#This is by far not the first... idk fuckin microaggression or whatever this would even qualify as

[arotaro]

Seriously though, y’all, I’m tired of this kind of shit. Everyone says they want to support allo aros and it’s soooo terrible that we’re excluded why would anyone do that!!! :((( But then those same people won’t take 10 seconds out of their lives to think to themselves, “Maybe I should not act like sexual attraction is inherently bad, weird, or gross, and should not assume that the entire aro community would totally agree and find this funny.”

I understand that sexual attraction is strange and maybe even scary to some of you, but you can talk about your separation from it without painting everyone who experiences it in a negative light. And you can certainly do so without assuming that everyone feels the way you feel.

Supporting allo aros means more than slapping our name onto “you’re valid” positivity posts. It means actively working to not participate in behavior that ostracizes us. It means thinking about what our needs are, and thinking about what harms us, and adjusting your behavior accordingly. You need to stop and think to yourself, “Am I really including allo aros? Am I making jokes at their expense? Am I assuming that my experience is the default aro experience?”

ESPECIALLY if you are an aro community blog, these are questions you need to be asking yourself all. the. time. 

You have to acknowledge that we exist and who we are, not “acknowledge” us in the form of having some vague awareness that “allo” is a thing you can tack onto “aro” sometimes for some reason. Slapping “allo aros are good uwu!” onto a positivity post and then turning around and talking about how awful attraction is is just as hollow as calling cis gay characters “LGBTQ+” representation. Do you understand?

Is this community on our side or not?