#Secondhand reports via my grandma that he thinks I’m a lesbian bc her and my mom have made me hate men?

[dawnsiren]

In light of previous somewhat offensive comments/suggestions made by my grandfather and his upcoming visit this summer, I have come to a decision.

In hopes that my mother’s excuse of ‘oh well he’s 80 he probably just doesn’t get [lesbianism] he’d be so upset if he knew he’d hurt you/you started crying while talking to him about it (inevitable)’ is correct I have decided to play up that I am Deeply Irrevocably Homosexual as much as is possible/reasonable to do so. Previously my response has largely been to deflect/Laugh Uncomfortably because I wasn’t out to him yet and technically still am not, but because he definitely is Aware of at minimum a disinterest in men I see no reason to closet myself any longer. He will Get The Message or he will force me to directly confront him about it but God help me I WILL force him to either accept me or exit my life. I would prefer the former but am able to live with the latter. My mom and grandma accept me and that’s all I need. Is this approach safe for everyone no but he has 0 control over my life lives in another state halfway across the country and has a multitude of joint and heart problems I’m fairly confident he couldn’t seriously hurt me even if he wanted to.

I may love this man despite some of his nonsense (Tr*mp supporter & rude to my grandma, among other flaws) but I know my value and how I deserve to be treated and I am not putting up with this shit, intentional or not. He can get the message or get out.

So like if y’all have any suggestions on believably low key but not subtle ways to be A Shove-It-In-Your-Face Gay™️ I’m definitely open to hearing them bc atm my only plan is ‘Express attraction to women when/if opportunity arises’