#actively working to break free from patriarchal chains is part of being a feminist

[quillkiller]

Hey Jen!! I hope this doesn’t sound embarrassing and I know you’ve stated before that you’re a feminist (proudly as you should) and I’d like to think of myself as one too but I also genuinely feel like I’ve got internalized misogyny? Like sometimes I find myself wanting to look good for male approval or for their gaze and I don’t want too but I feel like I’m not going to be good enough if I don’t and I even dislike some women characters simply bc they’re women and it’s horrible. I’m sorry to bring this up, I don’t have anybody to talk about with about misogyny or know any women around me who are feminists

BUDDY 🤍🤍🤍

this message is so sweet it feels like you’ve just been holding onto this for ages and just needed to rant a little about it. but let me tell you babes, all women have internalised misogyny. you’re not a bad person for harbouring internalised misogyny, i promise you. you’re being so self aware by just being able to identify it and talking about it !! i also still struggle with internalised misogyny and it has not been an easy breezy journey to get to where i am today !!

being a woman means always having to be aware that you are a woman and that’s so fucking tiring and miserable sometimes because you’re just. doomed to be a woman in a patriarchal society against your will (<- obviously not talking about trans people, and i dont mean you’re forced to be a woman unless you actually are and feel like a woman. etc). it takes a lot of fucking active work to unlearn misogyny and self hatred and even relearning self respect. it’s an entire upbringing as a girl, having a certain narrative pushed on you, that you’re unlearning. and i think you’ve come very far. you’re aware of your internalized misogyny and that does NOT mean you hate women. it does not make you bad. you have to be able to be comfortable in a world that hates you and you’re doing very good my little friend 🤍