#SocialStandards

[roastthesadidiot]

The biggest wake-up call on any social view that you have been wrong about is when you are being confronted with that very same situation and everything you ever judged is either coming right back in your face or falling apart.

As I had explained before, I came from a pretty conservative and judgemental family. And a lot of the extreme right mantras have passed my ears when politics were brought up. Thinking back about my time as a teenager (and finding some really cringy posts back on Facebook that I've now removed), I was very close, if not already, brainwashed into believing these things. But after I failed my highschool years, I was forced to rethink a lot of those views that I had been carrying all my life.

The very first view being: "If you never finish school, you're a lazy bum." Thinking back about those times and everything that followed (eventually getting my highschool degree in the adults educational centre and then miserably failing college) , I just had to conclude that our society's way of measuring intelligence by educational degrees doesn't necessarily mean you're superior to others who never got their degrees. Or that some people just couldn't get their degrees, because they were in a situation where they were unable to finish their studies (like an early job opportunity or being struck by a disease that makes you unable to focus on your studies). Or even seeing people who have majored in their studies, but continuously make some of the dumbest possible (financial) decisions in their life.

The view that was the most difficult to change for me was from the people that were different of colour and interests. School is by far the single worst place to observe this trait, because you know they will all band together and socially isolate themselves from everyone else. And depending on who they are influenced by will either not care or start bullying you for not being their kind. I had been targeted for bullying by both white and coloured, so my trust in anything either "religious" or soccer maniacs was immediately gone when I noticed the trait. So what changed my view on this? When I got to meet these same people when they weren't peer pressured. When nobody else was there to speak evil about others and we could freely talk as individuals and recognise our struggles as participators in society. And eventually we all come out with a better understanding of eachother.

After my failed college exploit, it was time for me to look for a job. It took me over a year to finally find a place that wanted to give me the chance I needed. Everywhere else I had a 1 day contract and then weeks of nothing. That was when the comments of "You can work anywhere you want if you try hard enough" were becoming very hurtful. I was actively applying, but was either ignored or told I was "uninterested" because I didn't know how to sell my Curriculum that had practically nothing of worth to them.

Eventually I got to work in a store on a fixed contract. Which is essential to apply for a loan, since I wanted to move out. Unfortunately, my pay was not that much to get a good enough loan to buy anything in the housing market (This period, it's even worse). The very first comment you will hear is: "Then go look for a better job." Which with my previously mentioned situation, I felt like: "I just went through all that, I'm not doing this again."

So like everyone else I'm trying to scrape together everything I can. But at that point, everything I was saving felt like it was the same amount as the average housing prices were rising. When I explained the situation, people were immediately insinuating I've been wasting my money on parties, cars, subscriptions, travels,....while I've never been able to do any of that. If my life had taken a drastic path for the better with my past upbringing, I would've very likely turned out to be the same judgemental a**h***.

All of these experiences have taught me that people aren't the generalized versions of the social standing they've been placed in. Every case is an individual case where most of the times these people aren't (directly) at fault. I will not say that from now on I will never live with misconceptions and stereotypes about others. That is a naïve and a hypocritical thing to say as a part of a society that is prone to this kind of thinking. But if we truly wish to grow as a person, we need to critically reflect on our subjective opinions and recognise these situations that aren't ours (yet).

[perfectsharkhoagiepurse]

If I am smart, I'm not to pretty

If I'm pretty, I'm not to be smart

But if I am neither of these things

What am I to be?

-perfectsharkhoagiepurse

[destiviadesign]

Check out this listing I just added to my Poshmark closet: Social Standard Sanctuary Red Boho Tiered Sleeveless Tank Knit Babydoll Dress S.

[what-is-the-point-01]

Reality sucks

[toriptaha]

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[mezdophremz]

It's Thirsty Thursday in the network today & for the rest, have an awesome Hump Day this Wednesday 💗 from #33 1% Common & 99% Authentic Equals 100% ME http://bit.ly/2ARnePU #33CHIX #455Network #keepingitreal #thenetneversleeps #455CHIX #455network #selfiee #selfportrait #selfpicture #mypicture #myself #facebook #instagramers #ontumblr #networkingmarketing #networking #socialmedia #promoting #realpic #realpeople #realmembers #notfake #socialstandards #femalefriendly #friendly #platonic #interactive

[pakawmerch]

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[iconicsmt]

#beauty #society #confidence #socialstandards #beautystandards #beyourself #freeyourmind https://www.instagram.com/p/B-jjGcnHAjR/?igshid=fjg9muyasv7x

[thesmilee]

𝙸𝚝’𝚜 𝚏𝚞𝚗𝚗𝚢 𝚑𝚘𝚠 𝚐𝚎𝚗𝚎𝚝𝚒𝚌𝚜 𝚠𝚘𝚛𝚔, 𝙸’𝚕𝚕 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚜𝚝𝚑 𝚘𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚜𝚝𝚑 𝚘𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚗 𝙱𝙾𝙾𝙼 𝙸’𝚖 𝚊𝚕𝚒𝚟𝚎 ————————————————— Apple doesn't fall far from the tree eh? Definitely feel like I just got everything from her lol. I got it all from my momma haha @tiiuilves Always respect your parents but yet again they need to respect that we have our own lives for a reason. Still got my stick @klaptelefon haha, bringing it with me everywhere to confuse people haha. ————————————————— #mutualrespect #onelove #familyrelationships #socialstandards (at Tammistu, Tartumaa, Estonia) https://www.instagram.com/p/B3rEc5JJY4_/?igshid=1bezl6w1lrvzs

[aloriaarts-blog]

Hollow Pursuits// Keys to my (my parents) home... 😄🏡🔑 #livingathome #cantaffordacardboardbox #hollowpursuits . #35mmfilm #35mmblackandwhite #35mm #blackandwhitephotography #blackandwhite #realsocialmedia #real #conceptualphotography #conceptart #fineart #filmisntdead #ishootfilm #socialstandards #photooftheday #photography #dailypost https://www.instagram.com/p/BuVy9lvgKUa/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=134k91k0h4rnl

[100billmedia]

No caption needed. #black #life #monopoly #power #standup #people #gameover #whitesupremacy #struggle #everyday #freedom #independence #slavery #blackhistory #capitalism #socialstandards #gentrification #racism #fight #news #media #information #breakingnews #blog #online #hiphopnews #share #positivepropaganda #100billmedia https://www.instagram.com/p/BteLKZZhBl2/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=w3nf3gi1e44t

[keri-danger]

It is wrong that I want to do my makeup like this and just go about my day, like grocery shopping. #socialstandards #unacceptable #makeupgoals #adayinthelife #cosplayeveryday

[ceciliasanders-blog]

Being Different Doesn't Equate to Loneliness

The age-old stigma of “different is lonely” promotes emotional trauma. Society forces weird individuals to break themselves just to fit in. There are conditions to meet for one to earn social acceptance. But, how is being different a fault in a world where harsh and unwelcome judgment aren’t one? Moreover, individual differences remain a misunderstood concept that bullies fail to fathom. This short-sightedness leads them to perceive individual differences as every bit worth of contempt. Failing to understand unique traits or forms, destruction meets the misunderstood individuals. Then, some of us wonder why the unusual ones are lonely? Why We Think Being Different Equates to Loneliness Thinking that uniqueness equates to loneliness is a culture passed down from generation to generation. We don’t really think this way. This kind of thinking weaves so much hatred into our being that it forces human kindness to shrink. Being different never equates to loneliness; however, we are the drive that forces these individuals to loneliness. You are probably guilty of this. Don’t worry. It’s not your fault for having such a way of thinking. Considering the society you are in, being influenced to this kind of thinking is inevitable. However, this does not mean all society has this way of life as this also depends on the practice that predominates one. But, it’s undeniable how this is rampant all over the world. If we look at individual differences in a new light, there really is nothing wrong with them. Instead of mocking something that is seemingly unusual, take a look at it from a different perspective. A perspective that considers the whole rather than one that reduces the worth of a person from a single thing that does not pass the vain standards of a judgmental society. In fact, it’s not hard to perceive these differences in a new light. All you have to do is remove the passed-down irrational hate or the primitive mindset. In my book, The Tale of the Perfect Whitetails, it shows how one can mingle with others perfectly without changing the unchangeable parts in them. Indeed, being different never equates to loneliness. It is up to us to see individual differences in the eyes of rational kindness. Stand up for human goodness and radiate with it. Be the new wave of influence and leave an impact that attempts to change the world for the better. Read the full article

[thehopefulheroines]

✨Dress restrictions are there with the intention to distract boys. Making girls characterized as sexual threats needing to be controlled. We tell women their body may distract boys so their body is inappropriate. Our cultures solution is cover us up. Now we exist in the terms of men. Asking girls to cover up supports misogyny and rape. As long as a girl or woman is always sexualized it won’t matter how much she covers up.✨ • • #hopefulheroines #womenempowerment #womeninspiringwomen #socialstandards #rapeculture #dresscodes #feminism https://www.instagram.com/p/Bn689c-HAIY/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=172ko6xqmu6uq

[toriptaha]

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2/3 Forcing "Be the best version of yourself" Last days I am pondering over the fringe between justified efforts and fierce coercion. Where does the image come from? Am I making myself better, or just avoiding the contact with self? ___ Быть лучшей версией себя. Где пролегает грань между оправданными усилиями и принуждением? ~ #selfdiscipline #selfportraitphotography #selfportrait #selfexploration #blackandwhiteportrait #perfection #perfectionism #socialstandards #standards #bestlife #motivation #critics #doubt #selfdevelopment #selfdiscovery https://www.instagram.com/reel/CUuNCywlMt8/?utm_medium=tumblr

[mezdophremz]

Heading out west via Great Western Highway... 1% Common & 99% Authentic Equals 100% ME #33CHIX #455Network #keepingitreal #thenetneversleeps #455CHIX #455network #455Realyst #australia #snapchatfilter #selfiee #selfportrait #selfpicture #mypicture #myself #facebook #instagramers #ontumblr #networkingmarketing #networking #socialmedia #promoting #realpic #realpeople #realmembers #notfake #socialstandards #femalefriendly #friendly #platonic #interactive #activemembers #memberspics #membersselfie #mainstream #australianmade #australiannetwork #registeredbusiness