#Vandst

[syrips]

tw: sa

huge trigger warning about irl stuff

so i dont want to write this at all but ive noticed mabinogi has been streaming recently by some loved streamers (which is legit/great, because mabi can be a wholesome experience); but with the potential influx of new players and people new to the community, i just want to throw a warning about a player you may see or hear about if you learn more about this community

tw: sa, disgusting behavior

mabinogi has a very huge predatory-player problem. most mmos have their ugly sides but i just want to point out that with discord, a lot of dangerous people have taken advantage of mabinogi's loose reporting rules with abusive/predatory players. as in, nexon staff going 'it happened on discord so we cant do much about it' and discord staff going 'well, we cant help you recover/use deleted messages'. i can only speak of my own experiences, but one of these players became a discord community admin (Mabinogi Alliance) who abused his power with his position in the server

i cant speak much for other dangerous players but PLEASE AVOID this person that goes by multiple names (usually to 'start over' or avoid accountability):

IXReaper

Beorc

Vandst

Satan

Joshua

if he changes his name, let me know. i dont know where he is or what he does anymore, but he preys on anyone who is 'kind enough to give him a chance, to show he is 'just misunderstood''. he knows what he is doing, and he uses every abusive method in the book until he finds those that you react to. positive, mixed, and negative reactions. he is dangerous to YOU, to others, and himself

please stay safe, and make sure if things feel off or too sudden, TAKE SNAPSHOTS, SCREENCAPS, and DOCUMENT things. move yourself away from the environment/situation if you can, pretend to disconnect/afk just to avoid him. make excuses. become 'boring' and less responsive to him. he relies on: gaslighting, lovebombing, grooming, desensitization, coercion, extortion, guilt tripping, victim blaming.

he is NOT nice. he is NOT misunderstood. he KNOWS what he is doing. he spent an entire year abusing me. i confronted him 2 years later, and he admitted he was possessive with me. it is not him 'into BDSM.' he is NOT a 'dom'. he is not 'unfamiliar' with it. he does not care what AGE, minor or adult, you are. he does not care how strong or smart you are. he will go after you all because of your kindness, vulnerability, and accessibility. and he will blame you. he will say you abused him. he will shame you for things he should be ashamed of. he will repeat the cycle with you if you forgive him; or, he will find someone else to repeat the cycle with, once he finds he can no longer exploit you. he will change his name, try to wipe his crimes clean, and start anew, as 'just a lonely, outcast, misunderstood man.'

please stay safe. there are safer communities and people out there, but this person (as well as anyone else who behaves this way) is not one of them.

[goshemika]

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