#The advice acc is something I've wanted to do for a long time now

[bvnnyl0v3r]

Uuuh imma do one of those note thingies

5 notes per person btw

50 notes and I'll finish/start working on writing/drawings for my oc's

100 notes and I'll start/finish animations

200 notes and I'll show some of the pages of ny written stuff

300 notes and I'll keep working on decorating my room's walls again

400 notes and I'll start an advice acc on tumblr (will explain in tags)

500 notes and I'll finish my book

Good luck, might add stuff later. I will not tag anyone but you can if u wanna.

[bilboyagathechickenfootedhobbit]

(on my suspiciously empty side acc because anons are off and i don't need anything remotely personal connected to main) you seem like someone who may not mind teenagers asking for advice, lol. so: you mentioned in a post that the hair on your head is shorter than on your arms and legs. made me incredibly jealous. i've been wanting to buzz mine for ages. i keep chickening out. it's already very short and generally non-standard but it feels like a step too far, yk? i was joking with my parents about a girl i'd just met who turned to me while nobody was looking and did an inquisitive limp wrist gesture at me. i stared at her for a minute, shocked to see such a tiktok-ified (on a young woman) mannerism (i deleted it months ago but it still haunts me) out in real life, and then nodded, because what else was i gonna do? only seen her in passing since. anyway, we were laughing. obviously, the fact that she thought to do it came up. i can't remember the exchange in detail, but my mom was saying something about how you can have short hair and wear, idk, frills and barrettes, and be [trailed off]- or you can wear "boy shorts" (my shorts) and no bra (it was in my own fucking house) and be [trailed off again, i believe]. my dad said something about how my appearance was "not exactly lipstick lesbian". this is nothing against my parents. they're awesome. they're not really the point. point is, despite being 5'5 and not exactly androgynous in various ways, i pretty regularly get mistaken for male- usually by restaurant staff or other people who have no reason to pay attention or barely glance my way, but it happens often enough to be significant. those who look at me a little longer have so far a) defaulted to they/themming me without asking (or even after asking, when i'd already said i wasn't trans), b) carefully deduced from what i said that i wasn't trans and then gone with it (digging probably much more obviously than they'd intended to) or, c) been too old for all that. i am not transgender. i was dysphoric, i got over it except for during the nights of all-round bad days, i'm fine now. i am, as far as i can tell, homosexual (family knows this). this isn't exactly something i want to advertise. it's apparently my only option, since the disdain i feel towards all female beauty rituals (and the cuts of 99% of womens' clothing- jesus christ) is too strong to even consider partaking, but i'd really rather i lived in a slightly saner world where i didn't stick out so much. the hair itself is extremely minor, obviously. it's hair. but it's the last bit of my appearance that is, in any way, decorated. this is not out of a lack of self esteem or something. it's just that the decorating grates on me. even earrings, most of the time, identical to the ones my brothers wear. i mostly like the hair. what i don't like is that it has to be cut every couple of months, and really that's too much time to grow- i have to actively set aside time to wash and style it- when it's grown out a bit i have to keep touching it and thinking about it or it'll get in my eyes. i am so very sick of everything impractical, but it feels like my last line of plausible deniability. if it, my last bit of decoration, is gone (which, note, will not be a win for my facial structure, not that i really care), instead of just odd looks from strangers i'm going to get knowing chuckles from relatives who think i'm... politically identifying into something. even, yk, the homosexual bit, which i never needed to "identify" into. "butches" are women i look up to like nobody else, but i'm not trying to join anyone's ranks. i'm just trying to exist. i'm sending this because i'm almost definitely blowing the consequences out of proportion and you seem like a very intelligent woman who's done already exactly what i'm considering. so, if you read all that, thank you, and thank you again if you're going to respond. your blog is incredible.

Hey, so sorry about how long it’s taken me to respond. I really wanted to make sure I gave this the attention it deserves.

So, you are correct that you’re probably blowing the consequences of this out of proportion, BUT, that really only holds true when you have enough distance and perspective from the act, which you do not have, being in the thick of it currently.

See, when I was younger I was the brash, loud “I don’t give a fuck” teenager. And I tried so, so, SO hard to truly embody that mentality, and maybe I tricked the people around me into thinking I didn’t care but I did. I originally buzzed my hair when the friend cutting my hair kept messing it up and making it shorter and shorter. I laughed it off and grabbed the clippers and we all joked, but I worried what everyone was going to think the next day. Everyone at our small school was already convinced my BFF and I were lesbian witches, a buzzed head would just make me out to be the “pants” in the relationship.

I stopped shaving early on in my first adult relationship and practically dared my boyfriend to say something. I stated I didn’t care what he thought, I wasn’t shaving ever again, but deep down, if he had said it grossed him out, I probably would have shaved. Not right then, but eventually.

Through so many ages and chapters of my life I have raged at the world that I didn’t care what anyone thought, I was going to do the thing regardless. And I always did, even when there was a secret part of me that felt like I’d cave in a heartbeat if even one person smirked the wrong way at me. Because I did care.

And then I turned 40 and I truly stopped caring with a suddenness and totality that, quite frankly, shocked me. All those years I had told myself I didn’t care and then I found myself REALLY AND FUCKING TRULY not caring, and it made all my declarations of “I don’t care!!” seem laughably weak in hindsight.

The point I’m trying to make here is: you just have to do the thing. It’s not going to be easy necessarily, but if you talk yourself out of it, you set a precedence. It’s literally fake it til you make it, and I didn’t get it until I actually finally made it. When I made it, I realized that all the times I set my jaw and stubbornly pushed my way through the fear of judgement, the fear of other peoples assumptions, each time I did that, I was laying the foundation for the next step, and the one after that. I was still anxious and worried, and I’m never going to say those are minor emotions. I remember the social pressure to conform, the whispering cliques and their sneaky looks over their shoulders. I remember how hard it is to buck normalcy and swim against the current. But I also look at my life now and know it would never have been even half this good if I had acquiesced and succumbed to the pressure to look a certain way.

You will always look exactly like you. People will look at you and ascribe different personality traits to you based on their own preconceived notions. There is nothing you can do about that. You may as well be what you want to be. I have been called so many things that I am not, from a lesbian to a boy to a hippie to a fucking Juggalette, none of which I am. And that’s fine. People will think what they think. The best part about fully embracing living the way you want to is that it will draw likeminded people to you. People who look at you and go “I really like that girls buzzed head” and not “that persons buzzed head must mean they’re trans/nb.” You’ll have friends that will rub your fuzzy scalp for good luck and call you their good luck charm. You’ll meet women who admire your bravery in not conforming. One of the things that has always surprised me is the amount of “normal looking” women that confide in me that they wish they could give up shaving, performing femininity, styling their hair, etc, and I always tell them the same thing: you can. It’s not easy, but the choice is always there.

I think other women look at the way I dress and act and think “oh I could NEVER do that, I’d be too scared!” And the secret? I’m scared too. Or I was, at first, and for a long time. I started eschewing femininity in my late teens. It took me another 2+ decades to truly stop caring. The sooner you start though, the sooner you’ll get there.

And again, people will always make their own assumptions about you. They will always perceive you through the lens of their own experiences and you cannot change that and it’s a waste of your time to worry about it. You’ll still worry about it because we’re human, but you have to start practicing not giving a shit. It’s the only way to get to a point where you truly don’t give a shit.

And hey. The cool thing about hair? It grows back. And if you buzz your head and are like “oh my god what have I done?” Wigs exist. If you’ve experienced dysphoria in the past and are worried about buzzing your head resurfacing those feelings, use a wig. I kept a few handy for when I worked at a doctors office and couldn’t rock my wild hairstyles. It can take time to feel comfortable in your natural body with non-conforming looks, and it would be better to use a wig as a temporary crutch than to succumb to feelings of dysphoria.

I know it’s so hard to buck normalcy as a teenager. Everything seems so….consequential. Like every decision you make right now is going to impact you for the rest of your life. That’s not true. I made massive fuckups as late as my 30’s and I have still been able to course correct and make things better. The decisions I made as a teen, especially aesthetic choices, have absolutely zero bearing on my life today. So while I will never minimize your fears (because what you feel is very real, even if it won’t matter in the long run) I will also tell you that the fears I had about acceptance in my teens have faded to the point where I look back and think how bizarre it was that I was so stressed over something that ultimately mattered so little.

High school and our teen years are a Petri dish inside a pressure cooker. It’s a time in your life that is like no other, thankfully. You’ll get older and you’ll meet people who look at you and see you for who you are, not just what they want you to be based on their own perception of you. You’ll meet people who don’t bat an eye at your shaved head and nonconformity. You’ll meet people who also think performing femininity is stupid and a waste of time.

All this to say, do what you truly want to do and don’t worry about what others think. When it comes to you and your body, your opinion is the only one that matters. Anyone who says otherwise can fuck right off into my fist.

-Bilbo

P.S. my best friends mom, who is now my son’s grandma, is a butch lesbian and the first woman I knew to shave her head. She did it to support her sister in law going through chemo, but found that she so enjoyed never having to wash her hair that she kept it shaved for years. She always told people she got tired of spending money on shampoo and they’d be like “Ah, of course” and we’d just laugh. I was lucky to have an adult woman like that in my life so that when I shaved my head, I knew it wasn’t THAT weird. I wish every young girl had a woman like her in their life; it would make it so much easier to break the bonds of beauty culture.

[eyrina-avatar]

Just read your shifting post. And I feel like I struggle with lucid dreaming now that my frontal lobe developed. It sucks. Do you have any advice for newbies who are attempting to shift? It’s all very new to me! Thank you in advance🫡😚💙

Hello! First of all, I want to say that I think I've stumbled upon your acc somewhere else and I thought you were a shifter because of the oc as your pfp... I guess I was right hehe🤭

also, do you mean that you wanted to use the lucid dreaming method to shift, because ofc shifting is not a lucid dream but ld can be used to shift

anyways, I think the best thing to do is to keep a positive mindset no matter what and to think of it as easy and simple, don't try to overcomplicate it

Here is a post I made when someone else asked me how do I shift:

| post | (it has some methods in there)

Anyways this response is extremely long, hopefully it's helpful:

Now as for lucid dreaming(ld), there are many ways to do it:

one. wbtb method

-set an alarm for 4-5 hrs for after when you fall asleep and then sleep. when the alarm wakes you up, get out of bed and do something (go to the bathroom, maybe do a reality check, practice what you're going to do in your ld/ how you're going to shift etc, just try to wake yourself up a bit for 5-10 minutes. You can even think about lucid dreaming or whatever. If you have a hard time falling back asleep then stay up for just 5 minutes. Or if you have a really hard time, then just stay in bed awake for those 5 minutes. Anyways, go back to bed lay down and start affirming "I'm aware I'm dreaming" over and over again until you fall asleep. From there you'll either get right into the lucid dream while still awake, you'll feel like you're getting sucked into the dream and feel your mind zooming in and out until you're in the dream straight from the awake stage and so ofc you'll be lucid. OR you'll fall asleep and your dream will be lucid. If not try again next time (but I've had good success with this method.

two. supplements

-for legal purposes, i'm not responsible or advising anyone to take any sort of medicine.

Use galantamine(I got mine from amazon). Take the recommended amount which is like 4-5mg. How to use: go to bed and set an alarm for your REM stage(4-5hrs) fall asleep, wake up with the alarm, take the galantamine and immediately try to fall asleep as fast as you can before it starts taking effect and prevents you from falling asleep which is the main problem I have from it since I had insomnia for a while so the extra boost from galantamine didn't help my sleeping problem. It's best to have the galantamine somewhere next to your bed with a glass of water. wake up, drink it and fall back asleep as fast as you can and your dream should be lucid. Only use the galantamine once a week or at least 5 days of spacing between uses so the effects don't ware off.

three. lay down, close your eyes and start moving them left and right for about 10-15 minutes until you feel like you're ready(don't move during this process so make sure you choose a comfortable position. This will trick your body into thinking that you're in REM stage. You can probably fall asleep from there(which will most likely give you a lucid dream or you continue on. When you feel like it's enough, try opening your eyes and you'll feel your body go stiff and like you can't move: sleep paralysis. From sleep paralysis, just affirm that you're in your dr or try to visualize it while affirming. You should shift quickly.

four. subliminals

use lucid dream subliminals 2-3x a day while doing anything (or at night before sleeping- it doesn't matter when you listen to it) and then at night your dream should be lucid.

top subliminals on youtube that work well:

a. lucid dream . -by V1PER

b. 𝐋𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐎𝐅 𝐃𝐑𝐄𝐀𝐌𝐒·˚ ༘improved perilously forced lucid dreaming subliminal (LISTEN ONCE) -by kiraミズキ's domain

you can listen to it more than once

c. ❝Dreaming°// Lucid Dream Package [sᴜʙʟɪᴍɪɴᴀʟ] by Enchanted Workshop

d. ♡ Lucid Dreaming Listen Once Noonchi Subliminals by シ Jay's Nirvana ヅ (the original uploader deleted their channel but this subliminal still works)

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Using subliminals are really easy, use it, don't doubt it and don't waiver and be like "omg when are results gonna come....is this working...I don't think it's working...I don't have results" blah blah blah because then it won't work since you're repeating that and your mind will believe those doubts since the mind is stronger than any subliminal. Just listen 2-3x and don't worry or stress about it. Best to just assume it's working and that you have results and you should be good to go.

You can also use shifting subliminals as well

As for techniques, I already gave you a link earlier on in this post but you can also use the julia method, sunni method, raven method, 5 senses method. Or you can just lay down, relax and calm down then start visualizing that you're in your dr (1st person pov ofc) and think about how things look like in front of you, some noises you might hear, some things you might smell, how the round under you feels like etc and then start affirming that you're in your dr while continue to visualize. That has honestly gotten me pretty close plenty of times.

Sorry this was so long (I know all of my shifting posts are😅). If you want any shifting sub recommendations just lmk or if you have any more questions, just hmu in my inbox or whatever❤️

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[lumiiicreates]

#lumiiicreates : hi hi, my name is lumi and i've been rping for god knows how long and recently been making a bunch of promos and themes for me and my friends and decided why not make a commissions acc for it? so here to provide all the things!

update : i have decided to turn this commissions blog into a "pay what you can." so either you can't afford or you want to pay whatever amount, i will take whatever! also, as for taking commissions, i removed the google form since i barely check on that. instead, message me in the inbox.

commissions are paused

please read below :

credit : please make sure to credit me anywhere you'd like. may it be a pinned post or on the promo itself. adjustments : since i do save the psd, easy adjustments as adding to the banners, fixing typos, fixing texts, switching psd, ect i will do for free. however, if you change an fc or have any other major changes, depending on how much you want me to edit, i will charge you. if after you paid me and suddenly want something else to be done, you will have to commission again. pressure & demands : please be kind and don't pressure me. i am only human and can only take so much that i can. and please don't demand me to change something or demand i add more things. a simple "hi, could you possibly add so and so please?" is much appreciated. if you pressure me or demand things from me in anyway, you will be blocked and your commissions will be canceled. can you make your own changes? : if you have changed an fc and want to add the new fc yourself and move small things around for the new fc to fit, as long as you still give me credit and give me a heads up, switching out the psd, then that is okay. but you are not allowed to change anything else that alters the edit itself. if you are not happy with the work i have been keeping you updated with before payment and went ahead and said yes and changed everything, i will ask you to take it down. the way i work is keeping you updated as i create the edit until you are satisfied. so if you are unhappy with what i make, i advice you tell me so we can work around it or you decide to pull out and ask someone else. i am not here to waste anyone's time so please don't waste mine. payment : this is now a pay what you can and however much you like. you don't have to pay me first hand. i will work on it and keep you updated to make sure you like it. then once it's done, that's when you can pay and i will send you my ko-fi (paypal). psds : i do not own any of the psds. each of them was used from deviantart

what i do (please keep in mind, i will do all for one per blog)

dash banners dash icon with psd icon border (no caps pack) temporary pause mobile header pinned post promo (one) promo (two or more panels)

my ko-fi

[growandrecover]

hi!!! i find your acc super helpful usually & i wondered if u could give any advice? i'm not diagnosed with anything so i'm hesitant to say i have an ed, but i have a lot of food-related anxiety and eating in front of people esp. when it's eating as a social activity like going out with friends for coffee makes me so nervous and i overthink everything about what & how i'm eating. i just find needing food embarrassing for some reason? it makes school quite hard since i don't feel at ease enough to eat there so by the end of the day i can't concentrate and i get headaches. do you have any advice for this situation? sorry for long ask & feel free to ignore!!

Hey, anon! No need to apologize, thank you for the ask! ♡

I've dealt with the exact same thing. I handled it just like you did, by choosing not to eat, which gave me the same outcome. It was a few years before my ed, but oddly enough, people asked me all the time if I had one. (Btw I'm not saying you don't have an ed, I'm not a professional)

Here are a few things that helped me:

Try to rationalize the situation to the best of your ability. If you're in a situation where everyone else is eating (like being out with your friends, sitting at lunch if you're in school, or your break if you work), take a quick look around you and see what everyone else is doing. Everyone is doing their own thing. If you're out with your friends, chances are, they're eating. I know rationalizing anxiety/an ed is difficult, but if you're in a public place, or just in a room where there's only one other person eating, chances are, people aren't watching you eat. Something that helped me a lot was to think about the people I saw in public. Was I watching them eat/walk/sit/talk/etc? No, I'm focused on whatever it is I'm doing. Now, your friends might be watching you, but not for the reasons you think. If they're good friends, they won't be judging you for what/how you're eating.

Find a few foods you feel comfortable eating in front of others. When I was in my freshman year of high school, I was in the same situation you are, and only ate one specific food at lunch because I was extremely anxious about how people might perceive me. But, at least I was eating, and it got me through the day. If you think you'll be able to do this one, please pick something that will give you energy and sustain you throughout your day.

You need food. Everyone does. Every living thing needs some kind of sustenance to stay alive, and you are no different. No one is judging you for eating, I can promise you that. I know this anxiety will tell you that's not true, but as someone who was so plagued by anxiety she had to leave the public school system, let me assure you that your anxiety is not telling the truth. If it would be easier to do something like drink a protein shake, then maybe try that out.

Try to ground yourself in the moments of anxiety. Feel the chair you're sitting on, ask yourself what you can smell and what you can see. For example, if you're out with your friends, try to keep in mind that you're safe with them. They're your friends for a reason, and they won't judge you for eating alongside them, or eating period. If you're at school or work, remind yourself that everyone else in the room with you has eaten at some point in the day, if they're not eating right there in front of you. You are safe to eat.

I'm not trying to enable your worries when I say this, but if this is the only thing on the list that will help you, then I don't want to leave it out. If nothing else worked, maybe you could try eating somewhere in private. I don't mean when you're out with your friends, but if you're in school or something, and you don't want to eat in the cafeteria, maybe you could find a quiet spot to eat. When I was in 8th grade, I got permission to eat in the library with a few friends of mine who already ate in there due to my mass amounts of anxiety, which helped immensely, because I was able to eat. For this piece, I'm prioritizing the fact that you need to eat, and if this will help you eat, then so be it.

If you can, you might want to reach out to a professional. I don't mean to discourage you, but my anxiety only got better once I got help/medication. However, if you put me back in the school cafeteria, I'd go straight to square one again. If you can't get help, I suggest you do some research on anxiety/eds and see if that could help you or give you some tips on what you could do.

I really hope this helped, I hopefully things get better for you! If you feel like this didn't answer your question, or if you want to talk, please feel free to send me another ask or a dm! Lots of love to you, anon <3

[thoodleoo]

Hi! Sorry to bother, you've probably talked about this before, but I wanted to ask you about your experience with studying and teaching latin? I starting uni in a year and I'd love to study latin and history (to become a teacher obvi) but am still a bit unsure... I've been learing latin for 6 years at school and I acc think I'm quite good at it but I'm a still afraid that it'll be too difficult... thanks in advance!

i mean...honestly, at your point i wouldn't be thinking too much about whether or not you're good at the content you're thinking about teaching. you're relatively young, so you have plenty of time to hammer out your expertise in the subject area.

what you should really be thinking about right now is do i really want to teach?

do you like kids? not just tolerate, but like them? are you okay working long hours in a difficult, sometimes thankless job? as someone interested in latin, are you prepared to advocate for whether or not your subject should be taught? are you okay with having a relatively low-paying job, especially given the amount of work you're going to be putting in? do you actually like teaching people?

i have met a good many people who are fantastic latinists but would not enjoy or be good at teaching- which is perfectly okay! teaching isn't easy. it's often seen as something of a backup job, but i would highly recommend that you spend some time actually thinking about what teaching entails.

i teach exclusively level 1 latin. it's the sort of job where you could feasibly skate by even if you aren't the best latin student. in fact, some of the best teachers are those who really struggled with their own content area, because they sometimes have better insight towards helping students who are also struggling.

my advice would be to talk to some teachers you know, try tutoring, see if you can't get your hands on some opportunities to be in a classroom on the teaching side of things. knowing whether this is something you would enjoy doing will be far more helpful to you than knowing whether the material will be too difficult.

[doesyourshipmakeyouabadperson]

hay, this is more me looking for advice, but how do i stop lying to my followers about being proship? there was one point where i drew fontcest (undretale), and i got an anti who harassed me in ask, and sent me a graphic description of their brother killing their hamster. ever since i've been very weary of saying anything, or confirming i ship something cuz i don't want to read something like that again. that, and in general, i don't ship things too hard/go all in with it, at least 1/?

2/? i don't think i do. granted, i draw a bunch of art and post it, but for me that's just general hyperfixation. i'm also ace, and while yes, most ships are romantic or sexual, mine tend to be platonic, or suggestive. and are not as clear cut as to if i ship the characters or not, because even for me, it's up in the air, and i don't know, i'm not good with knowing how i feel about things, i just express myself through art and hope it says all it needs to. i've come up with a sorta tagging

3/4 tagging system, with tags for platonic ships, joke ships, etc, but even then sometimes how i view the relationship changes. like right now, i'm drawing a child and adult character together, most of the time the dynamic i portray is paternal, but other times i want to make it romantic, either as a cope for my own truama, or just because it's been my brain rot for weeks and i want it out of my head to get back to the "clean stuff" and just not post for a while. idk, maybe this is

4/? is all overly complicated, and i've made a mess for myself, but i feel like at this point i've tricked ppl into following or liking my work. because ppl do like my work, and then they send ask like "your art's now tainted for me", but i've been this way since 2016, i've just been scared of getting disturbing irl hamster gore stories again. or i've been told "fuck you for normalizing this", "don't hc this character as a murder pedo", "this feels like grooming", "you know your audience"

5/5 like i don't, idk how old anyone is who follows me, idk if there's children looking at my content. and i can't just make a poll, or check the thousands of followers i have to see if they have their age in their bio, i can't fucking ask for an id before following, i just. idk, this was very long and ranty, i'm sorry, i just don't want to remake my blog again, maybe i'm just dumb and anxious, i don't know. srry this was long, hope you're doin ok (^.^)v

Hello, I delayed answering this for a while since, well, i'm definitely not usually the person people go to for advice so im not used to it lol ❤ /nm

Buuut i mean... I can see why youre upset. I dont think you should have to come out and say you're proship. Being an anti shouldn't be seen as the default. You should also be able to make whatever kind of content you want as long as you tag it properly. If your fanbase is making you feel like you can't, then that fanbase isn't your demographic.

There are actually a lot of decent people out here who are pro ship, and if you choose to be openly pro ship, yes you will get some hate mail, death threats, suibait etc and lose followers, but you will also gain a lot of fans who want to see your interesting takes on different interpersonal dynamics. (Also, the former group weren't really your fans in the first place if they'll be so godawful to you over some pixels on a screen)

And yes it is impossible to police thousands of followers and that quite literally is not supposed to be up to you. Minors on the internet are supposed to be monitored by their guardians. If you put a disclaimer/tag for your content and some dumbass clicks it anyway and doesn't like what they see, that's their fault not yours.

I've also noticed that the majority of people who are pro ship are prone to actually filtering content they don't like, while antis seem entitled and want the creator to do it for them. Its just a better fanbase experience all around in my experience.

As someone who helps run multiple pro ship accs, i understand the visibility can be scary. But I promise at the end of the day you'll feel a lot better for it. Hope this is at least semi-helpful/reassuring idk ❤

[eeveedel]

Aaaalrighty hi love, I'm sending you this ask because out of all the accs I follow you feel most like a big sister or smth.

Anyways, I need some advice! I'm going to Louis' show in Berlin, fortunately bought a ticket off someone, and now this is where the stress begins.

I'm going alone. I don't know anybody going. This will be my first concert ever; and I repeat: my first. concert. ever.

I have no. Fucking. Clue. How any of this works.

I've got a ticket for pit. And now here's the multi-million dollar question: how do I make sure I get a decent spot? Should I queue? If yes, how long should I queue for? What to do with my stuff, like water or a hoodie?

Any other tips for a first-time concert-goer scared shitless?

I would really appreciate you helping me :D xx

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Hi love! Happy to be your socially anxious big sister ❤️

Concerts can be a lot of fun, but also very stressful. I generally avoid concerts when I can; seeing louis so many times was a biiiig push for me. I’m very glad I went but I’ll admit it was challenging for me and very scary. I also had a really bad experience at one of my shows because I wasn’t well prepared, and then tried to improve on my experiences at my other shows, so here’s some good tips: 

Getting a decent pit spot can be hard. I don’t know the rules of the venue in Berlin and if they allow camping; if they allow camping, don’t feel pressured to do that. Everyone has their own comfort levels on camping and it can be hard to do alone. If you want to camp, bring a warm sleeping bag, a blanket, a pillow, snacks, water, portable chargers, and things to do, like a book to read or games to play. 

If you don’t want to camp, show up to the line when you can. Wear comfortable, weather-appropriate clothes and comfortable shoes. The line will move slow so sit as often as you can to save your feet. To get a good spot, show up at least a few hours before doors open (3-4 hours at least). Waiting in line is BORING, so make sure your phone is charged or you have something to do in line. 

This can be intimidating, but try to talk to the other people in line and make friends. Usually people are friendly, and if people are being crappy, you can move around in line and find a friendly group to talk to. This is also helpful because you can support each other and help each other find spots. If you feel intimidated, you can ask them things like “how long have you been a Louis fan?” “what do you think Louis will wear tonight?” “what song are you most excited to hear live?” to get a conversation started. 

Eat a filling, healthy dinner before you go. If you’re going to go early, also bring snacks (I recommend protein bars and fruit) and a bottle of water for line. If you’re stressed about your stuff, bring a disposable water bottle so you can throw it away before you go through security. If you can, buy water or get water from security once you’re in the venue. Keep hydrating. If you want to have alcohol, make sure you are drinking water too. 

If you bring a hoodie or coat, your venue might have a coat check but 1) that might cost money and 2) you’ll lose time getting a spot. If you want to avoid that, bring a lightweight jacket you can tie around your waist so you don’t have to carry it and don’t have to put it on the floor or anything. Also, bring a small wallet with just the essentials (ID, covid card, cash/one credit card) and keep it in your front pocket so you can keep track of it. 

Once you’re in the venue, it can be overwhelming at times. It’s dark, there are lots of lights going off, there are tons of people, it’s LOUD. I find that a spot on the sides can give you a good view of the stage while also giving you flexibility to take breaks, sit down, or go to the bathroom if you need to. If you feel uncomfortable at all during the show (sick, light headed, like you’re being pushed), let the people around you know and get a safe spot. Prioritize your health over saving your spot, and remember, Louis wouldn’t want you to be sick just to see a few more seconds of the show. Take care of yourself first so you can keep having fun. 

I hope this is helpful! If you have questions about anything specific, please let me know. I hope you have a wonderful time at your show, Louis is a very fun first concert to have 💓

[dragon-caesar]

LONG POST AHEAD❗❗❗- Hey people, I think this is my first post and I'm sorry that it has to be used on something a little dumb, but since the recent Animaniacs reboot my Yakko and Wakko Muses shot up big time and now I'm trying to figure out where exactly I can rp them. Ew roleplay, am I right? Lol anyways, I know that I could probably do it on here, but I didn't really want to primarily make this acc a rp one, and I sorta forgot the email so I cant really log out to make another. I could try Facebook, but it's sort of hard to find rp partners without joining groups, and even then most of the time it'll be unsuccessful and you'll always get those big number of IRL accs that add you for some reason. I don't really want to try twitter because that's a whole other story plus the amount of toxicity that comes from there. And from what I've seen, it ain't really the best place to rp. I've tried Amino, but a majority of people on there stick to Anime characters and generally don't have an interest of interacting with cartoon characters. So I'm a little stumped. Does anyone have advice? Or should I just let the Muses die? 😔 sorry this was so long, but I needed to get this out of my system

[drunkjaked]

i know i already sent two asks in today (so sorry) but i just wanted to share some good things that's happened to me recently if thats okay ??? if its not please do ignore i just wanted to share with you !!! ( ^^ ) so .. i got more into these two groups recently & they have been bringing me so much happiness & calmness in hard times 💭 on another note T__T its been so-so but i feel happy bcs i get to be free of stress soon!!!!!! i also have been (trying ><) to come in terms with myself and that kinda gives me relief <3 just its been good for the past week nd im hoping it stays good for a long while ~3~ my anxiety is still at peak sometimes but its better than before so it's such an achievement for me ). . ( i just felt to share that with you! u're so homely so i feel safe talking to you???? im sorry its so cringe to say that and i don't mean to make you uncomfortable ☹️ you always manage to make me feel important hhh o_< sorry for dumping that on u but thank you for everything! anyways since i wont be able to send a relatively ... gross ... ask (also please pick between 1-4 so i can decide what ask to send first bcs yes 🤍 i do pre-write before i send the asks to u :( just want the best impression!) until friday ??? please do take care (im sorry i always say this) and make sure to drink plenty of water <33 (i dont know if this will work but when im on my period i drink so so much water and it stops my cramps and sometimes even shortens my period) ++ eat your three meals & rest well 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂 im writing this at night so im going to bed soon but whenever you see this i hope you're doing fine <333333 sweet dreams sax !!!!!! U__U

from: 🐰 <3

p.s ... im sorry for all the () action i just have so much to say but so little brain energy TT also feel like i overshared im sorry if i made or make you uncomfortable please do tell me if i do so i know what better way to say things thank you for listening to me! goodnight really this time 💟

don't apologise u can send me as many asks as u want i love chatting w u, i promise! that's fun to hear, do u mind sharing what groups they are so i could check them out too?

i've been so worried about u since ur last ask so i feel so relieved to hear that you've been feeling better lately, thank u sm 🐰 for the update!! it definitely is an achievement so i hope u do something to celebrate it - it doesn't have to be anything big.. even if u treat urself to a good read or show or smth else u enjoy, just make sure to acknowledge all of these things even if they may seem small in the grand scheme of things <33 im rooting for u always

you feel safe talking to me??? ohhhhh my days that is so so so so kind of you to say and im so glad to hear it because i want that for everyone who interacts w me, i really want this blog to feel like a safe place and for me to feel like a friend so i will work harder in the future to maintain that for u and everyone else <33 agh ur so sweet and i only make u feel important bc u are important!! im always gonna be here for u and u can tell me anything u feel comfortable sharing! i have a twt acc and a discord if u would ever wanna chat w me outside of asks, but only if u feel comfortable doing so! im more than happy to chat w u in asks but just incase u ever want smth more private <3

hmm i pick number 3 bc today the 30th day of the 3rd month! it's so fun that u write ur asks in advance but it makes sense now that u say it, u always write so well and clearly that i can tell u put a lot of time into it ! take ur time sending those there is absolutely no rush on that!!!

im really bad w drinking water but i'll take this advice!! it's my last day today so hopefully it should be alright, i don't normally get such bad cramps idk what was going on this month 😭

sweet dreams right back to u 🐰!! i actually just woke up about an hour ago but i slept very well <3 im sending u all the love in the world and i really hope to chat w u soon!!!!

and dw abt that i love reading ur thoughts in the brackets i tend to thAt a lot so it’s nice seeing ur brain kinda working as u type 😭 and remember u can always tell me anything

from: sax (always ur buddy) 💌🫀