#agab non comformity

[nonconformityhub]

AGAB Non-Conformity - AFAB Transfems, AMAB Cis Women, Neo-AGABs, and more (Infographic)

Icon Credits: ANC flag and term by sanrio-kotto - coining here AFAB Transfem and AMAB Transmasc hearts by @ijustwannamekemojis Intersex emoji by @eldritch-emojis Trans emoji by @k9emote

[bundleofsouls]

I agree that just expanding the list of genders isn't the goal of gnc, but when you start identifying with a new thing (I get it's supposed to be without a gender but it still has a name) in place of gender it will inevitably become considered one. Non-binary is a particularly sticky case of this because it's basically made non-comformity, or at least a desire not to be percieved as male or female, a gender which I think is the worst possible outcome. Wouldn't it be a better idea to just ignore the social and expressive expectations of our genders if our goal is to eliminate these expectations?

Note: I'm not saying stick with the gender your assigned no matter what, trans people clearly have a need to transition, just that if your physical identity matches your agab don't bother changing it and just act with disregard for social expectations.

aaaaand that’s the tea. 

[ruusattukoira]

I wanna do some random headcanoning for my school comic project characters. They're all queer some way bc i said so and it plays a pretty big part on their character in the long run (future, oast, development etc)

So the main character trio is

a sleep deprived young adult(around 19) named Ollie who's a Transmasc boygirl and an aroace using he/she pronouns, his usual style is androgynous/gender-non-comforming leaning from first glance you cannot tell her AGAB.

his so called platonic soulmate is a stray husky named Mick who choose her because he could (actually she just took care of Mick and the dog went that's my emotional support human now.)

And then there's the dead spirit of a gay man named Teagan that just wants to meet his boyfriend again but to do that it needs to get blessed by a deity because he was being a problem & a pain In the ass in his "first life" and got banished. Teagan uses he/it pronouns.

Then there is an imp, but it's not currently design further enough and is a concept only thought.

Also pretty things we've got married lesbians where one is a baker and other is a royal high guard that adopt Ollie for a brief time in the story (during this time Ollie is part of the royal guard as an apprentice bc she has knowledge that they're trying to wedge out of him.), Ollie also has a big sister Bianca who's literally trans and actually the one who introduced Ollie to gender-non-comformity

[24eggsinacasket]

So I've still been questioning my gender identity and stuff but something just came to me a day or two ago.

I've been thinking of agender for the most part, however, sometimes I'll think I feel a bit of a connection to my AGAB, making me occasionally identify as a demigender. Or I feel a strong sense of what I think is gender, which makes me think my gender non-comformity could be chalked up to something like androgyne or polygender. And that made me have a realization...

Back when I first started exploring my aro identity I actually settled on grayromantic, with the definition that I felt romantic attraction but just never want a relationship (similar to lithro). I later realized I was fully aro when I found out that what I was experiencing was not romantic attraction, only sensual.

Now I just need someone to explain what gender actually is so I can see whether I'm actually feeling it, since I think I've been making the mistake of seeing agender as a seperate gender identity, rather than the lack of one.

Please explain this shit to me or I'm going to build a home in the sewers and never come back.

[feraldavestrider]

Honestly when you started saying you need dysphoria to be trans I was this close to hitting the unfollow button but I agree with you. sometimes people say "I don't have dysphoria I'm just happier as this gender" and like ??? maybe you should consider how happy you actually were before whatever transitioning you did. Sometimes I feel kinda empty and don't wanna do things. I'm not sad and I can deal with it indefinitely but guess what, that's still depression. Not all dysphoria is obvious.

yeah!! ill be honest i was mostly frustrated and i just woke up when i wrote that stuff so i wont b surprised if i lost some followers who didnt get what i meant/thought i was truscum/transmed,,,, or if ppl just dont agree which is life. but im glad u got what i meant!

**edit i made before i posted this i say “you” a lot in this and i mean like a general audience you mostly pointed towards like. op and those that agree ok note over**

i by NO means am trying to police ppls identifies or suggest that all experiences w dysphoria are the same. or that u should ever need to share details on those experiences! you dont owe anyone anything.

my main issue is that “tucute”/mogai tumblr propagates this idea that you can just be trans without feeling any discomfit w ur agab, and the associated name, pronouns, ur physical form (ie some various forms of dysphoria). because then what are we boiling being trans down to???? saying youre trans/nonbinary just bc you may dress in a gnc/non conventional manner or because u act/talk/have certain hobbies that are gendered in a way that doesnt fit ur assigned gender???? if you genuinely feel NO issue with ur agab at ALL then chief... u probably arent trans!! and thats ok! a lot of ppl i know have ided as trans at some point in their life and actually realised they were experiencing something else, like body dysmorphia or internalised lesbophobia. 

like u said, dysphoria can sometimes just be... not bery apparent. it can be silent, but its still there. im very skeptical of the idea of ppl habinf gender “euphoria” without the dysphoria n using that to explain their transness but mostly bc i just beliebe those ppl r dysphoric without realising it, probably bc of mogai/tucute tumblr culture! i.e. i didnt realise how bad i actually experienced name dysphoria until AFTER i changed my name basicaly everywhere except legally and w my family. bc i was like huh! im so euphoric at being called gabe, but i didnt think i felt thay dysphoric at my birth name! but NOW when i get deadnamed, it like. HURTS most of the time. dysphoria can change like that w ur life experiences, and euphoria doesnt exist without the dysphoria, evem if u arent aware of the dysphoria in rhe first place! like u said anon, how okay could u be w ur agab/birth name/assigned pronouns/etc if being called different ones make u so happy. its just dysphoria!!!

! u just have been indoctrinated by this tucute v truscum war where both sides treat dysphoria as an all encompassing tragic, epic life long suffering. truscum act thay way in order to gatekeep who is/isnt trans, and mogais decided thay RATHER than go, “no dumbass dysphoria can be literally just. hih i feel Wrong abt my agab” even if thats a vague and complicated feeling, they went: ok then we dont need dysphoria fuck u! which i INDERSYAND but its just not right or helpful!

 often dysphoria can change w experiences and comes and goes, and sometimes parts of it are so hodden u wont realise it was there until years later in ur life! and thats ok. you dont have to experience every symptom of dysphoria at 100% tragedy pain mode to be a valid Real Transgender. all you need to be trans is... to be trans. which means dysphoria! bc being trans is being uneasy/unhappy w ur assigned gender bc u arent that! and guess what the definition of dysphoria is... being uneasy and unhappy! so being trans is just having gender dysphoria!

on that note, i think that ppl who DONT actually feel uneasy or unhappy w their birth gender but do want to experiment or explore different modes of expression w names/pronouns/dress style should! but just note tjay like... ur probably just gender non comforming, not transgender

i guess being nonbinary is a little more complex but id argue my point still stands. you are uncomfortable w ur birth gender. thats dysphoria. maybe ur dysphoria seems “”””weird”””” bc ur nb dusphoria but its not. its still dysphoria!  if ur afab and u still want to have long hair... thay dossnt mean u dont have dysphoria. if ur agab and you still want to have armpit and leg hair... thay doesnt mean u dont have dysphoria. whether ur nb or binary trans! bc. you WILL have some form of social/personal dysphoria that is what makes u go HM ASSIGNED GENDER BAD! 

ok im done for now im abt to sleep and then get on an 11 hour plane journey so dont expect anything gr8 from me now or anytime near in the future sorry for my big rants but i just feel like tumblr is so black n white on this issue when both aides are! stupid (obviously transmeds/truscum r worse but still!!! mogai tend to get me heated in a New Fun way). 

sorry 4 word vomiting anon bit thanks 4 ur ask i wasnt sure if anyone would get where i was coming from n im glad u agree!!! thank u fr for sending tjis in. habe a good noght/day/whatever 

[crabfin]

i just feel like they should be talked about in the same breath but ppl want to keep them apart. trying to pretend that the idea that theres a right or wrong way to be gender isnt the foundation of the patriarchy. trying to pretend that womens reproductive rights arent intrinsically linked to trans healthcare debates, as if the ability to be able to reproduce isnt a talking point of the far right. trying to pretend that "protecting 'real' women" isnt just a thinly veiled excuse to violate ALL womens privacy and using transphobia as an excuse to do it. reducing gender inequality to "gender essentialism" as if women being viewed as lesser than men isnt built into the fabric of our society including and especially the way that trans people are treated. trying to pretend that transwomen or even transmen have any sort of tangible privilege in a society that hates women when trans women are viewed as fake women and trans men are viewed as failed women, both of which are viewed as "even worse" than "regular women". trying to pretend that nonbinary people can escape this in any way shape or form just by existing as themselves as if the way we view men and women doesnt affect the way we treat nonbinary people based on their AGAB. the way that these issues also all intersect and overlap with the way that gender non comforming but otherwise cis people are treated. cis women can uphold the patriarchy. trans people can uphold the patriarchy. gender nonconforming cis gays can uphold the patriarchy. but none of these people are privileged under the patriarchy, because the patriarchy only likes the masculine cishet man. you cant just be a man you also have to be doing gender right. the patriarchy just happens to also barely tolerates anybody who is willing to kiss their ass, because the unprivileged people who kiss the patriarchys ass are willing to do unthinkable things just for some scraps of respect. but thats just doing the patriarchys dirty work for it. frankly even cishet men are suffering they just dont know the patriarchal ideals that they love to uphold are what's making them miserable because they never learned emotionally intelligence. bc the patriarchy. so they substitute happiness with ego and abuse people they see as below them instead of going to therapy about it. and. they view anyone whos less than a masculine cishet man as below them which is the whole fucking point of this post. we need to start treating these concepts as if theyre parts of the same whole, because there are more of us suffering under the patriarchy than there are benefiting from it and they're banking on us treating these issues as if theyre seperate to keep everyone under their thumb. god. none of this even touches how race plays into the way people view your gender. god im so tired of being chronically online. if i make the lack of intersectionality in discussions about gender and how it interacts with functions of oppression sound more like tragic yuri will you guys start pretending to care about shit that actually matters

frankly genuinely baffled by the climate we've created surrounding discussions of gender in today's age. baffled and concerned. Feminism and trans rights aren't separate concepts. They're inherently linked. they're girlfriends

[nonconformityhub]

So I saw you were looking into making queer infographic and as an agender AFAB transfem I would really love to see one on AFAB transfem and AMAB transmasc or at the very least one on AGAB non conforming mainly because it is so hard to explain my identity and find acceptance because people boil my gender down to my sex and my AGAB and like to me sex and gender are not at all the same.

I'd love to do this! Feel free to submit some personal stories in my inbox if you're afab transfem/amab transmasc or some informational things you'd like included :D