensitive one. Jay sensitive too. Any time they felt less like a man, they took it out on us, like a lil crybaby, like a punk. But I didn't say anything....cause it seemed like anything I said to defend myself they would get into my head too about how it don't make sense.

Truly I think we just came from 2 different backgrounds, one where I was taught to obey but speak my mind. And Jay was taught that control and making others controlled by fear, while they got to be enabled to do so...was their life at home being the oldest. I never like even my own manager for doing that, controlling, poking, and bitching about stress then then taking it out on us because he has anger and commitment issues at biglots.

Jay came from "I'm the man, you're supposed to shut up and be quiet when I say it." I came from a house that woulda whooped yo ass for saying shit like that to my own momma. We don't play that shit around here and I grew up in the south, and southern raised folk. You always respect women just as proper and equal as men too. Yes sir, thank you ma'am, and do you need some napkins, that southern hospitality and respect for other people, friends, and family I was taught that. Jay must have not been taught manners and stuff like I did. My momma and daddy a mind even teachers made me be nice and be a good listener, and a good student always ready, alert, paying attention. You got off task, you fall behind in school, so always pay attention. Dad always was hard on me reminding me to do my best and treat people the way you want to be treated.

[mystt]

jontron receipts, part one

here are some choice timestamps from the first 3 hours of the stream that jontron did w sargon of akkad and friends (found here). i was going to do the whole thing but i have things to do tonight and i need a break from this

(x) ‘[SJWs] know that nobody likes their ideals so they have to force them on people’ 

(x) jontron doesn’t think that neo Nazis exist?? ‘you created this movement because you wouldn’t shut about straight white male rapists’ maybe it because....those ppl exist...a lot of them even

(x) ‘ive been on your side for years’

(x) “you fucking tard”

(x) jontron is trying to claim that the current climate of ‘blaming white men for everything’ is like blaming the jews for everything. REALLY now. REALLy.

(x) “these ppl don’t know real oppression” which people jon? which people? because all sjws are…..the same?

(x) “like fuck off just make the best of it”

(x) saying that the womens marches were like…unnecessarily violent?

(x) richard spencer getting punched TERRIFIED jontron lol??? hello

(x) hes not disappointed in America because of trump but because ‘americans are being weird’ and then hilariously unaware bitching abt echo chambers

(x) apparently sjw’s want to destroy all of traditionalism until we’re all ‘rainbow-haired cat people’ that sounds fucking awesome to me

(x) jontron supporting denying people service based on religious beliefs...that just fucking speaks for itself holy shit

im sorry I know this is so ad hominem and not really relevant but this ‘dr layman’ guy might have the most irritating voice in all of human history jesus Christ

(x) calling sjw’s ‘cultists’

(x) heres jon talking about how successful Donald trump is…as if it was a good thing?? he doesn’t say that outright but by the tone u kno that’s not upsetting to him lol

(x) sjws cant deal with uncomfortable facts, and just blame the patriarchy on anything?? i mean sure some ppl are like that but that’s because NO ONE IS GOOD AT DEALING WITH UNCOMFORTABLE FACTS U FUCKEAD also sargon going off again, apparently sjws…have no moral compass…um…

(x) ‘to all you fucking crazy people if I have your attention, ‘READ A FUCKING BOOK EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE INSTEAD OF PUTTING A FUCKING VAGINA ON YOUR HEAD AND MARCHING IN THE STREETS’’ man hes REALLY fucking hung up on this

(x) fairness where fairness is due, none of them are against using peoples proper pronouns if asked civilly to do so, so they aren’t shitty in literally ALL aspects

(x) THIS IS A LIL BIT BEFORE HE ACTUALLY SAYS IT CAUSE THE CONTEXT IS IMPORTANT BUT JON JAFARI ACTUALLY CALLS FORCED WORK ‘A BLESSING FROM GOD’ I CANNOT BELIEVE

SOME SLAVES WERE ‘PAYED’ FOR THEIR WORK, JON. WAS THAT A BLESSING FROM GOD?

(x) ‘maybe make a better life at home’ wow. there it fucking is. ive heard some privileged shit in my time but this. this takes the cake. how do you grow up to be so fucking ignorant?

this whole time he’s been calling the people who don’t agree with him things like ‘cultists’ and ‘lunatics’ etc….nice

(x) jontron just like…saying some bullshit about affirmative action…im so fucking tired….end me

(x) here it is yall….Jon Jafari doesn’t think poor people should have access to technology…im so close to fucking stopping right here there are two more hours to go!!!! FUCK!!!!

overall this conversation started kind of?? okay like not the WORST but it was bearable at least. they made some sort of interesting points about extremism within the SJW movement but that stopped about an hour in. im dead inside