#She didn’t have to be 19 (sigh sjm) but it wasn’t like tamlin sought out a 19 year old. she just ended up being the one | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

arson-09 · 16 days ago

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I have zeroed in on my issue with the centuries age gap trope is not the age gap really, but the inherent power imbalance and that i dont care to have an old ass ‘mature’ man. I want someone my age to share experiences with me, I don’t want someone who already has like all the answers. Men who are older (in real life and fiction) also tend to use their ‘experience’ to control their partner because they believe they know better. Fiction examples- The Darkling (pretty sure that was purposeful on Bardugos part) Rhysand (I dont think that was purposeful) and Cassian (most definitely not)

Idk i was watching the Book Leos new video on age gaps and shadow daddies (mostly a little discussion video) and i finally put my thoughts into words. yay

#arson yaps #and why are they always falling in love with younger women #not a ‘shadow daddy’ but Tamlin does fall into this almost but hes better written and his character has reasons to it (if that makes sense)#his need for control isn’t because he inherently thinks he knows better (even if he gen does) but because of his fear??#which is way more interesting than just ‘im old and have lived experiences’#I also feel the power imbalance between Feyre Tamlin wasn’t as severe in the first book considering him and his courts lives rested on her??#im always saying IF THAT MAKES SENSE #She didn’t have to be 19 (sigh sjm) but it wasn’t like tamlin sought out a 19 year old. she just ended up being the one #anyway idk #anti acotar #anti rhysand #gotta cover my bases #anti cassian #saturday morning yapping FR‼️#if anyone wants to drop their thoughts pls do. we are a constantly evoling people and i love to see different or similar perspectives

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