#The only het couple I actively ship and even then it's thin ice

[backtothemud]

Imagining the life that Ferro and Logen could have had together.

What would have happened if Ferro did know the word for sorry in the common tongue? Would her elbow-in-the-face been such a death sentence to their relationship? Or would it have naturally fallen apart along with their futile quest?

Would their relationship been long and full of warm and cherished memories? Probably not.

Do they deserve better than the revenge that they thought they needed, and where they ended up because of that? Absolutely yes.

I don't know, I'm wine drunk and upset for fictional characters again.

[kaasknot]

hi. i hope you don't mind me coming in w/ another ask, but i do have a question -- feel free to disregard this ask, delete it even, but i just wanted your two cents' in on this one. so we all know that fanfic is a free-for-all buffet; you do what you want and you ship what you want, essentially. shipping =/ activism. but i can't help but feel so incredibly guilty for shipping cishet couples - i saw someone tag their fic earlier today as "sorry x character is cis here" or sometimes ppl will 1/?

say "m/f couples are only valid if f character pegs m character; they are on thin ice" and i just flat-out shutdown and end up not doing anything else. ofc cishet ppl will never understand the struggles of lgbtq+ ppl, and this is just fandom, why are you taking this srsly, these ppl are just joking but... there was a reason why i left my old group, and it was b/c i always felt bad abt the fact that i was the only one who had cishet ships and everyone else had m/m ships. 2/3

sorry. how do you deal w/ that? not passing judgment on your ships, or anyone else's ships, but i was just wondering. pls feel free to answer this however you see fit; i hope i'm not coming off as a whiner, but if i do, i welcome a cool, tall drink of sobering, kick-in-the-ass reply. the reasoning and motivation behind my question here is one of a genuine search for an answer, an answer that will or will not explain my crippling guilt?? either way, thank you for your time & consideration 3/3

you don't need anyone's permission to like something. you don't need anyone's approval to like something. i know that the current climate in fandom says otherwise, but you're allowed to like what you like. personally, i don't feel guilty over my interests. if someone else doesn't like what i like, oh well, maybe we'll find common ground elsewhere. if someone tries to shame me for what i like, though, then i'll like it harder, 'cause fuck 'em. if you weren't finding common ground with your old group, then it sounds like you did the right thing in leaving. (incidentally i know of a pro-het clone wars/mandalorian server if you want to give that a try.)

it's possible for cishet relationships to be healthy and positive, and it's radfem rhetoric to say they're inherently vile. but on the other hand, a lot of people—straight as well as lgbtq—have trauma from existing patriarchal power structures, and don't feel comfortable interacting with cishet fic outside very clearly defined boundaries. we all have our baggage, and tbh sometimes it hurts other people. that's unavoidable in any large group. there's no point railing against them for what they need, or against yourself for what you need. curate your experience, and everyone will be happier.

i'll be blunt, since you asked for it: there's no magic bullet here. either you sit down and do the hard work of untangling why you feel the way you do and deciding how to act on it, or you don't. i can't do it for you.