#acting like this springs about as a result of being transmasc or trying to fit in in a gender affirming way is not true for many of us

[nightmarish-fallen-angel]

I'm saying that targeting the transmasculine community specifically for misogyny, or acting like we're all misogynistic, is wrong and contributes to commonly held beliefs that we are trans because we're running away from misogyny and internalized misogyny, and that we are "gender traitors" who hate women.

There are transmascs who are misogynistic, this is typically called out within our community. Individuals can be sexist, but acting like transmascs are predisposed to misogyny due to our identity is wrong.

Also, assuming that every transmasc benefits from misogyny and gets validation from being misogynistic is a huge assumption to make.

Also I'm not "mansplaining" misogyny, I'm talking about my own experiences and the experiences of those I love to express why constantly being called misogynistic for something I can't control (masculinity/being trans) hurts.

There's something especially biting about people telling transmascs specifically to unpack their misogyny.

After so long of being yelled at or berated by my mother. Looked at with disgust for not shaving my legs and yelled at when I cut my hair, guilt tripped into wearing makeup, and being told any masculine dress was "not socially acceptable." All things that actively hurt gnc women as well as trans people. All things that are misogynistic to imply women have to do.

Every time I try to come out as trans: "I wish you weren't ashamed of your femininity, I'm so heartbroken that you hate women. You're only trying to become a man because you think women are inferior." Following it up with a "why can't you express yourself as you are and just be a gnc woman..." As if she didn't just mock me for those exact traits.

My mother, and by extension TERFs (as my mother is one), constantly imply that the only reason transmasculine people exist is because they are poor little girls who struggle with internalized misogyny. They need to embrace being the gnc women they truly are~ And the gnc women need to fix their internalized misogyny by being more feminine~

So imagine my frustration when the communities I assume to be safe for trans people (both irl and online) hit me with the "transmascs need to unpack their misogyny :/" "a surprising number of transmascs are misogynistic actually :/"

Everyone needs to unpack their misogyny dipshit. The fact that transmascs are singled out specifically leads me to conclude one (or both) of two things:

You have encountered a shitty transmasc person and have taken it upon yourself to decide that the entire transmasc community is like that. I'm not saying misogynistic transmascs don't exist, but if you see someone with a bigoted worldview and go "well this is indicative of the entire community" you are the problem.

You think transmascs are misogynistic for getting gender dysphoria around things that are feminine or conversely, they are misogynistic for getting euphoria around masculinity. This is just straight up punishing trans people for being true to themselves.

Both of these are transphobic arguments and are common TERF tactics to discredit trans people. I do not trust you if you hold the opinion that misogyny is more prevalent in transmasculine spaces than in society at large.