#YOU DONT NEED TO BE SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO YOURSELF TO ORGASM! ITS A PHYSICAL PROCESS | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

trans-leek-cookie · 2 months ago

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im going to kill myself a million times. Why do I still see ppl acting like "ace people who enjoy sex? That's not what ace means!" Like maybe you're right idgaf but I feel like ppl do not understand or acknowledge that The physical sensation of stimulation that sex produces is obviously connected to but not inherently attached to sexual attraction.

Actually I'm going to go further and talk about the fact Sexual assault is one example of something involving sexual interaction that doesn't require attraction. Like attraction can be a factor I'm not saying it's never an element but it is not INHERENT to ASSAULT. And I think the idea that sex = attraction is not accurate and needs to be acknowledged bc of it. Also note ace people can sexually assault and/or harass people because 'sexual' actions are not only tied to attraction. And on the flip side: people can be "aroused" by sexual assault bc of the physical stimulation and that doesn't say shit about their sexuality. It's a physical response.

Like I don't really give a shit Abt if ace people can like sex or if ppl who like sex can't be ace or whatever but the implications of these discussions make me want to hurt myself and others

Also sex repulsed =/= asexual because people can experience sexual attraction and still have problems with sex. For example: people who struggle with accepting their sexuality and unlearning/uninternalizing societal bigotry like homophobia and transphobia may be repulsed by sex. Sexual assault survivors may still experience sexual attraction but be repulsed by sex. and sexual repulsion can be permanent or temporary based on the person.

And I'm almost sure unless I've been misinformed by a lot of ppl: hypersexuality is not incompatible with asexuality. From my understanding, hypersexuality is not a measure of "how sexual" someone is, it's closer to an OCD obsession focused on sex, where people can have intrusive thoughts that are sexual, or assume they need to provide for someone sexually to be "of worth" + is often a trauma response rather than a reflectiom of attraction or desire

#I'm going to start screaming. You can kiss someone without being Romantically attracted to them.#Yes. Sex is not kissing. But an action can have different motivation depending on the context #YOU DONT NEED TO BE SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO YOURSELF TO ORGASM! ITS A PHYSICAL PROCESS #Now some people don't want to be touched sexually period by others OR themself bc. Y'know infinitity of human experience #But like. My guy. You can debate about the morals of this but: attraction is not a requirement for the physical sensation that most people #get/want from sex. My credentials are that I'll be a virgin forever until I find out a way to have sex that doesn't involve me or the other #Person being able to perceive eachother beyond the literal most necessary elements and we will never know each other or be able to identify #Each other or anything and I don't even really want to have sex I just don't like the idea I won't ever know what ''sex'' feels like and #Im willing to admit I think I have something wrong with myself and this is probably not the healthiest way to think but y'know. Whatever #Anyway tldr asexual people still have nerves in their genitals and the body generally perceives stimulation of said nerves as a positive #So. Y'know. Bye

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