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Day 3 #pathsofmotherhood challenge- Aparigraha or Non Possesiveness/Non Attachment • This handsome guy made me a Mama at 19 years old❤️ He is 25 years old now- he is empathic,strong, athletic, and sensitive+ I love him deeply. • When he came into the world I understood Spirit and experience beyond the 5 senses for the first time in an instant, I was lifted and in love. My world opened up wide. • Non Possesiveness takes on so many forms when I consider our relationship and connection. I made the choice to be a single mama shortly after he came into our lives- me and this one, well we grew up together. I am not sure who I’d be without him in a very deep way and naturally we developed a co dependency in a healthy, but also unhealthy way. Attachment took a whole new meaning for this boy gave me purpose and life before I knew who I was. I think it’s understandable to let the kids do their thing when they are younger and still at home, because we still have that inherent control. • The true test of Detachment was when this kiddo became a man and I still judged and tried to control his decisions. I learned his life is not mine to live, he has to fail, make mistakes and I need to be there as a consultant or guide, but I do not manage him- that is not my place and you guys that was hard! • I realized how selfish I was when I was controlling his decisions because his success depicted how successful I was at single parenting, this does his path a great disservice. It took me a good deal of reflection and awareness to understand my need to control and where it came from and you guys that was hard! I have come to learn I do not possess him, he needs to fly- and when he needs Me or his StepDad, we’ll be here with all the love, listening and support he needs❤️ • #thisisshawn @shawn_dalbey #abigoneandalittleone #eightlimbsofyoga #aparigraha #love #singlemomstrong #singlemomsrock #leanin *********************************** Mamas join in on the #PathsOfMotherhood Challenge now until Mother’s Day share, support and lift each other 👆🏼 Hosted by: @tarastiles @yogabeyond @riva_g_ @chintwins @ashleygalvinyoga @northcarolina_yogagirl @yogawithbriohny @talia_sutra @elenabrower