#Trigger Warning: Misogyny

[thejdog2000]

Crap, that's even worse.

I will admit that I jumped the gun for assuming they were feminist, so I'll take the L for that.

Idk what tag to use to describe the phenomenon of "Tiktok/Instagram Reels being full of toxic femininity/Gender Roles 2 but I just want to make a thread of examples of batshit takes I have seen from Instagram Reels (I don't have examples for all of them):

"I hate playing with my kids because I think they're 'emotionally abusive'/'gaslighting' when they change the rules every 30 seconds and rough house with me. Also, only fathers can enjoy playing with kids because they don't parent like mothers do (being a mom is soooooo harddddd). I refuse to teach my kids how to play nice and go shocked Pikachu when they don't."

"If you're over 25 you will never find a partner ever and should just get an arranged marriage" (said by someone IN THEIR LATE 20S)

"Sleep studies are all based on mens' needs women actually need 10 hours of sleep because uterus"

Just a whole lot of "Girls are mature well-behaved angels until they hit their double digits, then they become satanic demons from hell. Meanwhile boys are satanic demons from hell BEFORE puberty instead."

"Children produce more oxytocin around their dads because dads are the fun parents and they will never appreciate the hard work their mothers do"

"Bullying is good actually because something something evolutionary psychology. I am very smart, I was a gifted kid in high school"

"Men are useless overgrown children who can't keep house or be trusted around babies. But if a man can keep house and/or is good with children, he's either 'not a real man', a pedo, or gay."

"Some women??? Beat their kids??? To cope??? Kids should understand when mommy brings out the chapathi roller it's because they're just ungrateful brats! Being a mother is sooooo harddddd"

[imawitchywitch]

I have worked at two organizations that helped DV/SA survivors, so I wanted to make a post so if you or a friend god forbid gets r-worded, you know what to do.

You can either call 911 if having emergency personnel on the scene is needed, or take yourself to the hospital. Getting the paramedics and police support may actually be preferable so they can assess the situation, gather evidence, and they will know to take you to whichever hospital has a SANE nurse, but also fuck the police. Step 1: get to a hospital as soon as possible!

You or the emergency personnel will then let the emergency room staff know you need to see the SANE nurse, and an advocate from your local organization. Getting medical attention and support is the most important thing!

The advocate will then support you throughout that whole process, inform you of your rights and options, and assist you in doing a r*pe kit and filing a report if you choose to do so. It’s a lot and traumatizing, but the more evidence the better.

You choose what to do next! Obviously getting mental health support ASAP is vital, and there are support groups and providers for that! You can also file for victim’s compensation payments from your state to help pay for any and all related expenses, even moving and legal expenses, so please DO NOT avoid medical and mental health support if cost is the main concern. Your wellbeing is more important than stupid bills you can fight later on, and the advocates will have that information and all the available resources!

These are traumatizing times, but we do have procedures and resources to help each other when needed! Stock up on Plan B and whatever else that will help you sleep better at night!

[star-trek-fandom-confessions]

#1016

So I haven't actually seen SNW yet (TOS fan). I just learned that in SNW apparently they make Una Riley an augment and I really disagree with this decision. I think the character of Una being removed from TOS because of sexism was a huge injustice. Canonically in TOS women aren't even allowed to be captains too (Turnabout intruder episode establishes this). Because of this, in-universe, Una would be a historic figure really important to feminism, having such a high ranked position in those times. She would need to be very smart and determined too. Her being an augment reminds me of when a women succesful in sports always get accused of cheating, doping, using steroids etc, and women in chess accused of cheating, etc etc. As if """natural"" women couldn't achieve those things. If it was any other character I would think this is an interesting plot, but her specifically, giver her character's history, is a bad look.

[raven-at-the-writing-desk]

am i dreaming

To all Ruggie stans, I’m so sorry 🤡 You did not deserve this…

***Warning: suggestive image referenced and toxic person mentioned below the cut!***

NOT INFAMOUS ASSHOLE AND MISOGYNIST ANDREW TATE’S TWITTER ACCOUNT POSTING A STOLEN RUGGIE YUME FAN ART AS A MEME 😭 AND NOW RUGGIE IS TRENDING BECAUSE OF THIS

By the way, this is the original post and the artist of the work he stole; please consider checking them out!! (The artist has responded to the stolen artwork with a quote retweet and a comment of their own.)

ADDENDUM: The artwork was stolen and posted on the artist’s birthday too??? They’re going through something this shitty on their special day… 😭 Let’s support them through this stressful time and beyond!!

Is this really the time line I’m living in?????

The post is even funnier (and stupider) because Ruggie, being a hyena beastman from the Sunset Savanna, is a species with dominant females… and Ruggie willingly does a bunch of housework (something Tate looks down on as “a woman’s job”)… and he’s from a country where women are strong and respected… AND THIS IS ALL HAPPENING RIGHT BEFORE THE RERUN OF VARGAS CAMP FOR EN?????? Bro, this was NOT the publicity Ruggie needed 😭

[phleb0tomist]

yep, i’m still ME-posting!

so another young woman with severe ME is being denied basic sensory accommodations in an NHS hospital. carla’s parents have been advocating tirelessly for her and even taking turns physically shielding her from the unnecessary light that is causing seizures, pain, and loss of consciousness. if carla’s symptoms were unexplained then maybe i would understand why the hospital keeps trying to expose her to lights, but she’s literally diagnosed with very severe ME, where the body cannot adjust to sensory input, so forgive me for finding it evil and pointless to do the thing that makes her illness worse. this is the norm for how hospitals treat people with ME and it’s inescapable if you want to receive any medical care at all like the feeding tube that carla needs

link to article and news video

[elitehanitje]

Inside the WWE: ‘A Kingdom Ruled by Fear’

Six former writers for the organization’s long-running shows, SmackDown! and Monday Night RAW, describe bullying and sexism that occurred behind the scenes while former CEO Vince McMahon was in charge.

The six writers who used to work at WWE tell Rolling Stone they regularly witnessed or were on the receiving end of verbal abuse. They say the allegedly hostile conditions permeated not just the writers' room but the company in general, whether at the corporate headquarters in Stamford, Connecticut or when the organization’s TV shows filmed on the road. The former writers say staffers seemed to be divided into two camps: those who were WWE loyalists and only had experience working at McMahon’s company, and newcomers with outside experience in the entertainment industry who immediately realized the WWE was unlike any other workplace they’d seen.

“Everybody was getting yelled at all the time in the room,” one former writer says. “It was more saying shit that was humiliating or mean [that was then] couched as a joke, but it’s a nasty joke.” The writer adds, “If you’re being targeted in the room, nobody stands up for you, but that’s because if they do, they will get the bullet in the head, too. You don’t stick your head out of the foxhole for anybody, because nobody wants to take a bullet.”

Tales of inappropriate behavior within WWE go back a long way, and this piece only adds to that, from a hostile work environment to sexism. McMahon was ousted as CEO of the company earlier this year after former WWE employee Janel Grant filed a lawsuit alleging she was sexually assaulted and trafficked by McMahon. He remains under federal investigation.

[justinkirkism]

trigger warning // nazi history, misogyny

Shiv's reaction to Mencken breaks my heart :(

"Kinder, Küche, Kirche" is a German phrase meaning "children, kitchen, church" that was used during the German Empire to define a woman's societal role. It now carries a derogatory connotation and represents an outdated view of women in contemporary Western society. During the Third Reich, the Nazi regime prioritized women's roles as mothers and homemakers, promoting policies and propaganda centered around "Kinder" (children) and "Küche" (kitchen). Women were encouraged to stay at home and focus on their household responsibilities. Employment discrimination against women was widespread, with certain professions reserved exclusively for men. After World War II, the phrase continued to be discussed in feminist and anti-feminist literature, often criticized for portraying women's roles as limited and restrictive. 

[restitutor-orbis]

It is concerning how misogynistic the ASOIAF fandom has become. Like, I thought it fairly understandable that the only reason why the Dance even occurred in the first place was due to Westerosi misogyny and Hightower ambition. It had nothing to do with Rhaenyra's own ability to rule, but everything to invalidate her rule based on her being a woman. Like, this is a clear criticism that Martin raises throughout the books, and he wants the readers to question why should women be refused the right to their inheirtance.

[identitty-dickruption]

In her discussion of how feminist analyses of oppression would be enhanced by consideration of the lives of intellectually disabled people (particularly intellectually disabled women), Licia Carlson writes, rephrasing Elizabeth Spelman, “Does the existence of those who can be defined as complete women and mothers demand the existence of others who cannot be granted womanhood and motherhood?” (2010, 83). The Ashley Treatment provides an affirmative answer to that question. In response to the outrage many people expressed on Ashley’s behalf, Ashley’s parents set up a website to explain their decision and assure all concerned that they are good parents who simply want what’s best for their child. Their post includes an explanation for why they at think of Ashley as their “Pillow Angel”: “We call her our Pillow Angel since she’s so sweet and stays right where we place her, usually on a pillow” (“Ashley Treatment” 2007). Ashley’s “sweetness” and staying in her place reflect cultural gendered expectations of good little girls, a point reinforced by the fact that photos accompanying media coverage have tended to feature Ashley dressed in pink. Dressed in pink and perpetually small, Ashley is presented as someone who will always be a sweet, easy-to-manage little girl. The assumption that disabled people cannot be sexual beings is a feature of disability oppression. At the same time, cognitively disabled people are often stereotyped as hypersexual. Both assumptions inform attempts to justify the Ashley Treatment.

Hall (2008), Feminist Disability Studies

[wannabe-british-fangirl]

~ books read in 2024 ~

#16: Lula Dean's Little Library of Banned Books by Kirsten Miller

Ronnie Childers was tripping his balls off in Jackson Square when an angel of the Lord appeared before him. She was a glorious vision, dressed in black gym leggings and a Bikini Kill T-shirt, her golden hair twisted into a messy knot on the top of her head. She looked a lot like a girl he used to get stoned with back in high school.

Rating: 5/5

Three Sentence Review: I picked this book up because it was Tattered Cover's book of the month for July and I thought the blurb sounded funny - former high school nemeses locked in a battle over banned books. I am so glad that I read it! The cast of characters is quite large, with pretty much every chapter focusing on a different person, but all of their stories intersect and wind up forming a strong message about the power of books to educate, inform, and change the lives of an entire community.

[poppyknitt]

i keep thinking of how at my job at the cafeteria my first real shift had 3 groups of guys who were talking abt diets and calories (in the way you might hear Keto-Loving Mckenzie talk about them). at least one was a group of athletes.

i work at the healthy, allergen-free station. one guy said the food here, which is usually below 300-400 calories per serving of each dish we have, had too many calories.

we really need to teach our boys not to do these things to themselves. eating disorders or otherwise, men deserve good food in healthy amounts too. it’s a problem for everyone ofc, but the amount i hear about EDs in men is scarily little. it’s so worrying for me. i want the best for everyone and it’s super bad that guys w EDs don’t often get support or help for reasons usually rooted in the patriarchy and misogyny. it’s actually terrible. if you know more on this please contribute because i only know my own experiences with ARFID specifically, no other EDs

[transexualpirate]

average "we can always tell" crew interacting

[meret118]

Between 2021, when the ban went into effect, and 2022, the study found infant deaths in Texas jumped from 1,985 to 2,240 ― a 12.9% increase. The rest of the country, meanwhile, only saw a 1.8% increase. Similar data was observed in neonatal babies in their first 28 days of life.

Many of those deaths were due to congenital abnormalities in the infants, one of the myriad reasons patients may choose to terminate a pregnancy, especially later into term. In 2022, the study found that infant deaths attributable to that cause saw a 22.9% increase, compared to 3.1% for the rest of the country.

[howifeltabouthim]

I squirmed and said, Please stop. But I didn't say it loud enough. I didn't try to push him off because I was worried he would become more violent.

Lisa Taddeo, from Animal

[signourneybooks]

Night Angel Nemesis | Book 4 of the Night Angel | Arc Review

Thank you to Orbit and Netgalley for the review copy in exchange for an honest review. This does not change my opinion in anyway. Book: Night Angel Nemesis (Night Angel 4 | Kylar Chronicles 1) by Brent WeeksRelease Date: April 25th 2023Tags: Epic Fantasy | Magic | Travel | Diary | Assassin Trigger/Content Warnings: Murder | Torture | Mentions of Rape | Misogyny | Blood | Child Murder |…

[embervoices]

You know, I often see it acknowledged that TERFs are a product of misogyny.

I don’t often see it acknowledged that TERFs are particularly a product of rape culture.

I can’t say that all trans-exclusion by women is this, per se, though I wouldn’t be surprised. It’s definitely always about power, and the fear of losing it. 

But specifically, actual Radfems who are Trans-exclusionary, it’s very vivid in my mind, when this first overtly became a big stir in my local community, that the women who were flailing about checking people’s pants, and even perhaps accepting trans women if they’d had bottom surgery, were explicitly afraid of penises. They were afraid of the people who have them using them as a weapon, and of the deliberate infiltration of their radical safe spaces by people intending to destroy their groups, undermine their efforts, disrupt their lives, and physically assault their members. Those fears were grounded in direct, violent experience of misogynistic cis men doing exactly that. Repeatedly.

I have empathy for that, but not approval for the results of their fears. It’s not functional, or ethical to vilify half the human population on the basis of the behavior of a malicious few, much less vilifying their other victims. But for their generation, it wasn’t just a few, it was the world. For those of us born after much of their work had forged the changes we’re finally learning we can’t take for granted, it seems ridiculous. But for the women who lived through it, it’s still a source of vivid PTSD flashbacks. The real, visceral fear in those women’s eyes and bodies didn’t make me want to hate them back, it made me want to comfort them.

They’d built their strength on responding to that fear with righteous anger. It had served them well. But it was poisoned. Second Wave feminism made sense in its historical context, but, much like other stepping stones, the point is to keep moving, not stop in the middle of the stream and plant a flag.

I get that fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering. Yoda (and, I’m guessing, Buddha) was right about that much. Fear stems from powerlessness. We know that’s why it’s grounded in misogyny.

What I wish is that TERFs would understand that we have more power together. That we have always been on the same side of the war that still plays out behind their eyelids. That giving in to that fear is playing right into the hands of those very misogynists who sought to divide us and undermine our efforts.

But if they understood that, they wouldn’t still be TERFs.