#Talking

[starspilli]

i love fortnite

[boomstab-papa]

What I really want to know, though, is how the "voting is bad, and there's no such thing as harm reduction" American crowd is faring now that we're seeing all the ways our country has been supported by those "steady, boring stability of systems they don't understand or even realize exist" and watching those get demolished daily

Or are their heads so far up their asses they can't hear any of this

[1shimaru]

the overthinkerrr

[kyoukorpse]

biscuit took my spot so she will be finishing my art today.

my friends are helping me monitor the situation

[maream-zaream]

Don’t know if this is still going on, but here’s a (kinda) quick drawing of Ink in that one haori in that post by @letsatomicbanana !

Additional notes under the cut (be warned though it’s a lot lol):

So when I saw the post I ended up reverse image searching the photo in order to see in what context this haori and hakama would’ve been worn in (though it didn't really matter in the end, as I just ended up drawing Ink painting on their sleeve). Just to like get an idea of what kinda thing I wanted to draw Ink doing in it and stuff, as well as just to get a better idea of how it’s supposed to look when worn. Now, for this specific one I’m not entirely sure, as since it seems to have been reposted on like a bajillion different websites, with many of the ones listed in the search not being in English. So needless to say, no clue where this thing came from!

However! My search wasn’t for naught! From the list of suggested links from the Google search, one was for a haori and hakama set from a rental clothing company called “Keio” (I think… keep in mind I’ve still been using google translate since the website was in Japanese lol). The specific outfit in question was this:

Now, this looks very similar to the one Banana posted, so I’m going with the assumption that the two outfits were probably made for similar purposes. Especially since not many adult haoris are made this these kinds of intricate designs (at least none that I could find). Anyways, this ensemble was listed under clothing one could rent for their child to wear for the Shichi-go-san (literally “seven-five-three” in English) Festival.

((Now quick disclaimer for the following: I am not Japanese nor any sort of expert on Japanese culture and history! As such, take the following with a grain of salt and I very much encourage you to look more into this festival on your own, as learning about this holiday was quite fun and informative and I would be 110% be happy being corrected for any misinfo, whether that be in the tags, reblogs, or any other method most preferred! Also, I've listed the websites I used here at the end of this post for y'all to check out after reading, apologies though for no footnotes.))

Continuing: During Shichi-go-san, parents bring their children of ages three, five, and seven to visit a Shinto shrine to celebrate the children’s growth and to wish or pray for good fortune. Why these ages? Glad you asked! It’s because three, five, and seven are considered auspicious ages in East Asian numerology, with this also making the date this festival is held— the 15th of November— especially lucky! It’s also interesting to note how the festival was originally exclusively done by the aristocracy and samurai families, though the tradition spread to the common people by the Edo period (1603-1868), though how the festival is currently held evolved from the Meiji era (1868-1912).

Now for the actual visit itself, traditionally five year old boys wear hakama and haori like the one pictured above (as traditionally this was the age that first allowed them to wear hakama in public), with seven year old girls going wearing a kimino with an obi (similar reasoning to the aforementioned boys; seven was the age where girls would traditionally begin wearing obi). For the three year olds? Girls may wear a hifu (a type of padded vest) and both genders seem to be able to wear hakama kimonos (take the three year olds dress stuff with a grain of salt though, not 100% sure on it lol). Also interesting to note is how in the past the age of three was the last year that parents kept their kid’s head shaved before allowing it to begin growing out more, though this practice of hair shaving seems to have fallen out of fashion around the 1800s.

In more modern times, many of these aspects are still upheld (except obviously the aforementioned hair shaving) during the Shichi-go-san festival, of now of course though with the modern addition of parents taking this opportunity to get lots of photos of their kids in formal attire lol. Additionally, parents also often get their kids some chitose-ame (longevity candy)—a type of sweet hard candy—after the shrine visit!

Slightly unrelated, here’s a quick sketch I drew of Ink eating this candy cause I thought it’d be funny:

He is NOT getting his rental deposit back (…is that a thing? Idk I’ve never rented clothes before lol)

ANYWAYS, I just wanted to put this stuff down cause I found learning about this festival really interesting and thought it to be relevant with the whole Japanese-attire thing lol. And again, don’t be afraid to correct me on anything and/or add your own additions to the info written above!

List of sources:

Tsukihana

Kids Web Japan: Shichi-go-san

Japan America Society of Greater Philadelphia

Wikipedia page for Shichi-Go-San

Have a great rest of your day/night if you got this far!

[hneycmb]

Kinda wild how most people generally recognize that the "too sick to go to school, too sick to watch tv/play games" mindset our parents had was bullshit but still impose essentially the exact same rules on disabled adults and scrutinize them for enjoying low-energy hobbies while being too fatigued or in pain to work a full time job (or any job at all)

[calamaroo]

Announcement!!! Please read

I made a bluesky because

1. The tumblr scare got to me

2. I felt like it because some other mutuals have them, so i figured I'd do it too

Idk how to link stuff, but it's @calamarookangaroo.bsky.social

So I'd appreciate if yall followed me over there too 👉👈 not sure how frequently I'll post --- again, it's most a precautionary thing and I'm not too sure how bluesky works, but I figured I'd inform the masses

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And anyone else I may have forgotten.

‼️If I mentioned you and you know of someone else I may have forgotten, please reblog this and tag them in it, I'd really appreciate it 🙏 /gen‼️

[thefaiao]

Let's keep this train going lads.

Contact through email (lucas.pfaiao@gmail.com) or direct messaging.

[concorp]

so ready for the q&a later today. got my question pre-written and an inside source to tell me as soon as they start accepting them. i am determined to finally get answers to the last two unsolved mysteries of season six. 😤

[foundfamilyhq]

In honour of today being Neil banging out the tunes Day, I'll run polls for the next 10 characters submitted who fit into one (or both!) of the following categories:

Rodent

Musician

You'd better be quick tho because the 10 slots usually fill up quickly

[yourpetbrother]

how do guys move their dicks like that. like without moving anything else. how do you do that

[boomstab-papa]

Wellbutrin might not be "A Stimulant" or "An ADHD Medication", but it is literally a substituted amphetamine. Definitely an "upper". When I was on it for a few months, I literally could not sleep for more than 4 hours a night due to being so wired. My doctor thought it might help my ADHD, but all it did was underline the fact that I do not tolerate stimulants or amphetamines well at all. But for people who CAN treat their ADHD with stimulants/amphetamines, more power to you! It seems to work well for some people like that!

But @hareofhrair's summary of the article matches my impression of this article, too. It's almost entirely about children, whether implicitly or explicitly, and the fact that the adults that get discussed in the article were originally kids from an ADHD study who ~magically~ don't have problems with their ADHD symptoms as adults smells very "kids will grow out of their ADHD" indeed.

Other notable parts of the article include tired, debunked misconceptions like, "well I thought ADHD was just a deficit of attention, so why can I focus for hours on things I find interesting?" and, "the simple model said that medicating ADHD meant that the ADHD went away, so what gives?" With absolutely no indication that these were debunked years ago but they're acting like it's so surprising now, so they can prop up their argument that "we're all a little ADHD and it's a problem with your environment".

There's also Margaret Sibley’s suggestion that stressful college courseloads and work schedules were good for people with ADHD. Y'know, completely ignoring the masses of adults who find out they had ADHD after catastrophically burning out on college courseloads or work schedules.

There's also the article's focus on "do meds actually make schoolkids get better grades" and not "do meds make the patient (adult or child) a little less fucking miserable". @naamahdarling is right to be outraged that the patient's subjective experience of their own life is disregarded like this.

And then we had this paragraph, which was going so well, until....

"Still, for most scientists, including Castellanos, Sonuga-Barke and Gabrieli, the positives of medication outweigh the negatives. As Gabrieli put it, “I feel the bigger risk is people not getting help who are struggling in everyday life.” - Compared with other psychiatric medications, Gabrieli explained, Ritalin and Adderall (and the many similar formulations on the market today) are relatively safe and effective. They don’t help everyone, but in the short term, at least, they provide significant symptom control in most of the children who take them."

UNTIL YOU REALIZE WE ONLY CARED ABOUT MAKING SCHOOLKIDS GET BETTER GRADES.

Sonuga-Barke is right to focus on the distress his patients experience. But the Multimodal Treatment of Attention study people deciding that "we shouldn't tell kids they have a brain disorder because what if they feel stigmatized that they have a brain disorder" is also completely fucking misguided. I would have given fucking ANYTHING to know why I was struggling with all my ADHD symptoms and come up with any answer besides "I'm a useless and bad person and my life is worthless". So in addition to giving kids an explanation like hey, there's a reason you're struggling with certain things, they do not even try to imagine a world where this is not stigmatized. Fucking irresponsible at best, ableist shame-perpetuating bullshit at worst. Look at this shit:

“Rather than a static ‘attention deficit’ that appeared under all circumstances,” the M.T.A. researchers wrote, “our subjects described their propensity toward distraction as contextual. … Believing the problem lay in their environments rather than solely in themselves helped individuals allay feelings of inadequacy: Characterizing A.D.H.D. as a personality trait rather than a disorder, they saw themselves as different rather than defective.”

This is all the more infuriating when you remember that this article is NOT advocating for changing the way we do school. For anybody. So yes, sweetie, you're struggling in an inhumane environment, and it's not your fault, you're just different, and we're not going to change the environment 💖

I want to give one last parting FUCK YOU to the scientists who are validating this sort of mindset, because of this part right here:

Forty-four percent [of children who have been diagnosed with ADHD] have been diagnosed with a behavioral disorder like oppositional defiant disorder.

So yes, sweetie, you're struggling in an inhumane environment that we refuse to change, but if you don't shut up and do what we say, we're going to put even more stigma and shame on you for being so damned combative about it, little sport!

This NYT article can fuck off into the fucking Hudson River. They can come back when they actually talk to the largest demographic of people living with ADHD:

ADULTS

My mom emailed this to me. I put it into 12ft.io and it was readable.

[zombehluver]

whatz up my #gooners i just downed a bottle or two of hard liquor and im getting behind the wheel. im going to #runoverapedestrianortwo #yolo #spreadingpositivevibes

[thefaiao]

I'd love to hear your thought process behind some of the skills! Like, why a horse for common sense?

The horse was the commissioner's idea, it comes from the expression "horse sense", that is analogous with common sense. Fun fact that someone else said about that skill, there is a polish saying that goes "koń, jaki jest, każdy widzi"(everyone knows what a horse is), so maybe the idea of horses being a signifier for common sense is more primal than we thought. Obvious horse is obvious I suppose...

I can claim, though, the general idea of the skill where it's kind of a hollowed out person with common sense coalescing and taking place of what would be their own perspective. I enjoy how DE does its best to make a handful of the skills that seem entirely positive have strong downsides, like they almost overpower your own senses if you invest yourself too much into a single idea.

Although I'm happy to answer a specific question like this, I think a lot of the fun of it is that you can project your own interpretation onto them. I don't want to replace that with my own perspective with all the skills :^) So whatever you see is your truth, if some of what I tried to convey manages to comes across I'm plenty happy already.

Nothing I can say will ever be as good as the exchanges people can have about the potential meaning. The image is already the whole truth.

[kyoukorpse]

etsy store is up and ready ✨️

got leftovers from the February preorder and new stuff too 😎👍🏼