#Though with AAVE I understand since I grew up in an area that heavily used it

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honestly when it comes to language red flags w a partner, i’m not really set off by words like “heckin” or even excessive swearing. outdated slang like “heckin” and “bean” generally points to someone who was a young teenager when that kind of talk was popular and they haven’t let go of it. per my experience these ppl are usually 19-early to mid 20s and haven’t caught on to newer slang. (casual use of unironic outdated slang in general is actually usually a green flag) excessive swearing can be a habit so it can go either way- i’m very much an adult but sometimes swear a lot bc i grew up around people who did and it’s habitual. it’s the mfers who use super new slang (generally misuse of AAVE/“””tiktok language”””) that you need to watch out for. i’m telling y’all, keep up w new slang trends. that’s helped me sniff out minors more than almost anything else. not every person who does it is a minor, but minors are usually the ones who do it most

Yea, I mean. There’s no fool proof way of sussing out if someone’s a minor, sadly. I know I end up picking up a lot of whatever’s current just due to having a kid who uses said stuff >.>