#Wondering again if I should re evaluate those autism results

[paladerp]

Like bro you don't have to explain jack or shit to me but it's pretty rich to complain that I should be learning something when you don't.

If I was out here sealioning I'd get the hostility, but what tf did I do that suggests I'm not willing to consider other points of view?

How am I learning when it's all just bully behavior? Wild.

not everyone who gets mad at you on the internet is an evil hater purposefully acting in bad faith for fun, you were just objectively in the wrong. you could learn from this situation and instead youre shifting the blame onto op and trying to vilify her and all the people rightfully calling you on your fuck up. you clearly expect someone to come along and gently walk you through every step of what you did wrong when its literally spelled out in the original post that you did the exact thing op was talking about and thats why people are pissed at you. if your only response is to just brush this off because you got your feelings hurt instead of actually confronting the fact that you screwed up and trying to be better then youre beyond help lmfao. sometimes life is uncomfortable and sometimes its your own fault. thats not even me trying to be mean on purpose thats literally just the truth. take the L

Do you think I haven't considered that maybe I am wrong? Do you think I didn't consider that premise before I said anything in the first place??

What am I supposed to be learning when I'm being told I should delete my account because I'm selfish and don't care about Palestinians?? As if saying that makes me any less aware, daily, of the genocide being committed by the people who claim to represent me??? If you could take the hurt away by claiming I never felt it, or that my feeling it isn't genuine, just because you're saying so... That would be something.

But no one is criticisizing the things I said, only that I disagreed. The comments are that i am selfish, nothing about how you can conclude that compassion fatigue is evil and selfish; how is burn out something that possesses a moral value? As if it's a choice you make and not a state of being??? An action you have taken instead of an experience you are having? That's not how it works.

You can tell me how selfish that is and I am for saying so, but I fundamentally do not understand how.

My feelings are hurt that the people I see community in (other humans who believe that Palestine matters and that Israel is committing genocide) consider me an enemy for advocating for the needs of people who are burnt out.

That's some bullshit and no matter how hard I try I'm just not seeing truth in the opposite viewpoint.

Unless youre saying that compassion fatigue is unrelated to burn out and grief? Is that the understanding?? Because maybe we should see if we're sharing an understanding of the concept.

[olderthannetfic]

Hi there! I hope you're having a nice day.

Little bit of a rant and a bid for advice, if you or your readers have any. I hope that's alright.

I'm currently writing a fic or maybe multiple fics (plot bunnies be running rampant in me brains) about a rarepair of two guys. I'm a bi woman and have basically zero social skills, so in order to properly understand other people's body language, I like to look up guides or articles about body language between two people, although I know those things are full of bullshit and don't mean anything, and it's hard to find articles for example about whether another woman's body language indicates interest in you if you're a woman yourself, but eh, they're still better than my brain which is usually like "eh, could mean this or that or this or that or this or that or- basically could be anything, I wouldn't know that lol, now I'm tired and will shut off, bye" aka useless as well.

The results I've found have been absolutely useless. I like writing characters in a slightly plausible-sounding way, so I like incorporating body language as in acting choices or subconscious body language (or whatever a proper term might be) in my writing to make it sound more in-character. So for stuff like this, I usually just think "ok what is that person's expression and if I do it, what would that indicate me to be feeling currently", and I don't know if other people do that or if that's just me being bad with social stuff and intuition about it again, and if I should really try to get re-evaluated for autism which I have been advised to think about doing multiple times in multiple direct and indirect implicative ways such as people being like "hey btw are you autistic? no? you sure?" or "I know you got a negative diagnosis as a kid, but maybe that was wrong and you might wanna do it again because of all your social struggles and sensory stuff etc.", heh. (Have been diagnosed with ADHD though, so that might also just be it.)

Sorry for the rambling. English isn't my first language, so if anything sounds strange, that's to blame.

My question or rather bid for advice is: I am wondering if you or your readers might have any advice on where to find resources for reading body language and romantic or sexual implications in body language between two parties, in this case between two guys.

(Hopefully this is not too nonsensical or insensitive or something like that because that's not my intention. I just really don't know how to human or if there actually is some difference on how different people of different genders flirt consciously or subconsciously or if that's some weird unnoticed transphobic bio-essentialism shit that I hadn't yet noticed and sorted out of my head because I don't want to be transphobic since that sucks.)

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Weeell...

If people have links to guides, that's great, but I do think that in the context of fanfic, people often write flirting that they find sexy or they write whatever the canon style of interaction is and recontextualize it as how these particular guys flirt.

They're not usually thinking "What does flirting look like in general?" and then having the characters behave in a new way.

A lot of our interpretation of body language in written fiction has to do with information we get from the POV character about how they're feeling internally. For the non-POV character, we may have the POV character's thoughts on what the body language means, but we're generally interpreting it based on media cliches and based on knowing this is a ship fic.

So the other dude acts like he doesn't like our POV dude and the POV dude is like "Alas, my pining is unrequited!" and the audience goes "Ooooh, it's one of those fics!"

If the goal is writing certain types of fic, you may not need a guide to How People Really Act as much as one to How Fans Interpret Such and Such a Behavior from Canon as Subtext.