#adoptionafterabiologicalchild

[hollymarlow]

I've been writing this for a long time, on and off, and I've got a way to go yet. It's an autobiographical book about my experiences adopting when we already had a birth child. I have ummed and ahhed about whether I should share my story with the world, and how to do so without sharing too much about my son's story. I've found a balance that I'm comfortable with now, and I'm on a roll. I think I will be ready to share the book with the world in a few months, but we'll see! Sometimes after an emotional chapter, I need a break from it, so I work on one of my children's books. I always have a few on the go, and I switch between them when I need a break from one. This is the draft cover, and I kind of love it. That rocking chair has been a part of a lot of special memories. ❤️ I hope this book will be a useful tool for adopters and prospective adopters who have birth children. You can follow me on Amazon or sign up to my extremely infrequent mailing list on my website (hollymarlow.com) if you would like to be notified when the book is released. 📚💜 . #adoption #adoptionafterbirth #adoptionafterabirthchild #adoptionafterabiologicalchild #adoptionwithbirthchildren #adoptivefamily #fosteringfebruary #adopting #adoptionprep #adoptionprocess #adopter #adoptingababy #adoptioncommunity #adoptioncommunityuk #adoptionresources #socialworktoolkit #socialworkresources #socialworkreadinglist #socialworkreads #childprotection #socialworker #childsocialworker #socialworklife #prospectiveadoptiveparents #prospectiveadopters #prospectiveadoptivefamily https://www.instagram.com/p/CpBIHpMMW-W/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[hollymarlow]

I get a lot of questions about how I prepared my daughter when we adopted my son. I've tried to put all my tips in one place, so that I can share this link in future and hopefully not forget anything! I hope it's helpful for those of you adopting when you already have a child (or more). https://hollymarlow.com/preparing-your-child-for-a-sibling-joining-the-family-by-adoption/ . #adoption #adopting #adoptionafterabiologicalchild #adoptionafterbirth #adoptingachild #adoptingababy #adoptingafterbirth #adoptionsupportuk #adoptionuk #adoptsiblings #adoptingsiblings #adoptionreading #adoptionprep #socialwork #childprotection #socialworker #socialworktoolkit #socialworkresources #socialworkreadinglist #adoptionreadinglist #adoptionresources https://www.instagram.com/p/Cn86JYIsOGe/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[hollymarlow]

These two! 😍 Zoe raced in to snuggle Jake the second he woke up from his nap. 🥰 . #wholesome #attachment #siblingattachment #buildingattachments #attachement #attachmentparenting #siblingbond #siblinggoals #love #wecouldhavemissedthis #adoptionbuiltus #wearefamily #thisisus #livingourbestlives #lovemakesafamily #family #famille #familia #familie #wirsindfamilie #adoption #adoptionuk #adoptivesiblings #adoptivefamily #siblingsthroughadoption #siblingsbyadoption #siblingbesties #adoptionislove #adoptionafterbirth #adoptionafterabiologicalchild https://www.instagram.com/p/Co2YIkmsQRh/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[hollymarlow]

Little one keeps asking to measure his hands against mine every day, to see if he's grown. He really wants to be tall, but he reassured me earlier that he'll always love me, even when he's tall all the way up to the sky! ❤️ . #wholesome #parenting #attachment #buildingattachments #attachement #love #wecouldhavemissedthis #adoptionbuiltus #wearefamily #thisisus #livingourbestlives #lovemakesafamily #family #famille #familia #familie #liebemachtfamilie #wirsindfamilie #noussommesfamille #adoption #adoptionuk #adoptivesiblings #adoptivefamily #adoptionislove #adoptionafterbirth #adoptionafterabiologicalchild https://www.instagram.com/p/CnxY-XCsPJz/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[hollymarlow]

Zoe teaching Jake a dance routine she made up. Feet were stepped on, but there was a lot of laughter ❤️ . #wholesome #attachment #buildingattachments #attachement #siblingbond #siblinggoals #love #wecouldhavemissedthis #adoptionbuiltus #wearefamily #thisisus #livingourbestlives #lovemakesafamily #family #famille #familia #familie #liebemachtfamilie #wirsindfamilie #adoption #adoptionuk #adoptivesiblings #adoptivefamily #siblingsthroughadoption #siblingsbyadoption #siblingbesties #besties #adoptionislove #adoptionafterbirth #adoptionafterabiologicalchild https://www.instagram.com/p/CnxX3kNsPD4/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[hollymarlow]

These two simultaneously warm my heart and crack me up! ❤️😂🙈 . #wholesome #attachment #buildingattachments #attachement #siblingbond #siblinggoals #love #wecouldhavemissedthis #adoptionbuiltus #wearefamily #thisisus #livingourbestlives #lovemakesafamily #family #famille #familia #familie #liebemachtfamilie #wirsindfamilie #adoption #adoptionuk #adoptivesiblings #adoptivefamily #siblingsthroughadoption #siblingsbyadoption #siblingbesties #besties #adoptionislove #adoptionafterbirth #adoptionafterabiologicalchild https://www.instagram.com/p/CniMQr3sGkm/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[hollymarlow]

These two are feeling a bit under the weather this morning. Not sure if it's the start of the 1,000,000th virus this school year, sleep deprivation from the howling winds last night, or a bit of both. They're both very snuggly and being adorable to each other though. It's heartwarming ❤️ . #wholesome #attachment #buildingattachments #attachement #siblingbond #siblinggoals #love #wecouldhavemissedthis #adoptionbuiltus #wearefamily #thisisus #livingourbestlives #lovemakesafamily #family #famille #familia #familie #liebemachtfamilie #wirsindfamilie #adoption #adoptionuk #adoptivesiblings #adoptivefamily #siblingsthroughadoption #siblingsbyadoption #siblingbesties #besties #adoptionislove #adoptionafterbirth #adoptionafterabiologicalchild https://www.instagram.com/p/CnHDp1mt8Bc/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[hollymarlow]

Zoe wrote this note to her little brother 🥰 . #wholesome #attachment #buildingattachments #attachement #attachmentparenting #siblingbond #siblinggoals #love #wecouldhavemissedthis #adoptionbuiltus #wearefamily #thisisus #livingourbestlives #lovemakesafamily #family #famille #familia #familie #wirsindfamilie #adoption #adoptionuk #adoptivesiblings #adoptivefamily #siblingsthroughadoption #siblingsbyadoption #siblingbesties #besties #adoptionislove #adoptionafterbirth #adoptionafterabiologicalchild https://www.instagram.com/p/Cm0x-lTsn_i/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[hollymarlow]

Just had a fabulous virtual visit with two classes at a Primary school, talking to them about adopting a younger sibling, and reading my second book "Adopting a Little Brother or Sister." A parent asked me to do this so that her daughter's friends understand the adoption process a little and can support her and be excited with her while her family goes through the process to adopt a younger sibling. The children were so engaged and asked such sweet, thoughtful questions! 🥰 I have several different options for school visits and can tailor them to the need. If you'd like me to talk to your child's class, the information the school needs to arrange a visit (or virtual visit by Teams) is at hollymarlow.com/events . #AdoptionAwarenessMonth #adoption #booksthatteach #teachingresources #teacher #teacherlife #teacherstuff #pshe #family #teachingideas #teachers #senco #sencoresources #schoolsocialworkers #school #primaryteacher #primaryschool #primaryschoolteacher #primaryteachers #primaryschoolbookclub #adoptingsiblings #adoptionsupport #adopting #adoptionafterabiologicalchild #adoptionafterbirth https://www.instagram.com/p/ClYVspVMwut/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[hollymarlow]

Got this message on Twitter earlier. I get it. The changes for the adopted child being moved to a new family are significantly more dramatic than the changes experienced by a child already in that family. Of course I advocate reading books to adopted children too, to help them to make sense of their situation and their feelings. My 2 most popular books (Delly Duck and Room in the Nest) are often used for that. When we adopted our son, we (as most adoptive parents do) tried to keep as much of his routine consistent with his routine in foster care as possible. I'm sure it was still pretty terrifying for him at times. My son's challenges don't invalidate those of my daughter. It's not a contest. We wouldn't have adopted if we didn't feel we could support the needs of two children. All the little adaptations to routine, meals, etc, plus the very fact that we had an extra child in the family, led to lots of changes for our birth daughter. If we'd had a 2nd child biologically, they would have grown up with the foods our daughter likes, the routine she was used to, etc. She coped brilliantly, but that's not the point. My daughter and others also deserve support and empathy when experiencing changes to their lives, even though their new sibling is going through a significantly more dramatic change. It's helpful for all siblings if you support the elder children so that they don't resent or reject their new sibling. The last thing an adopted child needs is to feel unwanted. So I think there's a need for these stories, and well, people keep buying them, so I guess others agree. . #siblingsbyadoption #siblingsthroughadoption #siblingadoption #adoption #adoptionmonth #adoptionawareness #adoptionmatters #adoptionawarenessmonth #adoptionbuiltus #adoptiveparent #adoptiveparents #adoptivemum #adoptivemummy #adoptivemama #adoptivedad #adoptivefather #adoptivefamily #adoptivesiblings #newbaby #adoptionsupportuk #adoptionsupport #adoptionafterabiologicalchild #adoptionafterbirth #storiesthatmatter #attachment #attachmentparenting #therapeuticparenting #therapeuticparent #bekind https://www.instagram.com/p/CjgADzLMNaY/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=