#The Fencesitters

[heavy-nfld]

SHOW ALERT: The Fencesitters, Dick E. and the Birds, Mantra, Jaded Truth, and Fog Coffin @ Second Stage - Sunday, November 24th, 2024. Show from 1:00 PM to 6:00 PM. $10 cover / PWYC. All ages.

[indigosabyss]

lmao i forgot that in the netflix show's version of the 'the world is quiet here' poem, they neatly left out the lines where the new recruits are described as being dragged away from their beds by their ankles.

[hatosaur]

What did Neil Druckman/naughty dog do?

neil druckmann is a known zionist (currently acting neutral but we fuckin know how he feels)

[electrosquash]

Just got a mail from my MdB (SPD) on why he will vote against the AfD Verbotsprüfung. I know i shouldn't put faith into A. liberal activism and B. the SPD having a spine but the Verbot was my last hope in this system despite knowing it's pitfalls - and now it's gone.

[cruelsister-moved2]

idk if the internet is uniquely conducive of this but i hate the inability to like hold to certain moral stances even when it requires u to hold two things as true at once. for example you can hold true that support for political zionism is immoral and no one should engage with people who look a genocide in the eye and choose to defend it AND also idk just. not reach the point where ur making a list of 300 jewish names without going "maybe making a list of hundreds of jewish names to call for their exclusion from society like isn't cool just in general". even if all of them did do something bad you might have to simply figure out literally any other way to respond to that fact. we keep doing this over n over when someone from a minority group does something wrong & someone who only unlearned their bigotry towards that group by putting them on a weird pedestal is like phew so they were terrible all along. and then starts making a list

[sonnykissed]

I know most folks want oc to win but honestly I’m just here for the ride y’all

[dreamhot]

karl is absolutely not joining, that man is barely even at home

i do not follow his activities

[niconiconwo]

You are tasked with building LeftFashistan from the ground up. How will you do it?

The first and most important thing is to begin forming the framework for the corporations (fash); this means working with labor unions, and appropriating trade associations and lobbyist apparatuses prioritising the ones with large legislative sway. This is a matter of action rather than principle, and ideally once things are done no single group will have more sway than another in the same industry/field but first you gotta actually win. This much should be obvious from the last century of labor political struggle, and it's key role in the formation of anti-cap/anti-liberal societies as well as from reading Fiume.

The rest perhaps is a good exercise in imagination because I ain't giving away my playbook to capitalist feds for free. Just understand with labor everything is possible and inevitable.

[shodansbabygirl]

Everyone else close the website I wanna be alone with prev

Anti-egg posting makes no sense to me because I am in the middle of the beautiful things that can happen when you call your guy friend a girl and she starts giggling and kicking her legs and going "really, you think I'm girly?"

And by makes no sense to me I mean I know it's the transmisogyny and for some reason the still every present spectre of 'if you bring up transgenderism to a cis man then he'll kill you with a rock for faggotry', which makes less sense in this context cause aren't we talking about cis men that are friendly with transgender people already.

[presidenttyler]

i do not desire to engage with politics. i went thru enough in the 1840s. i have had enough. the only opinion i have on politics is fuck the whigs

[fence-setter]

Childhood trauma

Today I learned that if you have significant childhood trauma, the experience of raising a child can be extremely triggering. Apparently it brings you right back to those adolescent and teen years, causing your body to surge with somatic memories. It's very easy to get swept in the chaos of those triggered feelings, perhaps completely unaware that what you are feeling is a ghost-memory haunting you and not something based in the actual present reality.

As someone who is intimately familiar with the confusion and mind-fuckery that is a somatic flashback, my desire to become a parent is immediately put on ice. I have been that person to yell and argue and fight back against a projected enemy only to realize that no one was attacking me and my defensive reaction was totally uncalled for.

It is extremely embarrassing, but also devastating when someone actually gets hurt. The pain I've caused friends and loves is extremely depressing, sometimes literally causing me to swing into a depressive episode.

I am absolutely horrified at the idea of doing this to a child. I am terrified of being the source of their deepest wounding.

But there is still a part of me that desperately wants to become a parent, to teach my child all the amazing things I've learned about life, who wants very badly to pour my love and stability into a person. Because I am a genuinely stable and secure person - I am very good at making the world around me feel safe, probably a coping mechanism for the extreme isolation I experienced as a kid. Still, it is a strength and I know it would be invaluable in childrearing.

In some ways, I know the traumatic past is an advantage - there is a deep awareness of the ways you can hurt someone, a sensitivity to the importance of childhood, and the self-knowledge that you can survive devastation.

In other ways, it is a huge disability - feeling intense indescribable pain that renders you unable to be present; passing down traumatic behavior by example; constantly feeling like you are walking in a landmine of your own fucking misery.

...At this point, I wonder, what is the purpose of having children? Why do I feel so called to having a baby?

[philomaela]

What do you think of action/adventure/hero movies using the plot gimmick of the "multiverse" to bring back actors who played characters in previous film continuities? It allowed them to bring Tobey Maguire, Andrew Garfield, and Tom Holland all together as Peter Parker in "Spider-Man: No Way Home." And it looks like DC is using it to bring back Michael Keaton as Batman for the upcoming Flash movie. Is it endearing or just some cynical way of getting attention from prior fandoms?

I mean I think it can be both of those things? Like I think from a marketing/studio perspective it's obviously a way to generate buzz and capitalize on previous films. For the actors it's most likely depends on how they felt about their original film, but for a lot of them it probably is a great experience and it's certainly endearing for the fans.

IDK, I do tend to think most blockbusters (not just Marvel and DC) are formulated in a sort of cynical way, there's just too much money involved for them not to be. However that doesn't mean that there isn't also passion and genuine joy involved in creating them.

[theballadofjohngeorgeandyoko]

Am I the only one who doesn't use YouTube watch/search history? If I want to see the video, it will come to me, but you need to figure out what I like on your own, Google.

[catboybiologist]

Be honest: do you think there are femboys who aren't just eggs?

Yes, and tbh I resent that their existence is questioned so much. And I know this is gonna be considered a Bad Take by many people I've fostered a community with, so uh. Yeah.

As a former femboy, and current dykey/tomboyish trans woman, gender nonconformity within your actual gender is an essential part of a trans or genderqueer identity. In a lot of ways, my transition goals are the inverse of being a femboy- I'm going from a feminine man to a masculine woman. And yet, the trans community doesn't question my feminimity as a masculine woman in the same places where many people would question the masculinity of a feminine man. And don't even get me started on where NB identities fit into all of this. This is largely coming from the same place where people are okay with women wearing pants, but men or AMABs in general wearing skirts is Bad (tm).

Like don't get me wrong. The caricature of the Bad Trans pushing all the femboys to become eggs is a wildly overexaggerated, and I've met many, many femboys online that used that caricature to excuse rampant transphobia. But. I hate that there's a but. But.... I literally experienced it myself many times during my femboy days, especially online. Here's a short list:

-Had a transmed bombard me with harassing messages and comments on reddit telling me that I was a "fencesitter" and I just needed to "fucking transition already and stop making trans people look bad"

-Had a trans woman I knew irl shove an estradiol pill in my face, and try to order me to take it, in front of a group of people I wasn't even fully comfortable presenting as a femboy to, until she was eventually asked by someone else to stop.

-Had several comments indicating that I should be force femmed in femboy subreddits

-Had many, many DMs trying to tell me I was a "failed man" that should just transition already

And to clarify- all of this is so, so mild compared to transphobia that myself and others face. But it is a very real thing that happens. To many femboys, I think this is the first time they've received any kind of queerphobia or questioning of their identity, so it feels far worse in their heads than it really actually is. And, to be fair, I think it mostly happens from the more gender binary minded cis community than it comes from trans people- but as I've said, I've had it coming from trans women both irl and online.

I've also tangentially noticed that it seems to be transmed adjacent. Not saying that this anon is, or others who try to encourage femboys to explore their gender, but there certainly is a correlation. If its difficult for you to acknowledge cis gender nonconformity, then its easy to see that extending to a lack of understanding of nonbinary people or others with different trans experiences.

Every time one of these things happened, it didn't put me any closer to transition. It made me feel unsafe. It made me feel on the spot, and scared, and almost outed.

I've said this before, and I'll say it again- if you want historical parallels to femboys, we have a perfect example in drag. Drag is performative, over the top femininity that has become its own artform, style, and means of expression in a way that is intrinsically tied to gender nonconformity. Being a femboy is also all of those things. And guess what? Many drag queens have used it as a way to explore their own gender and realize that they're trans. There are also many who are cis, and remain confident in that identity. Is the percentage of trans people among people who have done drag at some point higher than the general population? Of fucking course- its one of the few places where exploring gender is encouraged and celebrated. Of course trans people flock to that. And the exact same thing is true of femboys. Are a higher proportion of femboys trans or eggs than the general population. Of course. It's a great venue for trans people to explore their identities. But even more of them are

Am I saying you're a bad person if you encourage femboys and gender nonconforming people to consider the possibility that they're trans? Of fucking course not. It was the gentle, affirming pressure with respect and care for my comfort levels from several incredible trans women I know irl that eventually made me confident enough to start HRT. Their continually support is a key factor in my social transition plans for the future. I needed that pressure, and I think everyone, including people who aren't actively engaging in gender nonconformity, needs some push to question their gender and start unlocking cis+. But to be blunt, questioning whether cis femboys even exist is not gentle, comfortable, and affirming pushes.

[apas-95]

fascism is bad

🏣 morel-intern-deactivated2

Okay, is anyone going to provide a source for this? I'd be open to taking OP seriously if they'd just actually back up what they say. Debate me. No look I don't even disagree I just want a source - and a source on fascism actually being bad that is, not about some individual thing a fascist did that was bad. I'm open to being wrong, but I'm extremely skeptical, you see, because so many other people were bad at arguing their case and just couldn't reach me. But maybe you could! Debate me. This isn't a very good approach to fencesitters. Debate me. If you really cared you'd put aside your annoyance and debate me, so debate me. Debate me. Do it now.

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god I wanna fuck you

[isaiahomega]

Big Boob invented wrist pain to sell more mousepads and boost the Giant Tit Agenda

I am hopelessly dependent on boob mousepads :(!