#act holier than thou about it and harass people for liking certain fiction

[sn33z3s]

why did you reblog my post? you don’t follow me and never had to engage in the first place. i was using my blog for pretty standard purposes and if it upsets you that i expressed my frustrations over a rude comment about my friends' art you could have blocked me first or DM’d me instead to avoid “seeing [this subject] on your dash.” i am not stressed out nor am i the one who started any “drama” about the drawings in question. i am making a post to express my opinion which is something i do frequently, though rarely with intent to “vague” as you seem to be suggesting

your initial reply didn’t give me much to work with so i instead elaborated on my original points. indeed, i also support not trying to form a consensus about who is “correct.” that’s why the posts about my friends' art feel so dishonest. do you not also express your opinions about these types of things, and spread what you feel to be the “correct” opinion on a certain issue? i’m confused.

is calling fan art where a character uses one word to refer to themselves in a vaguely feminine manner “heterosexual” not shallow? it’s great that you don’t care for more romance trope-driven fanworks i guess, but accusing anybody of “flattening” a dynamic because they made a joke (and then people tried to be purposefully obtuse about that joke, which will also make even more people upset) is a bit holier-than-thou

the “parallel between 'Kyle is the mommy' heteronormativity accusations and whatever it is you're arguing about allegedly antisemitic Kyle portrayals” is that i don’t get being more worried about drawings of a fictional jewish character being called mommy than drawings of a fictional jewish character being abused OR being a devious mastermind (to list some examples, since you think they are “alleged.”) indeed, gay people are not going to be in agreement about anything — that’s why i find it very strange to ignore the gay people behind the supposedly heteronormative fan art and say one’s point is above theirs. and yes, same applies to how jewish fans feel! did i say i am dictating what is or isn't innately antisemitic? no, absolutely not, but i am allowed to have feelings about it

“maybe Kyle is a hotheaded asshole. people are allowed to think that” okay, exactly. and i don’t make posts complaining about how often people portray him this way. but if somebody draws kyle acting nurturing and sweet because that is how they see him, it’s pretty guaranteed you’ll see a bunch of posts crop up about how we need to stop “feminizing” him. also, how do you know that i don't problematize stan and kyle's relationship? you aren't aware of the full extent of my headcanons or characterizations of them; though i still believe comparing their dynamic to one which contains sexual assault and racialized harassment pretty unfair

it’s weird that you are accusing me of being somebody who believes i can control what others do online when you haven’t said the same to anybody who made the initial posts to begin with. if you don’t like me or my friends that’s okay, but i’m speaking for myself so please don’t lump them into my own personal decision making. i rarely get into “public drama” and reserve the right (the same way you do) to use my blog however i want to. and yes, the same applies to the initial “vaguing” done by people who disliked the mommy trend! i’m not attempting to control anybody, i’m just responding to current fandom events. in any case, i am very happy in my niche. is there an issue with that? why is being in my niche bad? literally all of us are and i'm unsettled by you assuming any of this is having affects on my health considering you don’t know anything about me

if the experience of trauma and abuse is relevant to one’s opinions when engaging with fandom and fictional content, then so is how i feel disturbed (and have for a long time as this isn’t a new issue) with the homophobic suggestion that i’d apparently be pinned a problematic imitation of heterosexuality just for existing as a butch lesbian dating a femme woman. while heteropatriarchy can certainly be forced onto gay couples and characters, it’s not really in the form of some of us claiming made-up concepts like motherhood which straight people don’t own anyway

a fictional character headcanon’d as a gay man (in fan art drawn by a gay man) calling himself “mommy” is deeply problematic but the same character’s trauma and abuse being seen as passable so that he can be coupled with the source of his trauma and abuse is okay. because it’s just fictional.